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I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Mummiesgirls4(f): 12:29pm On Nov 12, 2021
My trad marriage is on the 27 of this month I still have had no courage to tell him about my 3 other children. I am pregnant I am scared he will leave me if he find out that I have 3 other children, I love him so much he is my everything on earth and I am scared to loose him. I don't want to end up single with 5 children. But sometime I feel sad I cry at night and I just don't know what to do because the guilt is so much.

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Davash222(m): 12:33pm On Nov 12, 2021
. . I don't want to end up single with 5 children.

So, because of your selfish reason of not wanting to end up single with 5 children, you have to deceive, lie, manipulate, slander, disgrace, frustrate and humiliate this Innocent young man?


In your other thread, you said you have 4 girls with 2 different men.
Plus this one now, that's 5 children with 3 different men.


I wonder what offence this guy in your life now commit that God wants to punish him like this. No man deserves this punishment of a wife.

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Bola146(f): 12:39pm On Nov 12, 2021
shocked I don't understand, how true are you making the same mistake every year? Should I believe your story? Different story then, how is it another fake story with same children? 4 children last year from different men, how another man? grin grin grin continue

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by airminem(f): 12:40pm On Nov 12, 2021
@OP What happened to the last TOPIC you posted? Since NOV 2020, you are still fooling around?

All the advice you will need is in YOUR PREVIOUS THREAD/TOPIC

chai 5 children for 3 men. You are indeed 'A PROMISCUOUS WOMAN' :->

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Mummiesgirls4(f): 12:40pm On Nov 12, 2021
Davash222:
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So, because of your selfish reason of not wanting to end up single with [b] 5 children
, you have to deceive, lie, manipulate, slander, disgrace, frustrate and humiliate this Innocent young man?



Yes because I have no other option but I also feel sad that I have to keep this secret from him

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Mummiesgirls4(f): 12:42pm On Nov 12, 2021
airminem:
Op No this is no a good one

I know and I don't know what to do. He had spent a lot of money for the wedding and I don't want to break his heart.

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Davash222(m): 12:42pm On Nov 12, 2021
Mummiesgirls4:


Yes because I have no other option but I also feel sad that I have to keep this secret from him
You don't feel any sad. You feel fulfilled.

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Iyaebe: 12:43pm On Nov 12, 2021
Don't ever tell him,don't be an obstacle to your own happiness.

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Rubbiish(m): 12:44pm On Nov 12, 2021
Mummiesgirls4:
My trad marriage is on the 27 of this month I still have had no courage to tell him about my 3 other children. I am pregnant I am scared he will leave me if he find out that I have 3 other children, I love him so much he is my everything on earth and I am scared to loose him. I don't want to end up single with 5 children. But sometime I feel sad I cry at night and I just don't know what to do because the guilt is so much.
No, this is not love but deceit!
How can u hide an info as important as this from the man u claim to love? Put yourself in his shoes

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Mummiesgirls4(f): 12:48pm On Nov 12, 2021
Iyaebe:
Don't ever tell him,don't be an obstacle to your own happiness.

Thank you but it is not easy I feel guilty all the time but in the other side my happiness comes first

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by airminem(f): 12:53pm On Nov 12, 2021
Bola146:
shocked I don't understand, how true are you making the same mistake every year? Should I believe your story? Different story then, how is it another fake story with same children? I don't understand
Me i will NOT take the OP seriously. She/he is just catching CRUZ undecided

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Bola146(f): 12:55pm On Nov 12, 2021
airminem:
Me i will NOT take the OP seriously. She/he is just catching CRUZ undecided

grin grin grin

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by lilvicky68(m): 12:58pm On Nov 12, 2021
I can see you are very fetile.. grin

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Deborah98(f): 12:59pm On Nov 12, 2021
5 children from 5 different men or what? And you're pregnant? For him or another person. Na we dey complicate issues for ourselves. Well I don't want to pry into your private life but as it stands I don't know where to start advising you from. To the best of my knowledge you're getting married soon so it'd be nice telling your man everything about you. If he'll take you after all these explanations good,if not no loss at all. Just gather yourself and move on

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Mummiesgirls4(f): 1:02pm On Nov 12, 2021
Deborah98:
5 children from 5 different men or what? And you're pregnant? For him or another person. Na we dey complicate issues for ourselves. Well I don't want to pry into your private life but as it stands I don't know where to start advising you from. To the best of my knowledge you're getting married soon so it'd be nice telling your man everything about you. If he'll take you after all these explanations good,if not no loss at all. Just gather yourself and move on

5 children by 3 fathers my husband to be he is the father of my unborn baby

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Deborah98(f): 1:04pm On Nov 12, 2021
Mummiesgirls4:


5 children by 3 fathers my husband to be he is the father of my unborn baby
wow... Like I wrote earlier don't wanna pry into your private life but this is a whole lot for you to handle. Just take my advice. Tell him and see his reaction. Best of luck.

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Mummiesgirls4(f): 1:06pm On Nov 12, 2021
Deborah98:
wow... Like I wrote earlier don't wanna pry into your private life but this is a whole lot for you to handle. Just take my advice. Tell him and see his reaction. Best of luck.

Thank you
Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Nozino: 1:06pm On Nov 12, 2021
Mummiesgirls4:
My trad marriage is on the 27 of this month I still have had no courage to tell him about my 3 other children. I am pregnant I am scared he will leave me if he find out that I have 3 other children, I love him so much he is my everything on earth and I am scared to loose him. I don't want to end up single with 5 children. But sometime I feel sad I cry at night and I just don't know what to do because the guilt is so much.


My own is if you can help me find a one bedroom apartment in Asaba. With POP etc

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Richy4(m): 1:24pm On Nov 12, 2021
Let us assume this story was true, then you should be really really afraid dear...Do unto others the way u want others to do unto you.....U are not proud of your kids which was so unfortunate...And that was one of the reasons why u were crying at night...

<<< Let us say reverse was the case, u discovered that your man has 3 kids living in the village whom you gonna be step mum to some day...He never told you about them and you discovered them by accident, how will that make u feel?

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by GboyegaD(m): 1:28pm On Nov 12, 2021
Tell him now before you create more problems, heartbreaks, and hurt to everyone involved in your life. You made a mistake agreeing to marrying him without first disclosing this.

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by crackhaus: 1:28pm On Nov 12, 2021
It's feminists that should advise you.

Me I'm only interested in advising that man that decided to marry you. Let me check his head.

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Mummiesgirls4(f): 1:33pm On Nov 12, 2021
Richy4:
Let us assume this story was true, then you should be really really afraid dear...Do unto others the way u want others to do unto you.....U are not proud of your kids which was so unfortunate...And that was one of the reasons why u were crying at night...

<<< Let us say reverse was the case, u discovered that your man has 3 kids living in the village whom you gonna be step mum to some day...He never told you about them and you discovered them by accident, how will that make u feel?

If reserve was the case I will not have no choice than to forgive and accept them because women take all the shit in marriage no divorce is allow so the society will tell me to forgive and accept them but for men it's a different story he will rather dumped me. So it is not the same thing

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Mummiesgirls4(f): 1:35pm On Nov 12, 2021
GboyegaD:
Tell him now before you create more problems, heartbreaks, and hurt to everyone involved in your life. You made a mistake agreeing to marrying him without first disclosing this.

OK maybe after I put to bed maybe after seeing our beautiful baby boy he might find a place in his heart to forgive me

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Richy4(m): 1:36pm On Nov 12, 2021
Mummiesgirls4:


If reserve was the case I will not have no choice than to forgive and accept them because women take all the shit in marriage no divorce is allow so the society will tell me to forgive and accept them but for men it's a different story he will rather dumped me. So it is not the same thing

How did you get to know that he will dump you?

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Mummiesgirls4(f): 1:41pm On Nov 12, 2021
Richy4:


How did you get to know that he will dump you?

Because when we first met when I told him about my daughter he said he had vowed to never marry a single mother but because he loves me and I only have one child that's better he will accept her so I know no matter how much he loves me if I tell him about my other 3 there's no way he will continue with the marriage.

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by InTheCloudySky(f): 1:52pm On Nov 12, 2021
Your previous thread was created a year ago (Nov. 2020). You mean you've not told him about your three other kids / that ​you have a total of four kids, and you're pregnant again (this time for him)? Why have you not told him the truth?



Mummiesgirls4:


Because when we first met when I told him about my daughter he said he had vowed to never marry a single mother but because he loves me and I only have one child that's better he will accept her so I know no matter how much he loves me if I tell him about my other 3 there's no way he will continue with the marriage.
Then why get pregnant for him? You should know by now (from your four kids) that you can't tie a man down with pregnancy. It seems you've been trying to do that and what you're attempting to do yet again.

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Richy4(m): 1:54pm On Nov 12, 2021
Mummiesgirls4:


Because when we first met when I told him about my daughter he said he had vowed to never marry a single mother but because he loves me and I only have one child that's better he will accept her so I know no matter how much he loves me if I tell him about my other 3 there's no way he will continue with the marriage.

OK... So you have 4 kids, you told him you got only one.. you did not declare the rest before your man... because u know that he will leave you.. in your opinion, is it safe to say that what u were doing was fraud?

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Mummiesgirls4(f): 1:59pm On Nov 12, 2021
InTheCloudySky:
Your previous thread was created a year ago (Nov. 2020). You mean you've not told him about your three other kids / that ​have a total of four kids, and you're pregnant again (this time first him)? Why have you not told him the truth?



Then why get pregnant for him? You should know by now (from your four kids) that you can't tie a man down with pregnancy. It seems you've been trying to do that and what you're attempting to do yet again.





If you read my previous post you will see that I said I was on family planning but it failed me my intention was not to get pregnant so soon but I thank God because he didn't dump me but he want to marry me but I feel sad I am keeping this deep secret from him.
Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Mummiesgirls4(f): 2:00pm On Nov 12, 2021
Richy4:


OK... So you have 4 kids, you told him you got only one.. you did not declare the rest before your man... because u know that he will leave you.. in your opinion, is it safe to say that what u were doing was fraud?

No it's not fraud because fraud is a crime but what I did its not a crime it has no prison sentence but I don't know the right name to call it

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Richy4(m): 2:06pm On Nov 12, 2021
Mummiesgirls4:


No it's not fraud because fraud is a crime but what I did its not a crime it has no prison sentence but I don't know the right name to call it

Wrongful deception is also a fraud dear... Relationship Deception.... misrepresenting what you were not...Or don't you think so?

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Foodqueen(f): 2:06pm On Nov 12, 2021
The story of your life is so voluminous.

Like you were sent to earth to destroy as many men as you can.

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Re: I Am Scared! My Wedding Is This Month & I Haven't Told My Fiancé About My 3 Kids by Mummiesgirls4(f): 2:08pm On Nov 12, 2021
Richy4:


Wrongful deception is also a fraud dear... Relationship Deception.... misrepresenting what you were not...Or don't you think so?

I don't think so

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