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| Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Nobody: 2:33pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
These days it seems there is a growing number of men with the ideology that getting married either in your 20s or in your 30s as a guy is tantamount to getting your "player license" withdrawn permanently. Although word on the street has it that married man wey go bleep outside go still bleep freely regardless. My issue however is with the other group that simply believes that getting married is a form of bondage that stems a guy's "adventurous" side, limits his chances of maximizing his singleness and also spoils his "record". Married men, na so? Nairanlanders, abi how una see am? Is marriage really bondage? |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by DICKstractor: 3:14pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
 Yes, it's bondage Only the responsibilities alone can make you run mad and the marriage bond age 9 Likes |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by MJBOLT: 3:19pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Marriage, several decades used to be sweet but marriage now is modern day slavery for the man. 13 Likes |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Polynek(m): 3:20pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Marital affect some few tinx in ur life, despite ur gender dax my opinion 2 Likes |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by yuping(m): 3:23pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Observing from far 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Nobody: 3:46pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
DICKstractor: Omo!  You dun mean it!? 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Adsexpert: 4:01pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Marriage is a tool to control... They are right in most way. 3 Likes |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Nobody: 4:04pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Adsexpert: Hmmmn |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Sonnobax15(m): 4:06pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
 When the marriage that's supposed to be enjoyed is being endured,dem no go need to tell you say your marriage don dey head towards the direction of okere prison for warri 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by slickycee: 4:08pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
It's all about perspective !! Yes it's either bondage or long suffering It's either regrets or gratitude It's either a mistake or a wise decision It's either you love your spouse or you don't It's either your spouse loves you or he/she doesn't Now marriage can be a bondage or a happy union It all depends on the individual. Remember in the Church , a lot of vows are made, the couples are asked in the presence of everyone if they want to go ahead. It's all about choice, How did you choose your spouse Why , etc Your marriage is in your hands, it would be whatever you want it to be 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by goshikid: 4:09pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Bro most married men are not happy with their spouse, because nowadays na slayqueen where no get anything to offer them dy go marry. Shebi for marriage na only nyash and b@ob you go press? When the wife na liability on her own, only to sit down dy press phone, twerk. Nowadays marriage need better thinking and prayers before guy man go enter abeg  3 Likes |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by techWriter3: 4:13pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Marriage, several years relied to wanna sweet but marriage now is modern week slaves for the man. 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Boogyman557: 4:24pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Holly Gram  real matters. WTF MAN1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Nobody: 4:37pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Sonnobax15: Lol But why person go dey endure wetin him suppose enjoy? 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Nobody: 4:47pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
goshikid: Wahala for who rush go marry slay queen o For your mind you go dey think say you don finally settle down You no go know say na empty shell you carry 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by pansophist(m): 4:52pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Well, since society has focused so much on female issues, that the pendulum have swing so far left, creating an imbalance, and women through their nature of being the weaker sex, can't really empathise with male issues, then its only expected that men will see it as such. Lots of men are not okay, they feel like running away from themselves, as responsibilities towards the self, and others pile up. Even worse, men have no place to seek recourse or support, afterall, like they said, we live in a patriarchy and all men somehow, are supermen. Only women have issues, and should be helped, not men. That is not to say that I see marriage as a bondage, or that marriage is a bandage, but that I can understand and empathise with men who think like that. Because no one will run away from a place of joy, and if marriage is actually a place of bliss, men would not be shying away from it. At the end, no matter how society uplift women at the expense of men, it is the same forsaken men these women will go to for commitment, and that's a recipe for disaster. 12 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Nobody: 4:53pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
MJBOLT: Comrade sofri abeg, this your quote dey cut like dagger 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by InfinityFabric: 5:33pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
MJBOLT:...in a gynocentric society |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Opeyemiextra(f): 7:33pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Because most of them are with the wrong partner. It's so painful how people change completely to a different person after marriage. But, we will enjoy our own marriage by God's grace. We will not fall into wrong hands or families. 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by MrSamsung(m): 8:19pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Till date men don't know that they are the cause of their societal ills(socially, politically, economically and otherwise). They blame the women. They are like someone who knows that he supposed not to let a stubborn/wild dog out of the cage. But after the dog must have caused damage, they blame the dog. Worst still, they don't know that they can join hands to correct many of the things not beyond their control, instead they wail, complain and point accusing fingers on wom........... 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Nobody: 5:20pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
Opeyemiextra: This is serious my brother. May God help us oh. Ah! |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Nobody: 5:21pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by tobechi74: 9:40pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
If marriage were compulsory, Jesus would have done so.I am not against the idea of getting married. I am only saying marriage is not for everyone. The assumption that one can only be fulfilled while married is false . Many propeller of this fallacy quote the Bible to back up their claim. It is not good for man to be alone It is not good for anyone to be alone . Eve was to be a companion and not a marriage partner . One can feel alone while being married . The verse only validates the fact that no one is an Ireland. We need someone to lean on . Marriage is a concept created by man to bring order in the society. No one has been arrested for choosing to remain single. Many of us get married because we need kids. There are many orphans down there craving to get married. Go adopt them . Except off course you are searching for your own child to shower selfish love . Everyone is meant to have children. Eli the priest was not meant to have children as that would disturb his mission on Earth so his wife womb was shut for years. Having a wife would not affect his goal. After persistent prayer, he finally had a child. He had to choose between disciplining his children or spending time in the church. He chose the later. His children became wayward. Zaccharia was another priest who had difficulty in having a son.It was not until he was very old that he was permitted too. This tells us that those who are called to work in God institution are not meant to have children as that could affect their work .They are permitted to have a helper, a partner, a wife ,a maid etc. This brings me to the only reason to get married .We should get married when getting married enables us to achieve our life purpose. Jesus knew his mission on Earth .He knew it involves wandering from one place to another spreading the message. The stress of travelling with his family all the Tim would slow down his movement. He could not afford to take them to the mountain and through the sea. He knew his message would invoke the wrath of the pharasees who would happily transfer their aggression to his wife and children . Peter who was already married had to leave his wife behind to follow Jesus. His wife must have felt sad as a result. His children must have been angry with their father for being unavailable. It is better not to get married than to abandon your partner midway. one had to pace way for another. Marriage is settling down . Those whose purpose involve moving around have no business settling down.A Catholic priest could be posted to three different countries in a year as part of missionary work. Relocating their family all the time would prove cumbersome. This is why Catholic priest do not get married. I am not condemning clergy who get married. I only ask that each should examine the nature of his calling. One who is fixed at a particular place to grow an already planted church can marry. Missionaries who go about converting people and planting churches can abstain https://tobechispeaks./2020/11/27/divorce-marketer/ 2 Likes |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by zanshi: 9:57pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
Before you talk about marriage you must also talk about dating, young Nigerian men are seeing no incentive to date in today's. The dating market is a joke to begin with, a lot of women who are looking for superficial T.V. kind of love which doesn't exsist, and a lot of men have been denied female attention from their teenage years up until adulthood and you are asking why don't men date. The economy is also messed up too, i was on clubhouse room "ALPHA MALE MENTALITY" when a lot of folks were debating back and forth as to why there seems to be low marriage amongst Nigerians in the diaspora and a lot women said they don't want 50-50 type of relationship but they want one where their partner pays a significant amount of the bills. Whilst that is possible with some people, it isn't the reality for a lot of relationships out there. Dating is a Nigerian girl today is about what you can give her, hardly would she ever go out of her way to get you gift or extend some kind gestures to you and going forward the men get tired because it feels like they are being used. 3 Likes |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Kobojunkie: 11:27pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
SundayNightGist:Marriage is only bondage to those who aren't mature enough to handle it. Yes, even those already married who believe it a prison feel that way because they were never mentality prepared to handle it from the start. 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Fiscus105(m): 3:34am On Nov 17, 2021 |
SundayNightGist: It's prison for them, cos freedom to bring different "nyanch" home to pound no longer visible, It's prison cos money they waste for frivilours must stop/reduce and re-channel to their family. It is prison, cos if he stays more than necessary outside, most especially at night, he will start receiving calls from wife. All these are not prison for mature, who knows what marriage entails. That's, a call for higher responsibility. 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Tajbol4splend(m): 4:19am On Nov 17, 2021 |
MJBOLT: Who told you this, were you married several dacades ago to know it used to be sweet? Did the couples back then tell you they didn't have their own ish too? 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Kobojunkie: 4:29am On Nov 17, 2021 |
MJBOLT:This na fantasy you dey swim in. Back in the 80s, we also had people who swore that marriage was there prison and slavery was the sentence. 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Kobojunkie: 4:31am On Nov 17, 2021 |
goshikid:Um... there are many women out there working and independent. Why do those men go for and marry instead those you call slay queens? Marriage isn't the problem. Instead, the choices many of you continue to make where your marriage is concerned, is. The sooner you realize this, the sooner you understand that to enjoy marriage, you ought to make better choices. 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Kobojunkie: 4:34am On Nov 17, 2021 |
MrSamsung:Thank you! 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by MrSamsung(m): 9:55am On Nov 17, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: I don't understand your emoji. It's contradictory to the two words you wrote. 2 Likes |
| Re: Why Do Some Men See Marriage As Bondage? by Kobojunkie: 7:12pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
MrSamsung:It's a "thinker" emoji . 1 Like |
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