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The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by debbydams(f): 8:24pm On Nov 18, 2021
Dating pool is now a mess right now, a big mess. If you are already married, God has saved you. If you are in a serious relationship with someone who's goin to marry you, you are very luck lucky.

A lot of us are in relationships but single, you think you are dating someone but the person is not even dating you. I think we need to talk about how damaged alot of us are, how materialistic we have become, how sex obsessed most of us are, how selfish?

"I deserve the best" yes you are but while you deserve the best , is your partner getting the best as well?

Our generation is just too selfish.
It is always about 'you'

You want your partner to accept you the way you are but you are a bag of negativity and emotional liability, you are unstable, you are selfish, you don't look inside, you never tell yourself the truth and you want your partner to accept you when you are not even ready to change.

But you want people to change for you but you're not willing to change for them in return. Isn't that selfishness?

No sincerity, No commitment, No honesty, No love, just expectations without reciprocation.

We keep blaming our partners for our mistakes..

There's no day we won't hear about divorce, domestic violence, bf killing gf, gf stabbing bf ,

How long will this continue?

It's tiring

#Lalasticla

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by Ussycool(m): 8:30pm On Nov 18, 2021
Some guys double date that is why they ain't commited and lack honesty. It is disgusting that some ladies out there are carbon copy of characters you point out.

Look debby, pray over things when your relationship is summersaulting. Men are turning to something else, imagine some guys claiming that MARRIAGE is a scam. How then do you think they will take relationship serious?

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by omooluorun: 8:30pm On Nov 18, 2021
That's why we need to seek the face of God to avoid stories that touch

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by debbydams(f): 8:41pm On Nov 18, 2021
omooluorun:
That's why we need to seek the face of God to avoid stories that touch
God will not come down to help, even God will partners still divorce..pastors are not left out

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by debbydams(f): 8:44pm On Nov 18, 2021
Ussycool:
Some guys double date that is why they ain't commited and lack honesty. It is disgusting that some ladies out there are carbon copy of characters you point out.

Look debby, pray over things when your relationship is summersaulting. Men are turning to something else, imagine some guys claiming that MARRIAGE is a scam. How then do you think they will take relationship serious?
hmmmm... Wish some men can be straight with their intentions,like ' babe let's be hitting ourselves' but instead some men will promise you marriage and waste your time at the end of the day, they will leave, same applies to some ladies

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by omooluorun: 9:03pm On Nov 18, 2021
debbydams:
God will not come down to help, even God will partners still divorce..pastors are not left out

Relationship built with all sincerity on God's foundation cannot be moved. Of course there will be tribulations but God will come through.

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by Moz22: 9:10pm On Nov 18, 2021
debbydams:
Dating pool is now a mess right now, a big mess if u are already married, God has saved you, if u are in a serious relationship u with someone who's goin to marry you are very luck lucky, alot of us are relationship but single, you think you are dating someone but the person is not even dating you, I think we need to talk about how damaged alot of us are, how materialistic we have become,

how sex obsessed most of us are, how selfish? "I deserve the best" yes you are but while you deserve the best , is your partner getting the best as well?
Our generation is just too selfish.
It is always about 'you'
You want your partner to accept you the way you are but you are a bag of negativity and emotional liability, you are unstable, you are selfish, you don't look inside,you never tell yourself the truth and you want your partner to accept you when u are not even to ready change.

But you want people to change for you but you're not willing to change for them in return isn't that selfishness?

No sincerity, No commitment, No honesty, No love, just expectations without reciprocation.

We keep blaming our partners for our mistakes..

There's no day we won't hear about divorce, domestic violence, bf killing gf, gf stabbing bf ,

How long will this continue?

It's tiring

#Lalasticla
it took me a while contemplating whether I should comment on this or not.. however I'm gonna drop my token..

Ever since I saw a post saying "you've been unlucky with relationships, why not channel your energy into taking you and your family out of poverty and leave love alone" I had a mind shift... I maybe wrong but the truth of the matter is that true love doesn't exist no more.. the love u see people exhibit these days comes with expectations and when those expectations aren't met, that's when they'll say they fell out of love etc.. True love is a beautiful thing and I sincerely hope that I get to experience it before I exit this world, However I'm not looking for it.. this world is just too bleeped up, unbalanced and full of fuckery, but apparently there isn't much u can do about it. I have a thing that works for me anytime I feel some sorta affection for any girl which I don't wanna entertain.. I'm gonna be very single for a long time to come. Selah

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by debbydams(f): 9:13pm On Nov 18, 2021
Moz22:
it took me a while contemplating whether I should comment on this or not.. however I'm gonna drop my token..
[b]
Ever since I saw a post saying "you've been unlucky with relationships, [/b]why not channel your energy into taking you and your family out of poverty and leave love alone" I had a mind shift... I maybe wrong but the truth of the matter is that true love doesn't exist no more.. the love u see people exhibit these days comes with expectations and when those expectations aren't met, that's when they'll say they fell out of love etc.. True love is a beautiful thing and I sincerely hope that I get to experience it before I exit this world, However I'm not looking for it.. this world is just too bleeped up, unbalanced and full of fuckery, but apparently there isn't much u can do about it. I have a thing that works for me anytime I feel some sorta affection for any girl which I don't wanna entertain.. I'm gonna be very single for a long time to come. Selah
you are wrong,I created this thread on a mutual ground..

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by Moz22: 9:14pm On Nov 18, 2021
debbydams:
you are wrong,I created this thread on a mutual ground..
my entire text wrong or which part of my statement?

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by debbydams(f): 9:17pm On Nov 18, 2021
Moz22:
my entire text wrong or which part of my statement?
the first paragraph..

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by Tajbol4splend(m): 9:18pm On Nov 18, 2021
omooluorun:
That's why we need to seek the face of God to avoid stories that touch

Another one

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by Moz22: 9:20pm On Nov 18, 2021
debbydams:
the first paragraph..
okay then

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by Tajbol4splend(m): 9:25pm On Nov 18, 2021
debbydams:
God will not come down to help, even God will partners still divorce..pastors are not left out


These holy holy people actually think they know who God is, they know absolutely nothing about him

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by Smartb0y: 9:27pm On Nov 18, 2021
debbydams:
you are wrong,I created this thread on a mutual ground..

Where's the mutual ground on hypergamy wink

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by debbydams(f): 9:28pm On Nov 18, 2021
Tajbol4splend:



These holy holy people actually think they know who God is, they know absolutely nothing about him
hmmm
Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by Vivonose: 9:34pm On Nov 18, 2021
God is love, once God is involved in your relationship, it would stand the test of time

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by zed7: 10:15pm On Nov 18, 2021
Wahala for those wey never marry. Many people are damaged to be honest.

You need to search with a microscope to find a decent partner these days. We still have them but you need to be able to identify them. They may not come in your favourite package.

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by tosaino95(m): 4:34am On Nov 19, 2021
debbydams:
hmmmm... Wish some men can be straight with their intentions,like ' babe let's be hitting ourselves' but instead some men will promise you marriage and waste your time at the end of the day, they will leave, same applies to some ladies
okay me am sincere let be hitting ourselves deb tongue grin

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by debbydams(f): 6:36am On Nov 19, 2021
zed7:
Wahala for those wey never marry. Many people are damaged to be honest.

You need to search with a microscope to find a decent partner these days. We still have them but you need to be able to identify them. They may not come in your favourite package.
I'm telling you

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by Boogyman557: 6:55am On Nov 19, 2021
Holly Gram cool real matters. WTF MAN

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by DarkCaesar(m): 4:06pm On Nov 27, 2021
Let the Son of Man take his seat while waiting for others to tune in……….shey relationship stress self no dey taya una grin

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by Opeyemiextra(f): 4:55pm On Nov 27, 2021
debbydams:
Dating pool is now a mess right now, a big mess if u are already married, God has saved you, if u are in a serious relationship u with someone who's goin to marry you are very luck lucky, alot of us are relationship but single, you think you are dating someone but the person is not even dating you, I think we need to talk about how damaged alot of us are, how materialistic we have become,

how sex obsessed most of us are, how selfish? "I deserve the best" yes you are but while you deserve the best , is your partner getting the best as well?
Our generation is just too selfish.
It is always about 'you'
You want your partner to accept you the way you are but you are a bag of negativity and emotional liability, you are unstable, you are selfish, you don't look inside,you never tell yourself the truth and you want your partner to accept you when u are not even to ready change.

But you want people to change for you but you're not willing to change for them in return isn't that selfishness?

No sincerity, No commitment, No honesty, No love, just expectations without reciprocation.

We keep blaming our partners for our mistakes..

There's no day we won't hear about divorce, domestic violence, bf killing gf, gf stabbing bf ,

How long will this continue?

It's tiring

#Lalasticla

In this our generation, we need reorientation on a whole lot of things. Mhen! Wrong assumption are being recycled and passed on and it's getting worse by the day.

True love is rare in this our time. May God help us.

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by czarr(m): 5:00pm On Nov 27, 2021
debbydams:
hmmmm... Wish some men can be straight with their intentions,like ' babe let's be hitting ourselves' but instead some men will promise you marriage and waste your time at the end of the day, they will leave, same applies to some ladies
You women are funny, if a guy walks up to you are says let's just be fvckmates you'd probably insult him, you make it seem as if most girls would be down for it when that is not the case, just say you don't want to be taken advantage of.

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by debbydams(f): 5:01pm On Nov 27, 2021
Opeyemiextra:


In this our generation, we need reorientation on a whole lot of things. Mhen! Wrong assumption are being recycled and passed on and it's getting worse by the day.

True love is rare in this our time. May God help us.
Amen

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by debbydams(f): 5:13pm On Nov 27, 2021
czarr:
You women are funny, if a guy walks up to you are says let's just be fvckmates you'd probably insult him, you make it seem as if most girls would be down for it when that is not the case, just say you don't want to be taken advantage of.

depending on the level of the lady maturity, a guy once told me 'lets be friends with benefits, I'm not ready for anything serious' I told him I can't do that, if we accidentally meet on the road we talk and go our separate ways, I personally so much appreciate sincereity, if a guy doesn't like to me it won't take up to a month before I find out and the kind of hatred I'll have for him ehn..I don't insult people because they express their feelings but I insult people when I already said I'm not interested and they still disturb me over it again, the kind insult I'll drop ehn.. we all have different personalities.

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by dhiqson(m): 5:16pm On Nov 27, 2021
grin
Story
Thanking God for my last relationship
The person that I thought I was gan spend the rest of my life with, taught me how to let toxicity go cheesy
I mean, she's the reason I'm redpilled
Rn I no even too dey send
If it ain't about me, you're just playing yourself
And maybe I have a problem, I dunno don't care I'm all to myself
Got great friends I could kill for
I go hard for them, they go harder for me
Life's Good
God's good



You date a mature lady
She feels she's always right
Younger one, just plain st*****
Omo abeg grin

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by czarr(m): 5:18pm On Nov 27, 2021
debbydams:
depending on the level of the lady maturity, a guy once told me 'lets be friends with benefits, I'm not ready for anything serious' I told him I can't do that, if we accidentally meet on the road we talk and go our separate ways, I personally so much appreciate sincereity, if a guy doesn't like to me it won't take up to a month before I find out and the kind of hatred I'll have for him ehn..I don't insult people because they express their feelings but I insult people when I already said I'm not interested and they still disturb me over it again, the kind insult I'll drop ehn.. we all have different personalities.
Just know most guys wouldn't ask to just be friends with benefits, because most girls would feel insulted and not agree...so instead we wine you, make you feel special small, fvck a few times and ghost you.... that's how most guys move, it's left for you as the woman to be able to see through the whining and see who has genuine attraction for you, but women are blinded by appearances.(looks and money)

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by debbydams(f): 5:20pm On Nov 27, 2021
czarr:
Just know most guys wouldn't ask to just be friends with benefits, because most girls would feel insulted and not agree...so instead we wine you, make you feel special small, fvck a few times and ghost you.... that's how most guys move, it's left for you as the woman to be able to see through the whining and see who has genuine attraction for you, but women are blinded by appearances.(looks and money)
you are right

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by jclassiq(m): 5:28pm On Nov 27, 2021
Debbydams. Lol.

So what do you want to do about this problem you talked about?

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by debbydams(f): 5:47pm On Nov 27, 2021
jclassiq:
Debbydams. Lol.

So what do you want to do about this problem you talked about?
nothing, continue minding my business

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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by Nobody: 6:01pm On Nov 27, 2021
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Re: The Ordeal Of Relationship In 21st Century by Kalatium(m): 8:21am On Nov 28, 2021
This is the paradox of liberty. We want freedom to do whatever we want this is what it as brought us to.

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