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Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by guychidile: 3:32pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
Just passing |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by Collins4u1(m): 3:33pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
Imagine if the first child dies and d vasectomy couldn't be fixed.. |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by alizma: 3:33pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
Nigerian woman at it again. You won't one child and you also want to seal up his chances of impregnating you or another woman in the future. Ha, fear God na. How would you feel if he suggest that your womb be removed as a way of birth control? |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by walexsho(m): 3:34pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
I swear you are insane. If you still have father go to him and seek his opinion and stop disturbing our peace |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by Collins4u1(m): 3:35pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
Mercychen: Look at this one. If that one child dies tomorrow, what will you do? Why not remove your womb instead |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by studentofTruth: 3:38pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
Michelle55: Not just selfish, the write-up shows her manipulative and controlling nature. If she's being human and concerned about having more than one child, she can opt for tubal ligation. If she later want another child or the only child dies, she can opt for IVF. |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by Mckandre(m): 3:39pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:wellbeing and mental state of the child, its gonna be downing and depressing on the poor kid when he/she sees friends with siblings and the things they do for each other,sharing family responsibilities etc. Single children are always known to be withdrawn (isolated),depressed and clingy, it gets worse if the parents are rarely there in their life. Is that the Kind of life u would like for ur child? 1 Like |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by qtguru(m): 3:39pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
Mercychen: Vasectomy discussion and you are not married? Red Flag what if you die ? how does he plan another family ? It's too risky or what if the one child dies. I don't think you've clearly thought about it. massive Red flag from you 6 Likes |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by Tribalism123(m): 3:40pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
In all ur stories! U are good, honest hard working and the book delivery man introduced u to his bro. U should have told the delivery man the following: I am selfish I am wicked I can wipe a whole lineage from the surface of this earth and finally I cant marry in this world. Let me add. The guy calls y to pretend he is not the one trying to break up with u. He broke up with u the very moment u mentioned he should have a vasectomy. All the calls is to break up with u in peace. I do it a lot and most men do it. They see ur rubbish and pretend they are still with u. The guy don Japa. U are getting to 40yrs soon. Menopause will help u with ur dream life. 9 Likes |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by bomsilaga(m): 3:40pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
Mercychen:Apart from number of children, marriage presents so many other issues that it becomes a miracle for marriage to last up to a year in this century. That said, should there be a breakup between you in the nearest future, what becomes his fate? Every surgical procedure comes with its risk. Ascertaining that men's bodies are not complicated is plain selfish. Blocking the fallopian tubes surgically can solve this issue if you truly love this guy, but that wasn't even suggested. |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by vibratingpenis: 3:41pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Guy stop dishing out your ignorance with reckless abandon, most of tour assertions here were built from heresay and I heard, I never saw where you wrote about doing any independent research to know whatsup about vasectomy. For all I know you are same person as the OP and these your fictitious story is lame and stale. You are gauging how serious your selfishness and wickedness is; it is way above average and tying up or removing the womb is not life threatening and not even a major surgery. My mother did it when fibroid was disturbing her and she already had four of us, so advise yourself to do same if you want only one child and leave the man alone. 1 Like |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by Flier: 3:41pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
nellyelitz:The poster is a devil,she's really to destroy the guys life The guy in question should run as fast as he can 2 Likes |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by Klass99(f): 3:45pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
. 5 Likes |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by jefdr001: 3:45pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
Mercychen:, BTL like vasectomy is safe with extremely low failure rate, you should do it and free the young man. 1 Like |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by Judybash93(m): 3:45pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
His balls, his choice. If he doesn't want to, he has the right to say no unless if you want to force him. 1 Like |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by Rotji(m): 3:45pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
nellyelitz: Good point, you are the one pushing for only 1 child and whatever your reason is only you know, why then push the whole responsibility for doing it on the man?! It shows how very selfish you are. You came up with the idea for your own reasons and convinced him with difficulty to accept that he can only have 1 child, you went ahead to ask him to be the one to sacrifice his manhood so you can achieve your objective?! 1 Like |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by johhbekeboh09: 3:45pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
Is vasectomy reversible? |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by Enskynelson(m): 3:47pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
Can a Vasectomy Be Reversed? Sometimes. But reversing a vasectomy isn’t easy and doesn’t always work. Don’t get the procedure unless you're sure you won’t want to father children in the future. SOURCE webmd Does this not look much a risk? Are you not being selfish too on your part that you couldn't ask why he kicked against vasectomy? We don't pray for death but it happens. What happens if you lose your only child? We don't pray for such but if you are being objective, you have to consider all those options as well. |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by studentofTruth: 3:48pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
vibratingpenis: @ your 2nd paragraph, you're right. But I think the fellow is a she, prolly a bitter feminist. |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by simplesearch: 3:49pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
There are people who shouldn't be exposed to education because even if you give them the best of it they will misconstrue it, it will end up like giving a mentally unstable person a javelin to hold. @ OP, you're ridiculously below 10years in maturity, especially when it comes to real understanding and handling of core issues of life. Anyone settling down with you must be ready to receive and revel in your abundant superfluity of naughtiness. Kindly change your mindset and mentality and grow to become a real woman to be held in honour by her husband and those around you, rather than create a path of ease and least resistances for yourself in life. To achieve this you must remove every barrier of uncertainty keeping you in bondage to perpetual self preservation and management even against common sense, and stick out your neck in readiness to giving life all it takes to discover yourself a new. Remember to live is to die! |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by Missionaire: 3:51pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
I actually saw this thread when she just posted but didn't bother to respond because I thought she was mad. Now, seeing all her replies, I don't only think she is mad, I think she is a witch. A big black entitled and selfish witch. This is the more reason why we the good people of this platform will have to comment. In everything the OP has written, there is no place where what the man wanted was mentioned. 1. The OP wants one child. The man reluctantly agreed just because he loves her. She didn't even say two. Even America sef, couples still have two to three children. 2. The OP still wants the man to be castrated. Ah! My people is this not witchcraft? Why didn't she go and donate her womb to her village people? Without putting into consideration what the man needs are, she is distancing herself from him and making him look bad. Did she request that they have at most two kids and the man refused? This is the same lady that broke up with her all in one boyfriend just because she found shower nets abi caps in his wardrobe even though the guy was a procurement officer in a very big hotel. My good people of Nairaland, I want you to pray in whatever you believe in. Pray for that young man. That whatever veil covering him that is making him to keep calling the OP should be burnt. This is witchcraft in the highest order. Tueh! 17 Likes |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by UDUJ(m): 3:51pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: You are everywhere, on all threads. How jobless can someone be? 6 Likes |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by MufasaLion: 3:52pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
efighter: This one wants to cry because he couldn't understand my write-up. 1 Like |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by JOHNBULLZZ: 3:52pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
Mercychen:You are a very selfish and wicked soul. That bro must leave. You are very wicked. 4 Likes |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by West1side: 3:53pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
I blame men that can not open their mouth n tell you to your mother's face that you are a foolish fool for daring to think of this as an option to having a child. If the fool you talked about had balls to give you a dirty slap or told you the first time you mentioned it am sure you will never have the audacity to bring it here or tell any other man. Mercychen: |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by MufasaLion: 3:53pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
UDUJ: Jobless enough for someone jobless like you to notice that. 2 Likes |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by pocohantas(f): 3:55pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
Na Mercy make una dey get headache? Lol Someone that would move on to the next cruise by tomorrow. Truthsayer009 what is your opinion on this? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by MufasaLion: 3:55pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
Born2winKingOG: Just like your father, you've got no good upbringing and just like your mother, you've got an uncouth mouth. 1 Like |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by UDUJ(m): 3:56pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
MufasaLion: I wouldn't be surprised if you and the jobless fellow are one and the same. Afterall an average jobless nairalander has more than one moniker. You've been noticed. Now get the fvck off my mentions. Last response to you |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by Debra911(f): 3:56pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
To all feminist on this NL, you're fighting for something useless and aimless 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by MufasaLion: 3:57pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
UDUJ: Lol Please, don't put me in this your multiple moniker theory. Be logical! 1 Like |
Re: Could He Have Ulterior Motives By Disagreeing To This? Should I Opt Out? by Tsongz(f): 3:58pm On Dec 04, 2021 |
You don't have enough information about vasectomy then. The longer it takes, the less possible it is to reverse. If she truly wants it then she should work on her own self. There are other family planning methods such as usage of spermicide that they can opt for, but telling her partner to undergo such invasive procedure is selfish of her. I'm sure she's scared of the repercussions of FP that's why she wants the man to undergo the procedure. Kobojunkie: |
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