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Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Hathor5(f): 9:30am On Dec 05, 2021 |
MMotimo: I love it! |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Magnoliaa(f): 1:05pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Hathor5: Hmm. Thank you for your response. I was more or less expecting your own interpretation, with being a Christian and it being in the Bible ... like you do you understand it? How do you do it? Oh. It seems you agree with MMot.imo's non-literal interpretation. But anyway, it's good. MMotimo: Thank you as well. This is a great response and I love it. This is more of what I've been trying to understand. I like the non-literal perspective. Because it was kind of confusing to me. Is the Bible advocating for caning? Beating kids? Does that mean it works? I know people have definitely abused that phrase, I just didn't know what to make of it anymore. How to put it in its right context and perspective, so this interpretation of yours is one for me. The other responses on zero beating and correcting a stranger's child are insightful too. Thanks again. 1 Like |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Thanos5555: 1:20pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
I know� that we are all angry, but the parents are to be blamed also, all this parents that send like 3 of thier children in one process or one school the last child will never have a say, the parents noticed that the boy stopped talking to then and begged them to change his school, but lai lai since obi, Cristi and peter and so finished that school or process, he can not be the one to change it, That was the same way i was trained at home as the last born oooo, my senior ones have already gone through process and I dare not change it, I don't know who taught us all this things., the father also on seeing the boys behaviour said that , it is good that the boy is no longer playful like before joining the school, my brother let your child play oiiiiiiiiii, it is his time for that 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by RoyalBoutique(m): 1:22pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Blame the students that killed another student! WTF! They must face justice 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by efficiencie(m): 1:22pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
It always starts with bad parenting! This is why I would rather my kids have their education at home all thanks to the internet, the cost effectiveness of constructing a library over paying tuition for a child to get nonsense education and presence of certifying institutes everywhere. Instead of exposing ones child to harmful peer pressure and archaic profit oriented education institutions, the child will study at home, do GCE O/A levels, jump into the practice of his or her field of endeavor whilst leveraging certifying institutes (ICAN/ACCA for accounting, City Guilds for technical engineering experience, Oracle for Java programming, Cisco for computer networking, RSS for Statistics, Microsoft/Amazon for AI, ML and Data Science etc)... this is a better pathway than exposing your child to expensive, trashy secondary/tertiary education and expose your child to harmful peer influence from classmates with zero home training. Traditional schooling nowadays is a scam. |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by yemi1504: 1:22pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
ModelLook: Bad parenting is the issue here, the responsibility of a child falls mostly with the parents as the buck stops with them. The parents have more contact hours with the children than the schools as the school can only do so much. However, the school is culpable here by not accepting responsibility and worse hiding the identities of the criminals (and yes they are) and their parents. |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Nobody: 1:23pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
The school or parent can only do their best and the rest is left to God and the child |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Funkyswagzz(m): 1:23pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Y are we looking for who to blame? |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by TOPCRUISE(m): 1:24pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Bad parenting is the cause. A well trained child will not think of murder. For instance, A teacher got beaten to death by a SS3 Student in Delta State just because the teacher flogged his Sister. Should I blame the school for the action of that SS3 Student? No! School did not teach them all those nonsense. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Eriokanmi: 1:25pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Bad patenting is worse. If the school isn't good, you could withdraw your child and enroll him/her elsewhere 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by PoliteActivist: 1:25pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
ModelLook: You have a point sir. Here are the criminals: JOSEPH BENJAMIN MICHAEL KASHAMI ANSLEM TEMILE And two others 1 Like 1 Share
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Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Nobody: 1:25pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Honestly it’s a Mix of both and the owner of that school should be Named immediately. They should stop Handling this Matter with Kid gloves. |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Nobody: 1:26pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
All this blame game aren't the solution rather an advocacy against bullying would help... Anyone who get bullied obviously would try to get his pound of flesh by bullying others... so what is important is to change the mindset through advocacy in schools around the country and putting proper policies and counselling unit... which means students should be more accessible and have better relationship with their principal, teachers etc |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Romanoff(f): 1:27pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
It is bad parenting. A lot of parents have become lazy, they don't parent at all o my to pawn off their kids to boarding schools hoping teachers will help fix the children they broke. Those children end up corrupting some who were brought up well. The most common place to find these poorly raised kids are religious schools. |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Mrviktor(m): 1:30pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
All things things have been happening in boarding schools.. And most of we 90's kids know this.. I think going back 6 to 7 years ago.. Boarding houses were worse than this.. I remember how they used to beat one boy in empty classes anytime dey want to make a point.. We remember how school vs school fights used to be back in the days.. Saying bowen is the problem is very far from it.. They kids that were raised back then in the early 2000's are the parents of now.. The monster of old have given birth to new monsters.. It will only get worse 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Seankhalifa: 1:30pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
.9 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by joshua203016: 1:30pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
I blame bad parenting quote author=ModelLook post=108199730]Looking at this Dowen College Saga. How these evil young secondary school boys run a CULT group in the school and killed an innocent JSS1 boy. How the parents quickly hide them from persecution. How the school are covering the story up and hiding the identity of the boys and parents. I am beginning to wonder, who is to blame for this whole situation. Is it THE PARENTS OR THE SCHOOL? Some people say Bad Parenting is the genesis of it all because if the parents are training their children well, small secondary school kids of ages 11 to 16 shouldn't know anything that has to do with CULTISM at that age. Some say Bad School training is the genesis. That the school is meant to train the students well and eradicate anything unlawfull in it. After all, the parents are paying huge sums of money for that. Some say none are to blame? After all, Train up a Child in the way he should go. To you, who is to blame in this case. Is it Bad Parenting or Bad School Training What are your thoughts?[/quote] |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by ComradeShegs(m): 1:31pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
So sad |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by primestreams: 1:34pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
School to be blamed The teachers especially After all the large money paid as school fees They are not close to the students 1 Like |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Dshocker(m): 1:36pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Bad parenting contributes 70% of a child's behaviour 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Spherical77(m): 1:36pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
brain54:I kid you not, those culprits will get away with it in this lawless country 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by blackmantis: 1:37pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Bad parenting! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by ArcSEMPECJ(m): 1:37pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Apart from parenting, a Secondary School should have basic standards especially if it has to do with boarding schools..... I will give the school the whole blame, every dormitory block MUST have a Master, who must not leave the premises of that block at any time. He stays as a watchman, parades both around and inside the dormitory within hours or minutes and answers to any call from the students , even a scream from a student should wake him up ..... Immediately after light out, all students MUST be sleeping .... There are strict rules in a boarding school but is obvious this school lacks or not up the standards. I can't push it to bad parenting because I have seen some parents that are tired of their kids, and are looking for good strict schools to rehabilitate their kids, and they do inform the school about the behavior of the kids before enrolling them.... |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by viralinfo: 1:39pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
In the case of Dowen I do blame the school..firstly is a boarding school, the student spend most of their time in school than to house, it easier to fish out bad eggs from school, the school is suppose to have being noticing the bad eggs character since education encompass both modelling of knowledge and character, if u see a cultist most especially young cultists is easy to know..beside is not a public that as lots of population... |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by zicoraads: 1:39pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Both. More than anything, the home is the first place a child receives training, so the children alleged to have killed him didn't have any from the home. If they did, they would not have done what they are being alleged to have done. For Sylvester, as the day goes by, I am starting to see more and more negligence on the part of his parents. They appear like the everyday absentee rich parents who send their kids to rich schools and hardly pay attention to them. Your child reported that he was being bullied, and you didn't take strong action until it got to the point of him being killed? The school also holds a large chunk of the blame because a school should be a safe zone. And I am not sure if the school has a strong anti bullying policy in place. And a school like that should also have CCTV cameras all over the compound. Both the parents and the school failed him. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by sheddyboy01(m): 1:41pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Both are to be blame |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Spherical77(m): 1:41pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Mrviktor:What are you saying biko? Kids of 2000s are today's parents You funny no be small 1 Like |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Burna440(m): 1:42pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Parents are to blame, if you have worked in a boarding school before you’ll know it’s not easy especially this rich private schools, I had to run from the one I was working in Lokoja recently 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Nosayer: 1:42pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Peebaby93: I don't need to write anything again... |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by Cantonese: 1:44pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
ModelLook: How can you define “a well trained child”? Or “a well brought up child”? Do you have a child or do you have children? See, it is one thing for parents to give their best providing all the needs of the children, ensuring also that they get quality education. Parents do the “talking to” the children, praying, guiding them and ensuring that they do not go with bad company. The next thing is for the child to follow the guiding of their parents, ensuring that they do not fall into those pitfalls. The moment the children leave their homes to school, they meet friends, teachers and other members of the society who may negatively impact them. Once they get influenced by these people, they are lost. Now the school or society want to lay the blame on the table of the parents for the failure. A “well brought up child” can get into cultism if their school fails in its duty of protecting the child while at school. It is no longer a secret that schools are breeding grounds for cultism and other societal vices. Schools are places where children are polluted easily. Why do parents pay millions in school fees or send their children abroad? It is to give them quality education and quality lives. The lot falls on the school that sets their fees very high to ensure certain measures for the security and ease of learning for the children are in place. |
Re: #DowenCollege: Bad Parenting Vs Bad School Training. Which Is To Blame? by rajiedreez: 1:45pm On Dec 05, 2021 |
Both |
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