odinson1:


No matter the level of confidence a person has,it still wouldn't stop bullies from Bullying him/her. The only way to Fight back an enemy is to actually fight back. You can't ignore that bully forever because the sadistic ones would even delight in the fact that you are dying in silence. So if a bully walks up to you and hits you in the face for no good reason,hit him harder and stand your ground. Do not allow yourself to be intimidated! This world is not for the Weak,only the strong can survive so stop teaching your children to be perfect in an imperfect world.

Who has seen squid game on Netflix here? Life is exactly like squid game. You either kill or be killed,it might sound harsh but that is the REALITY of life. Stop teaching your children to be polite or to treat "People" with respect. Tell them to give respect only to whom respect is due.

My 2 cents.

EdoFirstBorn:
Gave my 8 year old a switch blade and taught her how to aim for the arteries and stab pull downwards and outwards when removing the blade. I taught her all the vulnerable spots in an adult man's body, the armpit the lower inside thigh , the abdomen the neck, the diaphragm, the kidney, eye balls etc

My little princess is deadly and can protect herself. I told her how to breath deeply and take a hard punch . Tomoe Gozen in the making. Tomoe Gozen was an onna-musha, a female warrior in pre-modern Japan.

As a single father I gotta make sure she can protect herself to an extent

Romanoff:
Even in fighting back, your child can get killed.

Many of us here were bullies, it is a very bad behaviour and if has messed up the mental health of a lot of kids.

It has nothing to do with boarding schools cause even day school children get bullied.

It has to do with failed parenting.

I think parents should also be held accountable for the behaviours of their kids.

Kobojunkie:
I don't support this parent's approach to "fighting back" at all.

Build your child's self confidence instead. Teach him to understand that his value as an individual ought not to be obtained from how much he or his parents have. Make him understand that those bullying him are instead the defective beings since they seek to find meaning by inflicting hurt on others around them. Tell your children the truth - feed them wisdom- not get them to engage in meaningless battles.

Learning him to bully his bullies only makes him one of them.

habsydiamond:
Nothing pains a bully pass make u sound am hot blow for mouth as he is about to use that mouth to rubbish u... Next time he go rethink before he talk.

kponkedenge:


I like your spirit. Where are you based?

Oblongata:
The only effective fight against bullying is letting your child know you are always there for them and that you are their confidant and their messiah, that’s all! Always give them a listening ear, build their confidence and also make them know you will defend them no matter the situation.

Let them know their right from wrong!

westfield:
I dont see this one as bullying asking if you have washing machine or dish washer........all you have to tell your child is he should make sure it doesnt get into his head so he doesn't start stealing because of Inferiority complex

hartoyebi38:
Bullying is real and a lot of children are traumatised. One of my children came home complaining about how he was being bullied at school.

They kept on taunting him. Do you have washing machine at home? Do you have dish washer? Bla bla bla.

He was branded as inferior. I told him to fight back. We don’t have and there is no shame about it. We were then living in an environment where the light could go for two weeks without PHCN caring if there are human beings there.

So, where do we get light to run washing machine and other gadgets? More importantly, I am from Ekiti where we use ‘laulau’ and ‘kanrinkan’ to wash plates. In Ekiti, we are used to ‘olo ata’ (grinding stone) because grinding machine erodes the taste.

My grandma used ‘ogiri’ to replace maggi without apology. ‘Omi cocoa’ was our juice. The gift of my mother-in-law to my family when we got married was ‘odo’ to pounded yam on banana leàves with bush meat and vegetable to match, before the eateries hijacked it from us.

So, the secondary school mates should not goad my son into all these modern tools.

As God would have it one day, one of the bullies, a girl, came to buy frozen fish in a shop beside my house along Matogun NO ROAD, Oke-Aro (Politicians have been using the road as part of their campaign promises before democracy started in America).

Anyway, immediately the girl sighted my son, she asked “Is this your house?’ And he replied ‘Yes’. Then, she said sarcastically “Eh, so your house has no fence”. My son cried inside, that the following day, he would be ridiculed at school because his daddy’s house has no fence.

I told him, ‘There is need to cry. Where do you expect me, a journalist to get money to fence a house? When you get to the school tomorrow, call the other bullies and give the first jab, saying, “Come o, I saw this girl yesterday at their family ‘s Shoprite’. Stress it very well and once it hits the bully, she would keep quite.

Never tolerate bullies, young or old. Develop a fighting spirit. May the LORD give us all inner strength.

*Ayodele Ale is a journalist, lawyer and public affairs analyst

Source: https://thenewsnigeria.com.ng/2021/12/04/bullying-i-taught-my-son-to-fight-back/

gannod:


Your son is a confirm Ekiti boy.


wosere awe..iyan a yun lerun re. An average Ekiti boy can hardly be bullied. E si omo na ka jose. My son,who is in pry 5 recently had an altercation with his seniors in Secondary School. He stood up to them without bating an eyelid. I was just laughing when he was natrating it to me. I had to explain to him to accord them some respect but he said that does not include them chasing he and his friends off the football field.

Kobicove:
Most bullies started our by copying adults around them

ednut1:
Our culture of oppression starts from the home. They see how kids talk to maids and gate man . Disgusting lot

EdoFirstBorn:
Gave my 8 year old a switch blade and taught her how to aim for the arteries and stab pull downwards and outwards when removing the blade. I taught her all the vulnerable spots in an adult man's body, the armpit the lower inside thigh , the abdomen the neck, the diaphragm, the kidney, eye balls etc

My little princess is deadly and can protect herself. I told her how to breath deeply and take a hard punch .

As a single father I gotta make sure she can protect herself to an extent

Romanoff:
Even in fighting back, your child can get killed.

Many of us here were bullies, it is a very bad behaviour and if has messed up the mental health of a lot of kids.

It has nothing to do with boarding schools cause even day school children get bullied.

It has to do with failed parenting.

I think parents should also be held accountable for the behaviours of their kids.

GboyegaD:
Parents should live right as it makes it easy for the child to get the confidence to defend whatever the family economy is.

EdoFirstBorn:
Gave my 8 year old a switch blade and taught her how to aim for the arteries and stab pull downwards and outwards when removing the blade. I taught her all the vulnerable spots in an adult man's body, the armpit the lower inside thigh , the abdomen the neck, the diaphragm, the kidney, eye balls etc

My little princess is deadly and can protect herself. I told her how to breath deeply and take a hard punch .

As a single father I gotta make sure she can protect herself to an extent

Brandonx:
Parents should raise their kids to be smart and outspoken.

Even if they don’t have the strength to fight back, they should have wisdom and sharp mouth

When I see a potential bully I bully them before they come @ me and that’s how I’m raising my kids.

It’s better you bring problem to me than to be a victim.

A timid child can’t go far in life .

1Sharon:


Nah. Bullies will always exist in society. As long as people are perceived as weaker, they will get picked on. It's human nature to take advantage.

If someone is seen as vulnerable and timid, they will always be picked on. If it doesn't happen in school, it happens in the workplace.

Mariangeles:


If you were a parent to one of the kids who bullied and killed Sylvester, what would you do?
How would you handle the situation?

1Sharon:


Nah. Bullies will always exist in society. As long as people are perceived as weaker, they will get picked on. It's human nature to take advantage.

If someone is seen as vulnerable and timid, they will always be picked on. If it doesn't happen in school, it happens in the workplace.

BlackfireX:
Touch or bully my child..

I will tore you limb by limb in the night that when you wake up in the morning you see blood oozing out of your side...
Your parents by the time they look for solution...they will be told to caution you

coretechng1:
Fighting back is the most effective way to checkmate bullies.