Loveaflame:


 She has become aggressive threatening to break any female's head she sees talking with me after closing hours.What should I do?

You should be flattered.  . .  

@ OP, you should quit your job and sit home with her. You should enjoy the moment together, jobless, poor, and hungry.

tyler perry movie.

Poster u are a big liar b4 ur wife can come to ur office to that she must have seen and heard some things
Oga tell us the truth wetin u dey look for wey no dey ur wife body

Na wa o!!!! I guess I am no longer surprised at the type of marriages we have today and the rate at which they are failing judging from the comments so far (most of them anyway).

I don't see any reason for these "send her packing", "sleep w her close friend to teach her a lesson", use the opportunity to actually cheat on her" etc. type of advice. Jus cause someone does something wrong in a marriage does not mean the next thing to do is get a divorce. Ha ba!

Its not a case of infedilty although its about respect which is a BIG DEAL for men BUT that doesn not warrant a divorce at all. Let her know the gravity of her mistake. Correct her in LOVE. Let her understand the value of respect. Remember, two wrongs don't make a right and it doesn't pay to repay evil w evil. There is no need for divorce in this case. It might take some time to heal but it will happen. Unless u don't really care about ur marriage.

Sides, if she really doesn learn from this, she will prolly come apoloogize to your colleagues.

By the way, this is assuming that u r innocent o!!!

you are a wimp woman wrapper

Egba girl:

Na wa o!!!! I guess I am no longer surprised at the type of marriages we have today and the rate at which they are failing judging from the comments so far (most of them anyway).

I don't see any reason for these "send her packing", "sleep w her close friend to teach her a lesson", use the opportunity to actually cheat on her" etc. type of advice. Jus cause someone does something wrong in a marriage does not mean the next thing to do is get a divorce. Ha ba!

Its not a case of infedilty although its about respect which is a BIG DEAL for men BUT that doesn not warrant a divorce at all. Let her know the gravity of her mistake. Correct her in LOVE. Let her understand the value of respect. Remember, two wrongs don't make a right and it doesn't pay to repay evil w evil. There is no need for divorce in this case. It might take some time to heal but it will happen. Unless u don't really care about your marriage.

Sides, if she really doesn learn from this, she will prolly come apoloogize to your colleagues.

Egba girl, i tire ooooo, it shows the type of mentality that 'Niger men ' have

Send her to her Papas house for 6months to learn some mannners

So assuming you were fired from the job because of your wifes behaviour what would she be saying?

"Its the devils work etc" and when you dont have a job she would be the first to complain?

Whatever grievance she has cant she wait till you get home?

I understand her.

Who doesnt know how promiscuous Nigerian men are? kai!!

tpia@:

tyler perry movie.

Loved his "Why did I get married?" movie 

abi o. give dem a mile and they go the whole nine yard like God only gave them 3rd legs so stinky womanizers.
OP, she is trying to tame the hawks be happy

Ebony, how now and how summer going, ku ise ooo.

ronkebp:

Poster, am sorry to say, but you are obviously cheating on your wife, it might not be with the said lady that got the 'hit' from your wife, but she (wife) knows you are definitely having an affair.

When the wife of the man is not even sure that he's cheating on her you're the one that's so sure, How do you know? How is it obvious?

ronkebp:

Same goes to the woman, why should she be quiet and suck it in, because she is a woman? her husband can cheat on her and walk?, if a man can have sex on his desk in his office without shame, why should he feel embarrassed if the wife embarrasses him in the same office?

Yes i see why you can jump to such erroneous conclusion that he's cheating, Because he's a man. Your argument reeks of feminism.

Egba girl:

Its not a case of infedilty although its about respect which is a BIG DEAL for men BUT that doesn not warrant a divorce at all. Let her know the gravity of her mistake. Correct her in LOVE. Let her understand the value of respect. Remember, two wrongs don't make a right and it doesn't pay to repay evil w evil. There is no need for divorce in this case. It might take some time to heal but it will happen. Unless u don't really care about your marriage.

Now here's a lady with sense.

Anytime the man sees the wife talking to any man or even walking within 10meters of any man he should also disgrace and embarass her in public abi?

WackyJ1:

When the wife of the man is not even sure that he's cheating on her you're the one that's so sure, How do you know? How is it obvious? Yes i see why you can jump to such erroneous conclusion that he's cheating, Because he's a man. Your argument reeks of feminism.Now here's a lady with sense.

I don't have to be so sure, the wife knows that the hubby is cheating on her, that is why she had that effontery to go to his office and embarrass him, she wouldn't if she did not hear anything  or see something.

WackyJ1:

When the wife of the man is not even sure that he's cheating on her you're the one that's so sure, How do you know? How is it obvious? Yes i see why you can jump to such erroneous conclusion that he's cheating, Because he's a man. Your argument reeks of feminism.
Just so you know, am a feminist to the core, which one dey pain you pass? say i support the wife or the tone of my message 'reeks feminism.?

WackyJ1:

When the wife of the man is not even sure that he's cheating on her you're the one that's so sure, How do you know? How is it obvious? Yes i see why you can jump to such erroneous conclusion that he's cheating, Because he's a man. Your argument reeks of feminism.Now here's a lady with sense.

just so you know, am a feminist to the core, which one pain you pass, say i support the wife or the tone of my message 'reeks of feminism'?

ronkebp:

just so you know, am a feminist to the core, which one pain you pass, say i support the wife or the tone of my message 'reeks of feminism'?

Oh i'm Sorry i didn't know you were a feminist, i thought that you were a normal woman with a feministic point of view.
The problem with you feminists is that you claim to want equality for woman but in this case you refuse to look at it with from a neutral angle or the two possibilities. You have immediately jumped to the conclusion that the man is cheating and the woman is justified. You refuse to consider the possibility that the man isn't cheating and that the woman just fooled herself and didn't act wisely.

kpolli:

tell female co-workers to start wearing crash helmets after work b4 talking to u

WackyJ1:

Oh i'm Sorry i didn't know you were a feminist, i thought that you were a normal woman with a feministic point of view.
The problem with you feminists is that you claim to want equality for woman but in this case you refuse to look at it with from a neutral angle or the two possibilities. You have immediately jumped to the conclusion that the man is cheating and the woman is justified. You refuse to consider the possibility that the man isn't cheating and that the woman just fooled herself and didn't act wisely.

So with all these your write-up, what will you define yourself to be?, a chauvinist that hates the guts of a woman? you keep saying, 'jump into conclusion', you must be a brother to the husband, since you know the whole truth abouth the incident.

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chaircover:

There is a time and place for everything and any woman/man who decides to embarass his/her partner at work; a job that brings home money to put on the table needs their head examined.

Some people are good at cutting off their noses to spite their face.

Even if the guy was having an affiar, will her coming to embarass him at work stop this or future affairs? She is a big fool who deserves to loose the man to those eja osan and efo omo eko babes.

It is only women who have lost control of their homes that fight in the street.

As much as i dont like agreeing with you, You left me with no choice here

So can we have a truce and you give me the babes phone number

ronkebp:

So with all these your write-up,  what will you define yourself to be?, a chauvinist that hates the guts of a woman? you keep saying, 'jump into conclusion', you must be a brother to the husband, since you know the whole truth abouth the incident.

ronkebp:

So with all these your write-up,  what will you define yourself to be?, a chauvinist that hates the guts of a woman? you keep saying, 'jump into conclusion', you must be a brother to the husband, since you know the whole truth abouth the incident.

The fact that i didn't agree with you doesn't make me a chauvinist. Didn't you read the Part where i said you refuse to consider this case from a "neutral point of view"? Or consider the "two possibilities"? I also never said that i knew the whole truth about the situation that's why i never concluded that the man was cheating like you did.

She is kinda insecure.
Poor you.
Even if you were caught on top of my matrimonial bed with another woman. . .I would not even blink.

For this sweeeeeeeeeet life?   Mba nuuuuuuuuuuuu!!!!

My husband has threatened a few of my male 'admirers' over the phone too.

No telling what he would do if he actually caught me in 'the act'!

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Well? What other advice do you nee?. To be fore-warned is to be fore-armed!

Next time marry a woman like me who will give you the utmost freedom to chop and clean both mouth and nyansh. . . plus fringe benefits.


Mu he he he he he he

I would do no such thing. Some women get time sha! Kai!

WackyJ1:

The fact that i didn't agree with you doesn't make me a chauvinist. Didn't you read the Part where i said you refuse to consider this case from a "neutral point of view"? Or consider the "two possibilities"? I also never said that i knew the whole truth about the situation that's why i never concluded that the man was cheating like you did.

Na you sabi Wacky J1, i don tire to the reply to your post abeg, no be my hubby, my point of view from what i read from the poster was as if he was saying he never cheated on his wife ( which was embedded) and out of the blues, the wife came to his office and embarrassed him, which i still don't agree with. I am not saying what the wife did was right, all i meant was that the man was cheating one way or the other, and that is not jumping into conlusion.

Blazay:

She is kinda insecure.
Poor you.
Even if you were caught on top of my matrimonial bed with another woman. . .I would not even blink.

For this sweeeeeeeeeet life?  Mba nuuuuuuuuuuuu!!!!

My husband has threatened a few of my male 'admirers' over the phone too.

No telling what he would do if he actually caught me in 'the act'!

Well? What other advice do you nee?. To be fore-warned is to be fore-armed!

Next time marry a woman like me who will give you the utmost freedom to chop and clean both mouth and nyansh. . . plus fringe benefits.

Mu he he he he he he

I would do no such thing. Some women get time sha! Kai!

How far, Another weekend comes Should we go to the parade together in Downtown?

So we can branch my house on our way back so I can phock that poohsieee

MU   HE  HEE HEEEE

sorry, poster.

probably someone showed your wife your nl threads such as these:


https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=515298.msg6772083#msg6772083


https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=504821.msg6655473#msg6655473


https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=519102.msg6810530#msg6810530

Thanks for all your good and bad advises.I appreciate all.I just wanted to share the story for the benefit of those who might have similar problems.

Yes, I am expert in love relationship does not exempt me from the trials of marital challenges.You must be tested for what you believe to prove that you are real otherwise you become a fake.

I have learn t a great lesson about patience and living at peace with myself not minding the external turmoil.I don't believe any woman is a devil it depends on understanding and spiritual enlightenment.

The devil is the real destroyer of homes and we should be aware of that.It takes a little bit of spiritual power,grace and God's mercy to have a relative peace in the home.

I challenge those of you who leave your wives for concubine due to conflict to have a rethink and go into deep consecration and prayers to repair the broken alters of marriage and stop acting like cowards who fear real issues and hide in darkness wishing it's only a dream.

All you men on this forum should look at life from a godly point of value and stop acting like saints.You need to change your mindset and believe the best about females.No one is without a weakness.We should all work on our weaknesses and encourage the other party to do the same.

I believe in the sanctity of the marriage institution.I hold it in High Honour. I challenge all to do the same for the sake of POSTERITY.

Women! Women!! Women!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Loveaflame:

 
Yes, I am expert in love relationship.

are you sure about that.

Loveaflame:

Thanks for all your good and bad advises.I appreciate all.I just wanted to share the story for the benefit of those who might have similar problems.

Yes, I am expert in love relationship does not exempt me from the trials of marital challenges.You must be tested for what you believe to prove that you are real otherwise you become a fake.

I have learn t a great lesson about patience and living at peace with myself not minding the external turmoil.I don't believe any woman is a devil it depends on understanding and spiritual enlightenment.

The devil is the real destroyer of homes and we should be aware of that.It takes a little bit of spiritual power,grace and God's mercy to have a relative peace in the home.

I challenge those of you who leave your wives for concubine due to conflict to have a rethink and go into deep consecration and prayers to repair the broken alters of marriage and stop acting like cowards who fear real issues and hide in darkness wishing it's only a dream.

All you men on this forum should look at life from a godly point of value and stop acting like saints.You need to change your mindset and believe the best about females.No one is without a weakness.We should all work on our weaknesses and encourage the other party to do the same.

I believe in the sanctity of the marriage institution.I hold it in High Honour. I challenge all to do the same for the sake of POSTERITY.

glad to see you changed your tune after remembering those previous threads i posted.

good luck.

This is the height of it. You must have been going thru hell in the house. Right thing to do is take a break from marriage and let her feel what it is to lose a husband. She will change, if she doesnt, call off the marriage.