IjapaTiroko:
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I honestly believe your instincts are right about your wife being intentionally wicked. She is most likely aware that much salt will kill your mom a d she went ahead with it. I'm pretty sure that she wouldn't do that to her mom.

Whatever decision you make , be rest assured she can do the same to you if the need arises.

People commenting that you should forgive will most likely NOT forgive if they are in your shoes.

Also, don't try to ask her why or look for closure, cuz that's a window for manipulation which you will regret later because you'll be in more deep shit which will lead to your holding bigger grudges.

Save your mom, and save yourself

I never knew that we still hv some.men with balls here not all these useless boys in men skin.
As u rightly said, op sjould be ready for the same treatement from the wicked wife, if not now maybe in future.
Thats the kind of wicked wife u will hv during your truing time, they will abandon u to your fate. Personally, i cant forgive such a woman not to talk of welcoming her back to my home. Any woman that think of evil against your family not to talk of mum can as well kill d husband if opportunity present itself

emmanuelbrown26:

Why are u so wicked like this? How could u advice op to leave her in d hands of God, which God if I may ask?

THE GOD OF ABRAHAM, ISAAC, & JACOB, JEHOVAH THE MAN OF WAR, HIS MERCY ENDURETH FOREVER, O PRAISE HIS HOLY NAME.

Landmack:
And errhmmm...Seun pls viewer's discretion when putting up adverts like this. I cant have this snake staring at me on every thread i open.

Attempted murder!
Her action was deliberate and she had hoped the old woman would give up at the hospital before the arrival of her son. Most ladies of today wish their mother in-laws dead while dotting their own mother.
Op if you have the means make arrangements for caring for your mother. Murders don't stop until they succeed.

Yinkakolawole:
THE GOD OF ABRAHAM, ISAAC, & JACOB, JEHOVAH THE MAN OF WAR, HIS MERCY ENDURETH FOREVER, O PRAISE HIS HOLY NAME.

U are just calling names written by lugard and co

emmanuelbrown26:

U are just calling names written by lugard and co

may the lord av mercy on you.

Treepower2000:

Attempted murder!
Her action was deliberate and she had hoped the old woman would give up at the hospital before the arrival of her son. Most ladies of today wish their mother in-laws dead while dotting their own mother.
Op if you have the means make arrangements for caring for your mother. Murders don't stop until they succeed.

D wife is a witch, as simple as that and I can't advice anybody to stay close to a witch. Op failure to take necessary action now, would amount to something in future. If your witch wife could think of killing mama, chaiiiiii, bros for your old age, she go finish u kpatakpa. I so much love my mother and nobody born of a woman dare try that rubbish with my mum, is either u are sent parking or u rot in jail for an attempted murder

Yinkakolawole:
may the lord av mercy on you.

Tell me who wrote the scripture and how did religion came to exist in Nigeria?
I need an answer not Lord having mercy on your soul

From reading the story, your wife did not poison your mother. No genuine doctor can say what was said in your story, unless they want to cause confusion in your home. Your mother's sodium increase can be caused by many things. It also sounds like your mother suffers from long term congestive heart failure. I suspect she even got Covid on top of all of this.

Nigeria is a cess pool of liars and horrible people. I just pray the woman does not suffer for what she has not done.

NaBanga:
From reading the story, your wife did not poison your mother. No genuine doctor can say what was said in your story, unless they want to cause confusion in your home. Your mother's sodium increase can be caused by many things. It also sounds like your mother suffers from long term congestive heart failure. I suspect she even got Covid on top of all of this.

Nigeria is a cess pool of liars and horrible people. I just pray the woman does not suffer for what she has not done.

The doctor only confirmed that it was more than one meal with salt that she had eaten. The wife lied by saying she only gave her salty food once. You making all this shi up is confusing. The wife is an evil, neglectful, ungrateful human being and I wouldn't wish her on my worse enemy.

Double0h7:


The doctor only confirmed that it was more than one meal with salt that she had eaten. The wife lied by saying she only gave her salty food once. You making all this shi up is confusing. The wife is an evil, neglectful, ungrateful human being and I wouldn't wish her on my worse enemy.

No doctor can confirm that without seeing it with his own eyes. I know what I am saying. This is a lie. Nigerians are ignorant and the quack doctor knows this.

Yinkakolawole:
THE GOD OF ABRAHAM, ISAAC, & JACOB, JEHOVAH THE MAN OF WAR, HIS MERCY ENDURETH FOREVER, O PRAISE HIS HOLY NAME.

Lmao!

NaBanga:


No doctor can confirm that without seeing it with his own eyes. I know what I am saying. This is a lie. Nigerians are ignorant and the quack doctor knows this.

So a woman who's managed by the house help who's not even a specialist should develop complications in less than a week Of her absence and you didn't see any deliberate action to have her eliminated.

NaBanga:


No doctor can confirm that without seeing it with his own eyes. I know what I am saying. This is a lie. Nigerians are ignorant and the quack doctor knows this.

No doctor can confirm the impact of a substance in connection to the symptoms? If I'm diabetic and I take one bite of a cake and if I eat the whole cake are you telling me my symptoms will be the same? If I tell the doctor I only had a small bite, and the doctor says no, your reaction is not consistent with a small bite you probably ate a lot more and that's why you are in this condition, he would be wrong?

You're bringing confusion and not a solution.

emmanuelbrown26:

Tell me who wrote the scripture and how did religion came to exist in Nigeria?
I need an answer not Lord having mercy on your soul

lord GOD Almighty, the GOD of the children of israel, the creator of the universe, i want the eyes of this your servant be open tonight. in JESUS MIGHTY NAME I PRAYED, AMEN.

Double0h7:


No doctor can confirm the impact of a substance in connection to the symptoms? If I'm diabetic and I take one bite of a cake and if I eat the whole cake are you telling me my symptoms will be the same? If I tell the doctor I only had a small bite, and the doctor says no, your reaction is not consistent with a small bite you probably ate a lot more and that's why you are in this condition, he would be wrong?

You're bringing confusion and not a solution.

There is NO doctor that can confirm his wife fed the mother more than one plate of food, let alone the salt content in the said food without having been there or having the food analyzed in a lab. Nigerians are ignorant, but that is no excuse. Most Nigerians wants to continue to blame others, including fake deities for all manner of problems. I cannot continue to argue with fools. I just pray the woman is not persecuted due to ignorance. The strong shall always prey on the weak.

Yinkakolawole:
lord GOD Almighty, the GOD of the children of israel, the creator of the universe, i want the eyes of this your servant be open tonight. in JESUS MIGHTY NAME I PRAYED, AMEN.

Please don't derail the thread with this conversation. You can go to the religious section and have this debate.

emmanuelbrown26:

Tell me who wrote the scripture and how did religion came to exist in Nigeria?
I need an answer not Lord having mercy on your soul

Nah new year we dae oooo

E go be

Theonlysonofher:
While others are celebrating the new year today I am here sobbing because my marriage is at the verge of breaking .
I loved my wife with all my heart but I don't think I will ever forgive her for what she have done to my mother.
I am the only child of my mother I have three sisters on my father's side.
I am married with two beautiful daughters. my mother suffered from diabetes , bp and high cholesterol she is on a special diets strictly no salt or too much sugar
She came to stay with me because the person who was taking care of her wasn't doing her job properly so I had to bring her to my house so I will be monitoring her health.
I have a house help who prepare all her meals with less salt and she also make sure she takes her medicines on time without fail.
Everything was  fine my mother is not a troublesome person she gets on well with my wife and most of the time she is in her room resting.
On the 20th of December my house help had traveled to the village to see her people and she will he back in January 4th so my wife and I have to take care of my mother making sure that she her foods is less salty and medicines on time.
Since I am always working so my wife had to take most of the responsibility it is only for a week and fews days until the house help is back.
She had agreed to take care of my mother during this periods of time and I tought everything was fine but I noticed my mother become distant and tired unlike her and I had no idea that she was actually dying and I have never suspected that my wife was maltreating her.
So Thursday being 30th December I was at work when my wife called  and asked me to join her at the hospital because mama had a seizure.
I rushed to the hospital and my mother was in a coma state and I asked her what happened to mama , she said mama woke up that morning complaining about shortage of breath and she told her to go back to bed and rest hoping she will be fine by the time she will wake up.
Only for mama to fall off the ground and started shaking with foam coming out of her mouth.
I was in panicked I couldn't stop praying for my mother to get better and I didn't leave the hospital, my wife went home to take care of the children because she has left them with the neighbour and I had spend all night prayer vigil at my mother bedside and glory be to God my mother woke up yesterday being 31st but the doctor report was not a good news for me.
Actually my mother was poison with salt and guess who did it . My beloved wife couldn't bothered to cook a different meal for my mother  she used to feed her the same meal we ate knowing full well that mama cannot eat the same foods as us because we are salt lover especially my wife she love eating too much salt which I have warned her over and over again because it is also not good for her health.
I confronted her she said she only fed mama the same meals we ate twice only but according to the doctor it was more than two times.
I am hurt that my wife doesnt loved my mother or treat her like her own mother because if she truly loved her like her own mother she would have put her diet on consideration and not allow her to eat the same meal as us. I love her mother and u treat her like my own mother.
It pain me a lot  when I remember five years ago when her mother was in coma state and she was staying with her at the hospital , she is her only daughter amongst three boys.
I used to visit them everyday after work I will bring foods and I have even washed her mother clothes with my own hands I have done with love because she is my mother. I called my mother in law this morning and I have informed her about what her daughter has done to my mother and she couldn't stop apologising and she is very disappointed with my wife.
But see how she has repay me by hurting my own mother.
She has apologised to me and to my mother , I have forgave her but I don't think I can stay with her again because one day if I become sick or bedridden she might treat me the same way.
Honestly speaking I am not even at home with her and the kids I am at my cousin brother house since yesterday I left the hospital and my mother is still in the hospital because she need more treatment and hopefully she will recover by next week.
I don't feel like going home today and I don't know when I'll go home but I will always be there for my girls because they are the best thing that ever happened to me.
what other advice would you give me on this situation what are your thoughts Thank you for reading all I love this community.

I don't think your wife your wife will do this if she knew it will cause your mum to land at the hospital, she will be going through a lot of emotional torture and she must be remorseful at the moment, please try to forgive her and purge yourself of this hatred that is creeping into you. I pray mama gets back on her feet soonest.

NaBanga:


There is NO doctor that can confirm his wife fed the mother more than one plate of food, let alone the salt content in the said food without having been there or having the food analyzed in a lab. Nigerians are ignorant, but that is no excuse. Most Nigerians wants to continue to blame others, including fake deities for all manner of problems. I cannot continue to argue with fools. I just pray the woman is not persecuted due to ignorance. The strong shall always prey on the weak.

Your issues with Nigerians are your issues but it seems clear that the wife was responsible for the dramatic downward turn of the old woman's health.

I pray that the vulnerable old woman is never put in the care of that wife. And I actually hope op would reconsider his relationship with this woman because a neglectful person is a dangerous person.

Treepower2000:

So a woman who's managed by the house help who's not even a specialist should develop complications in less than a week Of her absence and you didn't see any deliberate action to have her eliminated.

So because I come home from the Diaspora and my mom falls sick when I come home, it can be blamed on me that I am the cause of her sickness? In Nigeria that is what will be said, not minding her old age, the change in weather, the circulating Covid and possible increase in consumption of unhealthy foods. Yes my people, it is me that killed my mom because that is what Nigerians will believe. The best thing anyone can do is to send their children out of Nigeria so they are not corrupted by a corrupt and evil society of fools.

Should we call this ignorance? This very painful and very disappointing. Trust lost, love fade away, but we still have to trade with caution. I pray you find knowledge to get through this. Wishing your mom speedy recovery.

calmness0:
Op, This is a very serious matter.

I honestly don't think your wife deliberately intended to poison your mother.

I believe it was just laziness on her part to Cook separate meals.

Can the wife do such to her own mother?

NaBanga:


So because I come home from the Diaspora and my mom falls sick when I come home, it can be blamed on me that I am the cause of her sickness? In Nigeria that is what will be said, not minding her old age, the change in weather, the circulating Covid and possible increase in consumption of unhealthy foods. Yes my people, it is me that killed my mom because that is what Nigerians will believe. The best thing anyone can do is to send their children out of Nigeria so they are not corrupted by a corrupt and evil society of fools.

How is this the same thing?

If you were cooking for someone with strict dietary restrictions, and you neglected their requirements, and the person gets sick or dies then you are responsible. You could be charged and could face prison time.

This is a serious allegation and op's wife is very lucky that she is in Nigeria where people will forgive her and beg her husband to forgive her and it could all be prayed away.

I'm not sure what your wife did was deliberate.

It's really not easy taking care of people with special diet, I have been there (no carb, salt and Maggi) and know how it is. Mine stuck with me cause the doctor repeats the warning, every morning and evening when he comes for vitals check.

By the time this same person I catered for was in someone else's care, I had to sing it to her and it was always strange to her to the extent that we do argue. Even with that, she's yet to come to terms with it and will add little salt to his food sometimes.

As for giving her the food more than twice like the doctor said, remember you said your wife is a salt lover. She probably served her just twice but cause of how sparingly she uses salt, the doctor feels it was way more than just twice.

Forgive her and for the remaining days, she'll cater for her, follow up and remind her of your mum's dietary needs.

This is bad she intentional want to kill your mother becareful with her.

Your wife just want to kill your mother. If its my mom, she's in deep shi.t cause my mum originally dont simp.
If you like, forgive her and trust her with your mom and if anything happen to mama, incase you don't need the marriage anymore, please sue your wife for homicide. Your wife want to be free in your house by wanting to kill your mother.

daintyprincess:
I'm not sure what your wife did was deliberate.

It's really not easy taking care of people with special diet, I have been there (no carb, salt and Maggi) and know how it is. Mine stuck with me cause the doctor repeats the warning, every morning and evening when he comes for vitals check.

By the time this same person I catered for was in someone else's care, I had to sing it to her and it was always strange to her to the extent that we do argue. Even with that, she's yet to come to terms with it and will add little salt to his food sometimes.

As for giving her the food more than twice like the doctor said, remember you said your wife is a salt lover. She probably served her just twice but cause of how sparingly she uses salt, the doctor feels it was way more than just twice.

Forgive her and for the remaining days, she'll cater for her, follow up and remind her of your mum's dietary needs.

This same wife has been in the same house with the old woman. This woman is well aware thag Mama us on strict diet plan. Mama was being taken care of by a maid and no issues. This same woman has admitted to adding salt to the meal. I see all as deliberate. If i was in his position, Forgiveness would be a Sin. I don't joke with my mother.

Double0h7:


The doctor only confirmed that it was more than one meal with salt that she had eaten. The wife lied by saying she only gave her salty food once. You making all this shi up is confusing. The wife is an evil, neglectful, ungrateful human being and I wouldn't wish her on my worse enemy.

May u be blessed in your old age jare, don't mind all these stupid boys in men skin. Even if it's once that she gave mama salty food, that's pure wickedness, when she vividly knew that on no account should mama eat any salty food.
Sometimes I keep wondering d kind of boys in men skin we have this day, is either some father's did not train them well or they were trained very well but bcs of their stupidity they deviated from the training.
If a woman try that nonsense with my mum or dad,same day she go park her load and leave me in peace

NaBanga:


No doctor can confirm that without seeing it with his own eyes. I know what I am saying. This is a lie. Nigerians are ignorant and the quack doctor knows this.

The bolded I totally agree with u base on say I do engage with some medical personnel due to my hustle as a physiotherapist.
But the fact still remains that the wife is witch and wicked. Let's forget about what d doctor said, she vividly knew that on no account should mama be allowed to eat salty food yet she went and gave mama what mama was not suppose to eat, that was an attempted murder.
and op is afraid that if the wife could be so wicked towards his mom, what guarantee does op hv in his old age with the so called wicked wife.
Oga better shine your eyes ohhhhhh, I get plenty to talk about but mak I leave am like this

Epeegee:



Can the wife do such to her own mother?

ASK THEM OHHHHHHH. I AM JUST IMAGINING WHAT I WOUPD HV DONE IF I WAS IN OP SHOES, KAIIIIII HEAVEN GO FALLL

Omakraid:
Please forgive your wife and let go. I'm sure that's what Mama herself will want. When mama is well, please supervise all she eats personally, she will not die in Jesus name.

I don't understand "supervise all she eats" we are talking about a working man here for crying out loud.
Op, Please give her another chance. Time they say heal all wounds.

Microwhy:
Your wife just want to kill your mother. If its my mom, she's in deep shi.t cause my mum originally dont simp.
If you like, forgive her and trust her with your mom and if anything happen to mama, incase you don't need the marriage anymore, please sue your wife for homicide. Your wife want to be free in your house by wanting to kill your mother.

That was a deliberate act biko. U can't tell otherwise, she was told not to give mama salty food and she went ahead to give her, just one week the maid traveled ohhhhhhh. So if mama had stayed under her like 2 months, mama for go blind or develop more complicated health issues