safarigirl:



She is not a therapist, it is not her work to help someone who is addicted. It is the addicted person that will decide to seek help, if not, frustration will kill her inside that house.


If it was the wife sleeping around with men outside the home, would you be advising her husband to help her overcome her addiction? Do you have any idea what addiction does to the loved ones of these addicts? Do you know how easily their lives can be ruined because they want to help someone who is sick?

She has a child she should be looking out for. What about the child? What happens when she suggests he get help and this religious man would rather not spread his dirty linen outside? You think religious people who commit adultery want to tell strangers of their adulterous ways?


Some of you are actually very wicked people and your words reveal you to be such. You give people advice that you cannot take or would not give your loved ones.

This is a sick man and it is not his wife that will cure him, he needs to want to cure himself first.

MNDY:


I liked your previous reply to someone above, not this one. Truly, call girls utterly disgust some single guys like me. I am decent enough to find weird the idea of asking a woman 'how much' for sex. But there is nothing wrong about the op in this situation cultivating the ashewo vibes first for a try. We can then later understand if her man wants variety rather than ashewo vibes. Many men work out and work on their looks for their woman too Ma.

Ibrahimcoomasie:
Check below and stop disturbing Nairaland with stories you cooked up.

Canada has rules and you already know what to do:

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

ChiomaCa:
I'm honest with my story. And I have never for once deny him of sexual intimacy. Infact, most time I make move, almost all the time. I swear to God Almighty. I'm feeling as if I'm ugly and not good looking enough

greenie77:


If she leaves him, she still has a right to stay back in Canada and rebuild her life independently as a single mother and the man will mandatorily pay for their daughter's support....the man has more to lose as his reputation before all those who know him as a religious person would go south, he has to financially support a daughter he no longer lives under the same roof with but given just visitation rights and that would not make him a happy man

He is addicted to prostitutes and need the professional help of a sex addiction therapist.

ChiomaCa:
Hello everyone, I'm in need of an advice, I got married to a man 5yrs+ ago. He relocated some months after marriage to Canada, I went to meet him 2 years after. And we had a baby 10months after my arrival. Immediately I arrived his place, I noticed he flirt alot onlline, Sex chats, Video sex chats, Visit porn sites, visit Prostitue Sites, and the rest. I caught him red-handed twice and he begged and pleaded not to do such again. I forgive him and I believe maybe because of the distance we had in two years.

We move on and I promise myself not to even go near his Laptop or mobile phone anymore.

I adhered to that for more than a year, which I'm still doing that till December 23 of 2021.

My daughter threw his I-watch inside water. Then I picked it up to drain for some minutes, after I drianed, I realised a message popped up , which Read " Do you enjoy me yesterday Do I book you for tomorrow again"

I was forced to check what's this. I saw hell. In short, he visited two different Prostitues in a hotel to book 30 minutes session with them for $160 and $220, I also saw other messages asking for Anal sex from these Escorts. I realised, he visited them 3rd, 1st 22nd of December. During these period, I was the one begging him for sex. He said he's not interested that he's Fixed with many activities and Shifts at work.

I was in the house hopping my husband as gone to work, not knowing he's doing something else within his short break and free time.

Immediately I saw this, I was devastated,I was mad at my self. We are very religious. Why all these for God sake, this is the 3rd time, what have I done to myself, have made a wrong choice?

I called his brother back in Nigeria and I inform and sent all what I saw to him, he called and talked to him, the next day, my husband came to me, apologize and promised not to do that again. I accept and forgive him.

Few days ago, I have been having this kind of feeling, I feel like I'm not beutiful because why will my husband prefer a Prostitue than me.

I hate myself, I think about it every minutes, whenever I see him, my mind keep breathing fast. I'm sad and I'm not happy, I don't know what to do.

I can't discuss with my parents, because they see my husband as the most religious person.

He doesn't talk much, keep friends nor drink.

I need advice dear mummy and daddy please is this a red light?

MPESA:


First and foremost is not my wife and I'm not the one that needs HELP here.

Secondly na people like you will advise others couple to leave at slightest opportunity but if the such happens to you , you will cover it up .

VEXT:
Go online and ask what attract men to prostitutes,then act like one to your man..Be his prostitute..


You also have what those prostitutes have...

Richy4:


By bringing this were u implying that there are no prostitutes in Canada?.. or u think that they do stand on Road sides the way they do in Nigeria?... Hmmmmm!!!

ChiomaCa:


I'm not a Prostitue. I said above that we are both religious. Even he's more than I do.

Siberry:


You are stupid. Very stupid.

Enugurangers:

Hmmm

They do not stand on the road side like Nigeria or some other 3rd world countries.

They hide on classified website to sell sex just as the woman mentioned.

JONNYSPUTE:
... Put her in your shoes and answer it. Hypocrisy is bad.

If I'm in such,I will divorce my wife without even thinking twice.

Richy4:


Yea I know that.. they are well organised and they even pay taxes.. That guy think it was the type he sees in Nigeria... That was why I was trying to make him know that what he brought there was irrelevant..

Vyolet:
You forgive him easily and cover up his dirty acts all in the name of religion, reason he sees you as a walk over. He may be religious but he doesn’t have the fear of God, reason i don’t care about anyone claiming spiricoco, i only care about what your heart looks like.

Personally, i may never have sex with such person again as my health is more important to me, i will lock him out or move out for my own sanity, then i will file for divorce after i have gathered all evidence, it is better everyone part way.
If you are not financially independent, allow your people know back home, let them rally round and bring you home, everything will seem rough in the beginning but you will be fine in the end with your child.

Do not think you can change the man or his ways, until he gets into trouble, thats how he will continue living his own life.
Take responsibility for your own life.

ChiomaCa:


I'm not a Prostitue. I said above that we are both religious. Even he's more than I do.

MPESA:


Easier said than done.

Bye .

Siberry:


Go to Canadian govt for help. Leave that house before this man infects you with HIV, Herpes and cervical cancer cacausing virus.
He will never change.

pseudonomer:


I have seen people who got out of their addictions with help from family and friends.

If your son, let say got addicted to gambling, clubbing or alcohol, you’ll rather leave him to rot and commit suicide one day than to help me because he’s causing so much hurt to you.


I don’t even understand what love is to you people? Is it all the good side and all that.

Anyway, you are always right your way.

westlius:
Most times the women causes it with denying the man sex, am saying this from experience, women tends to make shakara with dere body when d man needs sex from them, but when they know the man gets d sex elsewhere, they will be loyal