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Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by oldienavie: 12:17am On Jan 19
So I am 36 years and looking to settle down.
I have a lady friend who I have know for a while and is a really decent lady.
She is the type of person I would like to marry (I like conservative ladies and she is the conservative type no makeup which is what I want).
She is 32 years old.

A part of me feels it is better to wait for a while and try and get a younger "god fearing" lady.

To the men, what would you advise ?

I am kinda traditional and feel like a man should avoid marrying a lady in her 30s and also have a gap of atleast 7 years with the wife but I think I love her, I have been thinking about her lately.

Edited: A lot of people asking why I am not married at 36 years old, I was studying abroad, I just got back to naija to try and marry.

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:31am On Jan 19
Follow your instincts.

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by Double0h7: 12:37am On Jan 19
I swear age is just a number. Look at the kinda question a 36 year old man is asking undecided

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by oldienavie: 12:54am On Jan 19
Double0h7:
I swear age is just a number. Look at the kinda question a 36 year old man is asking undecided
What is wrong with my question ?

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by faithfull18(f): 1:08am On Jan 19
Kai, what will one not read on the internet. @OP, what's wrong with a 32year old who is conservative and decent I am sure you are one of the they slept around in their 20s kind of people.

Meanwhile, a lot of factors could have kept a lady from getting married in their 20s just like the men.

Well, life is about choices like I say. It's your choice at the end of the day.

P.s. I don't know what I am doing on NL at this time of the day, to come read this.

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by Raalsalghul: 1:17am On Jan 19
oldienavie:
So I am 36 years and looking to settle down.
I have a lady friend who I have know for a while and is a really decent lady.
She is the type of person I would like to marry (I like conservative ladies and she is the conservative type no makeup which is what I want).
She is 32 years old.

A part of me feels it is better to wait for a while and try and get a younger "god fearing" lady.

To the men, what would you advise ?

I am kinda traditional and feel like a man should avoid marrying a lady in her 30s and also have a gap of atleast 7 years with the wife but I think I love her, I have been thinking about her lately.


Go for a younger chick since you're traditional and it's what you desire.

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by Raalsalghul: 1:18am On Jan 19
faithfull18:
Kai, what will one not read on the internet. @OP,what's wrong with a 32year old who is conservative and decent I am sure you are one of the they slept around in their 20s kind of people.

Meanwhile, a lot of factors could have kept a lady from getting married in their 20s just like the men.

Well, life is about choices like I say. It's your choice at the end of the day.

P.s. I don't know what I am doing on NL at this time of the day, to come read this.

He can get a younger chick who's conservative and decent too. Stop throwing that line around as if it's only A-30 ladies that fit into that category. undecided

Also, the factors that kept his friend unmarried in her twenties is non of Op's business. He should go for what he wants!

grin

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by Haakeem(m): 1:27am On Jan 19
Double0h7:
I swear age is just a number. Look at the kinda question a 36 year old man is asking undecided
e no get shame at all,just open mouth waaaa kai!.

Op no vexsgrin i no fit just see u like that.

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by blackaxe78: 1:29am On Jan 19
oldienavie:
So I am 36 years and looking to settle down.
I have a lady friend who I have know for a while and is a really decent lady.
She is the type of person I would like to marry (I like conservative ladies and she is the conservative type no makeup which is what I want).
She is 32 years old.

A part of me feels it is better to wait for a while and try and get a younger "god fearing" lady.

To the men, what would you advise ?

I am kinda traditional and feel like a man should avoid marrying a lady in her 30s and also have a gap of atleast 7 years with the wife but I think I love her, I have been thinking about her lately.

Smh….


You are lucky you have a matured lady who has all the qualities you looking for.

If you talking about age, the younger ones will get you to depression! They are only good on bed, maturity they lack.

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by faithfull18(f): 1:35am On Jan 19
Raalsalghul:


He can get a younger chick who's conservative and decent too. Stop throwing that line around as if it's only A-30 ladies that fit into that category. undecided

Haba, see manipulation: citing the Op slept around in his youth as if you know am before. grin

Also, the factors that kept his friend unmarried in her twenties is non of Op's business. He should go for what he wants!

Stop all these shaming tactics, doesn't suit you. grin
Uncle, nobody is shaming anybody. I think you should sleep, wake up and read what I wrote again.

Life isn't unidirectional, shey you hear.

At the end of the day, only the Op knows what he wants and will make his choice. No need for the back and forth Lori oro oloro wink

The kind of narrative and stereotype you guys try to push on the internet esp NL about unmarried ladies in their 30s is sickening and isn't a true representation as each person's life, stories, choices and decisions is unique. That's the point I am trying to make.

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by Raalsalghul: 1:38am On Jan 19
faithfull18:

Uncle, nobody is shaming anybody. I think you should sleep, wake up and read what I wrote again.

Life isn't unidirectional, shey you hear.

At the end of the day, only the Op knows what he wants and will make his choice. No need for the back and forth Lori oro oloro wink


He should go for a younger lady: it is what he wants.

Most people want men to compromise on their desires while ladies unabashedly stand by theirs undecided

There are many younger ladies that'll tick his boxes.

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by MrBrownJay1(m): 1:38am On Jan 19
oldienavie:
So I am 36 years and looking to settle down.
I have a lady friend who I have know for a while and is a really decent lady.
She is the type of person I would like to marry (I like conservative ladies and she is the conservative type no makeup which is what I want).
She is 32 years old.

A part of me feels it is better to wait for a while and try and get a younger "god fearing" lady.

To the men, what would you advise ?

I am kinda traditional and feel like a man should avoid marrying a lady in her 30s and also have a gap of atleast 7 years with the wife but I think I love her, I have been thinking about her lately.

you need to FIRST figure out what you truly want in a wife , and then stick to your guns until you find the girl who has the character/attribute your require... but let me just say that age is nothing but a number.

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by faithfull18(f): 1:39am On Jan 19
Raalsalghul:


Yet you accused him of sleeping around in his twenties to get him to question his desires/specs. What's that one then or am I the one not getting the semantics? undecided
Kai, English isn't this hard, read what I wrote again and slowly this time.

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by oldienavie: 1:40am On Jan 19
If you are wondering why I am not married at 36 years old, I was abroad studying and did not want to marry Oyinbo.
cool cool

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by oldienavie: 1:42am On Jan 19
MrBrownJay1:


you need to FIRST figure out what you truly want in a wife , and then stick to your guns until you find the girl who has the character/attribute your require... but let me just say that age is nothing but a number.
She ticks all my boxes, I just feel that women age faster than men.
I see a lot of married men running after younger ladies , thats not something I pray for in my marriage.

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by Raalsalghul: 1:45am On Jan 19
faithfull18:

Kai, English isn't this hard, read what I wrote again and slowly this time.

Caught it now: why you no use quotation marks to refer to it as someone's statement?

I've edited my responses.
Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by MrBrownJay1(m): 1:50am On Jan 19
oldienavie:

She ticks all my boxes, I just feel that women age faster than men.
I see a lot of married men running after younger ladies , thats not something I pray for in my marriage.

again, you didnt read what i wrote.... i didnt ask you what OTHER MEN DESIRE IN THEIR LIVES...i asked you what YOU desire.
if a woman ticks all your boxes and you are happy with this woman then why would you care what other men desire in "their" life. you CANT put value on your life upon the delusion of others.

any man can get a younger woman named "Regina", and when that same Regina gets older, get rid of her and get a younger one and so on til you die...is that what you desire now?!?!?!

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by oldienavie: 1:52am On Jan 19
faithfull18:

Uncle, nobody is shaming anybody. I think you should sleep, wake up and read what I wrote again.

Life isn't unidirectional, shey you hear.

At the end of the day, only the Op knows what he wants and will make his choice. No need for the back and forth Lori oro oloro wink

The kind of narrative and stereotype you guys try to push on the internet esp NL about unmarried ladies in their 30s is sickening and isn't a true representation as each person's life, stories, choices and decisions is unique. That's the point I am trying to make.
You are projecting previous sentiments on my post, can you just put your previous sentiments aside and be objective ?
I have asked for sincere opinion, I didnt shame anyone, I just stated my desires and asked for advise.
Is that too much to ask ?
Did I do anything wrong ?

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by oldienavie: 1:54am On Jan 19
MrBrownJay1:


again, you didnt read what i wrote.... i didnt ask you what OTHER MEN DESIRE IN THEIR LIVES...i asked you what YOU desire.
if a woman ticks all your boxes and you are happy with this woman then why would care what other men desire in "their" life. you can put value on your life upon the delusion of others.

any man can get a younger woman named "Regina", and when that same Regina gets older, get get rid of her and get a younger one and so on til you die...is that what you desire now?!?!?!
I get y our point, like I said, she has most things I desire in a woman except she is older than I would want my wife to be.
I am trying to figure out if I should take the risk, let her go and expect to find another lady that has the same qualities but is younger.

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by Nobody: 1:56am On Jan 19
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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by oldienavie: 2:02am On Jan 19
InTheCloudySky:
Firstly, as a man, you have a shorter life expectancy than her. Just a lil' fyi.

Secondly, the idea that she will age faster than you is ludicrous and you being delusional, because YOU ARe 4-YEARS OLDER THAN HER.

Finally, if we were to put your photos side by side, most likely we can tell who's older: YOU. I wouldn't be surprised if you're already spotting some greys.

Finally finally, you don't love her, otherwise you wouldn't be asking this absurd question.

I mean, if she's too old for you to marry at 32, then she ought to think twice about marrying your ancient 36-year old behind.


Your response is way too emotional, you are not being objective.
The concept of Love as you see it does not exist. The fact you are in love does not stop you from being able to make intelligent decisions especially when it comes to marriage.
When it comes to marriage, a man and woman have to use their sense and not emotions when making decisions.
An age gap of 10 years between a man and woman is not unusual, infact most people that I know have an age gap of atleast 5 years.
So yes, the age gap for me is something that I am worried about.

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by MrBrownJay1(m): 2:08am On Jan 19
oldienavie:

I get y our point, like I said, she has most things I desire in a woman except she is older than I would want my wife to be.
I am trying to figure out if I should take the risk, let her go and expect to find another lady that has the same qualities but is younger.

- if she is indeed too old for you, then why did you waste YOUR/HER time to date this lady?!
- so apart from age, does she tick ALL your boxes?!
- in the past, have you ever met a babe who ticked all your boxes?!
- sometimes in life you have to compromise, as we all know finding the "right" one can be a long journey!

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by oldienavie: 2:13am On Jan 19
MrBrownJay1:


- if she is indeed too old for you, then why did you waste YOUR/HER time to date this lady?!
- so apart from age, does she tick ALL your boxes?!
- in the past, have you ever met a babe who ticked all your boxes?!
- sometimes in life you have to compromise, as we all know finding the "right" one can be a long journey!
mmmnnn YOu have made very good points.
I haven't dated her, I just kept her as friend, she is someone close to home so I can't date her and not marry her.
So I just kept her as a friend, over the years.
I haven't met many people who actually tick my boxes like she does, just few.

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by MrBrownJay1(m): 2:25am On Jan 19
oldienavie:

mmmnnn YOu have made very good points.
I haven't dated her, I just kept her as friend, she is someone close to home so I can't date her and not marry her.
So I just kept her as a friend, over the years.
I haven't met many people who actually tick my boxes like she does, just few.

i dont believe what you are doing is right, but then again, we are all different.....so keep stringing this woman along, until you find the younger version of herself, and then discard this woman like soiled good. to each their own.

but remember that A) as "age aint on her side", your girl might be gone before you do her wrong like that, B) as you look for this younger one, and possibly lose the old one for good, you may never find anyone remotely as great as the old one... but most importantly, C) never forget what they say about scorned women

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by Katier00(f): 2:43am On Jan 19
Double0h7:
I swear age is just a number. Look at the kinda question a 36 year old man is asking undecided
and the fact he doesn't know what was wrong with his questions is a further confirmation that age is truly a number

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by Favfables1: 2:56am On Jan 19
faithfull18:
Kai, what will one not read on the internet. @OP, what's wrong with a 32year old who is conservative and decent I am sure you are one of the they slept around in their 20s kind of people.

Meanwhile, a lot of factors could have kept a lady from getting married in their 20s just like the men.

Well, life is about choices like I say. It's your choice at the end of the day.

P.s. I don't know what I am doing on NL at this time of the day, to come read this.

How did you come to this conclusion? undecided
Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by Bahamas95(m): 3:12am On Jan 19
Go for a younger girl jor!

After testing all shapes, colour and sizes of d!cks and doing shakara when they were younger they will start forming wife material after turning "old cargo"

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by socialmediaman: 3:57am On Jan 19
OP @ oldienavie it looks like you hit some nerves up there. I have a question for you. If you heard that some people are making plans to go marry the 32-year-old lady you’re still considering, will you give up on her or get motivated to speed things up to see her people and marry her? Your answer should help guide your decision

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by Kaluemma(m): 3:58am On Jan 19
Follow your heart bro age is just a number..



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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by Neptunium(m): 4:06am On Jan 19
Your age is 36, she is 32. No be u old? No project your insecurities to the lady, bro

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by ibechris(m): 4:49am On Jan 19
32 is very good for u.

U are already 36 abi do u want to marry someone who would look like a house girl to u.

I am 38 and my wife is 37. She was my school mate at the University. Our compatibility is great and women of such age are always docile(not all) but many.

Marry who u have dated and love...don't go and marry trouble oh.

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Re: Marry A 32 Year Old Good Girl Or Look For A Younger Good Girl? by BigDawsNet: 5:28am On Jan 19
oldienavie:
If you are wondering why I am not married at 36 years old, I was abroad studying and did not want to marry Oyinbo.
cool cool

Pray about it nah....God will reveal to you..


Bet what's wrong with white?

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