Is it ok to get married to your brother's/sister's ex even when you know they dated for a while?

Not in my book of rules.

it depends on a lot of factors,

you have to consider how long from then till now,

and other things, you don't want your brother reminding you that he has had your wife do you?

dont think its right.

rokiatu:

Not in my book of rules.

Hahahahaha! Even if u find urself trippin 4 him?

iyatrustee:

dont think its right.

U dn't think it's right so u might do it?

i used "dont think its right" cos its possible dat someone somewhere is doing it. but personally i cannot

Chaaaiii Ebila, does that even sound right to your ears, no offence meant. But like Rokiatu said not in our (africans/nigerians) book of rules Let me just generalize and extend her comment to include "decent and right thinking Nigerian men and women".

Something about it is not just morally right especially if they (your brother and his ex) have been intimate. I hope this answers your question.

iyatrustee:

i used "dont think its right" cos its possible dat someone somewhere is doing it. but personally i cannot

Now it's clearer!

madoba:

Chaaaiii Ebila, does that even sound right to your ears, no offence meant. But like Rokiatu said not in our (africans/nigerians) book of rules Let me just generalize and extend her comment to include "decent and right thinking Nigerian men and women".

Something about it is not just morally right especially if they (your brother and his ex) have been intimate. I hope this answers your question.

It doesn't matter how it sounds in my ear,what matters is how it is considered by most folks.It could sound ok in my ears but not ok in most peeps ears and vice versa.The idea is to get how folks feel about it.

iyatrustee:

dont think its right.

i don't really think it is a matter of right or wrong,

different scenarios exist that could make that possible

that is why i said earlier that so many things would have to be considered,

Kingsleyinfo:

i don't really think it is a matter of right or wrong,

different scenarios exist that could make that possible

that is why i said earlier that so many things would have to be considered,

Do u mind highlighting some of the things that could happen that would allow it?

Why should I? So he can come and start describing how that place looks or feels like abi?

ebila:

Hahahahaha! Even if u find urself trippin 4 him?

If I find my self tripping for him [size=5pt](which will never ever happen. My attraction just do not go in such direction)[/size] I will slap myself back into reality and stand up properly.

rokiatu:

If I find my self tripping for him [size=5pt](which will never ever happen. My attraction just do not go in such direction)[/size] I will slap myself back into reality and stand up properly.

I like the sound of that.

emmmm,

no its not

kpolli:

emmmm,

no its not

Oga why u come dey stammer na?

I hit a stone

ebila:

Do u mind highlighting some of the things that could happen that would allow it?

1. when did the said relationship happen,
2. how long did it last
3. what happened, maybe ur brother/sister was a jerk
4. present location,
5. maturity of both persons involved,

the most important thing is to be sincere and truthful to yourself,

i grew up in a small community, where we all knew who dated who and who later married who,

so if you meet a nice girl you actually had a connection with, you would stop yourself from being happy simply because your brother (had an affair with her that ended many years ago,

things change and people make choices that don't turn out too well,

so what?

life will go on, and if you are genuinely convinced about the both of you i will say pursue your heart desire and forget about the past.

^^^
Na JAMB?

Kingsleyinfo:

1. when did the said relationship happen,
2. how long did it last
3. what happened, maybe your brother/sister was a jerk
4. present location,
5. maturity of both persons involved,

the most important thing is to be sincere and truthful to yourself,

i grew up in a small community, where we all knew who dated who and who later married who,

so if you meet a nice girl you actually had a connection with, you would stop yourself from being happy simply because your brother (had an affair with her that ended many years ago,

things change and people make choices that don't turn out too well,

so what?

life will go on, and if you are genuinely convinced about the both of you i will say pursue your heart desire and forget about the past.

In ur opinion,answers to dose questions would influence d answer?

kpolli:

I hit a stone

it isn't at all in the western context. Like what happened to me of recent, two very close friends of mine have dating for some time. The guy now traveled leaving the pretty babe behind. But soon than expected the lady starts getting all airs for me.though I tried all I could to discourage her but she wouldn't budge. My mother sensed what's going on and took matters into her own hands. Any Yoruba son will understand what I'm saying about our protective mothers. So dating or marrying your brothers or sisters ex or your close friends ex is morally wrong in the Yoruba context.