even his uncle's canopies were filled up that they were even coming to collect chairs from his own canopies to theirs for their respective guest.

KiNg0G:
Hahahaha.


You never hear say them dey rent people to come sit down for chair?

That nor be issue na.

MufasaLion:
Lol

Don't be disturbed by that. Mingling is good but it should be limited. I like being private but I still for some real ones that would pull up for me if I wanna organize something. Although, I don't even like parties, so there's no need for their gathering.

I can go months without contacting people. Even my social media accounts are as silent as a grave yard. I'm sure many people don't even know my whereabouts except people in my neighborhood here and I ain't got no friends among them. Crazy!

Wawelexy:


Just like me.... But I don't care, ain't changing my attitude for parties.... Shebi na person wet invite them go disappoint... I can come to that party(yeah my mum's burial), stay for 20minutes, and then leave...

Acidosis:
The whole idea of separating canopies is senseless and invalidates whatever sort of love you all claim to share. All I see is fake love, insecurities, show-off, Etc. By the way, why do you need the crowd for grandma's burial? Are you going to bury some of them along with Grandma?

Rather than play along , make things go your way. There are 1001 ways to bury the dead.

Klass99:


You will be a very good somebori to run things with . You are private, you also come across as coded and someone who likes to keep things on the down low.

Klass99:


As in ehn.......I just don't get it. Very shitty people indeed.

Do you remember that thread where the OP said she left an interview after waiting 1hr 20mins? One guy like that was dragging the issue with me and making reference to customs recruitment exercise and how people stood till they fainted, the OP is unserious, blah blah blah.

Must everything involve unnecessary stress and strain before it is deemed to be worth it or people are deemed to be strong/resilient? A friend of mine in Naija is currently interviewing with a multinational and she can't stop goshing over how the process is so sweet and seamless.

They schedule interviews for 10-10:30 and by 10:15 they are done. A senior executive failed to meet with her as scheduled yesterday on Teams. The guy sent her mail afterwards apologizing and asking if they can connect on whatsapp.

But, when you come to Africa/Nigeria, if there is no noise, showoff or stress involved, then the matter has not even started. Our thought processes and mentality in this part of the world is seriously messed up.

GraciousGod190:
A Church member invited the masses to his mother's burial ceremony last week Sunday, today when I got there I had to look for his own canopy..to my surprise they were just few persons sitting on his canopy with lots of chairs vacant.

and I came late o, we talking about after 2.48pm

his siblings canopies were filled to the brim, even his uncle's canopies were filled up that they were even coming to collect chairs from his own canopies to theirs for their respective guest. (this guy is the second to senior) I could see the embarrassment on this man face... he was just quiet and moody.

food he cooked was surplus, nobody to give after sharing for we the church members that came..he had to even give us extra takeaway home because we didn't pass 10...still they are still enough leftovers.


while I was coming home one of the member from the church a very good friend of mine gave me a lift, then he told me Alex...you see why you need to dey mingle with people all around so that when you want to do things people will come.

you can't just put your full mind for people in church or family members...they disappoint you.


As you go people own, na so people go like come your own.




it really touched me, because I might even be worst than this guy, I hardly go out in the day....I don't have friends.. nobody to invite me to party... people in my street don't even know my name..This is really bad I need to change.



So introverts how do you handle stuffs when it comes to parties like this that you can't bypass? With all eyes watching...


Seun
Lalasticlala

KiNg0G:
Hahahaha.


You never hear say them dey rent people to come sit down for chair?

That nor be issue na.

Them they rent people to come cry self.

Klass99:


You will be a very good somebori to run things with . You are private, you also come across as coded and someone who likes to keep things on the down low.



Always the sensible guy. But, what are these 1001 ways to bury the dead? Abeg spill o.



Ishi this thing no be by force o, so long as you are kind and interact well with people at any level, regardless of their status (e.g. cleaners,CEO, etc) you will be alright in this life and like Acid said, you don't need a crowd to bury the dead.

I like quality over quantity, if I have to bury my dead I will be more focused on getting that business out of the way and moving on with my life. While earnestly hoping my dead made heaven and if one or two friends show up, I will be grateful, always holding them dear to my heart.

But, their presence, the food, grandeur and fanfare activities around the funeral, will not change the final destination of the departed. Nothing we do after a person passes, matters as much as when they were alive or where they end up.

That's why I love that song celebrate me, now wey I dey alive. The song is also one of the reasons I repeatedly give money to one of my relatives, even after saying I won't. At the back of my mind I keep thinking, this money she is asking for, that you don't want to give her. If she kpoof now, you'll end up spending more money to bury her, than what she asked for.......so just give her and do extra.