I'd always loved her even before she was born. And when she came she was my third offspring.
Cute at birth and she grew up with great love and compassion at everything she did.
As a girl child I'd always expected her "firsts" especially growing to from child to preteen and adolescence...
About three weeks ago she came to me and told me she's having cramps at her lower abdomen...I was slightly dazed cos at 12 I least expected she'll begin to have these experiences. But I guess we don't know what to expect!
I was both excited and unsure...I prayed she was prepared for the new phase of life...
Today, just got back from work and I was informed she's menstruating!!
Again mixed feelings!
Well...I just said to her...now you're truly growing up!

I'll love to hear from everyone about how they felt when their daughter told them about the first menses! Please let's share!

congrats sir welcome to consultation phase of your life

Good

....

Good for her.

I used to think issues like this should be a daughter and mom kind of thing, maybe I'm wrong.

jaszplus12:
I was both excited and unsure...I prayed she was prepared for the new phase of life...
Today, just got back from work and I was informed she's menstruating!!
Again mixed feelings!
Well...I just said to her...now you're truly growing up!

I'll love to hear from everyone about how they felt when their daughter told them about the first menses! Please let's share!

Mixed feelings? Is it about you?,

She is truly growing up because she now sees her period? For Pete's sake, she is still a child who you now need to be sure understands quite well what is going on with her body so she can be prepared for the reality before her.

Educate yourself please on what your daughter is likely experiencing, along with the possibility emotions that might overwhelm her if they haven't already started. Work with her loving through them if you csn so she is not terrified by the changes happening to her.

Be there for her as a father who understands,not just as a parent. Protect her by being open with her with facts and realities and don't feed her tales but truth..

There are lots of online materials and support groups to help guide men who are raising their daughters in many of these things. Please take great advantage of them so you can raise the best daughter possible.


https://www.bannerhealth.com/healthcareblog/teach-me/daughters-first-period#:~:text=can%20dads%20do%3F-,Dr.,calm%20as%20well%2C%E2%80%9D%20Dr

I don’t have a daughter yet anyway but from my own experience I started menstruating at 11years, I didn’t have a cramp though.
I was having gists with my male cousin and siblings when all of a sudden I stood up and my male cousin told me there’s blood stains on my cloth. I checked my body and there was no injury. My female cousin who was far older than me quickly entered the house and told me to bathe and she got me a sanitary pad called Simple ( no longer in the market though) . I learned how to put it on mother care pants ( those who grew up in the 80s and 90s will know the pants).
Mum got to know my menstruation had started when she came back from work and the rest is history.
It’s a beautiful experience in every girl’s life

Kobojunkie:
Mixed feelings? Is it about you?,

She is truly growing up because she now sees her period? For Pete's sake, she is still a child who you now need to be sure understands quite well what is going on with her body so she can be prepared for the reality before her.

Educate yourself please on what your daughter is likely experiencing, along with the possibility emotions that might overwhelm her if they haven't already started. Work with her loving through them if you csn so she is not terrified by the changes happening to her.

Be there for her as a father who understands,not just as a parent. Protect her by being open with her with facts and realities and don't feed her tales but truth..

Thank you for your kind words.
Will like you to know that I've had open discussions with my three children and of course always had their emotional and general interest at heart.
As per my mixed feelings yes, even though I should expect changes in their bodies one way or the other I still was mixed in happiness and uncertainty about how SHE will begin to carry on. She's a tough child...

jaszplus12:

Thank you for your kind words.
Will like you to know that I've had open discussions with my three children and of course always had their emotional and general interest at heart.
As per my mixed feelings yes, even though I should expect changes in their bodies one way or the other I still was mixed in happiness and uncertainty about how SHE will begin to carry on. She's a tough child...

Girls that have fathers like you are usually very bold and confident.
They don’t relate with feeling inadequate and the need to please just any man, because they were loved and cared for by men whose love matter most - their fathers.

Just guide her, counsel her and tell her it's normal. Also monitor her to ensure she's not deceived by her peers. All will be well.

Mine started at age 10. I went to poo and my younger sister sat on the bathtub, we were gisting. All of a sudden she ran out shouting blood! Blood!

I was shocked! Kept on searching myself for injury before i saw my stained panties.

My parents were wowed , they were also worried cos it was just too early.

Anyways my mom started her preaching of you are now a woman, if a man touches you now, you will get pregnant.

My dad bought me my first pad and gave me tutorials on what to expect and congratulated me.

May his humble soul continue to rest in peace

chinonyinye:
Just guide her, counsel her and tell her it's normal. Also monitor her to ensure she's not deceived by her peers. All will be well.

Mine started at age 10. I went to poo and my younger sister sat on the bathtub, we were gisting. All of a sudden she ran out shouting blood! Blood!

I was shocked! Kept on searching myself for injury before i saw my stained panties.

My parents were wowed , they were also worried cos it was just too early.

Anyways my mom started her preaching of you are now a woman, if a man touches you now, you will get pregnant.

Omg!
You must’ve been really scared.

Mariangeles:


Girls that have fathers like you are usually very bold and confident.
They don’t relate with feeling inadequate and the need to please just any man, because they were loved and cared for by men whose love matter most - their fathers.

Thank you for your beautiful words... I'll do my best for her and even the boys!

ahnie:
My dad bought me my first pad and gave me tutorials on what to expect and congratulated me.

May his humble soul continue to rest in peace

May his soul rest...Amen!

jaszplus12:
I'd always loved her even before she was born. And when she came she was my third offspring.
Cute at birth and she grew up with great love and compassion at everything she did.
As a girl child I'd always expected her "firsts" especially growing to from child to preteen and adolescence...
About three weeks ago she came to me and told me she's having cramps at her lower abdomen...I was slightly dazed cos at 12 I least expected she'll begin to have these experiences. But I guess we don't know what to expect!
I was both excited and unsure...I prayed she was prepared for the new phase of life...
Today, just got back from work and I was informed she's menstruating!!
Again mixed feelings!
Well...I just said to her...now you're truly growing up!

I'll love to hear from everyone about how they felt when their daughter told them about the first menses! Please let's share!

Keep her away from zazoo boiz ooo

when mine started I was really so embarrassed telling my mom and nervous as hell. I told her 2 days later, I remembered being so shy. I learnt about my menstrual cycle via my biological text books . no body taught me anything.

This is sweet.

How about the child's mother, isn't she the one who's meant to teach your daughter about stuffs like this?

Ishilove

Op where is d mother of your girl!?
She should be in a better position to lecture your daughter on d new phase of life in womanhood in her (though I don't pray to hv a female child).
@ Ishilove, your attention is needed

emmanuelbrown26:
Op where is d mother of your girl!?
She should be in a better position to lecture your daughter on d new phase of life in womanhood in her (though I don't pray to hv a female child).

Why can't her father be of equally good position to lecture his daughter about the new phase of her life? Papa no fit read and grasp the same books mama go read too?

The5DME:
How about the child's mother, isn't she the one who's meant to teach your daughter about stuffs like this?

Why can't her father teach his daughter these things?

LilMissFavvy:
I used to think issues like this should be a daughter and mom kind of thing, maybe I'm wrong.

Some father's are close to their children

Children needs who among the parents that will have time for them and give them audience, so with this they can tell you anything

jaszplus12:
I'd always loved her even before she was born. And when she came she was my third offspring.
Cute at birth and she grew up with great love and compassion at everything she did.
As a girl child I'd always expected her "firsts" especially growing to from child to preteen and adolescence...
About three weeks ago she came to me and told me she's having cramps at her lower abdomen...I was slightly dazed cos at 12 I least expected she'll begin to have these experiences. But I guess we don't know what to expect!
I was both excited and unsure...I prayed she was prepared for the new phase of life...
Today, just got back from work and I was informed she's menstruating!!
Again mixed feelings!
Well...I just said to her...now you're truly growing up!

I'll love to hear from everyone about how they felt when their daughter told them about the first menses! Please let's share!

You have a good relationship with your daughter and she got your back and confidence

Good job

Mariangeles:


Omg!
You must’ve been really scared.

Thinking about it now.... I wasn't scared just surprised and confused. My mom comforted and assured me that it was normal so i didn't see it as anything.

The time i was scared was when i missed my period in JSS2. Ọmọ fear wan kill me and i didn't know the cause. I Sha didn't tell my mom, i told one of my big sis and she reassured me that it would come out and it did the next month.

frozen70:


You have a good relationship with your daughter and she got your back and confidence

Good job

Thank you sir.... it's an on the job experience

Kobojunkie:
Why can't her father be of equally good position to lecture his daughter about the new phase of her life? Papa no fit read and grasp the same books mama go read too?

Aunty beeke, u wan start

emmanuelbrown26:

Aunty beeke, u wan start

All I did was ask you questions

Wow,this brought back some funny memories. I remembered when mine started... Just finished doing number 2, was cleaning up then i noticed blood...Omoh i was scared went to inform my dad( I lost my mum since and my elder sisters were in school then)my daddy didn't know what to tell me, instead he referred me to our neighbor's daughter. I am pretty close to her sha. Met her and I was crying seriously, that I was dying because blood is leaving my body and it might soon finish. She laughed then put me through about the stuff..

LilMissFavvy:
I used to think issues like this should be a daughter and mom kind of thing, maybe I'm wrong.

Men should know these things too.
It is important that the children have parents who are knowledgeable. Period is not a taboo, or some kind of 'hush hush' process anymore.
Teach kids about their bodies. If you don't teach your kids, they will look for that information outside and in the arms of the wrong people.

Winneygirl:

Men should know these things too.
It is important that the children have parents who are knowledgeable. Period is not a taboo, or some kind of 'hush hush' process anymore.
Teach kids about their bodies. If you don't teach your kids, they will look for that information outside and in the arms of the wrong people.

It never should have been that to begin with. A father ought to understand and have ready answers for his girls as well as his boys at every stage of their lives.