jaszplus12:
I'd always loved her even before she was born. And when she came she was my third offspring.
Cute at birth and she grew up with great love and compassion at everything she did.
As a girl child I'd always expected her "firsts" especially growing to from child to preteen and adolescence...
About three weeks ago she came to me and told me she's having cramps at her lower abdomen...I was slightly dazed cos at 12 I least expected she'll begin to have these experiences. But I guess we don't know what to expect!
I was both excited and unsure...I prayed she was prepared for the new phase of life...
Today, just got back from work and I was informed she's menstruating!!
Again mixed feelings!
Well...I just said to her...now you're truly growing up!

I'll love to hear from everyone about how they felt when their daughter told them about the first menses! Please let's share!

Klass99:


You can say that again! When it's that time of the month, I find myself silently cursing Eve and wishing she hadn't eaten the forbidden fruit, to thrust all of us into this mess, while also wishing I would stop bleeding already.

I don't know whether to stand, sit or lay down, the internal and external discomfort is just crazy. Not to mention accidentally staining your clothes or fresh bedsheets, then having to change/wash them. The struggle to find the best sleeping position nko, to avoid staining the sheets/mattress, waking up at odd hours to wash up again and change a soaked pad, not being able to go back to sleep afterwards and generally not sleeping well because of menstruation.

It's even worse when it starts within the week and I have to be at work. I am insanely self conscious and not focused on work, I carry all my sanitary items (baby wipes, nylon bags, pads, fresh panties etc) to keep refreshing and changing as the hours go by. It can be extremely uncomfortable doing so in a public rest room.

It is beyond icky and uncomfortable, it is a nasty plague I can't wait to be over and done with.

Klass99:


So I hear, but it can't be worse than what I currently experience na. I nearly passed out from the heavy flow of my last period and the pain was so excruciating. I have never had it so bad before.

QuinModah:
I was home, i was 13 then, everyone was around, watching a movie on a weekend I think, went to pee then noticed my pant stained, I panicked, stood in the toilet for 30 minutes didn't know what to do, I thought I injured myself down there but I didn't feel pain, I pressed the place no pain, I was pacing, looking at the ceiling thinking if I'm dying cos my mum being a nurse said once you start bleeding non stop in a sensitive place, you're dying, but she didn't say where I pee from was part of it, I was on the verge of tears when my elder sis came and I explained things to her, she just smiled, brought out pad and fixed it for me, then she explained how it is done, do you know that when she told my mum, she just looked at me and removed face, I was never given a sex education angry

Honestly our ancient parents nor try at all, most didn't teach their offspring basic teaching on sex and all, we all should do better with our kids please, it can prevent soo many ills.

Fountainofyouth:
I was home, i was 13 then, everyone was around, watching a movie on a weekend I think, went to pee then noticed my pant stained, I panicked, stood in the toilet for 30 minutes didn't know what to do, I thought I injured myself down there but I didn't feel pain, I pressed the place no pain, I was pacing, looking at the ceiling thinking if I'm dying cos my mum being a nurse said once you start bleeding non stop in a sensitive place, you're dying, but she didn't say where I pee from was part of it, I was on the verge of tears when my elder sis came and I explained things to her, she just smiled, brought out pad and fixed it for me, then she explained how it is done, do you know that when she told my mum, she just looked at me and removed face, I was never given a sex education

Honestly our ancient parents nor try at all, most didn't teach their offspring basic teaching on sex and all, we all should do better with our kids please, it can prevent soo many ills.

Klass99:


So I hear, but it can't be worse than what I currently experience na. I nearly passed out from the heavy flow of my last period and the pain was so excruciating. I have never had it so bad before.

iyke648:
Funny enough it's a huge celebration in India by the girl's family

baby124:
12 is normal for a girl to see her menses. Congratulations OP. Ensure you educate her on STD’s and pregnancy prevention. Also let her know about Abstinence plus safe sex. Just be open and let her know she can come and discuss with you! It’s definitely more impactful actually if these conversations are father-daughter. You are the man she trusts most. So how she will deal or choose men depends on what she learned from you!

GloriousGbola:
Congrats OP.

My daughter is 12 and she started like 2 months ago. So now in addition to all the other household items I am back to buying sanitiary pads.

And now there are days when my daughter cannot be all there

Corporate2020:
A father that comes to Nairaland to discuss his daughter's menstruation , is that one a father? So menstruation is now for the public. It's saddening that the spoilt and wayward children of yesteryears have become parents today. So, what do we expect in the society?

Klass99:


I am absolutely certain, but I choose to not go under the knife for any procedures in my lifetime, if it is not a life or death situation. I prefer the natural course of things in this life. I have also heard of and seen simple procedures go horribly wrong, I'll rather err on the side of caution and not take certain risks with my life.

On Wazobia FM, a female anchor narrated how she was in surgery and being operated on when NEPA took light. The surgeon and nurses were using flashlights on their phones to continue the procedure for some time before the gen came on. A documentary on BBC showed how uncomplicated procedures like laser hair removal, botox/filler injections, resulted to complications and botched up bodies, requiring additional surgery and medication to fix. Some didn't look like they could ever be fixed, at the time the documentary aired and this was in Egypt o.

GloriousGbola:
Congrats OP.

My daughter is 12 and she started like 2 months ago. So now in addition to all the other household items I am back to buying sanitiary pads.

And now there are days when my daughter cannot be all there

jaszplus12:

Wow.... Some experiences are really incomprehensible! Parents didn't know you were having periods for a whole year?? Thank God you were capable!!

emmanuelbrown26:

Shake it very very well before boko go cut am

JovialJune:
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This isn't your experience, this is an experience from another moniker in October 2019, what do you gain from plagiarism




The angry smiley she used, you couldn't even modify and correct yours properly, you left it there in a haste to copy and paste, na wa for you.

jaszplus12:

Big girl!!! Funny too.... Thank you!

TheKrakon:
Omor make Ieave this place for the ones when dey rear human beings. We we prefer to rear money and properties.

Threesha:

jaszplus12:
I'd always loved her even before she was born. And when she came she was my third offspring.
Cute at birth and she grew up with great love and compassion at everything she did.
As a girl child I'd always expected her "firsts" especially growing to from child to preteen and adolescence...
About three weeks ago she came to me and told me she's having cramps at her lower abdomen...I was slightly dazed cos at 12 I least expected she'll begin to have these experiences. But I guess we don't know what to expect!
I was both excited and unsure...I prayed she was prepared for the new phase of life...
Today, just got back from work and I was informed she's menstruating!!
Again mixed feelings!
Well...I just said to her...now you're truly growing up!

I'll love to hear from everyone about how they felt when their daughter told them about the first menses! Please let's share!

efficiencie:


Train her well sir. Train her very well. Because these days it seems the spirit of stupidity has been unleashed on many ladies. I hear relationship issues that ladies are involved in and sometimes I wonder if their brains were surgically relocated to their butts. Train her to be wise. Train her to be chaste. Train her to be focused and purpose driven. Train her to be a solution to her world and not another addition to the community of bimbos.

efficiencie:


Train her well sir. Train her very well. Because these days it seems the spirit of stupidity has been unleashed on many ladies. I hear relationship issues that ladies are involved in and sometimes I wonder if their brains were surgically relocated to their butts. Train her to be wise. Train her to be chaste. Train her to be focused and purpose driven. Train her to be a solution to her world and not another addition to the community of bimbos.

QuinModah:
Hope you training your daughters too

efficiencie:


By God's grace, yes. I cannot bear to what my daughters being used like rag the way I see modern ladies get used. There is nothing admirable in ladies having multiple sex partners, aborting multiple babies, becoming public toilets that randy idiots use regularly to ease themselves and becoming a single mother with little or no moral value to pass on to the next generation.

Pascopele:
ALL my daughter are given sex education from age 8
Sex education, I make sure they are still intact till eldest left for college. I monitor their periods like a hawk and any small thing na hospital straight. I personally teach them their cycles days, how to place the pad on their pants & make them understand if they wish to have sex it's their choice but condom is a MUST.

However, I kept some sex book in my room and would ask them to bring another book close to it for me. I know this would make them read the book since my adult kids are d curios type.

As for the boys, I know they already know something I give them a twenty leaf excercise book and tell them to write all they know about Hiv/Aids.

Once they are about to enter college we'd sit and talk and the subject might go into s.ex at some point and I'd tell my daughters not to sleep with any man and all that but if they wish to condom is a MUST.

As some grew older, I usually would ask if they'd a boyfriend. Once in a while I'd chip in the 'if you want to have sexx, make sure you use a condom. Don't let the man deceive you into not using a condom' advise.

I remember when went to visit my daughter one certain time in college. I told her I saw the por'n she'd been watching in my dvd and some more in my book rack. She was embarassed but I just laughed about it. All in all, I was okay.


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