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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Ticha: 10:43pm On Mar 23, 2023
Damdad:
Good morning all, I’m currently on tier 4 visa . My son started school in February but I want to take him back to Nigeria to stay with my mum . Is it okay to mail his school about this ? Or I have to go in person .

You can send an email. You have to be specific that you're removing the child from the school roll otherwise they will start counting absences and reporting on it

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by BorisJohnson(f): 11:09pm On Mar 23, 2023
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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by LagosismyHome(f): 12:05pm On Apr 11, 2023
CheesyTee:
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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by lightnlife: 10:12pm On May 13, 2023
Hello,

Please is it necessary for a pregnant Nigerian in the UK to take tetanus injection?

I know it was compulsory in Nigeria.

Thanks
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Ticha: 10:30pm On May 13, 2023
lightnlife:
Hello,

Please is it necessary for a pregnant Nigerian in the UK to take tetanus injection?

I know it was compulsory in Nigeria.

Thanks

No whooping cough is the only vax recommended for pregnant women and you can opt out should you choose to - it's usually to protect the baby as mum's pass thr antibodies on till the newborn can get their own vax

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by BorisJohnson(f): 7:38pm On May 15, 2023
Hello people…
When does my 2 year old become entitled to 15 hours nursery?
Is it the September they turn 3? Or it can be the very 1st day they turn 3?

Thanks.
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Zahra29: 8:19pm On May 15, 2023
BorisJohnson:
Hello people…
When does my 2 year old become entitled to 15 hours nursery?
Is it the September they turn 3? Or it can be the very 1st day they turn 3?

Thanks.

It kicks in at the start of the school term proceeding their 3rd birthday.

E.g. if their birthday is in February, you will be able to access the funding from the start of the summer term in April.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by lightnlife: 10:57am On May 19, 2023
Good to know.

Thanks for the insight.

Ticha:


No whooping cough is the only vax recommended for pregnant women and you can opt out should you choose to - it's usually to protect the baby as mum's pass thr antibodies on till the newborn can get their own vax
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by lovelysofa: 5:58pm On May 29, 2023
Dupsyshoo Ticha Mamatukwas and anyone else that can help.

Please i desperately need your advice. This is off the back of the conversation on the thread below.

https://www.nairaland.com/4158866/living-uk-life-uk-immigrant/665

I got a letter today from my daughter's school that she won't be moving to P2 but she will be put in a "streaming" class which is P2/1 with the same p1 teachers that are currently teaching her. We are based in Scotland.

Saying that I'm shocked and disappointed is an understatement. I have attended all parents' meeting and there's been no concerns regarding her. She writes and speaks well despite being one of the youngest in her class (her class is a mix of 5 to 6 year olds) and she's in the younger range thanks to her birth month.

Please is there anything I can do to stop them from making her "repeat" a class? I have received her year report and it's full of praises and they've not flagged any concerns.

Can I push back? Should I withdraw her and take her to a fee paying school?

My daughter has been taking English kumon a month before she started primary school and I had plans to enroll for maths in p2.

I have another parents conference in the next 2 days and I intend to email the school and seriously object to the streaming arrangement. Please I need help and advice.

Thanks
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Peerielass: 6:24pm On May 29, 2023
lovelysofa:
Dupsyshoo Ticha Mamatukwas and anyone else that can help.

Please i desperately need your advice. This is off the back of the conversation on the thread below.

https://www.nairaland.com/4158866/living-uk-life-uk-immigrant/665

I got a letter today from my daughter's school that she won't be moving to P2 but she will be put in a "streaming" class which is P2/1 with the same p1 teachers that are currently teaching her. We are based in Scotland.

Saying that I'm shocked and disappointed is an understatement. I have attended all parents' meeting and there's been no concerns regarding her. She writes and speaks well despite being one of the youngest in her class (her class is a mix of 5 to 6 year olds) and she's in the younger range thanks to her birth month.

Please is there anything I can do to stop them from making her "repeat" a class? I have received her year report and it's full of praises and they've not flagged any concerns.

Can I push back? Should I withdraw her and take her to a fee paying school?

My daughter has been taking English kumon a month before she started primary school and I had plans to enroll for maths in p2.

I have another parents conference in the next 2 days and I intend to email the school and seriously object to the streaming arrangement. Please I need help and advice.

Thanks

Hi trying to understand what’s the problem is here - did your letter specifically say your child was being held back in Primary 1? The reason I ask is because many schools in Scotland run composite classes that are a combination of different year groups. This could be as a result of inadequate teachers in the school or not enough pupils in the various year groups to warrant creating separate classes for them.

I used to live in the Scottish islands and there were some schools that only had one or two teachers with all the pupils(from P1 to P7) in one class due to how sparsely populated the areas were. So a class could have P4/5/6, It doesn’t mean that they were holding back the kids in P6 to repeat with the P4s. The teacher will prepare different lesson notes for each year group. I suspect this to be the case with your child. The fact that her school reports have not indicated that she’s struggling confirms my reasoning.

I have read the discussions you linked in your post and don’t completely agree with the representation of information re Scotland.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Peerielass: 6:28pm On May 29, 2023
@lovelysofa

Please try not to stress over nothing.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by lovelysofa: 6:33pm On May 29, 2023
Peerielass:


Hi trying to understand what’s the problem is here - did your letter specifically say your child was being held back in Primary 1? The reason I ask is because many schools in Scotland run composite classes that are a combination of different year groups. This could be as a result of inadequate teachers in the school or not enough pupils in the various year groups to warrant creating separate classes for them.

I used to live in the Scottish islands and there were some schools that only had one or two teachers with all the pupils(from P1 to P7) in one class due to how sparsely populated the areas were. So a class could have P4/5/6, It doesn’t mean that they were holding back the kids in P6 to repeat with the P4s. The teacher will prepare different lesson notes for each year group. I suspect this to be the case with your child. The fact that her school reports have not indicated that she’s struggling confirms my reasoning.

I have read the discussions you linked in your post and don’t completely agree with the representation of information re Scotland.

No, the reason for putting her in a streaming class has absolutely nothing to do with staffing numbers.

Please read the link below starting from the conversation by Mamatukwas
https://www.nairaland.com/4158866/living-uk-life-uk-immigrant/664#102811096

In the letter I received from the school,they've said this is a "very considered decision" and the feel it will be beneficial for my daughter for the following reasons:
1. Build independence and confidence
2. Opportunities for support within a small group of pupils
3. Having the same teachers for another year who know my daughter well

They've also asked me not to share this whole information with my daughter just yet "so that they can work with them on the moving day and explain how this will work for them" .

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by lovelysofa: 6:34pm On May 29, 2023
Peerielass:
@lovelysofa

Please try not to stress over nothing.


Please don't get me upset any further. If you no nothing about my post or you are unable to help,please ignore and jump and pass.

THIS IS NOT A COMPOSITE CLASS SITUATION
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Peerielass: 6:44pm On May 29, 2023
lovelysofa:


Please don't get me upset any further. If you no nothing about my post or you are unable to help,please ignore and jump and pass.

THIS IS NOT A COMPOSITE CLASS SITUATION

No need to shout.

I live in Scotland and have kids that have been through primary school so I’m not particularly as ignorant as you might think. I have also explained what I thought could be happening and since you have confirmed that they are keeping her back, then you need to have a proper conversation with the school when next you are in and find out why they didn’t flag it in their previous correspondences.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by lovelysofa: 6:45pm On May 29, 2023
Peerielass:


No need to shout.

I live in Scotland and have kids that have been through primary school so know a bit. If this is not a a composite case, then you need to have a proper discussion with the school when next you are in.

I also have a much older child in the same school, and we've never had this situation.
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Peerielass: 7:16pm On May 29, 2023
lovelysofa:


I also have a much older child in the same school, and we've never had this situation.

This to me seems like the exception and not the norm. I haven’t come across anyone held back in primary school in my part of Scotland.

Go to the parents evening first and see what the teachers have to say and then decide on the next course of action. I can see you are very upset about the whole thing as would any parent but please calm down and put your emotions aside. The last thing you want to do is to go in there guns blazing and perpetuate the angry black woman stereotype.

Hang in there and hopefully you will get a satisfactory resolution soon.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Missposh: 8:13pm On May 29, 2023
Please does anyone know of a program/ academy/ competition that one can subscribe to for kids in Year 2 very keen on mathematics or space matters?
Does classes have any special activities for such subjects?
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Peerielass: 9:40pm On May 29, 2023
Lovelysofa, I ran this by my sister-in-law who is a teacher and she said occasionally they hold younger kids back because they tend not to be as confident as the older kids. The child might still be ok academically but may lack social skills and struggle in groups tasks and ability to communicate with other kids.. She said it’s usually beneficial for kids to repeat a year in P1 than progress to the next class and then having to struggle through out their primary and secondary school years. The school should however have highlighted it to you before now.

Message me if you have any specific questions on how to approach your discussion with the teachers at the parent evening, I can ask her.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by lovelysofa: 10:13pm On May 29, 2023
Peerielass:
Lovelysofa, I ran this by my sister-in-law who is a teacher and she said occasionally they hold younger kids back because they tend not to be as confident as the older kids. The child might still be ok academically but may lack social skills and struggle in groups tasks and ability to communicate with other kids.. She said it’s usually beneficial for kids to repeat a year in P1 than progress to the next class and then having to struggle through out their primary and secondary school years. The school should however have highlighted it to you before now.

Message me if you have any specific questions on how to approach your discussion with the teachers at the parent evening, I can ask her.

Thank you so much.

My daughter is that child that would cling to me throughout her classmates birthday party and only start socialising 10mins to the end of the party. However, once she starts, she's literally the life of the party and I will have to force her to leave.

I'm not sure if she exhibits similar behaviour in school as nothing has being flagged with me. Her teacher uses phrases like "she's becoming more confident", etc so it's really hard to get any "negative" feedback from them.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by dupyshoo: 6:00am On May 30, 2023
I think you should share your concern with the school. Try and have a honest conversation with the teacher. How did they determine those who are staying in the mixed class? What criteria did they use? Ask why concerns were not raised earlier during parent evenings. Ask if there is possibility of moving her to the other class.

Regardless of the final decision, don't worry too much about it. Note all what the teachers have said and start helping your daughter at home. All the issues will soon be history.

lovelysofa:


No, the reason for putting her in a streaming class has absolutely nothing to do with staffing numbers.

Please read the link below starting from the conversation by Mamatukwas
https://www.nairaland.com/4158866/living-uk-life-uk-immigrant/664#102811096

In the letter I received from the school,they've said this is a "very considered decision" and the feel it will be beneficial for my daughter for the following reasons:
1. Build independence and confidence
2. Opportunities for support within a small group of pupils
3. Having the same teachers for another year who know my daughter well

They've also asked me not to share this whole information with my daughter just yet "so that they can work with them on the moving day and explain how this will work for them" .
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Chreze(m): 6:38am On May 30, 2023
@lovelysofa

I can tell this is driving you crazy from your response. You have to be calm so as to see reasons and understand if it truly is of benefit for your daughter.

My neighbors daughter is in same class as my son. She will be moving to I believe P1 this year. Also when I visit his nursery, I see some kids that are “maybe” older and wonder why they are there. Could be the reason you have stated.

That said, try so much to focus on your child for this. Forget about that parent feeling (this is a very easy advice to give, but hard to follow). Please try, if your child is showing any of the reason outlined, please look into it properly. You don’t want your child to have problem with defending herself or communicating in the long run.

With regards to her reports and all, I live in Scotland and can tell you to do more or your own checks on your child than what is written on paper (good or bad). These people paint the best picture even in difficult circumstances. They use the positive approach to things, so they always say positive things more. Some suggestion I have to access some of their concerns for delaying her is kind of late now and I don’t know if you have that time. Like:

Visiting her school in disguises and watching how she relate with people. Does she abandons everyone when you are around or she introduces you to everyone and wants you to join them in the play. Does she relate with everyone with confidence? When she speaks, do you see the confidence and boldness of someone who can take care of herself? This things I have outlined is not for the school or you, but for your kid. Confidence is very key in this UK especially considering that kids start to make decisions when they become teens and even you the parents will have to debate with them on it.

I can assume it to be a very difficult time for you as no one wants to hear something like this, but please in whatever you do, make sure it’s not about you as a parent or the school, please make sure the main reason is the child’s future.

Blessings to you and family.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Peerielass: 6:45am On May 30, 2023
lovelysofa:


Thank you so much.

My daughter is that child that would cling to me throughout her classmates birthday party and only start socialising 10mins to the end of the party. However, once she starts, she's literally the life of the party and I will have to force her to leave.

I'm not sure if she exhibits similar behaviour in school as nothing has being flagged with me. Her teacher uses phrases like "she's becoming more confident", etc so it's really hard to get any "negative" feedback from them.

No problem. I replied. Let me know how you get on.
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by babajeje123(m): 3:18pm On Jun 10, 2023
Please what's your opinion about a school recommending a child to see a speech Therapist? The child is 4 but her speech is not clear. Sometimes she uses her hands to express herself and some other times you hear clearly what she says. It's only her big sister who understands her clearly and their parent would need to ask the big one to repeats what the little one says.
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Hoelujohn: 4:22pm On Jun 10, 2023
Missposh:
Please does anyone know of a program/ academy/ competition that one can subscribe to for kids in Year 2 very keen on mathematics or space matters?
Does classes have any special activities for such subjects?
You can get her an online Mathematics teacher ( trainer) from Nigeria that can tutor her. I am available for consultation FOC.
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by babythug(f): 4:59pm On Jun 10, 2023
babajeje123:
Please what's your opinion about a school recommending a child to see a speech Therapist? The child is 4 but her speech is not clear. Sometimes she uses her hands to express herself and some other times you hear clearly what she says. It's only her big sister who understands her clearly and their parent would need to ask the big one to repeats what the little one says.

Might be worth exploring the option but the parents should also check online for similar experiences they can benefit from.
What techniques does the big sister use to understand her? They can also adopt/learn from her
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by babajeje123(m): 5:05pm On Jun 10, 2023
babythug:


Might be worth exploring the option but the parents should also check online for similar experiences they can benefit from.
What techniques does the big sister use to understand her? They can also adopt/learn from her
The only thing I can say is that they are very close, not sure of the techniques she uses. I don't like what I read online about going speech therapy way. Will still search more sha.
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Ticha: 10:44pm On Jun 10, 2023
babajeje123:
Please what's your opinion about a school recommending a child to see a speech Therapist? The child is 4 but her speech is not clear. Sometimes she uses her hands to express herself and some other times you hear clearly what she says. It's only her big sister who understands her clearly and their parent would need to ask the big one to repeats what the little one says.

It's not an issue to see or use an SLT. My son needed an SLT. He wasn't even speaking clearly at 4. Now I bribe him to stop talking.

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by babajeje123(m): 8:12am On Jun 11, 2023
Ticha:


It's not an issue to see or use an SLT. My son needed an SLT. He wasn't even speaking clearly at 4. Now I bribe him to stop talking.
Thanks Ticha.
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by Temi231(f): 8:38am On Jun 11, 2023
Ticha:


It's not an issue to see or use an SLT. My son needed an SLT. He wasn't even speaking clearly at 4. Now I bribe him to stop talking.

What is SLT? Speech Language therapy or what ?
Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by semmyk(m): 10:20pm On Jun 11, 2023
Crosspost from Living in the UK thread part 3
Joyfuljoyful:
Hello everyone.
My son turned 4 this May and his words are not clear enough. He can recite the alphabets and spell 2 letter words, speak complete sentences, make conversations and can read and write but his speech is not completely clear. When he speaks fast. We can hardly hear what he's saying. Nursery teacher has asked that we fill a form for them to book him in to see the GP so he can be checked. I was wondering if its advisable to to fill the form?

We are afraid he may be stigmatised as having a condition and so trying to see if we can wait it out. We also dont want him to loose his confidence or retreat into himself in the process of being worked on by the specialist. We were hoping when he turns 4 he would outgrow it but we are still hhopeful. Whats your take on it please?
Thanks.
giselle237:

Do not be scared. If you listen to other kids in his class majority of them sound the way he sounds. Sometimes the teachers maybe don’t get that these sounds and speech will form at the appropriate time.
I have attached a photo- it is a summary of speech sounds he should be making. Look at the table.. and check against the sounds he should be making now at 4 years old.
The help they want to get for him is speech and language therapy I believe. If he is referred to the GP, GP’ll most likely do a referral to SALT and try to get him an appointment date with SALT. If this happens he will be assessed for elements like play, understanding, attention, speech etc.
I wont be too worried. Just go with the flow and you can give into any referrals whilst you practice during this summer holiday his sounds as attached.
If he is speaking fast, they tend to use a lot of jargons at this age too.. that’s probably the one the teacher says he is not speaking clearly. By 5 years all this would have cleared up in most children
Also no shouting and over correction. If he speaks the one you dont hear clearly, rather than correcting you say the right thing
Eg
Mommy I want to eat pish.. rather than pronounce f for fish as f , he pronounces it as ‘p’
The right thing for you to do is say okay my boy I will get you some fish to eat, you pronounce the right one and not start saying it is not phish .. it is fish
You make it worse this way

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Re: Parenting In The UK As A Nigerian Migrant. by lightnlife: 7:26pm On Jun 20, 2023
Hello everyone,

Please can I ask for some advise or a procedural guideline on inviting one's parent to the UK?

What docs are required for visa application?

Is the purchase of a return ticket mandatory before visa app?

@babajeje123, I think you've recently invited or secured a visa for a parent from Naija, can you please share some insight?

Thanks

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