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Re: Should I get married or start my building project? by Kate06(m): 6:13am On Mar 26, 2022 |
This one wan go waste money on vigirna people ,shame |
Re: Should I get married or start my building project? by ibechris(m): 6:50am On Mar 26, 2022 |
Rubbiish: That is my own advice to him,don't worry as what u are saying is still in theory,wait until u live in such a house yourself,u will know the difference between theory and practical. I can see u are always right. |
Re: Should I get married or start my building project? by baby124: 7:02am On Mar 26, 2022 |
UOBEN:Build your house first. I am concerned a 20yr old is talking about marriage. Please give yourself time as a young man to put things in place. You guys can date for another year or two. Support her by advising her on growing her business, growing career wise and business wise. Get to really know her to understand who she is and if you both can be a couple. Make her understand that you both need to be stable. Stop her from giving you money monthly please. Do you live together with her? Why is she giving you money? Just tell her as a man you need to make sure you guys have a house to stay before marriage and you are working on it. Marrying early is good but 20? That’s crazy o. Early for me is 25 sef. That’s when the brain becomes mature. Imagine the change in your behavior 20-25 vs 26? Make she work on herself small. 1 Like |
Re: Should I get married or start my building project? by baby124: 7:08am On Mar 26, 2022 |
cococandy:Very o. But the guy needs to get himself. If he focuses on marriage and blows the money while she becomes more successful, he may get very resentful. She’s obviously smarter than him. Which is not bad but, a man needs to fulfill his own dreams too and get to the point where he can support a family. I believe he should give it two years of them both working together in achieving shared goals like, career improvement, business improvement, maybe a masters and his building project. Then from there, they can marry! OP, I thought she was a jobless student. Sorry couldn’t read through the post completely. Hold on to this little madam but give it like 2yrs to also achieve things for yourself. You can give it 6 months to watch her carefully and then engage her formally. Then marriage after another year. By this time you should have sorted a house and businesses. |
Re: Should I get married or start my building project? by cococandy(f): 7:17am On Mar 26, 2022 |
Year 2-3 years isn’t bad at all. And it will fly by quickly anyway. baby124: |
Re: Should I get married or start my building project? by GloriousGbola: 7:37am On Mar 26, 2022 |
UOBEN: Nigerians and 'land' ehn. Anyways I would not advise you to build a house until you have been married for 5 to 10 years. You will live in it, and you may not know all you will want in a house until you have lived as a married couple for some time. How many kids and therefore how many rooms? Proper kitchen. Separate bedrooms etc |
Re: Should I get married or start my building project? by lavylilly: 7:50am On Mar 26, 2022 |
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Re: Should I get married or start my building project? by lavylilly: 7:53am On Mar 26, 2022 |
baby124:What's wrong with a 20yrs talking of marriage, early marriage is the best, his 26yrs, when his 46yrs he done training his kids |
Re: Should I get married or start my building project? by UOBEN(m): 8:06am On Mar 26, 2022 |
baby124:We don't stay together but she comes and stay may be for a week and then goes back. Her reason for giving me money is that she feels I have hidden financial struggles I will not tell her. I stopped her from giving me money, but instead she will come to the house prepare a list of things we need go to de market and buy them. Last month I broke my hand, so I told her I need a washing machine cause I can not wash my clothes, The next day she bought the machine and brought it home. |
Re: Should I get married or start my building project? by Nobody: 8:08am On Mar 26, 2022 |
UOBEN:OP... Honestly eh ... Marriage at this point shouldn't be your priority, not because you're "young", but because I feel you need to make the most of your time now... Let's be real here.... Marriage is WORK! Marriage is BILLS! TM &wedding both cost a lot of money... And soon after that, the kids starts coming and definitely expenses starts building... If you have to add all these expenses in addition to house rent which could be in millions depending on your location and type (selfcon, 2bed room et Al) it will be choking in my opinion... And besides, what if she decides to stop working in the cause of her pregnancy? The entire weight will be on you and as such building your house will slowly and steadily move to the back of your priority list, hope you get the point? If I were in your shoes, I would build the house first.... From what I can pick from your write up, you seem to be a "hustler" and you're doing really well for yourself... So in 2years max, those lands would have multiple structures and tenants in them, getting married then, wouldn't be "late", would it? Well .. That's just my opinion... Either ways Sha .. Just do whatever it is you have in mind... Good luck... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I get married or start my building project? by UOBEN(m): 8:10am On Mar 26, 2022 |
Thanks a lot Favfables1: 1 Like |
Re: Should I get married or start my building project? by MasonKendall(m): 10:24am On Mar 26, 2022 |
you're 26 and she's 20. you finished school 2018 i.e you were 21-22. and during that time she was 15-16 years. How do you expect me to believe this? |
Re: Should I get married or start my building project? by ThaThinka: 6:02pm On Mar 29, 2022 |
MasonKendall: Well, it's possible... Many young people are making it big these days. But then your post drove me to make a comment I wanted to reserve: the OP has been dating the young lady for at least about 7 years, going by the original post. If that's correct, there's not much point in delaying marriage any longer. Money is what hinders many older from getting married - it's not just about age. |
Re: Should I get married or start my building project? by HarunaWest(m): 10:49am On Mar 30, 2022 |
Candidlady:You want her to become PM news like you? |
Re: Should I get married or start my building project? by HarunaWest(m): 10:53am On Mar 30, 2022 |
UOBEN:Its obvious you aren't ready for marriage. For you to come here and ask means you aren't sure. Indecisive and unsure. If i were you, the house project should be suspended for now. Focus on multiplying your money. A house ties money down. Invest more in your business, rent a house, if you are sure, get married and build your house in some few years time. |
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