Moz22:
Okay... I felt the need to update y'all on what followed that ugly incident.

I really did understood that I went overboard with how I reacted as I should never have hit my who woman you birthed me as it has caused me so much emotional trauma and I really wanna move on.. my life literally stalled ever since.

The incident happened last Monday and she traveled the following day, so whatever plan I had to apologize had to wait till she was back.. learnt she came back on Saturday. Definitely couldn't see her until atleast Tuesday which was yesterday. So I had called an elderly man who happens to be our family friend, explained everything to him and told him I was sorry. We both went to her to apologize but she insisted on not forgiving me and there's was no one I could ever think of that can make her do otherwise.. meaning no one can beg her on my behalf. I just weak like this oloun.

Honestly speaking, I wasn't disappointed with her response as I expected it.. i won't lie. She's that difficult to deal with, really difficult! Sigh. Tin ba sope ko sumi, iró ni mo pa

godofuck231:
you didn't buy what advised you to , a child that is giving his mother sleepless nights , will also not sleep , the elders are wise and wiser are the gods

DoctorOlasDesk:
Give her time

Don't beg her in any way for now

Send her gifts after some months, pricey gifts and clothes and do this consistently while you make sure she doesn't see or hear from you.

Do it consistently sending her gifts for as long as a year or two. Absent makes the heart grow fonder. Continue sensing gifts monthly. I.e salary. Till when she will send for you.

MadamVanessa:



I must commend you for the step you've taken to apologized to your mum first for the wrong you did to her. For being remorseful and taking that bold step to apologized. God will bless you immensely

Your mom is just being egoistic, which I understand. But truth be told, deep inside her she has forgiven you, because your action of apologizing to her might have melted her heart and weaken her; because she never thought you'll come back to apologize.

Inasmuch as she's so hard on you now, dont relent effort in apologizing to her, till she openly forgives you. Keep on being remorseful.

And don't be too hard on yourself , because you didn't do that deliberately, it was because of her constantly provoking you.

But the good thing is that you have done the needful.

Iyaebe:
Your apologies mustn’t be verbal,do things that pleases her for now and when you’ve won her heart then remind her again that you still waiting for her forgiveness and after that you wisely keep your distance while still caring for her. Just make sure you earn her forgiveness at all cost for your own peace of mind.You have a very difficult mom but you must be wise in your dealings with her.

Moz22:
shey you will rest??

12rev:
What has your dad said in all this?













You may have to be apologizing for the rest of your life.

Moz22:
man's so indifferent.. I can't even lie

godofuck231:
you didn't buy what advised you to , a child that is giving his mother sleepless nights , will also not sleep , the elders are wise and wiser are the gods

Mariangeles:


In this case, it is the mother that is giving the whole family sleepless nights na.

O,p for now, just give her some space.

12rev:

Has she always been that way? Perhaps he is tired of talking to her or....vice versa. You seem to be the victims of their differences.

Richy4:
You have done what you should do which was to apologize ....Next step is pack your bag and make yourself scarce in that house ... I will turn to a local masquerade that appears occasionally if I were you ...

sisisioge:
Let her be, she's not God. You have done your best and she is as guilty as you are in creating this mess.

Just make your peace with God and move on from her....move far away for aslong as it takes biko. One day, she will get someone you respect to apologize too. People like her are harmful to your physical and mental health not withstanding the fact shes your mother. My God help us....hope you've learnt something. Avoid wahala the best you can...no one is worth the torture that follows guilt. Pele.

Iyaebe:
Your apologies mustn’t be verbal,do things that pleases her for now and when you’ve won her heart then remind her again that you still waiting for her forgiveness and after that you wisely keep your distance while still caring for her. Just make sure you earn her forgiveness at all cost for your own peace of mind.You have a very difficult mom but you must be wise in your dealings with her.

johhbekeboh09:


God's forgiven you jare! If I were you I won't call or visit her for a long time
You done the needful calling an elderly family friend to apologise to her

GoldenJAT:
I am going to be very blunt and honest with you, though majority here, may not agree with me on my assertion.
I read through your first post and had to restrain myself from saying anything then, because I was quite bittered.
Your mum is a toxic, manipulative woman!! And such people should have no place in a sane person's life.
She pushed you to your limit, and as with every individual u reacted (albeit in an unacceptable manner though!!) But believe me it was necessary.
The Bible that made reference to parents not pushing their children to anger, knew the message it was passing across. When parents/elders that should ordinary be the custodian of peace, chooses to act otherwise, then they should accept anything that comes their way.
I can see you are sincerely sorry with the steps you had taken!! Don't allow anyone to blackmail you into submission!!
Nothing will happen to you now and in the nearest future, if you are a loving parent to your kids.
Mama Way say peace no go de for her family, she sef no GO GET PEACE.

backnbeta:
Beg continuously, bribing her aka buying her what she likes or doing what she likes to appease her will only wet her appetite for more bribes. There must be someone somewhere she respects- get that person to beg on your behalf. To avoid history repeating itself, keep your distance from her after this episode. Above all, pray for forgiveness and once you feel good in your spirit, you should move on and let it all go!