tiswell:
in other words, if a man cheats,the woman should also cheat to balance the equation and have her own pound of flesh ba?

LadyRosa:



I never said that in all my write up.Is that what you're insinuating?

LadyRosa:



I earn more than my man.

There are several men who gets bullied, disrespected and devalued by their own 'housewives'.

tiswell:
not really,but in a nutshell, what do you think is the best way to handle a cheating partner?

RightToReject:
It has always been happening long before this new era. It has only gotten worse in this new era, however, due to the following mentioned and unmentioned factors:

- Easier access to information, contact, and connection.

- Nonsense philosophies being propagated by small-minded elements in the name of wokeness, for example, most men now want to be chosen by women for a relationship/marriage; wanting to be loved by the women in their lives rather than being the ones to love their women and having them reciprocate through submission as that's where their forte lies.

- Most women now mistake equality/liberty for rights to unscrupulousness, while having some men supporting the same in the name of wokeness.

Mariangeles:


You have a way with words.

Although, contempt for women seem to be your muse.
I hope to someday read something positive from you (not necessarily about women) that will not require you bashing women, then will I be convinced.

emmaodet:
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At the bolded..............Nobody says a woman should not fvck all men from egbeda to iyana ipaja, all we are asking for or saying is that IF YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH AND MATURED ENOUGH TO FVCK AROUND, THEN YOU SHOULD BE OLD ENOUGH AND MATURED ENOUGH TO PAY YOU DAMNNNNNNNNNNN BILL...... Stay alone and fvck all the dicks you want, nobody will query you.
The men who are sleeping around are not collecting the money from their women............hope you get that. They woek for their own damn money.

LadyRosa:


Handle?Why not try walking away?
For those who wishes to handle,like me I employ being highly medically sensitive.My fear ain't the cheating because I can handle that to an extent,but I'm more scared if diseases.i hate medical problems.

Sureboyy:

If you aren't loved by your wife or being chosen by your wife, i see it difficult for her to triumph temptations that may come in the course of the marriage..
Times have changed
This so called women these days find it difficult to be submissive unless they love you...This ain't rocket science
It's what is happening now and I don't see a big deal if a man makes sure his wife loves him than him being the one to love the woman.
I prefer it though and I would most definitely use this as my criteria when looking for a woman to get married to.

Heiterkeit:



This 'I am equal to a man' so you do not believe that women and men are equal?

immortalmortal:


Most married women who sleep around don't get money in return

emmaodet:


You didn’t get my message.
I am against a married woman sleeping around but against the statement- if the hubby is doing it, then the wife can do it.
The woman should take care of her bills and stay alone if banging around is what she wants and not someone else taking care of her bills and another banging her.
If she is old enough to bang, she should be old enough to pay her own bills 100%

emmaodet:


You didn’t get my message.
I am against a married woman sleeping around but against the statement- if the hubby is doing it, then the wife can do it.
The woman should take care of her bills and stay alone if banging around is what she wants and not someone else taking care of her bills and another banging her.
If she is old enough to bang, she should be old enough to pay her own bills 100%

emmaodet:


You didn’t get my message.
I am against a married woman sleeping around but against the statement- if the hubby is doing it, then the wife can do it.
The woman should take care of her bills and stay alone if banging around is what she wants and not someone else taking care of her bills and another banging her.
If she is old enough to bang, she should be old enough to pay her own bills 100%

QuinModah:
Are you married?

LadyRosa:



Next month.... Second marriage.

RightToReject:



Besides the loss of masculine energy - it'll take someone with in-depth knowledge of metaphysics to understand - a man, in most cases, stands to become a means to an end rather than an end when being chosen by a woman for a relationship/marriage because women, inherently, are more receptive to receiving than giving. A case of when desirable is not available, available becomes desirable. For an example, being chosen by a promiscuous woman who, of course, will gloss her real self, interest, and intention with the exhibition of passionate emotion, which is fleeting, and sanctimony on you, makes it easier for her to engage in adultery - the only difference here will be that you, as the man, won't even believe she does even when caught red-handed because of the effect of stockholm syndrome erroneously termed love from you.

Both of you are safer for each other when she falls in love with you - which breeds acts of submissiveness - than when you expect/have her doing the loving. The former is sustainable because it's necessitated by action, while the latter is fleeting because it's necessitated by passion and/or disingenuousness. So, her ethical leanings, better if she's from strong ethical leanings and you chose her on that basis, will always be the ultimate decider whether she will take delight in adultery and other vices or not, not her choosing you and exhibiting passionate emotion, which is fleeting, around you.

Summarily, as a man, you are safer having a standard you live on than expectations from a woman or anybody at all; you are safer having a woman who respects herself and whatever intangible/immaterial thing that serves as a bond holding the two of you than expecting her to love you. Expectation, worse when it advances to a sense of entitlement, which is usually inevitable, breeds disunity, disappointment, and destruction. By the way, no proponent of hypergamy has love, at least not genuine/practical love to give you as a man.

Acidosis:
This is bound to happen na. Someone slept with more than 20 men within 25 years, and you expect that same person to stick with one partner for 70 years because of wedding band? Kolewerk na.

Go to a typical university campus and see what young girls do with their bodies. You can't have a body count of 30 before age 30 and expect that same body to adjust to one count for life because of vow. The raging hormones you failed to put under control do not give a fvck about your vow or whatever it is you did on your wedding day.

The decision to remain faithful to one partner MUST begin in your teenage years. You can't possibly train your body to remain faithful few weeks to your wedding.

Old wine ALWAYS taste better

LadyRosa:
Well,it's no news that there is now a surge in women, married women committing adultery in today's Nigeria.Out of 10 adultery cases on nairaland, more than half has got women as the culprit.Infact, only this week on Frontpage,more than 10 cases from nairalanders has been recorded.

Why now?What went wrong? What could be the reasons for the skyrocketing cases of cheating wives?

Revenge?

Bad xxxx?
Economic limitations and the need to keep up financial independence in gender competitive Nigeria?
Domestic abuse and subjugation?
Religious ingenuity by respected clerics?
Age?
Social media and it's larger than life attributes,a platform where disadvantaged persons can paint a picture perfect life and get away with it?

OR?
Has men become really effeminate?

I now noticed this ugly strain in NL, disgusting yet calls for deep reflection.Our men are becoming more and more loquacious than their female counterpart,they complain too much.This bantle of 'bitterness' associated with Nigeria women as been thrown to the men.Its really disgusting to say the least,I think women are supposed to be the talkatives here and not the men.Omo,the rants are getting worst with the males ñot even giving the women chance to express themselves EVEN on threads that are specifically for the women.I believe that it shows there are more jobless men than women in Nigeria.Loads and lot of verbal assault been hurled and women who have now decided to see nothing wrong in being a baby mama or a LovePeddler.Now,many of them glorifies the word.We can see that with the way a lady exposed her white pant in a birthday photoshoot recently.

So many damaged marriages.Single women and men competing in corporations, having illicit Bleep,going home to sleep like nothing happened , resuming next day competing with each other all over again.I have friends in the island who live like this.The married ones still sleep around,the single ones keep late nights with different guys and in all I noticed they value money more than marriage.As long as the money keeps rolling in,Omo _penis no hard to get,na money be de Koko.
And it is what it is.As long as _vagina ain't free,_penis is and so for the women,it's a win win for them You pay to get mine by cash or otherwise,I get yours any damn time I want.So?

Marriage in general is truly overrated.

It will surely get worst.

Acidosis:
This is bound to happen na. Someone slept with more than 20 men within 25 years, and you expect that same person to stick with one partner for 70 years because of wedding band? Kolewerk na.

Go to a typical university campus and see what young girls do with their bodies. You can't have a body count of 30 before age 30 and expect that same body to adjust to one count for life because of vow. The raging hormones you failed to put under control do not give a fvck about your vow or whatever it is you did on your wedding day.

The decision to remain faithful to one partner MUST begin in your teenage years. You can't possibly train your body to remain faithful few weeks to your wedding.

Old wine ALWAYS taste better

Rawhumper:
Nice one, its alarming the trend is heading to infinity.

Well married women are more adulterous
because they never valued their marriage at
first, most came into it just to become
mothers and wives, so they can be respected
as Mrs.

Anytime I say or illustrate, I like using myself to give example to support it.

I am guilty of sucking, fingering and fucking married women, but I thank God I have stopped that.

The simple truth is women love sex more than the guys, but the difference is, women naturally choose their paryners .

If you want to know am wrong, meet a lady in a tight corner...just look good and make
sexual advancement to her, talk good things
and touch her senstivite parts gently, I bet
you she will be wet and ready for a quickie.
As long nobody is looking, and she doesn't
see or know you around her area. In most
cases, she will Bleep except she has her
monthly visitor or had childhood abuses.

Nowadays, women are not only moved by words, but by what they see too and feel.

yanabasee:
I swear and I will swear again....


No matter how long we are married... the day I discover that you've cheated on me, is the day the marriage ends....


I won't even care about the kids ... any of them that would come with me will be the child that I will care for, if you follow your cheating mother, I disown you too ...

Seriously speaking, you can't do nonsense in marriage with me...


I read how that man stood and watch his wife cuddled a driver in the fish market inside the shop he opened for her ... Aje, I go just come back house begin park your loads for you.... You bleeped up and I don't have a time to write epistles on NL asking for people's opinion...

Jossyfine:
All these long epistles isn’t gonna solve a shit.
The bottom line is husbands should burst this ‘men are polygamous in nature’ and remain faithful to their partners because most women are sick and tired of fighting their husbands because of promiscuity so in turn they are learning their husbands skills.

Please, am not supporting adulterous wives ooo. But men’s own are tooooo much. Most of the men have killed the love and trust their wives have for them because of cheating , so any random guy that shows them green light, they will just fall yakata.

Marriages can be spiced by couples, if they so wish .

If you can’t stick to one woman, you don’t have any biz getting married.

QuinModah:

dontrulee:


That your tale of meeting a lady in an isolated place and doing those stuffs shows you be correct man and Sabi the drill.

YinkaOlusesi16:
Every thing is linked to lack of money.