frozen70:


If she has a good relationship with her husband families, she should take the letter to them and plead with them to consider her because of that child

But bear in mind that, his family was part of the divorce plans probably because she doesn't know how to do eye services to them, by visiting them and doing one eye service domestic chores

Then your question about divorcing in absential, he knows what he is doing so far he got his family backing

But we pray it gets solved

JONNYSPUTE:
.... You dey mind am ?. Lol

RightToReject:
I don't want to believe that you will allow your sister to consent to his divorce request just like that, unless you don't have the wherewithal and your sister is not sincerely blameless; else, you ought to make him taste the bitter pill of treachery by any means possible before granting him the divorce he sought for.

Opportunism is evil. The idea of allowing someone who consciously comes into your life and entered a for better for worse agreement with you but still thinks that hir has the right to violate the same agreement at will and unprovoked after disorganizing you in the name of being entitled to hir rights to liberty ought not to be allowed to happen without first meting out some pernicious acts on the traitor, regardless of any material benefit expected from the separation.

Mariangeles:


What would you do if you were in his position?

RightToReject:


You're not corrupt enough to know the unpalatable pernicious acts; such detail is best reserved for someone that is a bit advanced in corruption like me to avoid leading you astray unnecessarily.

HeyHey:
If your sister is in Osun state, you can pm me.

First, yes he can divorce her in absentia. By using a proxy or virtual hearing.
Second, Unless he can prove that your sister is a bad mother, he can’t take the child. No court will grant a female minor to a father she hasn’t seen for years
Third, that your sister’s money is inside the building makes it as much hers as well. She just needs to know the right witnesses to call and she WILL retain the house.

Finally, she should let him go, and request for maintenance for her and the child monthly.

Most men in such circumstances loss more money, since the divorce is propelled by greed.

You can PM me. I practice in Osun

Alexgeneration:
Stop lying to her madam lawyer.

If her money is in the building, it will be liquidated and the proceeds will be shared accordingly.

She will not get a dime for maintenance.


The cost of the children's food,shelter, clothes and education will be borne by both parties (this might be very to enforce cos the man is not within the court's jurisdiction).

Mariangeles:
Hehehehehehehehehehehehe

HeyHey:



Have you handled divorce before?, or have you handled divorce where the woman supervised the building project?

Cost of children anything is borne by the man, and alimony will be paid to the woman since the man is the adulterous party. He is married, his wife will be sued as well as third party (adulteress)

From what you have said any way, I know you have never witnessed divorce, you are not a lawyer, you are not conversant with Matrimonial Act and Matrimonial Procedure Rules. And most of all, you are saying what you lack any iota of clue about.

Kobojunkie:
Explain this your laugh abeg!

Wetin you want make I do na?

You sef go read that comment again.

RightToReject:


You're not corrupt enough to know the unpalatable pernicious acts; such detail is best reserved for someone that is a bit advanced in corruption like me to avoid leading you astray unnecessarily.

Mariangeles:
Wetin you want make I do na?
You sef go read that comment again.

Ishilove:
May God save us from time wasters. After wasting 11 years of her life waiting for an absentee husband, the best years of her youth, he now wants to dump her and take a child that he has no connection with.

Useless men everywhere. Utterly useless.

Op, let your sis fight to keep the house and her child. That's her compensation for time wasted.

Kobojunkie:

Mariangeles:
You see?
That lady comments dey most times make me laugh.

Kobojunkie:
She reminds me alot of Tpia from back in the days.

Mariangeles:
I wasn't from back then, so I'm not familiar with that monicker.

Although, I've read from some nairalanders that you seem like the Tpia individual.

Kobojunkie:
I doubt anyone who really knew Tpia, and myself, would ever consider us similar in anyway. I used to be hyperpolitical, something Tpia wasn't even though she was a regular in the politics sections.

She was more able to connect to people on a personal level than I could... she has records on people even to somewhat disturbing levels, and I was just this person focused on discussing just the issue of the day and not much else. Her quarrels always left me wondering if she knew some of the folks intimately cause I was always like clueless as to what going on anytime she got on someone's case.

Yeah, I used to be really disconnected back then. This new me is a friendly version of who I used to be..

Mariangeles:

She was that infamous? Yikes!
I like this you.

Kobojunkie:
I would instead say she was interesting because sometimes when you get her, you get her, but when you don't... don't bother, just move on.

I like this me too cause I am less ADHD and less political.

Mariangeles:

OK.
This you is active, yet calm.
Your aura is pleasant too. I'm attracted to it.

Ishilove:
May God save us from time wasters. After wasting 11 years of her life waiting for an absentee husband, the best years of her youth, he now wants to dump her and take a child that he has no connection with.

Useless men everywhere. Utterly useless.

Op, let your sis fight to keep the house and her child. That's her compensation for time wasted.

ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
Good evening Nairalanders, please I don't want to bore you with much stories, I just need a legal advice from lawyers on the FORUM. my sister who has been Legally married 8years ago to this guy, I wasn't around during their wedding because I work far away maiduguri then, the wedding took place in OSUN STATE, few months she gave birth, this guy travelled abroad on invitation visa by his family members, the guy has shown so much responsibility as a man and as a father at the beginning when he first arrived at his current country home of residence, my sister always told me how he use to send money for her and her child(only daughter) upkeep and communication was good between them, sometime in 2014, this guy having learned I work in Abuja, he personally contacted me and told me his plan to take his wife with him to abroad that he will need my assistance to help Authenticate all my sister's documents from Federal ministry of foreign affairs which I did, probably this doesn't go down well with family members or God knows what happened this guy sundenlly make U-turn and stop communicating with my sister, after several findings, he claimed his family had told him my sister was lying to collect money from him and spending such recklessly! That's her offence which he stated in the divorce letter. When I got the story like over five years ago, I heavily criticize my sister believing she must have done something worse than that for her husband to suddenly take Such action against her but what brought my interest in the case was when she sent me copy of divorce letter and I read through, I can't pinpoint to any serious offence she might have committed to warrant divorce all his excuses was baseless and earsay as the husband in question has never return back to nigeria since he travelled and from information my sister got, the husband secretly married to another wife in abroad Netherland to be precise while he still legally married to my sister here in nigeria.
My question now are:
- is it possible to divorce a woman in
absentia?
- The husband was requesting the custody of the only child the marriage produced to take to abroad, in my opinion I objected to that since the husband has married to another wife over there,the safety of the child is important.
- she's currently living in the house they
both built together which she
superviced during construction! They both contributed to the project while the husband was also sending money to build. Will she
be sent packing without any form of compensation?
Please MOD should please help me push to the front page to to have legal interpretation to the issue. Thanks i will be in comment section to take your advice. Ignor any error and advise

yinkeys:
I repeat
No man will leave a good woman because they’re scarce.
The man was obviously enduring rubbish
Even if he got married to another woman because of green or blue card, trust me he’d always return to his wife back home

Mindlog:


No man will leave?

In this story, the man is at a disadvantage if the Nigerian wife is conscious of the law because " the husband secretly married to another wife in abroad Netherland to be precise while he still legally married to my sister here in nigeria".......All she needs to do is go to the Dutch Embassy in Nigeria and present their marriage certificate, the guy will be arrested by the Dutch police because he would have claimed to be single for him to get married in the Netherlands.

yinkeys:

Do you know what a good woman/wife is ?

ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
Good evening Nairalanders, please I don't want to bore you with much stories, I just need a legal advice from lawyers on the FORUM. my sister who has been Legally married 8years ago to this guy, I wasn't around during their wedding because I work far away maiduguri then, the wedding took place in OSUN STATE, few months she gave birth, this guy travelled abroad on invitation visa by his family members, the guy has shown so much responsibility as a man and as a father at the beginning when he first arrived at his current country home of residence, my sister always told me how he use to send money for her and her child(only daughter) upkeep and communication was good between them, sometime in 2014, this guy having learned I work in Abuja, he personally contacted me and told me his plan to take his wife with him to abroad that he will need my assistance to help Authenticate all my sister's documents from Federal ministry of foreign affairs which I did, probably this doesn't go down well with family members or God knows what happened this guy sundenlly make U-turn and stop communicating with my sister, after several findings, he claimed his family had told him my sister was lying to collect money from him and spending such recklessly! That's her offence which he stated in the divorce letter. When I got the story like over five years ago, I heavily criticize my sister believing she must have done something worse than that for her husband to suddenly take Such action against her but what brought my interest in the case was when she sent me copy of divorce letter and I read through, I can't pinpoint to any serious offence she might have committed to warrant divorce all his excuses was baseless and earsay as the husband in question has never return back to nigeria since he travelled and from information my sister got, the husband secretly married to another wife in abroad Netherland to be precise while he still legally married to my sister here in nigeria.
My question now are:
- is it possible to divorce a woman in
absentia?
- The husband was requesting the custody of the only child the marriage produced to take to abroad, in my opinion I objected to that since the husband has married to another wife over there,the safety of the child is important.
- she's currently living in the house they
both built together which she
superviced during construction! They both contributed to the project while the husband was also sending money to build. Will she
be sent packing without any form of compensation?
Please MOD should please help me push to the front page to to have legal interpretation to the issue. Thanks i will be in comment section to take your advice. Ignor any error and advise