Zanzibar1:
I have come here to raise this issue because i believe someone must have passed through what i am going through at the moment.

There is this Lady i met in March, she is super classy and has all the curves and looks like a model. What brought us together was just a friendly convo and a friendly tease that i admire her nails and since then she has been all over me.
She asked me if i lived alone and i told her i currently stay with a friend because i just relocated to the city based on job hunting levels. She asked what my plan was and i told her that i would like to first get an apartment while i sort out other things.

I don't know what exactly she does for a living although she said she sells women hairs, bags and shoes. I have actually seen her post them on her whatsapp. What surprise me the most was that she doesn't deny me access to her phone. This made me to loosen my grip a bit regarding my phone privacy ... Then one day, she saw a loan app message requesting me to pay my outstanding debt, she asked me how come and i told her the truth that i was seriously broke and i wanted to take her out. I wanted the two of us to go swim together and have fun. And that was why i took the loan. She frowned and asked why i was stressing myself to impress her .
She transfered some money to me to offset the debt. it all happened like juju. i am still trying to wrap my head around that.

I am trying my best to fit in with her but something is really off somewhere. I don't want to assume i know entirely what she does for a living but then, i have grown to really admire her. I wouldn't want to call it love but all my thoughts are always about her nowadays. Like 4 days ago i questioned her about some friends of hers i saw on her icloud and since then she has been giving me tough time.

Lately, she told me point blank that if i cant get my own apartment, she'll have to stop dating me. she said she is ready to even pay part of the money involved but a nigga got nothing to afford even a face me and face you room. I have tried my best to explain to her how i am even surviving and how broke i am to get a 150k self con. She keeps saying i am going to get a job and ill be fine, that i am a man and i will certainly raise the money if she as a lady can raise part of it.

I dont know why she believes so much in that tho cuz i have been very opened to her. My mind has been filled up and i dont have anyone to share it with thats why i brought it here. i have my doubts about her but i love her.

Please pardon any typos, i am writing this straight from my heart

FriendsAndFans:
You love her and you know it. You don't need to be hard on yourself.
Grown up girls/ladies always want their boyfriend to have their own place they stay.

She wants you to get your own place because her friends are probably taunting her for dating a broke boy despite all her beautiful looks. She is already giving in to those taunts from her friends eventhough she likes you.

She's the kind of girl you should keep. She's motivating you, the only way women knows how to. You may not know the social pressure she is facing among her colleagues for choosing you. Try to get an apartment bro...

PerfectStranger:
What are you doing in a relationship with a Nigerian girl when you could barely afford a house?
Sometimes na we dey use our hand cook breakfast give ourselves.

SNEFF:
you dey let girl wey no get 50k for account stress you..
why you wan impress the girl when you no get enough bar(money).. the girl even wise pass you

Kriss216:

You're concluding so fast...calm down and apply wisdom.

No beautiful and reserved Nigerian girl will be with a broke guy unless something is attached. This gender can't be in relationship without gaining anything. They can't love you for who you are but for what they stand to gain. Forget Nollywood.

luscioustrish:
She likes you and wants you to do better.
I don’t see where the problem is
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Was thinking I’d see something in your write up asking for a vacancy, your qualifications, location and the rest which should be your priority now.

Candidlady:


Lemme first say this.. you took a loan just to take a lady out a lady you met March and we are still in first/2nd week of May

Madness real madness

To the issue on ground
Idont think she is comfy coming to your friend's place.. me for one can't be free except we are only going to spliff and nothing else

Ireally don't know the setting of your friend's apartment but it seems like you guys share the same room... the lady can't be free cuz while anything is going on with you guys her mind will always be on the look out

Knock on the door
Footsteps of your friend roaming the house
Hearing him talk on the phone or with a neighbour

You won't even enjoy her, cuz her mind won't be in whatever thing you guys wanna get down with _ except you guys only wanna gist Shikena and the gisting ma will be selective talks_

Iswear icant be comfy

privacy is key and in another man's house privacy is something you might not get..

Advice
get your own apartment. But please no collect loan just cuz you wanna please the girl danAllah. Ipray Allah connects you to a job
Amin

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°°°[/b]nothing like dragging mari in the middle of the night°°° therapy for the soul•••

Kriss216:

You're concluding so fast...calm down and apply wisdom.

No beautiful and reserved Nigerian girl will be with a broke guy unless something is attached. This gender can't be in relationship without gaining anything. They can't love you for who you are but for what they stand to gain. Forget Nollywood.


OP, don't let her niceties becloud your sense of reasoning. Try and know what you're getting into before making a grave mistake.

Zanzibar1:
I have come here to raise this issue because i believe someone must have passed through what i am going through at the moment.

There is this Lady i met in March, she is super classy and has all the curves and looks like a model. What brought us together was just a friendly convo and a friendly tease that i admire her nails and since then she has been all over me.
She asked me if i lived alone and i told her i currently stay with a friend because i just relocated to the city based on job hunting levels. She asked what my plan was and i told her that i would like to first get an apartment while i sort out other things.

I don't know what exactly she does for a living although she said she sells women hairs, bags and shoes. I have actually seen her post them on her whatsapp. What surprise me the most was that she doesn't deny me access to her phone. This made me to loosen my grip a bit regarding my phone privacy ... Then one day, she saw a loan app message requesting me to pay my outstanding debt, she asked me how come and i told her the truth that i was seriously broke and i wanted to take her out. I wanted the two of us to go swim together and have fun. And that was why i took the loan. She frowned and asked why i was stressing myself to impress her .
She transfered some money to me to offset the debt. it all happened like juju. i am still trying to wrap my head around that.

I am trying my best to fit in with her but something is really off somewhere. I don't want to assume i know entirely what she does for a living but then, i have grown to really admire her. I wouldn't want to call it love but all my thoughts are always about her nowadays. Like 4 days ago i questioned her about some friends of hers i saw on her icloud and since then she has been giving me tough time.

Lately, she told me point blank that if i cant get my own apartment, she'll have to stop dating me. she said she is ready to even pay part of the money involved but a nigga got nothing to afford even a face me and face you room. I have tried my best to explain to her how i am even surviving and how broke i am to get a 150k self con. She keeps saying i am going to get a job and ill be fine, that i am a man and i will certainly raise the money if she as a lady can raise part of it.

I dont know why she believes so much in that tho cuz i have been very opened to her. My mind has been filled up and i dont have anyone to share it with thats why i brought it here. i have my doubts about her but i love her.

Please pardon any typos, i am writing this straight from my heart

Kriss216:

You're concluding so fast...calm down and apply wisdom.

No beautiful and reserved Nigerian girl will be with a broke guy unless something is attached. This gender can't be in relationship without gaining anything. They can't love you for who you are but for what they stand to gain. Forget Nollywood.


OP, don't let her niceties becloud your sense of reasoning. Try and know what you're getting into before making a grave mistake.