I met a Muslim lady in my final year, she was in her penultimate year. I was having reckless sex with plenty girls so my guys prevailed on me to at least get a girlfriend.

I started asking this girl out towards the end of the first semester till we resume for second semester. She turned down my proposal, she said she promised herself not to go into relationship throughout her school years, unless I will wait for her to graduate before she can consider anything. I told her the waiting is not necessary, I will meet other people and my life is not pause.

I moved on and after my final exam I return to Abuja while she is in her final year. She started calling to seek advice on how to go about her I.T program, I consider it harmless so I gave her the advice. When she was done with her I.T I expected her to stop calling but she won't stop.

She calls and even complained that I don't call. She requested three project topics from me, I sent it to her. Then one evening she chatted me up and we had an argument because I told her I am not religious and she wants to enforce religion on me. After the argument she informed me that she lost the topics I sent earlier that I should resend it which I ignored. Since then if she is calling I don't answer nor reply her messages.

She called me the last time and I told her bluntly that since we didn't date while I was in school, we can't date again, I don't do distance relationship. And then I don't want us to be friends either because it's not good for my emotional health. She was hurt but I was happy.

Most girls will turn you down and they still have the confidence to seek your help, asking for favour, believing you will be simping for them.

I grew up with abundance mentality, I don't beg for relationship, I ask. I didn't bring this story here to bash the ladies but to just engage you guys why a girl will think she can get favour from whom she turned down.

My female friends think I am blunt and don't consider people's feeling when I am doing or saying something especially towards women.

You are mentally young.

How will I explain to you that you can offer help to random people without expecting anything in return which is actually one of the keys to peace of mind and a life free of jealousy and nagging?

You took the red pill quite early

So why are you telling us this shit??

Op, you are a complete child!

I am disgusted reading this.

Why do most Nigerian men always want something?

What is wrong with just being friends with a female? Smh!

You don't know them.

For many of them, being friends with someone they like and refuses to date feels like having indiscriminate sex for guys. They enjoy it so much.

I'm sure she's telling all her friends sob story of how you broke her heart.

I did same to a girl around December, although mine was partly unintentional. The way I broke her heart ehn, even me I couldn't believe it.

Girls should learn to be friends with their partners or their female friends.

@Demigod22 you're still in pains because she turned you down when you asked her out.

Don't worry with time you're gonna heal okay! Sorry!

You re a kid bro. A crush of mine who turned my proposal down sometimes ago must be secretely regretting that now cause we still good friends and she discovered that i'm more of a great guy than she ever thought of.

AishaDant:
Op, you are a complete child!

I am disgusted reading this.

Why do most Nigerian men always want something?

What is wrong with just being friends with a female? Smh!

a million things. You sef know.. it's in your nature to take bros for fools when they start to do favours for you lot with nothing attached.. females don't know how to handle friendship, they would turn you to a maga in split seconds especially if you're not one of em strong willed males.

I have female friends but I like to keep some distance away from them... Lest see finish sneaks in and they think they can take advantage of me.

Jennyclay:
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Cow.

Officialgarri:
You are mentally young.

How will I explain to you that you can offer help to random people without expecting anything in return which is actually one of the keys to peace of mind and a life free of jealousy and nagging?

Please stop thinking like this.

The help she's trying to get from him is what she could get elsewhere but the girl prefers to do so from him because she's enjoying it. You don't want to know how much women enjoy attention.

If she couldn't help the young man by breaking her promise to date him why should she expect him to be her bestie when he has his own standards too.

Imagine complaining someone who isn't your partner doesn't call you? No be juju be that?

Karleb:
You don't know them.

For many of them, being friends with someone they like and refuses to date feels like having indiscriminate sex for guys. They enjoy it so much.

I'm sure she's telling all her friends sob story of how you broke her heart.

I did same to a girl around December, although mine was partly unintentional. The way I broke her heart ehn, even me I couldn't believe it.

Girls should learn to be friends with their partners or their female friends.

sense will not assassinate you brother.

SarutobiEky:
a million things. You sef know.. it's in your nature to take bros for fools when they start to do favours for you lot with nothing attached.. females don't know how to handle friendship, they would turn you to a maga in split seconds especially if you're not one of em strong willed males.

I have female friends but I like to keep some distance away from them... Lest see finish sneaks in and they think they can take advantage of me.

That means you have had bad experiences with female friends and I have had bad experiences with male friends but it does not mean everyone is the same way.

I like to give people a chance until they mess it up, instead of walking around and thinking everyone is bad. Different faces, different personalities!

Officialgarri:
You are mentally young.

How will I explain to you that you can offer help to random people without expecting anything in return which is actually one of the keys to peace of mind and a life free of jealousy and nagging?

I offered help to random people when I can afford. When I return back to my alma mater, I help couple of people with project guidelines, I organized tutorials for all the levels, I gave out money, I help randomly. If you know me personally, you will agree with me that I am generous intellectually, financially, emotionally and otherwise.

She is not a random person, she is someone I asked out and she said No, I don't expect such a person to seek favour from me. Some people are just opportunistic or parasitic. What will I benefit from her friendship? NOTHING.

AishaDant:
Op, you are a complete child!

I am disgusted reading this.

Why do most Nigerian men always want something?

What is wrong with just being friends with a female? Smh!

Close mouth.

Pussyassasin:
You took the red pill quite early

I am very glad I took it early. It's a testimony I will forever share, I am not going to simp for any lady. I am the trophy.

blazingblender:
So why are you telling us this shit??

Go back and read the seventh paragraph, the answer to your question is there. Read to understand before commenting.

Your head dey swell abi
You are probably 14
Grow the f*ck up.

AishaDant:
Op, you are a complete child!

I am disgusted reading this.

Why do most Nigerian men always want something?

What is wrong with just being friends with a female? Smh!

I have many female friends that are healthy, they call me the way I call them, the friendship is reciprocal. But I won't and can't be friend with someone I asked out and she said no. I won't benefit anything from such parasitic friendship.

So everything is wrong with it.

Karleb:
You don't know them.

For many of them, being friends with someone they like and refuses to date feels like having indiscriminate sex for guys. They enjoy it so much.

I'm sure she's telling all her friends sob story of how you broke her heart.

I did same to a girl around December, although mine was partly unintentional. The way I broke her heart ehn, even me I couldn't believe it.

Girls should learn to be friends with their partners or their female friends.

You are reasonable and logical bro. Girls should understand that as a guy, we have girls we want to date and girls we want as a friend. If a girl decides to be just friend she shouldn't expect a girlfriend treatment from a male friend.

Jennyclay:
@Demigod22 you're still in pains because she turned you down when you asked her out.

Don't worry with time you're gonna heal okay! Sorry!

LoL, if you read the first paragraph I said I was having reckless sex, which means that I have lot of girls around. I don't necessarily have a girlfriend but I have girls, but then as a final year student I decided to give a shot.

I have abundance mentality, self esteem and self value, I am not pained. She wants to come around and enjoy girlfriend treatment for being a friend, but I have many options so I discouraged her.

Wawelexy:
You re a kid bro. A crush of mine who turned my proposal down sometimes ago must be secretely regretting that now cause we still good friends and she discovered that i'm more of a great guy than she ever thought of.

Her regret is not beneficial to you. If you call me kid I won't react because I am in my mid twenties, so I can actually be kid to you, that's if you are advance in age.

I have female friends, very great people, they know me and know their boundaries. I enjoyed the friendship and we help one another without second thought, but girls I have asked out and said no and still want to enjoy the girlfriend treatment won't succeed with me.

I am a great guy too. SUG president, best graduating student, school entertainer, fellowship leader, popular and selfless, which most people know in school.

Demigod22:


LoL, if you read the first paragraph I said I was having reckless sex, which means that I have lot of girls around. I don't necessarily have a girlfriend but I have girls, but then as a final year student I decided to give a shot.

I have abundance mentality, self esteem and self value, I am not pained. She wants to come around and enjoy girlfriend treatment for being a friend, but I have many options so I discouraged her.

Your first paragraph is just a mere statement so that your fellow wannabe redpillers won't shame you by calling you a simp... I really understand.

You're still in pains!!!! You will heal okay!!!

SarutobiEky:
a million things. You sef know.. it's in your nature to take bros for fools when they start to do favours for you lot with nothing attached.. females don't know how to handle friendship, they would turn you to a maga in split seconds especially if you're not one of em strong willed males.

I have female friends but I like to keep some distance away from them... Lest see finish sneaks in and they think they can take advantage of me.

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You exactly understand the logic bro. A female friend that wants to enjoy the benefit of girlfriend. Just friends and she is already enforcing religion on me, the girl don't even know how boundaries.

Most girls can't handle friendship.

Karleb:


Please stop thinking like this.

The help she's trying to get from him is what she could get elsewhere but the girl prefers to do so from him because she's enjoying it. You don't want to know how much women enjoy attention.

If she couldn't help the young man by breaking her promise to date him why should she expect him to be her bestie when he has his own standards too.

Imagine complaining someone who isn't your partner doesn't call you? No be juju be that?

I sighted an intelligent man, his name is Karleb. You are on point bro.

AishaDant:


That means you have had bad experiences with female friends and I have had bad experiences with male friends but it does not mean everyone is the same way.

I like to give people a chance until they mess it up, instead of walking around and thinking everyone is bad. Different faces, different personalities!

Give me a chance and reply my DM

Demi003:
Your head dey swell abi
You are probably 14
Grow the f*ck up.

LoL, it's not an achievement. And you really think I am 14? With ASUU, I don't think someone who schooled in Nigeria will graduate from University at the age of 14. Even Lai Muhammad won't be this disillusional.

Jennyclay:
Your first paragraph is just a mere statement so that your fellow wannabe redpillers won't shame you by calling you a simp... I really understand.

You're still in pains!!!! You will heal okay!!!

Don't feed your female ego with this imagined feeling, if I am not that good she won't be coming around. And if I don't have options, I might still be simping for her.

I am not a redpiller, I am just an exceptional individual that doesn't encourage been taken advantage of.

Demigod22:
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You exactly understand the logic bro. A female friend that wants to enjoy the benefit of girlfriend. Just friends and she is already enforcing religion on me, the girl don't even know how boundaries.

Most girls can't handle friendship.

you smart. I wish my other bros could wake up.

AishaDant:


That means you have had bad experiences with female friends and I have had bad experiences with male friends but it does not mean everyone is the same way.

I like to give people a chance until they mess it up, instead of walking around and thinking everyone is bad. Different faces, different personalities!

maybe you have a point but that doesn't change the fact that majority of our ladies are guilty of this

justscorchone:


Give me a chance and reply my DM

No vex o.

Friendships should come naturally. Typing "give me a chance" is begging for friendship, it doesn't matter if it's with a guy or a girl.

Unless of course we both know you don't actually want to be just friends with this fellow.

Demigod22:


Her regret is not beneficial to you. If you call me kid I won't react because I am in my mid twenties, so I can actually be kid to you, that's if you are advance in age.

I have female friends, very great people, they know me and know their boundaries. I enjoyed the friendship and we help one another without second thought, but girls I have asked out and said no and still want to enjoy the girlfriend treatment won't succeed with me.

I am a great guy too. SUG president, best graduating student, school entertainer, fellowship leader, popular and selfless, which most people know in school.

no mind dawan I'm certain he's prolly trying to go the extra mile to make her realize what she missed by buying her stuff, sending her random gifts etc. The girl go dey regret dey chop am with style.. dey enjoy favors from am . Lol