DenreleDave:
I still don't get.. Are men built to work and not enjoy?

My first instance: A very popular nairalander loves to show her kids all time which is not bad but she doesn't even mention her husband.....
What baffles me most is this statement; "my money is for me and my kids"...

Does it Mean a wife cannot even treat her husband well too?

I guess this is the main reason some men ignore their wife and kids to enjoy their lives... They know that most kids grow to love their mother..

I don't blame such men.... But I don't hope to have such a wife that have the mentality of my kids and I ALONE?


2ndly, I feel most women are not happy in their marriage which is why all they live for is their kids.. The only reason why most ladies are still under the same roof is because of the kids and their lack of financial resources to stand alone... Most are just having sex, doing mommy and daddy bcoz of the kids but the true essence of marriage between has long dissappeared...

If not, in my own perception, a happily married woman should be proud of her husband. She should happily treat her husband well. She should say wonderful things about her husband.

Marriage dey fear me walahi....

SoapQueen:


The bond between a mother and a child cannot be broken, even God knew that, and that's why He created every pregnant woman with an umbilical cord.

It doesn't mean that wives love their children more than their husbands, it's just nature.

My 3 month old baby may need my attention, love, and care because he/she can clearly not take care of him/herself but my husband can and will.

Second, motherhood is alot. And Nigerian men are in the habit of over stressing their wives. When a mother has tended to her kids, cleaned the house, shopped at the market, and done the laundry, she has little time left for her man. My sister once told me that she stopped having a full night's sleep the day she became a mother.

Third, you expect me to love a man that cheats or will cheat over my dearly beloved child that I nurtured in my body and brought into this world?

Impossible!!!!

JONNYSPUTE:
.....You mentioned me saying rubbish. Pls don't try it next time. I don't do kids.

olasaad:
I think Infidelity is one of the reasons this happened in most marriages. The moment your wife suspect you of having extra marital affair she will definitely change and the love and affection you are getting from her before will authomatically move to her children.

SoapQueen:


The bond between a mother and a child cannot be broken, even God knew that, and that's why He created every pregnant woman with an umbilical cord.

It doesn't mean that wives love their children more than their husbands, it's just nature.

You are so on point

My 3 month old baby may need my attention, love, and care because he/she can clearly not take care of him/herself but my husband can and will.

Second, motherhood is alot. And Nigerian men are in the habit of over stressing their wives. When a mother has tended to her kids, cleaned the house, shopped at the market, and done the laundry, she has little time left for her man. My sister once told me that she stopped having a full night's sleep the day she became a mother.

Third, you expect me to love a man that cheats or will cheat over my dearly beloved child that I nurtured in my body and brought into this world?

Impossible!!!!

Amumaigwe:



What if it is the woman that is having extra marital affair, also explain what happened to the love for her husband.

pocohantas:


Generally, you are right about this. You can never go wrong with a man who provides and supports. If your woman has to break her back to survive while you are alive and well, resentment would set in. A man who knows his onions should never allow that.

DenreleDave:


If you had sense, you would know that this is not Abt calling people out...

This is abt what's happening in most marriages..... We are just seeing it here openly but it happens in most.....

And what is rude abt talking abt marital issues

Saintmary:



You can't eat your cake and have it

samuel051:
Someone raised a very valid concern about things happening in the society, didn't mention names but oversabi people started tagging her and she still came to blab too..
Some people can be very senseless and na them Sabi loud pass for this forum.

JONNYSPUTE:
..... Me ma I do enjoy my outing with the kids alone.
I always want them to be missing me whenever I'm not around.

I heard one telling his mum yesterday after we came back that he loves their daddy because he always buy them anything they want but if it's her she will tell them to shut up. I just dey one corner dey laugh. Lol.

samuel051:
Someone raised a very valid concern about things happening in the society, didn't mention names but oversabi people started tagging her and she still came to blab too..
Some people can be very senseless and na them Sabi loud pass for this forum.

hairyman:
Reading the comments, I have observed that most men have swallowed the falsehood that children are more attached to their mothers than fathers.

The fact is that children are closer to the parent who gives them the most interesting attention and meet their needs.

I chat with my kids all the time, we talk about everything ranging from who they played with at school, names of classmates, who didn't turn up at school, what they think about aliens, how it feels like to travel in space, how we can get 10 packs (my daughter prefers 10 packs to 6).

I buy them books, talk about the books with them, crack jokes, read them bed time stories.

On top of all of these, I am the dude with the ATM and I use it freely.

Mehn, once I am around, my kids do not remember my wife.

But there is a caveat, my kids know in very clear terms, that I am their father, not their friend.

Men should learn to pay more attention to their kids.
But as for preference for mother's, I can assure you that it is false.

pozehnani:


Nope I won't leave her out cos I'm using her as a case study here for you to judge the general issue and Know why it's like that.

It's a lie. Men have side chick because it's in their nature to cheat and not because their spouse didn't give them a treat. Don't try to justify that act.

Harsh. What advise do you have for men that their wives give sex very sparingly like once in a month so we after having lol her children?

DenreleDave:
I still don't get.. Are men built to work and not enjoy?

My first instance: A very popular nairalander loves to show her kids all time which is not bad but she doesn't even mention her husband.....
What baffles me most is this statement; "my money is for me and my kids"...

Does it Mean a wife cannot even treat her husband well too?

I guess this is the main reason some men ignore their wife and kids to enjoy their lives... They know that most kids grow to love their mother..

I don't blame such men.... But I don't hope to have such a wife that have the mentality of my kids and I ALONE?


2ndly, I feel most women are not happy in their marriage which is why all they live for is their kids.. The only reason why most ladies are still under the same roof is because of the kids and their lack of financial resources to stand alone... Most are just having sex, doing mommy and daddy bcoz of the kids but the true essence of marriage between has long dissappeared...

If not, in my own perception, a happily married woman should be proud of her husband. She should happily treat her husband well. She should say wonderful things about her husband.

Marriage dey fear me walahi....

Beremx:
that Dude is sick. You tackled him well

DenreleDave:


If you had sense, you would know that this is not Abt calling people out...

This is abt what's happening in most marriages..... We are just seeing it here openly but it happens in most.....

And what is rude abt talking abt marital issues

olasaad:
I think Infidelity is one of the reasons this happened in most marriages. The moment your wife suspect you of having extra marital affair she will definitely change and the love and affection you are getting from her before will authomatically move to her children.

Margy:


This is the answer!.. when I wife notices her husband flirts, engages in extra marital affair..take it or leave, her love automatically shifts to the kids!...
No woman ,I repeat No woman whose husband is faithful to her and shares all emotions with her will ever show love to only the kids...impossible

sameoldguy:


If you like play with them from now till the end of the year, they’ll still prefer their mother to you cos the society have made them believe that women/mothers love the kids more

Iphone5:


Exactly, e dey pain me say some people wey i think say dey sensible for this forum are just Senseless

Margy:


This is the answer!.. when I wife notices her husband flirts, engages in extra marital affair..take it or leave, her love automatically shifts to the kids!...
No woman ,I repeat No woman whose husband is faithful to her and shares all emotions with her will ever show love to only the kids...impossible

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Thanks Beremx... he's so childish.. how's ya health now?

pocohantas:


Hahahaha. But they should shut up kwanu.

Kids are easy to buy over. I have seen many cases of kids that are closer to their dad and while women could be jealous, they don’t go playing the victim, because the man earned it. But once kids are closer to their mum, your gender would start crying. Carry the child? Mba. Teach am assignment? Wahala. They would claim they are busy, but they always have time for side-chick and beer parlour.

DenreleDave:


Oboy I am bother... There is no way jealously wunt set in..

Some men have vow to. Enjoy their lives irrespective of how their family are.... Bcox most bliv the kids are more wired to their mother than the father even after all..

As a man, e no easy and to top it all...

My husband money is for us while my money is for my children and I alone..

Whiteshield:


That Ahnie is very very stupid and senseless. If she had an iota of commonsense, she should have sidestepped this thread, but no. Chochocho, she must put mouth and show how stupid she is. Now, her family has become an object of ridicule on the front-page of Africa's largest forum.

Beremx:
I am okay now sis. Thanks

coputa:
Shut up your maggot infested mouth,merely seeing the pix of someone hanging out with her kids means that she's single or she had marital issues.Do you know you may hurt her emotional sensibilities by this brutish act,you lack diplomacy in presenting issues.your view of things and situations are myopic.i suspects you are a tennager.