Omo guys dey really suffer for ladies hand ooo

'I have invested heavily'...please did she force you to?

Toktee:
what's her name ?
make we do back ground check for you.

Blessing

obinnazy:
Omo guys dey really suffer for ladies hand ooo

'I have invested heavily'...please did she force you to?

If not for love,what else?

So what do you want to do now?

Acidosis:


So what do you want to do now?

Everyone is just telling me run for your life, run for your life what about my child?

DOWN2HeartLoved:


Everyone is just telling me run for your life, run for your life what about my child?

Your child will be fine. You can still have a healthy relationship with your child without the woman in your life.

Pay attention to your gut feelings. You cannot force relationship.

WatchYourSix:
Did u say u have to leave your house??



What i dont get is how people get this weak

Love can render you useless

Ayomel:

Love can render you useless

U can say that again....

Acidosis:


Your child will be fine. You can still have a healthy relationship with your child without the woman in your life.

Pay attention to your gut feelings. You cannot force relationship.

Child wey fit no be him own....

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I didn't realize it was that serious. Do you have access to your child at all? If so, you may want to consider ending whatever relationship you have with this woman, maintain a platonic relationship, and define a child arrangement schedule (for communication and visitation between the two of you). If she is not open to dialogue, then there's not much you can do except ensure that the both of you have equitable and open access to your child.

DOWN2HeartLoved:


I'll call the mother and tell her that, she's probably rolling with neighbors in the compound

Really? No wonder everyone is looking at you as the mad person and she as the good person.

Why will you call her mother and raise baseless accusations?
Do you have proof?
Have you been doing this kind of thing before (calling her mum or others to raise baseless accusations)?
Are you sure she isn't right about reporting you to vigilante? It seems like you might actually be the troublesome one truely for you to lay baseless accusations.

Quick questions;

1.What exactly do you have against her? Asides asking to rent 2 bedsitters, what else are the things you think she is doing wrong?

2. What does she have against you? What are the things she has generally complained about you or the reasons she reported you to vigilante and wants to evict you?

3. Is she done with the relationship? Like is she asking both of you to part ways? What about you are you done or still interested?

4. When you say she is not traceable, I thought you knew her mum's residence? Or don't you?

5. Regarding her age, I understand your doubts but then since you made reference to her brothers, can you wisely find out from any of them the contact of an elderly uncle or man in there family? You can go and see him confidentially and express your concern about the age thing and others. You will make it seem like you wanted to know the truth as you want to proceed with marriage rites (I assume you haven't already done this?) The man will tell you all the truth.

Let's start from answering these questions bro. Your posts seem disjointed but answering these questions will put an order to it and make it more comprehensive, then I and others can accurately advise you based on experience.

Hoping to hear back from you.

Cheers.

iRepNaija1:


I didn't realize it was that serious. Do you have access to your child at all? If so, you may want to consider ending whatever relationship you have with this woman, maintain a platonic relationship, and define a child arrangement schedule (for communication and visitation between the two of you). If she is not open to dialogue, then there's not much you can do except ensure that the both of you have equitable and open access to your child.

She even threatened that at least I still call her, she's going to leave the house and I will not be able to trace her,the child is my own ,she seriously taking to people's advise now

Savourt:


Really? No wonder everyone is looking at you as the mad person and she as the good person.

Why will you call her mother and raise baseless accusations?
Do you have proof?
Have you been doing this kind of thing before (calling her mum or others to raise baseless accusations)?
Are you sure she isn't right about reporting you to vigilante? It seems like you might actually be the troublesome one truely for you to lay baseless accusations.

Quick questions;

1.What exactly do you have against her? Asides asking to rent 2 bedsitters, what else are the things you think she is doing wrong?

2. What does she have against you? What are the things she has generally complained about you or the reasons she reported you to vigilante and wants to evict you?

3. Is she done with the relationship? Like is she asking both of you to part ways? What about you are you done or still interested?

4. When you say she is not traceable, I thought you knew her mum's residence? Or don't you?

Let's start from answering these questions bro. Your posts seem disjointed but answering these questions will put an order to it and make it more comprehensive, then I and others can accurately advise you based on experience.

Hoping to hear back from you.

Cheers.

Seriously I have loved her, although I cheated once that was last year,we allowed it to slide, she's acting as if she's God,the unforgiving type,and blames you till you feel useless, always complaining am about to take the same step my dad did by abadoning her and my child,am really confused,she even dropped a voicenote on WhatsApp that the child is not mine,due to everyday fight, everyday quarrels I left,

Savourt:


Really? No wonder everyone is looking at you as the mad person and she as the good person.

Why will you call her mother and raise baseless accusations?
Do you have proof?
Have you been doing this kind of thing before (calling her mum or others to raise baseless accusations)?
Are you sure she isn't right about reporting you to vigilante? It seems like you might actually be the troublesome one truely for you to lay baseless accusations.

Quick questions;

1.What exactly do you have against her? Asides asking to rent 2 bedsitters, what else are the things you think she is doing wrong?

2. What does she have against you? What are the things she has generally complained about you or the reasons she reported you to vigilante and wants to evict you?

3. Is she done with the relationship? Like is she asking both of you to part ways? What about you are you done or still interested?

4. When you say she is not traceable, I thought you knew her mum's residence? Or don't you?

Let's start from answering these questions bro. Your posts seem disjointed but answering these questions will put an order to it and make it more comprehensive, then I and others can accurately advise you based on experience.

Hoping to hear back from you.

Cheers.

Please am on WhatsApp,what will be love if not to forgive?,I know she's far older than me,on her certificate I saw her age of birth 1987, she's always telling me she's just a little age older than me,how pathetic,how someone can be 26 to 28 every year,and I take everything hook-line and sinker

Savourt:


Really? No wonder everyone is looking at you as the mad person and she as the good person.

Why will you call her mother and raise baseless accusations?
Do you have proof?
Have you been doing this kind of thing before (calling her mum or others to raise baseless accusations)?
Are you sure she isn't right about reporting you to vigilante? It seems like you might actually be the troublesome one truely for you to lay baseless accusations.

Quick questions;

1.What exactly do you have against her? Asides asking to rent 2 bedsitters, what else are the things you think she is doing wrong?

2. What does she have against you? What are the things she has generally complained about you or the reasons she reported you to vigilante and wants to evict you?

3. Is she done with the relationship? Like is she asking both of you to part ways? What about you are you done or still interested?

4. When you say she is not traceable, I thought you knew her mum's residence? Or don't you?

5. Regarding her age, I understand your doubts but then since you made reference to her brothers, can you wisely find out from any of them the contact of an elderly uncle or man in there family? You can go and see him confidentially and express your concern about the age thing and others. You will make it seem like you wanted to know the truth as you want to proceed with marriage rites (I assume you haven't already done this?) The man will tell you all the truth.

Let's start from answering these questions bro. Your posts seem disjointed but answering these questions will put an order to it and make it more comprehensive, then I and others can accurately advise you based on experience.

Hoping to hear back from you.

Cheers.

Please am on WhatsApp,09157675389

This issue is serious, because right now I can't focus on doing anything,2 months apart now, she's living I don't care life there, while am suffering bitterly here, but if am to call her there's money,she definitely starts planning on how it should be used

Does this woman even love me?

iRepNaija1:


I didn't realize it was that serious. Do you have access to your child at all? If so, you may want to consider ending whatever relationship you have with this woman, maintain a platonic relationship, and define a child arrangement schedule (for communication and visitation between the two of you). If she is not open to dialogue, then there's not much you can do except ensure that the both of you have equitable and open access to your child.

She even ridicules me to neighbors anytime am around,like the craze man don come again, they'll be telling her not to even talk to me, just imagine

DOWN2HeartLoved:


Please am on WhatsApp,what will be love if not to forgive?,I know she's far older than me,on her certificate I saw her age of birth 1987, she's always telling me she's just a little age older than me,how pathetic,how someone can be 26 to 28 every year,and I take everything hook-line and sinker

Okay I think it is getting clearer now. The relationship has gotten toxic with many quarrels and differences and she wants to opt out and disappear out of your sight.


But first, I updated my comment with this last item

5. Regarding her age, I understand your doubts but then since you made reference to her brothers, can you wisely find out from any of them the contact of an elderly uncle or man in there family? You can go and see him confidentially and express your concern about the age thing and others. You will make it seem like you wanted to know the truth as you want to proceed with marriage rites (I assume you haven't already done this?) The man will tell you all the truth.

1. Have you done any marriage rites with her before?
3. Do you know any of her people e.g. uncle etc. Or is there a way of knowing through the means I described above?
3. Are you sure the baby is yours and she is only bluffing? Like are you 100% sure it is yours?

The truth is there isn't anything you can do if she is tired of the relationship and wants to move on. If you still love her, normally you would want to contact am elder in her family to set up a meeting for you guys to discuss the issues and see if things can still work out. But then you can't force a woman or man to remain in a relationship if they are tired or their hearts have left.

So if you can answer the questions above that would be fine.

Ayomel:

Love can render you useless

After this do you think I'll take the risk again

Savourt:


Really? No wonder everyone is looking at you as the mad person and she as the good person.

Why will you call her mother and raise baseless accusations?
Do you have proof?
Have you been doing this kind of thing before (calling her mum or others to raise baseless accusations)?
Are you sure she isn't right about reporting you to vigilante? It seems like you might actually be the troublesome one truely for you to lay baseless accusations.

Quick questions;

1.What exactly do you have against her? Asides asking to rent 2 bedsitters, what else are the things you think she is doing wrong?

2. What does she have against you? What are the things she has generally complained about you or the reasons she reported you to vigilante and wants to evict you?

3. Is she done with the relationship? Like is she asking both of you to part ways? What about you are you done or still interested?

4. When you say she is not traceable, I thought you knew her mum's residence? Or don't you?

5. Regarding her age, I understand your doubts but then since you made reference to her brothers, can you wisely find out from any of them the contact of an elderly uncle or man in there family? You can go and see him confidentially and express your concern about the age thing and others. You will make it seem like you wanted to know the truth as you want to proceed with marriage rites (I assume you haven't already done this?) The man will tell you all the truth.

Let's start from answering these questions bro. Your posts seem disjointed but answering these questions will put an order to it and make it more comprehensive, then I and others can accurately advise you based on experience.

Hoping to hear back from you.

Cheers.

She told me plainly that she doesn't love me,I should go and die,she probably doesn't want me to die on her neck,this lady(mature one at that), Knows I love her and just look at the nonsense am facing

DOWN2HeartLoved:



She told me plainly that she doesn't love me,I should go and die,she probably doesn't want me to die on her neck,this lady(mature one at that), Knows I love her and just look at the nonsense am facing

Did you do any marriage rites with her or you guys were just living together?

Oh boy quit that relationship before you go out of your mind.
That baby may not be yours.

DOWN2HeartLoved:


Bro she hears and speaks Yoruba too,her ex did her father's burial, bought her a car,still yet this girl moved with his properties,and didn't look back,am suspecting that's what is going to happen to me too

What do I do?,the child is just 8 months old

Savourt:


Did you do any marriage rites with her or you guys were just living together?

Just living together

DOWN2HeartLoved:


Just living together

Baba you need to quit the relationship too. There is nothing else remaining except you want to keep beating around the bush. Might be difficult but no choice.

If you believe the child is yours then you can finalise agreements with her and her mum on upkeep and future (schooling etc) for the child. Afterwards stop giving her money or communicating with her and move on. Explain the situations to your own people so that they can rally round you and you can find strength in their encouragement.

If you have any valuable property with her, you can discuss also the repossession of what you feel is rightfully yours. I dont think there is any point of applying force or police to retrieve items especially if they aren't very much valuable. Otherwise I'll leave the discretion to you on what to do.

You may have wasted these years investing emotionally and financially but you are still young and can still pick yourself up. Look towrads the future baba. Better times ahead and better luck in your next relationship.

DOWN2HeartLoved:


Blessing

just blessing?

DOWN2HeartLoved:


She even ridicules me to neighbors anytime am around,like the craze man don come again, they'll be telling her not to even talk to me, just imagine

Chai! you don really suffer. You need to move on.

My son never be entangled with a strange woman, proverbs 3

A manipulative woman is the worst to be in love or relationship with

@Op, sincerely speaking she has moved on long ago, smell the coffee bro.

WatchYourSix:
Did u say u have to leave your house??


What I dont get is how people get this weak

Seriously, im surprised. I can't be in a relationship that I'm not in control of.

I don't know what you have invested into the relationship but if you don't love her, then kick her put your life since you are not legally married to her...

Enikeey:
@Op, sincerely speaking she has moved on long ago, smell the coffee bro.

Savourt:


Chai! you don really suffer. You need to move on.

Called the mother saying I should exercise patience,what patience can I exercise?, your daughter is in my house,I moved out still yet relationship gets bad day by day despite the distance