bonnyhope:


Why you sef no go allow your John Thomas rest

Once a week oo. Na me try pass sef. Some no get control sef.

SpecialAdviser:


I am a married man and except you get married you may not understand very well. A lot of kids come through accidental discharge.

In fact my second kid was not planned. I was using withdrawal method and even avoiding ovulation time but lol, didn't work. Even condom may not always be available. So also susctible to failure. Lol

Oyibo people would call that unwanted pregnancy and abort it but we Nigerians have conscience. Even family planning also fail these days. My brother nobody will intentionally space his kids for just 1 year. Impossible

Na waiting I dey try educate am. The way she wrote, I know she is not married yet. If your wife is very young/active and against abortion, she must born yearly.

Elidrisy20:
Wetin be una problem,pesin marry,pay dowry na una go come tell am how f@@k and give birth? Una dey crazy

Shut up na our problem, you marry Fvck anyhow, give birth like chicken and you no come fit that care of them... don't you know those children will turn to terror and nuisance to the society which will affect us!

You are one of the problem of our dear country

bonnyhope:


It is their likes that determine the leadership of this country

Lol yeah, only but a few of them toh! Most of them na Almajiri and boko

Romanoff:
What about those that family planning failed them?

They are a minority.

SpecialAdviser:


I am a married man and except you get married you may not understand very well. A lot of kids come through accidental discharge.

In fact my second kid was not planned. I was using withdrawal method and even avoiding ovulation time but lol, didn't work. Even condom may not always be available. So also susctible to failure. Lol

Oyibo people would call that unwanted pregnancy and abort it but we Nigerians have conscience. Even family planning also fail these days. My brother nobody will intentionally space his kids for just 1 year. Impossible

Having a child that you cannot take care of is evil. There is no conscience in having unwanted children.

Romanoff:
What about those that family planning failed them?

Postinor, Mifepristone or other medical abortion drugs are available. At worst abortion by qualified gynecologist, though very expensive is a last resort option.

mmsen:


Having a child that cannot take care of is evil. There is no conscience in having unwanted children.

Don't mind them. To me seeing a child suffer from lack of care or love is more evil than abortion.

Malachite:



There is poverty and less learned people all over the world, and there will always be. Go do your research even tiny countries with small population have poverty.

Birth control is a choice and some of these pills and injection caused obesity and other side effect in some women. Let people have choice how and when to have children. Stop the decimation against married couples who live by their religious faith.

The same advice too should be given to religious people. They should also stop the condemnation and discrimination against couples - married or otherwise who live by their non religious beliefs.

Islandlady:
Can you imagine 10children and still counting without proper education, feeding and healthcare...No wonder they turn into Nuisance

which one b proper education agian.what about king
what about two baba they are many dear so na miss fire
it hapon to me

Romanoff:
What about those that family planning failed them?

jeez must he pour into his woman?

wirinet:

Postinor, Mifepristone or other medical abortion drugs are available. At worst abortion by qualified gynecologist, though very expensive is a last resort option.

So na to abort for no medical reason?

That's the irony of life, the poor and the needy who can't take care of their kids properly arena fertile that at any slightest knacking na belle, but you will equally find parents financially okay to take of these children even if they are horned every 6 months yet they'll be struggling to have just one .

Practicing reasoning child spacing is good just as the OP admonished as it's good for the health of the child and the sanity of the parents, but the economic status is the main thing to consider here.

Romanoff:


So na to abort for no medical reason?

Not being emotionally, physically or financially prepared for a baby is a medical reason.

Now answer this. How was China able to effectively implement the one child policy for over 30 years?

wirinet:

Not being emotionally, physically or financially prepared for a baby is a medical reason.

Now answer this. How was China able to effectively implement the one child policy for over 30 years?

These are not enough grounds for an abortion IMO.

Romanoff:


These are not enough grounds for an abortion IMO.

To me they are better grounds for abortion than abandoning newborns in the Bush, dustbins or gutter. They are better grounds for abortion than watching children suffer depravity and abandonment.

You think without the one child policy, China would have become an economic giant it is today?

wirinet:


To me they are better grounds for abortion than abandoning newborns in the Bush, dustbins or gutter.

As for unmarried folks, the point of deciding you don't want kids is before the act of fornication. It's not the one you'll have unprotected sex indiscriminately and be aborting like you're hopping on bikes.


As for married folks, if after you've had a form of birth control and it fails, have the baby and seek a more permanent form of birth control after the birth of the child.

To me,the only grounds for aborting should be if the pregnancy is as a result of a rape or child molestation, if the fetus is not forming well or if the life of the mother is in danger so the pregnancy must be ended.

Idaytesj29:


I have 3, 2 years space between each. The last born is 4 years already. Its good to space children. Then its also good to born your one or two kids quickly and concentrate on raising them.

Islandbaby example is just a case of people who do not have a plan. Their future is shaky anyone having more than two to 3 kids is planning for failure in this country. May God help them.

2 years spacing and you are giving advice.

Islandlady:
I have always wanted to write on this particular article about the lack of enough gap or spacing of children by most Nigerian parents!

Few months back I was driving along that Abuja-suleja road and decided to stop by to buy some roasted plantain (boli) from a woman by the roadside! But I couldn't help notice her two baby boys crying profusely, she was holding onto one while the other was on the floor, initially I thought they were twins but after looking well, I noticed that the boy on the floor was a bit older! So I offered to help her console the older child because she was obviously frustrated and so that she can be faster with my plantain so I can hit the road back!

I carried the boy to console him and I was surprised by the way the boy clinged to me and immediately stopped crying, he was still a baby who needs his mother's attention and cuddling but all was cut short becos he now has a baby brother! I asked the women for their ages and she said the older was 2years old and his brother was 1year old! I was not really suprised but angry at the poor spacing between children by most of our Nigerian parents!

I mean if she has given them atleast a 3 to 4years age gap, the older brother will be old enough to console and play with his younger brother, while she will be able do her work without getting fraustrated and depriving the older baby of the care, attention and also stopping his breastfeeding at that early stage! This lack of child spacing harbits is very common among our parents!

I just want to urge our upcoming parents, new couples and singles hoping to get married someday and give birth to please practice a good child spacing of atleast 2-4years age gap, it has a lot of benefits and also give you time to take care of the child properly and also allowing the mothers body rest and become stronger in preparation for another child
Thanks for reading!

From a woman selling Boli, you should know that combination of poverty and Illiteracy is affecting her. You can't find that among the elite, even if the spacing isn't enough, there is enough resources to get more hands to take care of them

Romanoff:


As for unmarried folks, the point of deciding you don't want kids is before the act of fornication. It's not the one you'll have unprotected sex indiscriminately and be aborting like you're hopping on bikes.

Unmarried folks have sexual urges and needs just like married couples. The hormones testetorone and estrogen don't care if you are married or not. We should learn to accommodate our sexuality instead of fooling ourselves by fighting it. Sex education and dangers of indiscriminate sex should be a taught to children entering puberty so they can understand and cope with changes in their bodies. You religious folk behave like the proverbial ostrich. You hide your head in the sand hoping the problem will go away and pretend you are not seeing it.

As for married folks, if after you've had a form of birth control and it fails, have the baby and seek a more permanent form of birth control after the birth of the child.

I am married with 3 children. I just cannot cope with one more child. I am already working my bones off to provide quality life and education for them. My wife is on birth control and monitors her cycle. If she misses her period by 3 days, off do the pharmacist she goes.

To me,the only grounds for aborting should be if the pregnancy is as a result of a rape or child molestation, if the fetus is not forming well or if the life of the mother is in danger so the pregnancy must be ended.

Good for you. To me a woman or couple should not be forced to birth a child they are not financially and emotionally ready to take care of.

Gee64:
They are the problem Nigeria is battling with today. A 45 years old butcher friend who is from the North told me he had 10 children and still counting.

The most annoying part is that they won't be able to afford to take care of the children they already have but still want more because it's "God's blessing" so they should have unlimited children. The same kids would then become financial burden, not attend school and become poor when they become adults restarting the cycle of generational poverty.

RapistOnBail:
Poverty is the cause.

Poor man has 1 thing for him coconut head, “FUVK”

True.

The better off have other things they enjoy.

Malachite:



There is poverty and less learned people all over the world, and there will always be. Go do your research even tiny countries with small population have poverty.

Birth control is a choice and some of these pills and injection caused obesity and other side effect in some women. Let people have choice how and when to have children. Stop the decimation against married couples who live by their religious faith.

We know that the religious love poverty because without it there would be no need for religion. That is why they need impoverished, ignorant people to breed.

dway2life:
We are five siblings...and we are all 3 yrs difference in age,

I think it all depends on the circumstances..

For example people are marrying late these days, and they have no time to space . They go into emergency reproduction..

If you can take care of the children and if it will pose any risk on the mother...why not

If people are marrying late the solution is to have fewer children not to try and and cram more children in just because you can.

Islandlady:
I have always wanted to write on this particular article about the lack of enough gap or spacing of children by most Nigerian parents!

Few months back I was driving along that Abuja-suleja road and decided to stop by to buy some roasted plantain (boli) from a woman by the roadside! But I couldn't help notice her two baby boys crying profusely, she was holding onto one while the other was on the floor, initially I thought they were twins but after looking well, I noticed that the boy on the floor was a bit older! So I offered to help her console the older child because she was obviously frustrated and so that she can be faster with my plantain so I can hit the road back!

I carried the boy to console him and I was surprised by the way the boy clinged to me and immediately stopped crying, he was still a baby who needs his mother's attention and cuddling but all was cut short becos he now has a baby brother! I asked the women for their ages and she said the older was 2years old and his brother was 1year old! I was not really suprised but angry at the poor spacing between children by most of our Nigerian parents!

I mean if she has given them atleast a 3 to 4years age gap, the older brother will be old enough to console and play with his younger brother, while she will be able do her work without getting fraustrated and depriving the older baby of the care, attention and also stopping his breastfeeding at that early stage! This lack of child spacing harbits is very common among our parents!

I just want to urge our upcoming parents, new couples and singles hoping to get married someday and give birth to please practice a good child spacing of atleast 2-4years age gap, it has a lot of benefits and also give you time to take care of the child properly and also allowing the mothers body rest and become stronger in preparation for another child
Thanks for reading!

It's not like that sister. I have a brother I'm one year older than we're even padi self.

Islandlady:
Shut up na our problem, you marry Fvck anyhow, give birth like chicken and you no come fit that care of them... don't you know those children will turn to terror and nuisance to the society which will affect us!

You are one of the problem of our dear country

watin be your wahala? Wait if you marry or before you marry tell your husband say, you no want born piki reach 2

mmsen:


We know that the religious love poverty because without it there would be no need for religion. That is why they need impoverished, ignorant people to breed.

Gbam! That's the strategy of fundamentalist Muslim and Christians. Encourage people to have multiple children to further impoverish them to the point of desperation. Thereby making them prone to political and economic exploitation.

Islandlady:
I have always wanted to write on this particular article about the lack of enough gap or spacing of children by most Nigerian parents!

Few months back I was driving along that Abuja-suleja road and decided to stop by to buy some roasted plantain (boli) from a woman by the roadside! But I couldn't help notice her two baby boys crying profusely, she was holding onto one while the other was on the floor, initially I thought they were twins but after looking well, I noticed that the boy on the floor was a bit older! So I offered to help her console the older child because she was obviously frustrated and so that she can be faster with my plantain so I can hit the road back!

I carried the boy to console him and I was surprised by the way the boy clinged to me and immediately stopped crying, he was still a baby who needs his mother's attention and cuddling but all was cut short becos he now has a baby brother! I asked the women for their ages and she said the older was 2years old and his brother was 1year old! I was not really suprised but angry at the poor spacing between children by most of our Nigerian parents!

I mean if she has given them atleast a 3 to 4years age gap, the older brother will be old enough to console and play with his younger brother, while she will be able do her work without getting fraustrated and depriving the older baby of the care, attention and also stopping his breastfeeding at that early stage! This lack of child spacing harbits is very common among our parents!

I just want to urge our upcoming parents, new couples and singles hoping to get married someday and give birth to please practice a good child spacing of atleast 2-4years age gap, it has a lot of benefits and also give you time to take care of the child properly and also allowing the mothers body rest and become stronger in preparation for another child
Thanks for reading!

. Good piece! In addition to spacing give birth to children you can cater for. It is here in Nigeria you see the rich having 2 kids but the poor will have 5 or 6. Some children are "causing" thier parents today because of the miserable life they have been exposed to for having children they cannot cater for. Please plan yiur families; ,you will be glad you did

Islandlady:
I am a lady! And I feel couples should have plans and agreement on when to get pregnant!

u may plan and space or stop but amazingly wont know how it happens, do u know that the small semen that comes out even befor a man inserts the penis to the vag,do u know that it also contains some numbers of small cells and if touches the vag tips may crawl inside for fertilization if the woman is not in safe period. Getting preg with that is 20%. A man may also having touched his pen, may decide to finger a lady and preg occurs, infection may also be contracted through this. U may think, he used condom, but it has entered be4 the cond.

Anfieldboss:


Consider a scenario where a woman married really late, say 38 and she desires to have 3 children. I don't think such woman have the luxury of spacing her children considering hitting menopause soon and complications that come from giving birth at an older age. Life is not black and white, spacing of children is mostly favourable to women that married young, say in their twenties.

Nonetheless, spacing of children is very good and ideal but it is suitable for women who married early.

Are you supporting or opposing the motion?

If a lady married so early that should tell you that there is fingers of poverty which is equivalent to illiteracy within.
But, if she married so late, be rest assured that she must be educated and wealthy to take care of any numbers of children she feels to bred at any interval.

Joblessness is the root cause, most Nigerian men have too much free time, they spend all their waking lives on their wives back, its no surprise you see pregnant nursing mothers, thank God a woman carries pregnancy for 9 months and not 9 days!

A lot of reason are responsible for bad child spacing.. marrying late is one of those reasons. When you marry a lady at 30 you have just 5 years of at leat 70%-90% certainty of health foetus and from 35yrs gives you less percentage of a healthy one. From 35 yrs lady then, deformities, down syndrome etc are a big challenge. Not that this set of people even know that and for those that know that might be a reason for bad spacing. Another reason is some men or lemme say Family dont have good knowledge of family planning or some choose not to know the need for family planning some thinks its UNFASHIONABLE or think its one old arcade thing in family and rely on emergency contraceptive like postinor, menstrogen, and so on, so you know this emergency contraceptives are hormonal and CAN cause damage to your or her body. There are a lot of safe and non hormonal contraceptive. Go to the hospital meet your doctor and have an advice on family planning. Am married and my wife has a baby girl. My wife is on IUD not that it doesn't comes with it complications buh yea we both love it. Atleast we can keep having sex bare. And it not hormonal which for us we can remove anytime we ready.. my baby is 1yr and 2 months now and if all work to plan she will either be almost 3yrs or 3yrs before having another siblings.
Another reason is religious belief..