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Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by michlins(m): 3:28am On Jun 23, 2022 |
Please eh, did you guys don't like discuss finances before marriage or people change after wedding. I want to understand something important 6 Likes |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by pps1759(m): 7:03am On Jun 23, 2022 |
[quote author=Mickykarim post=114063604] IF HE IS MATURED ENOUGH TO FILTER ANYTHING AS AN ADULT. HIS RECENT MOVE CLEARLY PROVED YOU AND HIM OTHERWISE. For your INFORMATION and EDUCATION. No successful union and matrimony ever had external FORCES and OPINIONS intervention in their internal affairs. Their internal matrimonial home is never for public comsumption. A MAN CAME PUBLIC TO DISPARAGE HIS SIGNIFICANT HALF, CLAIMING SHE USE HER MONEY ON CERTAIN ITEMS THAT IS NOT NEW TO HIM SINCE THEY CAME TOGETHER AND FOR HOW LONG. He also sings his own praise in contrast to his wife's. SO MUCH FOR YOUR MATURED MAN! CALM DOWN.Am sure you are not the wife and not doing the same thing at home 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by emmanuelbrown26: 7:39am On Jun 23, 2022 |
Richy4:Don't mind that guy, he doesn't know what an average man is facing in their marriages. D burden, d bills etc 9 Likes |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by emmanuelbrown26: 7:55am On Jun 23, 2022 |
RightToReject:u are just wasting ur time on someone that believes that marriage is a do-or-die affairs 6 Likes |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by ibechris(m): 8:25am On Jun 23, 2022 |
If any man must survive in this country...he needs a supporting spouse. If not,u are on a high way to early death. In the southern part of Nigeria especially igbo land where I come from,we have more grandma's than grandpa's. In fact,men are dying in regrettable numbers because they are just providing ,providing and keep providing without support from their wives. (although there are some women who are secretly the bread winners...May God bless them). Oga,to be Frank with u,u are over trying and u need your wife to help u out honestly. Body no be firewood. Her money is good for wearing good clothes while u labour like jacki (donkey). Pls,your health is also paramount to the family. 15k every week may not be enough in this Nigeria of today,but she has to help out. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by satandeterrible: 8:29am On Jun 23, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:You're such a disgusting animal. Fool. 16 Likes |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by casualobserver: 10:34am On Jun 23, 2022 |
evangmx: A man who is doing well knows he is doing well and doesnt have to ask |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by chukwuibuipob: 10:34am On Jun 23, 2022 |
sit her down and talk heart to heart.If she refus to liste, Cut off the 15k like Pa Bubu and give her 8k instead evangmx: 4 Likes |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by PointZerom: 10:34am On Jun 23, 2022 |
evangmx: You're not doing bad. Your wife is self centered. 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by keepingmum: 10:35am On Jun 23, 2022 |
You are not doing bad as a father. However as a husband, its for your wife to comment upon. The truth is this, how you treat your wife when the going was good will play a huge part in how she steps up when you hit a rough patch. Did you consider her a good team player, listen to her concerns and advise, seek her input (you ultimately are the decision maker in the home but making your wife feel listened to is key). Did you treat her, spend on her during those times? Where you supportive of her goals and growth?? If you were not, then it is no surprise she is behaving this way. If you have friends or family living in your home as well during this period on your sole executive order, again, your wife is within her feelings to act this way. But if otherwise, then perhaps you sit down and have a grown up conversation with her rather than speaking with strangers on here for guidance on how to navigate ur home |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Josywhyte: 10:36am On Jun 23, 2022 |
Sit ur wife down and tell her to also support u in some bills. U can't be footing all the bills in the house while she uses her salary to buy clothes and jewelries. It doesn't speak well of her. Sooner or later this will start weighing u down if u don't put a stop to it. There are bills she's supposed to handle without being told. Except this was how u guys started(u footing all bills) before u lost ur job. But not withstanding,let her know it's really aftectinc you so badly. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by TOPCRUISE(m): 10:36am On Jun 23, 2022 |
Nigerian men have suffered in this country. Is it a crime to marry naija women. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by IvarDboneless: 10:36am On Jun 23, 2022 |
Where una dey see all this kind wife marry sef...15k every week..you are a f0cking weak man..my wife dares not even complain even if there's no food at home 6 Likes |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by tbarrister(m): 10:37am On Jun 23, 2022 |
Mickykarim: Something must be wrong with your head. People like you are the reason men die early. Will you advise your brother or son like this 9 Likes |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by SandraIkuboR(f): 10:37am On Jun 23, 2022 |
at least you are trying your best |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Microwhy: 10:38am On Jun 23, 2022 |
garriAndsugar:He is not seeking for her support but he's seeking advice before pouncing on her for being a typical African woman. |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Zelenskyy(m): 10:38am On Jun 23, 2022 |
And if you stop giving her the weekly Money for food, will heaven Fall... ? The answer is No. So you are not doing Bad. |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by money121(m): 10:38am On Jun 23, 2022 |
evangmx: |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by BigYash: 10:39am On Jun 23, 2022 |
rickpat:You need God in your life.. |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by belcom10(m): 10:39am On Jun 23, 2022 |
Buy her gift once in a while, or when you go out buy somethings for her and kids. Like ice cream and rest . May God keep your home. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Kendo999: 10:39am On Jun 23, 2022 |
If you don't want your wife to complai na die be that. |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by gboyetade: 10:39am On Jun 23, 2022 |
If as you stated, you bear all the bills despite the fact that she is working, you are not doing bad sir. Marriage needs patience , maturity, prayer etc. evangmx: 1 Like |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by RepoMan007: 10:40am On Jun 23, 2022 |
God created them as helpers. Let her help more. |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Glowqueen3(f): 10:40am On Jun 23, 2022 |
No you are not doing bad,ln my opinion l think you are trying.Try and reason with your wife and also save some money for rainy days |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Johel(m): 10:41am On Jun 23, 2022 |
evangmx: Handle your family the best way u can,we can't help you here.. |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Westernequinox: 10:41am On Jun 23, 2022 |
You need to pray, that God changes the countenance of your wife, buying new clothes without prior investment into the marriage, marriage goes beyond what support we can render to spouses, it is an exchange of values both spiritual and physical. |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by IyaTola: 10:42am On Jun 23, 2022 |
evangmx:Step up and be the man, you get |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Papilo4364(m): 10:42am On Jun 23, 2022 |
my broda do your best and leave the rest to God |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Romanoff(f): 10:43am On Jun 23, 2022 |
You're doing very well as a husband and a father. Tell her to augment from her salary of what you're doing is not enough. You no fit thief because of her na. |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by Nwateacheraba(m): 10:43am On Jun 23, 2022 |
I understand ur situation bro. I will put it in this way, she is not a good wife. I was in ur situation. I have three children. Though I have been self employed, but things turned worst since 2018. My wife virtually paid even the house rent, food etc without telling anyone. To God be the glory, I have recovered and now back to my feet. So wife should learn how to support their husband in a troubling situation. Advice to men, is to marry a virtuous woman, date her and study what she and can't do. Bro, take it easy, am sure things will be fine soon. If she have a father, do talk to her father . And you try to be prayerful and think of other means of livelihood. 4 Likes |
Re: Am I Doing Bad As A Father And Husband by BigYash: 10:43am On Jun 23, 2022 |
belcom10:So na ice cream go change that kind of wife? You are missing something huge.. Op is in trouble, he never know 4 Likes |
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