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|Why Chasing Girls Is A Losing Game by Facts101: 11:04am On Jun 27|
If you’re an aspiring seducer, you’ve probably been advised to chase women. But, don’t do it! Chasing girls may seem like the right thing to do at first glance, but there are plenty of reasons why you should never chase a girl. Here are just some of the reasons why girls may not want to be chased after.
You make her feel like she needs to prove something
Women are beautiful creatures, and although that’s something you already know, she already knows it as well. That said, when you chase her around constantly trying to get her attention, she thinks you must not have any other women to pick from. She feels like she has to prove herself in order for you to love her. Even if she ends up with you in the end, it won’t be because of your persistence—it will be because of her decision to stay. If you want to make a woman fall in love with you, let her come to you naturally. Don’t pressure her into giving herself away just because she can’t resist your charm.
You Give Her Power
As men, we spend an inordinate amount of time trying to get women to like us. We’re constantly looking for new ways to make them swoon. But when you’re focused on getting her attention, it inadvertently gives her more power in your relationship. And what do you think happens when a woman has more power? That’s right: she won’t want you around anymore. So stop chasing girls and start focusing on yourself instead. It’ll be much easier to attract high-quality women when you aren’t so desperate for their approval.
You Force Her Hand
When you chase after girls, you force them to choose between you and whatever else they’re doing at that moment—whether it’s hanging out with friends or spending time on their interests. And if she opts for whatever else she was doing, you feel rejected, which sucks for everyone involved. The key to winning over women is removing that pressure from her, letting her know you have other options (because chances are good that you do), and letting her come to you when she’s ready. You can’t control another person’s emotions, but you can give yourself an advantage by not putting her in a position where she has to choose.
The Fear of Rejection is Killing You
Getting over your fear of rejection isn’t about getting over your fear at all. Instead, it’s about focusing on why you want to do something and focusing on that alone.
If you stop thinking about how scared you are about getting rejected, you will be able to focus on why you wanted to talk with those girls in the first place.
Building Confidence Gives You All the Power
Believe it or not, women are more turned on by confidence than looks. That’s right: whether you have a few extra pounds or you’re sporting an unconventional hairstyle, your image isn’t nearly as important as your attitude. In fact, studies show that women tend to rank physical attractiveness as less important in men than they do in other women. Your opinion of yourself is all that really matters here—not hers. So if you can learn to love yourself and feel confident about who you are, then anyone else’s opinion will seem insignificant. You won’t need to chase after girls because they will come running after you!
Women are simple creatures
They love being chased. It makes them feel special, wanted, and appreciated. The problem with chasing women, however, is that it puts you in an inferior position as soon as you begin pursuing her. This means that every time you chase a girl and show interest in her, she feels like she has control over your emotions; she’s now making you jump through hoops for her affections when she could be doing better elsewhere. If you want to keep your options open and have many more girls available to you, don’t chase after one. Instead, let her come to you once she realizes how great of a guy you are!
The Opposite of Love Isn’t Hate...It’s Indifference
In romantic relationships, there are two types of people: those who chase their partner and those who choose to be chased. The truth is that most women don’t actually want to be chased; rather, they enjoy playing hard-to-get. Why? Because it builds sexual tension and increases their self-esteem. It shows them you really do care about them (when most men have just given up). It also makes them feel desired and in control—and everyone likes being in control. So if you’re looking for love, try doing something different than what your friends might suggest. Instead of chasing after girls, make yourself seem unattainable by not returning her calls or texts right away and by not showing interest in her too quickly.
Stop Fixating On One Woman, Become Interesting To Many Women.
Not only will you need to stop fixating on one woman, but you'll also have to put in effort to become interesting to many women. To do that, you'll need to know how to be interesting and learn some basic seduction skills. Being interesting requires being authentic, honest, and unafraid of who you are and what your opinions are. It also means developing your unique personality - something that cannot be faked. The best way to develop yourself as an individual is by doing things you enjoy.
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