pendo89:

^^
say what? grey what? seriously you need a gbago thread!
I was angry already at your 'divorce her with or without her consent'
That is only possible if he married her without her consent!

pendo89:

really? ok I didnt know that.but reading his story you can tell hes bn married less than 5 yrs.
He says 'not so long after marriage'
Marriage is not a popcorn affair.Unless its life and death situation then always try to work out the lil annoying things.
He will definately pop out of the next one relationship if he discovers she likes eating too much

megacity:

And what's there sef? The other time she had a baby, male doctors were all putting their hands into the stuff to check if she could deliver normally

Chykason:

He married her because of her tight punny, but right now, the Doctor is putting his five fingers in her already bogus punny!

Long One:

[size=15pt]Another reason why I feel people shouldn’t rush into marriage, particularly as they obviously aren’t mature enough.[/size] You deserve to be put on your mothers lap and given a proper spanking.

[size=15pt]So you thought you were, say buying a car? And the quality of the product was what was most important, virginity as in brand new?[/size]

Why don’t you talk to her about how you feel first? Before researching divorce – she might begin to mend her ways

Very reasonable points! I advocate virginity, but i'm always quick to add that i wont marry one that has no marriageable qualities! Kinda comparing a brand new KIA RIO and a brand new BMW 5 SERIES! QUALITY MATTERS! Heck, a TOKUNBO 2009 HONDA ACCORD beats a BRAND NEW 2011 KIA RIO!

pendo89:

your last 2 sentences leaves one wondering
if the doc put his hand in,he was only checking to see if her cervix has opened wide enough to accomodate the baby's head! or if the baby's head has popped out of cervix! 
lol you are funny if you didn't know that, yet shes your wife.a bit ignorant there.

Am sorry you married a 'virgin' but not a 'wife'. There's a big diffrence btwn the 2.

I keep saying if all I bring into my marriage is a certificate of virginity then am very useless because virginity never made a good wife!

You know what God says?

'whoever finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from God'.
wife qualities in prv 31.10. Its one among many.

He never said 'whoever finds a virgin',because a good wife is rare to find than a virgin.

@OP: I feel your pain, the fact is that you have made the mistake already and you are now looking to redress that mistake. My advice to you is to divorce her with/without her consent, life is too short to spend it in a relationship that is clearly not working out. If divorce is not immediately possible, you guys should get separated for some time to try out other people, no need wasting time with a lady you clearly don't agree with.

Anyone who feels that being a virgin grants a moral stamp of approval is totally wrong. Virginity is not a virtue and has never been a virtue, there are much more important virtues in life than a girl who made a simple choice not to be intimate until she gets grey hairs in her punny!

chiteny:

there are somethings a non married man cannot understand or see. its not just common sense.

Goldieluks:

True^^
you only get to understand such things,only if you are married!

The both of you are totally wrong mate! What is so sacrilegious about marriage such that it must be experienced before someone can comment on it?! Do I need to be a religious person before I talk about how ridiculous religion is?! It beggars belief that in this day and age people say such things like a person must have personal experience before commenting on issues. Whatever happened about learning from the experience of other's? . Na wa for some people thinking sef jor!

chiteny:



I am still ebarrassed by your comment(s). Answers to the bolded section:

Do you need to taste a soup to tell how good the soup is? Yes! Do you need to taste a cake to know how good it is? Yes! Do you need to drive a brand new car to tell how well it drives? Yes!
You could look at the soup, cake and car and say the colour of the soup is fine and it smells good, the cake looks lovely and well designed, the car looks like it is balanced and drives smoothly. But if u are not the participant, you cannot tell exactly or precisely the features and xtics.

The second bold is partly answered in the first answer given. You can comment but have limitation to your comment as a result of lack of first hand practical knowledge which could make your comment rather awkward or outrightly foolish.

No more replies to you. I rest my case.

claremont:

"Only a fool learns from his own mistakes, while the wisest men learn from the mistakes of others"!

claremont:

No way mate! I will not let you off so easily with this your veiled insult. Do I really need to remind you that "Only a fool learns from his own mistakes, while the wisest men learn from the mistakes of others"?! Your so-called advice is limited to the experience you have had with the one person you are married to, my own advice is based on the multiple experiences of others who have gone through the marriage process, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out who the foolish person is!