Blessedmercy8:
Sorry to say but you're being stubborn to the man.

Your husband can not just wake up and say those things to you. You must have done something that annoyed him to make him say such, prolly to get back at you.

Now, reason I said you're being stubborn is, you know he doesn't like your moimoi, yet you keep making it. As in... Let him do his worse. Abi na?

If you truly care and respect him, you would stop but here you are telling us you can never stop making it because your children like it. By that you're already saying he should go to hell for all you care and he too gets the message reason he chose to be careless with words too.

You claim he buys it outside. What does that tell you? Yours is prolly not as fanimorous ( sorry to say). Now, what have you done to improve your moimoi because there is moimoi and there is mai-mai **chuckles** .
My dad too hated moimoi to the extent that one day after he dropped money for food and asked what we want to prepare, we all chorused moimoi (because we children loved moimoi) and he said "moimoi gbuo gi" that is, "moimoi Kee you". There and then we knew we have tormented this man with this food. So we prepared his favorite, rice and stew.

You need to calm down for your man. You chose to marry him in the first place, so do anything that will make him happy. Coming here after how many children to say you feel ashamed of yourself for letting him sleep with you makes no sense because you too have been sleeping with him. so both of you have used each other. No biggies. Forget and move on.

Look for how to spice up your moimoi. Prepare it for only your children, (give him what he wants) let him perceive your new moimoi, he'll be the one requesting for it.

You don't have to prepare it the same day you're making other meals. You can just make the moimoi on your free days and pack in the fridge for your children so you don't get to overwork yourself.

BloomingDale:


Also the Bible says the number of the beast is 666 and a man. If you can decode what 666 is, then you will know that you guys are actually the devils. That is why everywhere you go you rape, murder and kill, traits of the devil. You should ask yourselves why you guys demand submission so much from women and why you oppress us and why the devil rebelled against God. There you will find another correlation. Women should continue giving birth to the bloodline of the demons that rape, kill murder, and oppress them. Na them sabi. I’m speaking in parables, just like Jesus.

God had to bypass the seed of the devil(man) to bring salvation. The devils seed(man) and the woman’s seed(woman) will always be at war.

Lalakas:
Am not happy with my husband's utterances towards me. He unapologetically told me my duties are just 2: to give him se. X and to cook. This guy has really hurt me in this marriage, he seems not to know how to talk.

I work and equally contribute to everything. I dont hide my income and i give him for the building we are both building. I am not useless and i am not a liability to him.

How it all started :
Moimoi or beans is for every other Friday or Saturday ( moimoi could be ones in 6 weeks except my kids specially ask for it) but for a while now whenever I prepare any of the 2 he would complain, regect it. He told me he doesn't like them during the week and I will never prepare them Sunday to Thursday. Friday because he won't be going to work the following day. My kids like eating moimoi very well, infact, it is one their best meals. Atimes, they ask for it. My husband sees moimoi and beans as crap. Guys, he buys it and eat it outside!, my moimoi doesn't purge anyone of us. Even him but he'd keep saying he purges with moimoi, it's just an excuse.

It is difficult to cook 2 foods, i will not stop making moimoi or beans because of him, my kids like the meal so much. For the fact that he buys it out there and this food is what we usually enjoy together before now, i cant stop cooking it.

He has in many ways abused me, he is not someone I should even go the extra mile for, he doesnt sacrifice for me, he doesn't respect me, he doesn't stay close to me except when he wants se. X, always going out. He is very scarce at home. I can't cook 2 foods on days i cook moimoi or beans.

And for telling me my duties are just 2 in his life, I feel abused for allowing him have se. X with me all these while, i feel like a kitchen tool for cooking for him. His intentions and motives about a women are so demeaning.

I am feeling so ashamed of myself. He place no value on me.

Kobojunkie:
Stop that nonsense! The man eats moi-moi outside but bullies his wife over the same.On top of that, he speaks down to her telling her she is only for sex and cooking. Don't need to be a rocket scientist to realize this is more than just about beans and moi-moi.

imagrg:
You appear so uncaring!

If you want your marriage to work out, you should better stoop low to your husband's demands and treat him with affection like it was before the kids came.

You seem to have diverted your attention to your kids by recognising their demands and attending to them first before your husband's.
The poor man doesn't want to pick quarrels with you, is the reason why he goes out often.

My Advice is that you pet him like your baby. Give him what he desires. And for goodness sake, dress yourself up in sexy looking clothes to catch his fancy.

Give him the do and the food he craves for and you will see him stay at home often and that glitter would return!

rippa:

My dear save yourself stress
No man will disrespect you because you are a woman except u invited the disrespect to yourself.
That lady knows exactly what she is doing.
If the man had not complain about it before the abuse, it would have been a case of the man is bad, not when he have been constantly repeating the same thing but the woman is not ready to adjust. Well, the man get time sha. If na me ; I will just avoid her food totally.

phemmyfour:
Only your last paragraph make sense.

Even in the heat of argument, we should mind what we say to our spouse. It's demeaning to say your wife responsibility is only in the kitchen and bedroom yet you use part of her salary to run the home and execute projects.

What a shameless man

BloomingDale:

Raxxye:
Forgive him, Dear sis; he didn't mean what he said. It was just anger outburst!
Forgive him,pls!

Kobojunkie:
How many "methods" do you know of where it concerns making moi-moi abeg? which of those methods will cause your significant other to call you out that you are only there for sex and cooking?

Acidosis:
The problem in your home is unrelated to food.

It is well.

BRATISLAVA:


Why did you delete it? Aren't we told that women are the devil because Eve apparently held intimate discussions with the devil?

The hearts of men are desperately wicked, there's so much you're refusing to post. Men are described perfectly well in the bible, but somehow women have allowed them to post garbage instead.

Kobojunkie:
What about him buying this fantastic moi-moi he eats outside on moi-moi days so his wife and kids can eat it with him instead?

BloomingDale:


It’s not in me to submit to any man. I respect people but never submission. It’s not in my DNA. My marriage will be an equal partnership. I have never had issues with anyone. It’s totally against whom I am to submit to any man.

Lalakas:
Am not happy with my husband's utterances towards me. He unapologetically told me my duties are just 2: to give him se. X and to cook. This guy has really hurt me in this marriage, he seems not to know how to talk.

I work and equally contribute to everything. I dont hide my income and i give him for the building we are both building. I am not useless and i am not a liability to him.

How it all started :
Moimoi or beans is for every other Friday or Saturday ( moimoi could be ones in 6 weeks except my kids specially ask for it) but for a while now whenever I prepare any of the 2 he would complain, regect it. He told me he doesn't like them during the week and I will never prepare them Sunday to Thursday. Friday because he won't be going to work the following day. My kids like eating moimoi very well, infact, it is one their best meals. Atimes, they ask for it. My husband sees moimoi and beans as crap. Guys, he buys it and eat it outside!, my moimoi doesn't purge anyone of us. Even him but he'd keep saying he purges with moimoi, it's just an excuse.

It is difficult to cook 2 foods, i will not stop making moimoi or beans because of him, my kids like the meal so much. For the fact that he buys it out there and this food is what we usually enjoy together before now, i cant stop cooking it.

He has in many ways abused me, he is not someone I should even go the extra mile for, he doesnt sacrifice for me, he doesn't respect me, he doesn't stay close to me except when he wants se. X, always going out. He is very scarce at home. I can't cook 2 foods on days i cook moimoi or beans.

And for telling me my duties are just 2 in his life, I feel abused for allowing him have se. X with me all these while, i feel like a kitchen tool for cooking for him. His intentions and motives about a women are so demeaning.

I am feeling so ashamed of myself. He place no value on me.

rippa:

Then you are not a child of God
The bible commanded men to love their wives and the wives to submit to their husbands
The bible never made u guys equal. You are helpmate to him.
The earlier you realise this the better for your mental health

rippa:

Then you are not a child of God
The bible commanded men to love their wives and the wives to submit to their husbands
The bible never made u guys equal. You are helpmate to him.
The earlier you realise this the better for your mental health

Lalakas:
Am not happy with my husband's utterances towards me. He unapologetically told me my duties are just 2: to give him se. X and to cook. This guy has really hurt me in this marriage, he seems not to know how to talk.

I work and equally contribute to everything. I dont hide my income and i give him for the building we are both building. I am not useless and i am not a liability to him.

How it all started :
Moimoi or beans is for every other Friday or Saturday ( moimoi could be ones in 6 weeks except my kids specially ask for it) but for a while now whenever I prepare any of the 2 he would complain, regect it. He told me he doesn't like them during the week and I will never prepare them Sunday to Thursday. Friday because he won't be going to work the following day. My kids like eating moimoi very well, infact, it is one their best meals. Atimes, they ask for it. My husband sees moimoi and beans as crap. Guys, he buys it and eat it outside!, my moimoi doesn't purge anyone of us. Even him but he'd keep saying he purges with moimoi, it's just an excuse.

It is difficult to cook 2 foods, i will not stop making moimoi or beans because of him, my kids like the meal so much. For the fact that he buys it out there and this food is what we usually enjoy together before now, i cant stop cooking it.

He has in many ways abused me, he is not someone I should even go the extra mile for, he doesnt sacrifice for me, he doesn't respect me, he doesn't stay close to me except when he wants se. X, always going out. He is very scarce at home. I can't cook 2 foods on days i cook moimoi or beans.

And for telling me my duties are just 2 in his life, I feel abused for allowing him have se. X with me all these while, i feel like a kitchen tool for cooking for him. His intentions and motives about a women are so demeaning.

I am feeling so ashamed of myself. He place no value on me.

FORWARDEVERLY:



Shut up Fool..
The man is 100% right.. a wife is meant for Sex and food only..
All these woke generation fools.. no wonder both the males and females of these new generation are frustrated and bitter in their Marriage ...
Unlike the old when everyone knew their roles..

Useless fools.

BloomingDale:


Do you know the woman was created first and the Y chromosome is a defect of the X chromosome of the woman? I don’t want to argue with you. Your beliefs are different from mine. The man does not live his wife so how can the woman submit but you guys are all casting the blame on the wife.

phemmyfour:
You're unintelligent

OriOko88:
You too should stop cooking him moi moi if he says he doesn't like it. A Yoruba adage says, A soup which d husband doesnt like,the wife doesn't cook. You can prepare d moi moi for the kids and you,then prepares his own favorite too. That's d why i don't buy the idea of making time table for food. Why must I be eating a particular food for a specified day. Take for example,why must I eat rice on Saturdays because it's what on the time table..like wtf. A man must eat varieties of food when he so desires.

I think he's frustrated by the boring foods you giving him..spice up ur food and see him change. Ask him what he would like the family to eat before cooking..ditch the food time table for nw. How many men dey eat moi moi these days??
Change ur food time table and see u having ur man back

Lalakas:
Am not happy with my husband's utterances towards me. He unapologetically told me my duties are just 2: to give him se. X and to cook. This guy has really hurt me in this marriage, he seems not to know how to talk.

I work and equally contribute to everything. I dont hide my income and i give him for the building we are both building. I am not useless and i am not a liability to him.

How it all started :
Moimoi or beans is for every other Friday or Saturday ( moimoi could be ones in 6 weeks except my kids specially ask for it) but for a while now whenever I prepare any of the 2 he would complain, regect it. He told me he doesn't like them during the week and I will never prepare them Sunday to Thursday. Friday because he won't be going to work the following day. My kids like eating moimoi very well, infact, it is one their best meals. Atimes, they ask for it. My husband sees moimoi and beans as crap. Guys, he buys it and eat it outside!, my moimoi doesn't purge anyone of us. Even him but he'd keep saying he purges with moimoi, it's just an excuse.

It is difficult to cook 2 foods, i will not stop making moimoi or beans because of him, my kids like the meal so much. For the fact that he buys it out there and this food is what we usually enjoy together before now, i cant stop cooking it.

He has in many ways abused me, he is not someone I should even go the extra mile for, he doesnt sacrifice for me, he doesn't respect me, he doesn't stay close to me except when he wants se. X, always going out. He is very scarce at home. I can't cook 2 foods on days i cook moimoi or beans.

And for telling me my duties are just 2 in his life, I feel abused for allowing him have se. X with me all these while, i feel like a kitchen tool for cooking for him. His intentions and motives about a women are so demeaning.

I am feeling so ashamed of myself. He place no value on me.

BloomingDale:


I deleted it because a lot of African men are not ready for the truth, so I don’t want to put other peoples life at risk. The evidence was left in the man’s throat known as Adam’s apple, because we all know who is forever casting blame and lying on the innocent.

BloomingDale:


Do you know the woman was created first and the Y chromosome is a defect of the X chromosome of the woman? I don’t want to argue with you. Your beliefs are different from mine. The man does not love his wife, so how can the woman submit, but majority of you guys are casting the blame on the wife, typical of the male specie.