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My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by Softboy001: 9:22am On Aug 27, 2022
i never thought it will be difficult for me,its not really that am asking for too much. a brief summary of what i really want in a woman is someone that loves me and someone that i love also. is that too much to ask?. am asking for too much?

My name is..., lets just call me z. lipsrsealed am 28 years of age, graduate and currently working even though it's a small job i got, it atleast take care of my bills, we have a lot of family men who is doing my job, its customer service agent job, am writing this today because am having difficulties in finding A SERIOUS GF/ FUTURE WIFE . it has always been my desire to marry when am 30 years and enjoy my life and family in my youth. but it seems that plan is failing as i currently have no person am dating after trying to get for 3 years now. single to stupor

the girls am meeting nowadays, its either they like me and i don't like them or i like them and they dont like me, ever since i left my past relationship. getting a serious one has be nearly impossible, don't get me wrong, getting a girl is not difficult, or getting sex. what has been difficult is getting someone that meet my requirements.

this requirements which i consider as 'very important' is what i want to share with you all, i really need advice, is there anything i need to chop off the list. am i asking for too much. check out my list.

1. RELIGION AND CONVICTION ; for religion i want some that believes in God and fear God. a good or fair Christian. not over religion, not a church goer, just normal regular christian, what i mostly interested in is your conviction, what do you truly believe in, take for example do believe in purposely hurting other people just to help yourself, cheating by all means, to have your way, what do you think about yahoo, good or bad?. those kind of things.

2.EMOTION : i think they is where am having much issues because one of my criteria is that i most like you. as in love you and i must be sure that you love me too. as much as i love you or even more than, but what i get to discover is that when i meet a girl i like, she doesn't like me or not as much as its required, that makes me too back down because i have seen relationship where the girl doesnt like the guy, maybe she just with him for some gains or something, it doesn't end well, and even if you go ahead with the relationship, you won't enjoy it, YOU ENDURE IT!. i have also had girls that likes me like mad, some practically worship me and will do exactly as i asked them to, but the truth of the matter is that it can't work, i know it cnt i have tried it before, the babe go dey annoy me even when she has done nothing wrong, i can't show her off and i dont believe its even a relationship, the last one i try i had to break everything off cos i notice it was affecting her. and i know it's going nowhere, ever since then i promised never to do that again. this was 3 years back. the thing wen a girl likes you and you like the girl, you but can build together and trust each other

3. PHYSICAL ATTRIBUTE i am also having a big issue with this one, the thing here is that, i want a tall or fairly tall girl, reason is that am not a very tall guy and i want someone complimentary. i can't marry a short girl, no matter how much she tick the rest boxes, it can't happen, i need some my height or a little bit taller than me, but the problem am having now is most girls like tall guy s. me finding a tall girl that likes me seems to be a mission impossible.


another thing is a fine girl, here am attracted to fine girls, i don't need to deceive anyone, that's what i want, but on the part she don't have to be over fine, just don't be ugly is fine, am a very fine dude facially so... we are good.

another thing is ass,boobs yes its on the list too, i don't like big boobs angry once a girl has big boobs she is not an option. ass is what i like but not those over big. monstrous ass. a good big ass, i always say it's not about the size but the shape. so that it, medium boobs, big ass, nice shape, fairly fine facially,

4. finance and education: i need some one who is goal driving and fight hard to get what she want. some who strives to be successful. and who can be an asset instead of a liability. it's that simple, and last some who is educated to tertiary level or have a brain like that.


so what do you guys think? is there any pace i need to adjust. am in my firends wedding as am typing this. my man done rush marry, lol
Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by fati2001(m): 9:26am On Aug 27, 2022
Softboy001:
i never thought it will be difficult for me,its not really that am asking for too much. a brief summary of what i really want in a woman is someone that loves me and someone that i love also. is that too much to ask?. am asking for too much?

My name is..., lets just call me z. lipsrsealed am 28 years of age, graduate and currently working even though it's a small job i got, it atleast take care of my bills, we have a lot of family men who is doing my job, its customer service agent job, am writing this today because am having difficulties in finding A SERIOUS GF/ FUTURE WIFE . it has always been my desire to marry when am 30 years and enjoy my life and family in my youth. but it seems that plan is failing as i currently have no person am dating after trying to get for 3 years now. single to stupor

the girls am meeting nowadays, its either they like me and i don't like them or i like them and they dont like me, ever since i left my past relationship. getting a serious one has be nearly impossible, don't get me wrong, getting a girl is not difficult, or getting sex. what has been difficult is getting someone that meet my requirements.

this requirements which i consider as 'very important' is what i want to share with you all, i really need advice, is there anything i need to chop off the list. am i asking for too much. check out my list.

1. RELIGION AND CONVICTION ; for religion i want some that believes in God and fear God. a good or fair Christian. not over religion, not a church goer, just normal regular christian, what i mostly interested in is your conviction, what do you truly believe in, take for example do believe in purposely hurting other people just to help yourself, cheating by all means, to have your way, what do you think about yahoo, good or bad?. those kind of things.

2.EMOTION : i think they is where am having much issues because one of my criteria is that i most like you. as in love you and i must be sure that you love me too. as much as i love you or even more than, but what i get to discover is that when i meet a girl i like, she doesn't like me or not as much as its required, that makes me too back down because i have seen relationship where the girl doesnt like the guy, maybe she just with him for some gains or something, it doesn't end well, and even if you go ahead with the relationship, you won't enjoy it, YOU ENDURE IT!. i have also had girls that likes me like mad, some practically worship me and will do exactly as i asked them to, but the truth of the matter is that it can't work, i know it cnt i have tried it before, the babe go dey annoy me even when she has done nothing wrong, i can't show her off and i dont believe its even a relationship, the last one i try i had to break everything off cos i notice it was affecting her. and i know it's going nowhere, ever since then i promised never to do that again. this was 3 years back. the thing wen a girl likes you and you like the girl, you but can build together and trust each other

3. PHYSICAL ATTRIBUTE i am also having a big issue with this one, the thing here is that, i want a tall or fairly tall girl, reason is that am not a very tall guy and i want someone complimentary. i can't marry a short girl, no matter how much she tick the rest boxes, it can't happen, i need some my height or a little bit taller than me, but the problem am having now is most girls like tall guy s. me finding a tall girl that likes me seems to be a mission impossible.


another thing is a fine girl, here am attracted to fine girls, i don't need to deceive anyone, that's what i want, but on the part she don't have to be over fine, just don't be ugly is fine, am a very fine dude facially so... we are good.

another thing is ass,boobs yes its on the list too, i don't like big boobs angry once a girl has big boobs she is not an option. ass is what i like but not those over big. monstrous ass. a good big ass, i always say it's not about the size but the shape. so that it, medium boobs, big ass, nice shape, fairly fine facially,

4. finance and education: i need some one who is goal driving and fight hard to get what she want. some who strives to be successful. and who can be an asset instead of a liability. it's that simple, and last some who is educated to tertiary level or have a brain like that.


so what do you guys think? is there any pace i need to adjust. am in my firends wedding as am typing this. my man done rush marry, lol


Greattestman ,son we don see better suitors for ur sister.. Go and call you mother we need get into serious discussion.
Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by xendra: 9:27am On Aug 27, 2022
Question is : what are you offering in return?

You have heigth requirement, so does she

Financial and education; so does she

Emotions; so does she

And you do realise it takes certain effort to get a stranger to fall Inlove with you right?
Seems like you are expecting people to love you for whatever you have to offer but your own standards must be met.



And don't let ignorant people deceive you, finding the right person is not as easy as they claim, there may be many fishes in the ocean but they of different species
Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by Nobody: 9:44am On Aug 27, 2022
You can’t get a good woman if you’ve lived a bad lifestyle as a man. Be good and upright and you’ll get what you want

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Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by Softboy001: 9:49am On Aug 27, 2022
xendra:
Question is : what are you offering in return?

You have heigth requirement, so does she

Financial and education; so does she

Emotions; so does she

And you do realise it takes certain effort to get a stranger to fall Inlove with you right?
Seems like you are expecting people to love you for whatever you have to offer but your own standards must be met.



And don't let ignorant people deceive you, finding the right person is not as easy as they claim, there may be many fishes in the ocean but they of different species

i understand that i have to put n efforts to start and maintain a relationship that's sure but i can not control what some one thinks or feels about me.

any lady thats is in a relationship with me stands to gain a lot. my convictions are strong, what it means is that she will have rest of mind, no fear of cheating or troubles in relationship, am damn romantic, and i also believe in taking care of my woman for myself. this means financially, emotional and spending time together. not forget to add that am good on the other room. maximum satisfaction. am all about pleasure. i have a saying food and sex go together, add wine if you like. wink
Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by Vinnie2000(m): 9:50am On Aug 27, 2022
You are 28yrs of age and still calling yourself softboy
Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by Softboy001: 9:52am On Aug 27, 2022
Vinnie2000:
You are 28yrs of age and still calling yourself softboy


its just a username
focus on the topic

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Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by Stallionhorse: 1:07pm On Aug 27, 2022
I didn't bread one thing you wrote.. I just want to tell you to put in all that energy in chasing money.. Ladies will come to you like how flies flow shiiiit.. Back then in the trenches no girl give me greenlight but today most of them text me telling me they are sorry for the way they spoke to me before..

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Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by SanctifiedSista(f): 1:13pm On Aug 27, 2022
Women, the easiest people to love and receive love wink smiley smiley smiley smiley[left][/left] wink
They have a key...if u know, u know

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Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by Softboy001: 1:20pm On Aug 27, 2022
SanctifiedSista:
Women, the easiest people to love and receive love wink smiley smiley smiley smiley[left][/left] wink
They have a key...if u know, u know

tell us the key naw...
Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by zed7: 2:05pm On Aug 27, 2022
To be honest, the female equivalent of you are now in their late 30's and 40's, frustrated and desperate for any thing with a d**k to look their way.

You should understand that while you are making a list, the ladies are also making their list. The only men who have a wide variety of women for their choosing are the rich and powerful.

Look for a woman who ticks 60% of your list and move on.

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Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by Nobody: 2:12pm On Aug 27, 2022
You still dey make list, you never ready! grin

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Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by MrBrownJay1(m): 2:14pm On Aug 27, 2022
desperate people like you never find the right person in their lives because you are too focussed/desperate about this issue, therefore it aint coming naturally. you are talking about being married at 30, as if life was mathematics and at 30, you will surely be with someone worthy of marriage, lol!

here is a clue: the person you described above, may come to your life ONCE or TWICE, but expecting to meet 1000s of such babe (that would fit you perfectly) is not only insane, its immature for you to think this way. why dont you instead enjoy life and let things come naturally?

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Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by Nobody: 4:50pm On Aug 27, 2022
A wise man once wrote:
" I spent many years searching for Mrs Right but to no avail. Then I decided to work on myself to become Mr Right and suddenly all the Mrs Rights started appearing everyway, they were seeking their Mr Right."

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Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by Nobody: 5:08pm On Aug 27, 2022
Fix your height preference- switch to an average height woman that is so your options are open and higher There are not too many tall women, for every tall lady, they are 10 to 20 average height lady. So your preference is a tall lady, then your chances are very slim except you want to marry a woman from Sweden
Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by OperationalVehi: 5:20pm On Aug 27, 2022
You aren't matured enough for a relationship.
You sound like you are looking for a unicorn in a city like Lagos
Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by Softboy001: 10:53am On Aug 30, 2022
i heard everything you guys have said and honestly i have equally spoken to some guys about this offline.

to be honest am not so comfortable with reducing the standard, because if i reduce the standard of what i want, there very high probability that am not going to like the girl. and i've tried that before it doesn't work for me. question people will ask me if that "if you don't love her why did you ask her out, why did you go for her". thats because its always go bad.

and for height also guys look at it naw, am a short dude, do you want me too married a short girl?. i can manage an average height girl, but not a short girl
Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by Yemialade(f): 12:13pm On Aug 30, 2022
Softboy001 ,make i shoot my shot.me too ve got standards too.but in a friendly manner.

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Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by Softboy001: 5:15pm On Aug 30, 2022
Yemialade:
Softboy001 ,make i shoot my shot.me too ve got standards too.but in a friendly manner.

shoot o
Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by frozen70(f): 5:22pm On Aug 30, 2022
Softboy001:
i never thought it will be difficult for me,its not really that am asking for too much. a brief summary of what i really want in a woman is someone that loves me and someone that i love also. is that too much to ask?. am asking for too much?

My name is..., lets just call me z. lipsrsealed am 28 years of age, graduate and currently working even though it's a small job i got, it atleast take care of my bills, we have a lot of family men who is doing my job, its customer service agent job, am writing this today because am having difficulties in finding A SERIOUS GF/ FUTURE WIFE . it has always been my desire to marry when am 30 years and enjoy my life and family in my youth. but it seems that plan is failing as i currently have no person am dating after trying to get for 3 years now. single to stupor

the girls am meeting nowadays, its either they like me and i don't like them or i like them and they dont like me, ever since i left my past relationship. getting a serious one has be nearly impossible, don't get me wrong, getting a girl is not difficult, or getting sex. what has been difficult is getting someone that meet my requirements.

this requirements which i consider as 'very important' is what i want to share with you all, i really need advice, is there anything i need to chop off the list. am i asking for too much. check out my list.

1. RELIGION AND CONVICTION ; for religion i want some that believes in God and fear God. a good or fair Christian. not over religion, not a church goer, just normal regular christian, what i mostly interested in is your conviction, what do you truly believe in, take for example do believe in purposely hurting other people just to help yourself, cheating by all means, to have your way, what do you think about yahoo, good or bad?. those kind of things.

2.EMOTION : i think they is where am having much issues because one of my criteria is that i most like you. as in love you and i must be sure that you love me too. as much as i love you or even more than, but what i get to discover is that when i meet a girl i like, she doesn't like me or not as much as its required, that makes me too back down because i have seen relationship where the girl doesnt like the guy, maybe she just with him for some gains or something, it doesn't end well, and even if you go ahead with the relationship, you won't enjoy it, YOU ENDURE IT!. i have also had girls that likes me like mad, some practically worship me and will do exactly as i asked them to, but the truth of the matter is that it can't work, i know it cnt i have tried it before, the babe go dey annoy me even when she has done nothing wrong, i can't show her off and i dont believe its even a relationship, the last one i try i had to break everything off cos i notice it was affecting her. and i know it's going nowhere, ever since then i promised never to do that again. this was 3 years back. the thing wen a girl likes you and you like the girl, you but can build together and trust each other

3. PHYSICAL ATTRIBUTE i am also having a big issue with this one, the thing here is that, i want a tall or fairly tall girl, reason is that am not a very tall guy and i want someone complimentary. i can't marry a short girl, no matter how much she tick the rest boxes, it can't happen, i need some my height or a little bit taller than me, but the problem am having now is most girls like tall guy s. me finding a tall girl that likes me seems to be a mission impossible.


another thing is a fine girl, here am attracted to fine girls, i don't need to deceive anyone, that's what i want, but on the part she don't have to be over fine, just don't be ugly is fine, am a very fine dude facially so... we are good.

another thing is ass,boobs yes its on the list too, i don't like big boobs angry once a girl has big boobs she is not an option. ass is what i like but not those over big. monstrous ass. a good big ass, i always say it's not about the size but the shape. so that it, medium boobs, big ass, nice shape, fairly fine facially,

4. finance and education: i need some one who is goal driving and fight hard to get what she want. some who strives to be successful. and who can be an asset instead of a liability. it's that simple, and last some who is educated to tertiary level or have a brain like that.


so what do you guys think? is there any pace i need to adjust. am in my firends wedding as am typing this. my man done rush marry, lol



All what you listed are available every where, but I think the problem is you not even the ones you have come across

You need to change some taste of yours as it doesn't even match up with the taste of what you are looking for

As men have taste of the type of women they want
Women too have taste in what they actually want in a man

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Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by Softboy001: 5:32pm On Aug 30, 2022
frozen70:


All what you listed are available every where, but I think the problem is you not even the ones you have come across

You need to change some taste of yours as it doesn't even match up with the taste of what you are looking for

As men have taste of the type of women they want
Women too have taste in what they actually want in a man



go and read what i wrote, am actually looking for someone like me, the only difference is the height. am very handsome dude, hardworking and i have strong convictions of what i am and what i want, that's why there is a list in the first place.
Re: My Failed Search For A Serious Girlfriend/future Wife. by frozen70(f): 7:08pm On Aug 30, 2022
Softboy001:



go and read what i wrote, am actually looking for someone like me, the only difference is the height. am very handsome dude, hardworking and i have strong convictions of what i am and what i want, that's why there is a list in the first place.




Is alright Mr handsome
I wish you good luck in your search

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