Kobojunkie:
[s]So because a 6-year old has what seems great handyman skills, you think the mother is not doing a good job raising her kids? There has to be more than this as reason why you feel you can do a better job.

Are you simply trying to tear the kids away from their mother because you assume you can do a better job or why exactly are you suddenly trying to take charge?[/s]

Irupetepete:
done it for 2 weeks though hard but we no die and am financially OK now than then

Irupetepete:
I called her this night and she said no problem I can have them... I just need tips on how to cope with them... I know it's not gonna be easy but it is a duty and challenge am ready to face

Rozross:
Then what caused your separation?

Irupetepete:
I called her this night and she said no problem I can have them... I just need tips on how to cope with them... I know it's not gonna be easy but it is a duty and challenge am ready to face

Irupetepete:
I called her this night and she said no problem I can have them... I just need tips on how to cope with them... I know it's not gonna be easy but it is a duty and challenge am ready to face

Irupetepete:
she works in an hotel... How sane is it to train my kids in an hotel? I rented a 2bedroom with everything needed in a home in it..their mom stays with her mother and my kids sleeps on a mat cos they live in a room apartment with no security.... The day I went visiting, I couldn't cry at what I see... The kids stray on the street... There are things I can't even mention... She can't stay with a husband because she believes she deserves someone like dangote or otedola....it is clear we can't be together and am not against that but you can't train my kids from an hotel

Kobojunkie:
Questions for you...

1. have you ever paid her some sort of child support before now to help with care for your children or have instead expected her to shoulder the cost all by herself till now??

2. She may not be making enough to afford a better situation for her kids but that doesn't mean she is not a capable mother though. You mention she lives with her mother so does grandma not like being with the kids or something that she has to take them to work with her?

3. More importantly, where you previously married to this woman and are you legally able to pursue what you intend, of course with her sign-off or are you simply attempting here to suggest that since you have a two bedroom apartment with amenities, that you will make a better parent?,

efficiencie:


Well you need to be super careful with kids as a single father. One false accusation is what is needed to put you in a ton of crap. I guess your children are already of schooling age. So enrol them in befitting school and that would keep them busy between 8am and 2pm. After school closes you would have to go pick them and take them to your place of work. Since the business is yours it would be great for the kids to begin to get acquainted with what Daddy does for a living and realities of money making. This means that you have to make your business place a bit comfy for your kids to continue learning (doing homework and learning timeless wisdom from you), play (educational games), eat and sleep before you head home by 6pm. Once at home by 6pm, have your kids freshen up, have a light dinner, say your prayers and go to bed. Rinse and repeat! I will advise you to install cameras in your house for security purposes and to save your head when false accusations come raining down on you. At some point you may decide to take another wife. Don't make the foolish mistake you made with the first. Do not choose a lady based on complexion, your sexual appetite, physique or even dogma. Your wife is meant to be your helper. If she cannot identify the challenges in your life and provide solutions to them she is not your wife rather she is a thorn in the flesh. One good way to know is how well she treats your kids and whether your kids accept her or not. If your kids reject her then reject immediately.

Goodspeed!

Irupetepete:
long story.... She left. She just left one day with a message that she deserve better....
She crave things she can't afford herself....
This is someone who can't even buy an ordinary itel for herself

Irupetepete:
My kids are being trained in an hotel.. Their mum works in an hotel and he takes the kids there to sleep, then he dress them up from their to school...

The kids went for holiday with my mom and you can't believe a 6 yrs old already knows how to loose a door key with a knife...
She doesn't have time for the kids and I, though am not really financially stable, I can still cater for them...

I need advice how I can take care of 2kids age 6 and 4, a boy and a girl...

I go out to work around 8 and come back around 6:30pm but I can always close around 6 cos it is my business...

For single fathers taking care of their kids, I need tips pls... Sometimes, they not staying with me and knowing the condition those kids are breaks my heart... I stay in a 2bedroom apartment with every amenities intact....

Pls help a brother.... I love my kids.... I and their mom have irreconcilable diffs...

OkoRemi2023:



you kids on Nairaland sef, I blame the Op that need sensible and mature tips to care for kids bringing it Here


70% of nairalanders are still child in brain and In age, if you need to seek advise on bringing up a child go to motherless babies home for training and they can help you be training them too while you just go check them



someone needs tips on how to care after his kids and some dummies are asking foolish questions

debbydams:
OK sir

Gaddafi1:



My brother if indeed you truly love your kind then you will bring them back with their mother. Forgive and genuinely reconcile with her as there is no perfect woman or man. We are only tolerating each simply for the sake of our children. The choice is yours to take or be prepared to have hook-up babes or armed robbers as kids. Advice from an elder.

Irupetepete:

1) I send her weekly upkeep... Aside money for clothes for the kids and provisions...

2)she told me point blank in one of our conversations that she doesn't really have time cos she almost every time does night shift, the reason she takes the kids to her work place...
Her mother doesn't have time....
Her siblings just finished secondary school, one learns hair dressing and comes home around 7pm...

3)we've been together for 10yrs plus now before the separation.... She believe she deserve better, I can't force her to like what she hates and have moved on too.
How can kids which have their beds here now sleep on mat?

OkoRemi2023:



you kids on Nairaland sef, I blame the Op that need sensible and mature tips to care for kids bringing it Here


70% of nairalanders are still child in brain and In age, if you need to seek advise on bringing up a child go to motherless babies home for training and they can help you be training them too while you just go check them



someone needs tips on how to care after his kids and some dummies are asking foolish questions

Irupetepete:
I called her this night and she said no problem I can have them... I just need tips on how to cope with them... I know it's not gonna be easy but it is a duty and challenge am ready to face

Amumaigwe:


End of arguments. Who wins @kobojunkie in an argument that requires defending a wayward married woman?

Irupetepete:
My kids are being trained in an hotel.. Their mum works in an hotel and he takes the kids there to sleep, then he dress them up from their to school...

The kids went for holiday with my mom and you can't believe a 6 yrs old already knows how to loose a door key with a knife...
She doesn't have time for the kids and I, though am not really financially stable, I can still cater for them...

I need advice how I can take care of 2kids age 6 and 4, a boy and a girl...

I go out to work around 8 and come back around 6:30pm but I can always close around 6 cos it is my business...

For single fathers taking care of their kids, I need tips pls... Sometimes, they not staying with me and knowing the condition those kids are breaks my heart... I stay in a 2bedroom apartment with every amenities intact....

Pls help a brother.... I love my kids.... I and their mom have irreconcilable diffs...

fman:
Welfare can help you get ur kids.
Since u r capable of training Them.
Plz no vex,
Who be this He in your post?

OkoRemi2023:



you kids on Nairaland sef, I blame the Op that need sensible and mature tips to care for kids bringing it Here


70% of nairalanders are still child in brain and In age, if you need to seek advise on bringing up a child go to motherless babies home for training and they can help you be training them too while you just go check them



someone needs tips on how to care after his kids and some dummies are asking foolish questions

Irupetepete:
My kids are being trained in an hotel.. Their mum works in an hotel and he takes the kids there to sleep, then he dress them up from their to school...

The kids went for holiday with my mom and you can't believe a 6 yrs old already knows how to loose a door key with a knife...
She doesn't have time for the kids and I, though am not really financially stable, I can still cater for them...

I need advice how I can take care of 2kids age 6 and 4, a boy and a girl...

I go out to work around 8 and come back around 6:30pm but I can always close around 6 cos it is my business...

For single fathers taking care of their kids, I need tips pls... Sometimes, they not staying with me and knowing the condition those kids are breaks my heart... I stay in a 2bedroom apartment with every amenities intact....

Pls help a brother.... I love my kids.... I and their mom have irreconcilable diffs...

Irupetepete:
My kids are being trained in an hotel.. Their mum works in an hotel and he takes the kids there to sleep, then he dress them up from their to school...

The kids went for holiday with my mom and you can't believe a 6 yrs old already knows how to loose a door key with a knife...
She doesn't have time for the kids and I, though am not really financially stable, I can still cater for them...

I need advice how I can take care of 2kids age 6 and 4, a boy and a girl...

I go out to work around 8 and come back around 6:30pm but I can always close around 6 cos it is my business...

For single fathers taking care of their kids, I need tips pls... Sometimes, they not staying with me and knowing the condition those kids are breaks my heart... I stay in a 2bedroom apartment with every amenities intact....

Pls help a brother.... I love my kids.... I and their mom have irreconcilable diffs...

Irupetepete:
I called her this night and she said no problem I can have them... I just need tips on how to cope with them... I know it's not gonna be easy but it is a duty and challenge am ready to face

Irupetepete:
she works in an hotel... How sane is it to train my kids in an hotel? I rented a 2bedroom with everything needed in a home in it..their mom stays with her mother and my kids sleeps on a mat cos they live in a room apartment with no security.... The day I went visiting, I couldn't cry at what I see... The kids stray on the street... There are things I can't even mention... She can't stay with a husband because she believes she deserves someone like dangote or otedola....it is clear we can't be together and am not against that but you can't train my kids from an hotel