Slynation:
The question we should be asking is why is she awake by that time when things are happening between two legally married couples...?? Is she a witch or aspiring to be one.

some couples are loud. maybe their loud sex romp is what always wakes her up

MufasaLion:


They should focus on having a better apartment instead of breeding like rodents in a studio apartment.

You just talked like a kid.

ObamaMessi:
Do you think it's ok for parents to share same
bed room with their kids?

I was shocked to my bone marrow when a little girl of eight was telling me of what happens between her parents at night simply because she share the same room with them.

I can't explain but I can assure parents that sharing the same bed room with their kids is not too good.

You said nothing

What did she exactly tell you

ITbomb:
Do you think it is their choice to stay in a one bedroom apartment?

it is condition that make fish to bend.

MufasaLion:


Everybody likes comfort but many are lazy to work for the comfort. Comfort don't come to people, you work for it!

u think its by work?

MufasaLion:


Everybody likes comfort but many are lazy to work for the comfort. Comfort don't come to people, you work for it!

Lol...
Where is the work nah?
Me that I'm a builder it”s been years since I last got a full building contract so would you say I'm not working?
I still have other hustles o yet I'm still trying to meet up...
Bros poverty is simply not a choice.

Spiff20:
If you don't have enough money, use condoms or other cconteacpetives with your wife. Don't bring children into the world to suffer and corrupt them too early. It's a choice here for those who are saying they didn't have a choice.

That's the sad truth.


We cannot continue to do the same negative things the same way and be expecting positive results.


If you are broke and financially unstable but still want to get married, please you and your spouse should hold on with child bearing and focus on ways to stabilize your financial life first and if you must reproduce in such unhealthy conditions, consider the kids and avoid copulating when they are around; be it at night or day. You and your spouse can target your activities when the kids are away.




It hurts me a lot to see struggling couples manufacturing children in batches without proper financial planning like they are operating a factory production line

Mindlog:


Whenever you want to get intimate with your spouse, how do you get your children to stay away from your room?

When you are married you will know the answer to that. The kids have their room and they know it. Must you always get intimate at night when they sleep? During the day, they are in their room playing. They only come in from 8pm till dawn. They also know to knock when coming in because the door is always locked when I'm alone with my wife

Wisetrue99:

So they should also suspend love making till then

They can demarcate the room with a curtain

Shikena

Room demarcation with a curtain changes nothing, it doesn't block the "audio".

Angel55555:

Or better still they should only engage in adult activities whenever the kid is not at home, it's shocking that some parents do it in the presence of their kids.

Do what

Haba

What did the girl told you, pls complete the story for us.

khadaffi:


Oga stop arguing with people. Most of those guys arguing are not married hence they say what is normal but not practicable. I stay in a 3 bedroom with two kids but I stay in the same room with my kids. I also used to have the same mindset that the kids should stay in their room but reality made me change my mind. Most kids less than 10 are always afraid of the dark and knowing the kind of country where we do not have light, if you can always attend to the kids when they need you Goodluck. But if experience teaches them a lesson then they also learn from it. I've seen a situation where robbers broke into a flat and entered through the children's room while the parents escaped through the ceiling and called for help. Sometimes your children needs you, they keep shouting and crying while you are fast asleep and have locked your door. If you can cope with keeping kids in a separate room, fine. If not don't criticize those that do. Those saying "install CCTV in the children's room", I want to ask if the CCTV will not use power. Do we have constant power to achieve that feat?

Living and learning

Michelle70:
i don stop to argue with u.

we all have our individual preference.

U can stick to ur million people ways

don't mind him, he said it as if every nigerian can afford such expenses

Jcash90:
What did the girl told you, pls complete the story for us.

The guy is a troll

Even if they are not sharing room, who told you she won't know what her parents do

This is jet age, many things are rarely hidden

MufasaLion:


Everybody likes comfort but many are lazy to work for the comfort. Comfort don't come to people, you work for it!

many poor people work harder than the rich , its wrong to say that its laziness

Karen2024:
As soon as my child is a year old, to his or her room.

Lies lies lies. Wait till you born. A year old baby is no different from a new born baby. When you get there you go know. I as a father still wakes up every night to attend to my daughter for one reason or the other. Na that one you put on her room? Mind you I live in a three bedroom apartment. No worry your time go reach then you go know

Some of these little children can see in the dark

franchasofficia:
That's the sad truth.


We cannot continue to do the same negative things the same way and be expecting positive results.


If you are broke and financially unstable but still want to get married, please you and your spouse should hold on with child bearing and focus on ways to stabilize your financial life first and if you must reproduce in such unhealthy conditions, consider the kids and avoid copulating when they are around; be it at night or day. You and your spouse can target your activities when the kids are away.




It hurts me a lot to see struggling couples manufacturing children in batches without proper financial planning like they are operating a factory production line

You no see the house of that school girl wey they capture are video

Get the first

If you like build one flat each for your children

Reject poverty, check my signature on how.

khadaffi:


When you are married you will know the answer to that. The kids have their room and they know it. Must you always get intimate at night when they sleep? During the day, they are in their room playing. They only come in from 8pm till dawn. They also know to knock when coming in because the door is always locked when I'm alone with my wife

Co-sleeping was a topic in my Masters' class in Clinical Child Psychology and the focus was helping children to transition into "owning" their own rooms and achieving sleep independence. When your children go visit relatives and have to sleep over, how do they cope?.

MufasaLion:


Everybody likes comfort but many are lazy to work for the comfort. Comfort don't come to people, you work for it!

pls don't talk like this o. I know there are lazy people but if you are not connected in this country, your hardwork might go to waste. not everyone has that grace. just be thankful and help if you can not just by giving money but connect people so they can also reach the top. so many hardworking people have died of hunger. Life can be brutal in Africa. our leaders never provided platforms for people to succeed. if you can succeed in Africa, you can succeed anywhere.

Plan this life according to your pocket. Yes the economy has made many couples live in a small apartment but did the economy also impregnate your wife every month
What many poor people don't know is, you can bang your wife everyday but it should not always lead to pregnancy. And you woman will just lay there with legs wide open ready to conceive after every sex after all it's a free gift from God. Na only your family dem dash the gift??

Karen2024:
As soon as my child is a year old, to his or her room.

do you have family already or just preparing to?

Karen2024:
As soon as my child is a year old, to his or her room.

this time am going to side with the women on this one and blame the men on this one, when a man is Hot and want to have sex and he lives in a one room apartment with kids, most times the woman will tell the man let all the kids sleep first before we have sex, and the man will be like all of them dey sleep and some of the kids are not asleep, am talking from experience, my uncle who lives in germany now, in 1995 i went to benin and i pass the night in their one room apartment with his 4 kids, and in the night he wanted to have sex and his wife to him "your sister pikin i non sure say he dey sleep'' and my uncle was like leave am he don sleep and i was not sleeping and they started having sex, i swear all the sex style they did that night i never see am before for my life, impossible sex styles

ITbomb:
Do you think it is their choice to stay in a one bedroom apartment?

It may not be their choice to stay in a one room apartment but it is their choice to either make love in the presence of their child or not to. They can do whatever they want to do while the child isn't in the room.

Karen2024:
As soon as my child is a year old, to his or her room.

be calming down please, some 1 year are still sucking.

FreeStuffsNG:
So it is the state of Nigeria that push you into having sex before your 8 year old? smh.
Poverty ehn!

The parents did not do that.

The child was awake when she wasn't supposed to be.

Or should a man not fucckk his wife again until he gets a bigger apartment?

No body even ask wat d kid saw. Must it b sex?

So many kids in this forum. Most of the time, couple maybe doing very well, as soon as children started coming, things become so tough for them maybe because of more responsibilities. Some parents may not be careful enough, if you have kids, if u want to make love, go to living room when they are all asleep. We pray not to be poor. The greatest enemy of man kind is poverty

MufasaLion:


Everybody likes comfort but many are lazy to work for the comfort. Comfort don't come to people, you work for it!

u think wealth is by hard work or wisdom?