Once husband and wife sleep in different beds or in different rooms, the marriage is almost over and may not last for very long

Husband and wife have no business sleeping in different beds or in different rooms.

The excuse some women give is that they are nursing a baby who must breast feed through the night and thats a fair point but at some point, the baby will stop feeding on breast milk and at that point, the baby can go and sleep in his or her cot and not in the parents marital bed and after some time he or she or they if twins have to go and sleep in their own room and let Mum and Dad have the needed private time so that they can bond if their young marriage is to survive long after their children have left home (which they will someday).

But the mistake a lot of women make is to over prioritize their time with their baby / toddler to the detriment of their marriage. Why go into a marriage when at the first sign of a baby, the wife imports the baby permanently into her marital bed under the guise of breastfeeding and in some cases even when the child is more than 3 years old, he or she is still sleeping beside the mum at night and often times the man has been stylishly shunted to sleeping in another room and even if chairman wan nack during the day, the 3 year old child is furiously banging on the door for the parents to open the door because the child has been made to always feel he or she has to be beside the Mum.

But wives who want their marriage to last will know where to draw the line and give unto Caesar what is Caesar's in a TIMELY manner.

A word is enough for the wise woman who wants her marriage to last way past when the kids will have left home to start their own families.

This is correct, marriage is about togetherness in bed also

In ur own way abi?


Some marriages last mainly because they sleep in different room.


I av seen a couple who were always fighting then, wen they were under the same room, after some time, hubby rented room outside and normally come home every weekend, ever since they start leaving in separate places, their marriage experiencing sweetness.

This is not true.

There is no manual for a happy marriage asides love your wife, submit to your husband and don't commit adultery.

Your sleeping arrangements or change of name or who does the chores and pays the bills or who cares for the children is totally up to the couple.

No use how you think say marriage spos be to dey judge other people marriage.

Nawa oo
Complaint about everything.

If baby's crib is inside couples room wahala, if baby is in another room and mummy goes to attend to baby double wahala.

God will help us o

U are not correct .I do no sleep in same room with my wife cause u must watch television at night

Not actually true...one need some alone moment now

See people talking and supporting themselves.

How many of u here are even married?

If u are married,u will know that this isn't true but a bogus lie.

All this stuff are not my problem my main problem are those deceivers hiding under the labor party disturbing our peace

Upon an already fail election

Yes Igbo man is campaign coordinator for Lagos State because igbos dominate 42% of Lagos State

Know this and know peace

Poverty induced mindset


I’ve been married for about 7yrs and I’m privileged to own houses and mansions across Africa and I and my queen never shared a room because we have our separate giant rooms with everything a person can need available.

Whenever she pays me a visit In my room with a certain dressing I know it’s go time.

And whenever I come to her room to gossip about bbnaija pool party she knows it’s time for our own pool party, Lols


So op, work smart and hard, make money and move out of that your room and palor so you can enjoy your marital life as it should

True talk although not in all cases. There are exceptions to this.

Very true

Pure lies.

Am a fan of separate rooms. it can benefit quality of sleep.One may snore or have restless legs syndrome and the other sleep is disrupted.

Late Chinua Achebe said. "Something is bound to suffer in marriage. It's either the couples bed or the couples union

Not true

Sometimes couples even need to live in different houses to strengthen their love and passion.

Just because westerners have promoted living together as ideal for couples, doesn't mean it works for everyone.

Parents have been married for 33 years and they have different bedrooms because mum's things need 1 bedroom to itself. She goes to my dad's bedroom some nights and my dad goes to her own some nights, my dad prays loudly at night but mumsy prays quietly hence the need for different bedrooms.

Assumptions and generalisations are bad.

Personally, I like my space.
I don't like sharing room, especially not for long.

Plus, it gets worse when it's with a woman. Things like pads, pants, bra, wig, et'al are things I hate seeing.

For me I prefer we live in separate rooms. She can come into my room anytime she wants but we shouldn't be roommates.

Does it now mean that the marriage will soon crash because we don't share the same room?

Wait, how did this make front page?

Anything that is not directly or indirectly about the next leadership shouldn't make front page.

In any case AtiKowa 2023

Say in ur own opinion sir

Not always true. The couple might agree to separate rooms for reasons best known to them. As long as they perform their marital duties to each other and they are happy , then there is no issue

Not really.

A brother of mine doesn’t share same bedroom with his dear wife because (1) he doesn’t like how women pack different stuff in a room, (2) he’s allergic to their RED time of the month.

Not so true. My self as a case study, we have been sleeping on separate beds in the same house and it would be 8years of togetherness in January. Everything isn't as it seems. Sleeping habits differs and may be a factor, which doesn't mean they'll love each other any less. Like for me, I tend to roll about in bed when asleep from one side to another. So for me not to constantly break her bone week in week out, it's logical we share a different bed .

Story
your opinion though

False

strongly disagree

Are you married?

You men, make money and have two separate bedrooms.

Women can start up a conversation when you are not ready for thier mostly irrelevant stories.

For your sanity, get a separate room, imagine having a newly born in the same bedroom and you need to be mentally and physically alert to make money.

If you want to live long on earth, get a room you go lock yourself inside and have that priceless "me" time. E get why.