Please help me out. I have started getting closer to someone from a broken home. Please does it have negative effect?

He or she can still make a good home, relate closely with him or her

Why seek third party opinions in your relationship. Tell the person you like a one-on-one, heart to heart talk. Express your fears and get to hear their opinion. Look into their eyes, you'll find the answers there

Your family background does not matter at all. The thing is;
'Are you really sure that you are compatible and realistic with your partner, no pretense' and you can be supportive in whatever way they may need you in future?

If your answer is yes. Then your marriage may last longer than you think.

What kills marriage most is entitlement (an African man will tell you, ' this is my house I can do whatever I like') mentality and 3rd party ( direct/indirect)

don't be deceived,SOME PEOPLE FROM BROKEN HOMES TEND TO GIVE A LOT TO MAKE SURE THEY HAVE A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE BECAUSE THEY DON'T WANT THEIR KIDS TO PASS THROUGH WHAT THEY DID....


while some people from not from broke homes tend to leave their marriage over a little challenge because they always see marriage as a bed of roses..and they will say things like my mom never talked to my dad like that....oh,I need a man like my dad


finally, everything depends on individual... people learn in different ways...some learn to live right from others wrong while some learn to live wrongly from others wrong

Relax your mind, average Nigerian is damaged or broken

Sexually damaged

Thoughtfully damaged

Economically damaged by Buhari's Government

Relationship damaged

Educationally damaged

Religiously damaged

Just choose the one you can manage in your partner and compromise the rest.

IF YOUR PARTNER IS BROKEN BECAUSE OF HER PARENTS BROKEN RELATIONSHIP, BREAK YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HER BEFORE SHE BREAK EVERY BREAKABLE IN YOUR LIFE.
Financially broke
Mentally broken
Spermly brokened!

Nope ....


They over compensate and fail!

The guys would try no to be like thier dad but will get attracted to the same type of trash that turned thier dad into a beast till he runs away or die prematurely... Then the son would start to face the same shit from his own marriage and quickly realize... Dad was right after all and then guy starts planning an escape route.. or look for love elsewhere.

If it's a woman, she would be a dick hopper becasue she would always be attracted to her father type men. And then she would try to fix him, and fail becasue that man too done collect before so he now knows the true nature of a woman. And so the madness continues ....


It's sad that often times there is already an offspring and so it continues on perpetuity.

Marriage is a SCAM ... Solution ...

Marriage should be renewed like drivers license.. every 2 years, you are due for renewal and if one party decide not to do again ...

No time ... Share property and vooooooom!

ebubeson:
Please help me out. I have started getting closer to someone from a broken home. Please does it have negative effect?

There are different problems that causes broken home and it can crip up at any time of their marriage

What you can endure can not be accepted by another

If you are interested in her, go on to build a good relationship and both if you have to avoid anything that will break your marriage

Divoc19:
Your family background does not matter at all. The thing is;
'Are you really sure that you are compatible and realistic with your partner, no pretense' and you can be supportive in whatever way they may need you in future?

If your answer is yes. Then your marriage may last longer than you think.

What kills marriage most is entitlement (an African man will tell you, ' this is my house I can do whatever I like') mentality and 3rd party ( direct/indirect)

In courtship, it may look compatible, in marriage, reverse might be the case. Marriage is extremely complicating

Yes. It all depends on the individuals involved.

Marriage is not for everyone.
It's high time we accept that

A beautiful morning to you and your household this beautiful morning imadiyi

imadiyi:

In courtship, it was look compatible, in marriage, reverse might be the case. Marriage is extremely complicating

OP...
When you go to the hospital and the doctor suspects that you have a disease condition, let's say diabetes ...

One of the questions that you'll be asked is, IS THERE ANYONE IN YOUR FAMILY THAT HAS DIABETES? IS THERE A HISTORY OF DIABETES IN YOUR FAMILY? ...

The reason for this because it has been proven by science, psychologist, sociologist etc that WHAT HAPPENS IN THE LIFE OF A PARENT CAN ALSO HAPPEN IN THE LIFE OF THE CHILD - whether or not it is genetically related ...

However...
Just as a person with a predisposition to diabetes can put measures in place to never have diabetes, so can a person that comes from a broken home put things in place to never have a broken home ...

So the question you should ask yourself is this, what measure is my partner putting in place to make sure that history doesn't repeat itself? ...

Because if they're not putting effort, rest assured that she will most definitely act in a way that will cause history to repeat itself...

Yes.

for instance my dad cares for his children but there are some of his attitudes l hate. So l neva pray to be a father like my dad.

same thing applies to people from broken homes(the serious ones tho'). They'll surely try all means neva to have a broken home just like their parents cos there are a lot of disadvantages in a broken home.

before you marry the person, assess the person's behavior and life style to make sure the person is a serious type so that history won't repeat itself.....

my one cent

Yes! N yes ! because they will love to keep their home well not to repeat wat happened to their parent, but u must not die in it if it is not working

Divoc19:
Marriage is not for everyone.
It's high time we accept that

A beautiful morning to you and your household this beautiful morning imadiyi

Thank you Divoc. Same, my dear. How has it been, today?

Chloraseptic:
Relax your mind, average Nigerian is damaged or broken

Sexually damaged

Thoughtfully damaged

Economically damaged by Buhari's Government

Relationship damaged

Educationally damaged

Religiously damaged

Just choose the one you can manage in your partner and compromise the rest.

This Is the Truth and Reality of These Days.

Yuppp.

Just wait and see and watch Pells and I work out.

ebubeson:
Please help me out. I have started getting closer to someone from a broken home. Please does it have negative effect?

Our Experiences and Exposures shapes Our Life so Yes, Dyfunctional home have negative effects on the Upgbringing of Children and without Interventions it affects them till adulthood!

Nevertheless, You can Provide the Succor and the Love to Shape and Reshape the Mental Health to Normalcy!

Only if you don't have your own issues Yourself!

Person never see beautiful House before, you come dey think say he go fit build Beauriful House.

Except say He go do research and study about house building, na the design wen his see and experience He go build.

Kashif?

Majority of the failed marriages we have today are from people with non broken homes. Life no get manual. Is the person traumatized by the broken home and has not sought help Do they or one of the parents now hate men or marriage Na those kind things you go dey look not generalization.

First things first, it’s not the fault of your partner that he/she is from a broken home. You can’t blame your partner for the decision of their parents to break up.

Secondly, I have seen people from broken home swear that they would do whatever they can to ensure that they don’t have a broken home.

Thirdly, not coming from a broken home doesn’t mean you can not have a broken home.

In conclusion, you have to evaluate your partner to know if they have not been psychologically affected by the ills/negative effects of a broken home. You also need to evaluate yourself to know if your “unbroken home background” is not going to have any negative effect on ur future home. Some unbroken homes are more toxic than some broken homes.

You can't do what you don't know. 70%> kids from broken homes end up breaking theirs not through any particular fault of theirs but because they grew up with no marriage to understudy. The biggest cause of divorce in today's society is a generational one. Just like going through the educational system enables one to fit into corporate setting in society so does growing up with both parents present in the home. No matter the level of rancour in that home the child turns out to be more mentally, psychologically and emotionally balanced and prepared for marriage than those with single parentage. Life is a reality so you really can't give what you don't have.