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My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Eyinju112(f): 7:15pm On Jan 02, 2023
while I was growing, my mother told me if I allow a man see my private part I’d
get pregnant, and if I get pregnant she’d throw me out to the street to suffer, and during the suffering she’d deny me access to see her, my father and my brother. That was a hell of punishment I thought to myself, knowing fully well my mom is a disciplinary I never questioned her words. I got to secondary school still carrying that mentality until my teacher said a different thing......that you can only get pregnant after sex and if the opposite sex cum inside of you. I wasn’t sure who was lying because I saw my mother as a saint and the way she beats I and my elder brother whenever we told a lie, then I concluded my teacher was the liar until I was 15 and in SS2. A very close friend of mine got disflowered, she narrated how it happened and I told her confidently she was gonna get pregnant, I think I’m out of the box lol...that’s another gist lol
So back to my point, I don’t know if I’m correct with using every ladies but I’d say 90% of ladies were given same orientation my mother gave to me. Our mothers made us see sex as a whole big deal, my mother questions my virginity all the time, we saw it as something precious we could ever give to anyone. That is why a woman feels so bitter and angry towards herself after giving her body in a relationship and getting dumped. Infact some hate the men they once loved and if possible they’d wanna harm the guy because they feel cheated. It’s not our fault we’re like that, our mothers planted that mentality in our head to keep us safe. Perhaps the western mothers didn’t do that to their kiddos, that’s why they’re like that and we’re like this. Ain’t saying you must be a virgin oooo. My point here is not virginity but our mentality towards sex..

I know my gender have messed this whole thing up and have made it look like it’s only the body we have to give, if we women can take sex out of the table and bring same energy the men gives, if he buys you gifts buy him gifts too, if he spends on you please spend back, all of this can be possible if you are set to work, women have a higher chances of getting job than men, women makes it well in every industry than men. The sex thing should be a voluntary thing, when you both are up for it, not because he’s giving you money you must give him sex, that’s a big mess and you won’t stop crying of being used if you don’t stop that nonsense... This is a new year, we can do better.. engage in something that keeps you busy and fetch you money, look for jobs, you have a better Chance of getting a good job, when you work hard for your money without your body being attached to it then you can earn every respect back.


Happy new year fellas

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Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by virginprincess(f): 7:21pm On Jan 02, 2023
cheesy cheesy,Op are we sharing the same mother because the way my own mother take this virginity thing ehn,although she did lie to me but she alway advises me everytime that if i keep my virginity the kind of man that will come for me even me sef go shock,she will now start using some people as example for me,my mama ehn cheesy cheesy,anytime i come back from school if you see the way my mama go examine me ehn come still bombard me with numerous questions and advises,but i'm very happy i'm blessed with such a mother,her advise and discipline has kept me going all this years,i will make such i don't disappoint her,with the way she's going i know non of my brothers will dare bring a non virgin woman into our home.

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Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Eyinju112(f): 7:25pm On Jan 02, 2023
Were you told same lie too?
virginprincess:
cheesy
Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Nobody: 7:27pm On Jan 02, 2023
lipsrsealed
Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by PerfectStranger(m): 7:28pm On Jan 02, 2023
Nice one.

But no virgin no deal!!!
Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Eyinju112(f): 7:29pm On Jan 02, 2023
Awwww my ladies don’t wan agree with me
Nia69:
lipsrsealed
Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by overdrive(m): 7:30pm On Jan 02, 2023
Good one.will they hear I don't think so.

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Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Nobody: 7:33pm On Jan 02, 2023
Eyinju112:
Awwww my ladies don’t wan agree with me
My mother didn't tell me that lie.
I agree with the "bringing the same energy" part. smiley
Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Eyinju112(f): 7:34pm On Jan 02, 2023
No issues maama smiley
Nia69:
My mother didn't tell me that lie.
I agree with the "bringing the same energy" part. smiley
Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Nobody: 7:35pm On Jan 02, 2023
Eyinju112:
No issues maama smiley
smiley

Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by fman(m): 7:35pm On Jan 02, 2023
What's your point?
Maybe that's why nia69 was mute!
Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Ballzproblem2: 7:36pm On Jan 02, 2023
old bitter lesbians disguising as feminist will avoid this thread,OP you do well, you are a woman of virtue

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Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Eyinju112(f): 7:38pm On Jan 02, 2023
if you don’t get the point please forget about it, we’re all adult here and I don’t need to break words into syllables before you can understand... no ish
fman:
What's your point?
Maybe that's why nia69 was mute!

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Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Enny2013(f): 7:39pm On Jan 02, 2023
My mum would say..."if a man's body touches yours,u will be pregnant."

To b honest, nothing like being chaste as a woman.
Just b hardworking, decent n intelligent.
These command respect.

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Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Nobody: 7:39pm On Jan 02, 2023
fman:
What's your point?
Maybe that's why nia69 was mute!
smiley
Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by virginprincess(f): 7:39pm On Jan 02, 2023
Eyinju112:
Were you told same lie too?
My own was not lie but advise and encouragement.

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Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Eyinju112(f): 7:42pm On Jan 02, 2023
grin our mothers are funny chai
Enny2013:
My mum would say..."if a man's body touches yours,u will be pregnant."

To b honest, nothing like being chaste as a woman.
Just b hardworking, decent n intelligent.
These command respect.

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Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Eyinju112(f): 7:43pm On Jan 02, 2023
And I’m glad it got you going
virginprincess:
My own was not lie but advise and encouragement.
Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by fman(m): 7:45pm On Jan 02, 2023
Eyinju112:
if you don’t get the point please forget about it, we’re all adult here and I don’t need to break words into syllables before you can understand... no ish
please do find it in your heart to resist that tempting urge to mention me!!
Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by virginprincess(f): 7:47pm On Jan 02, 2023
Eyinju112:
And I’m glad it got you going
Yea,it really helped me and i promise not to disappoint her.

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Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by anthonyuncle(m): 7:48pm On Jan 02, 2023
nice one.
I love the way you talked about ladies bringing more to the table other than sex in the relationship.
I feel ashamed when a lady is approached and the first thing she says is " I want a relationship without sex" - in 2023?! this comment implies that she has rated sex as the most important/ highest thing she can offer or what you are after.
it's funny how lots of ladies feel that that's what every man is after. this results to most ladies not working on themselves to improve themselves in other areas of life. many are not even observant towards the state of mind of the man. some are so emotionless. they feel that if he decides to leave, there are a thousand and one men out there lusting after their bodies.
yes, sex is enjoyable.
sex is part of the deal, but it's for both parties.
there is more to a relationship than d!cks and puss!es

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Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Eyinju112(f): 7:50pm On Jan 02, 2023
You nailed the point. Thanks for reading and digesting so well
anthonyuncle:
nice one.
I love the way you talked about ladies bringing more to the table other than sex in the relationship.
I feel ashamed when a lady is approached and the first thing she says is " I want a relationship without sex" - in 2023?! this comment implies that she has rated sex as the most important/ highest thing she can offer or what you are after.
it's funny how lots of ladies feel that that's what every man is after. this results to most ladies not working on themselves to improve themselves in other areas of life. many are not even observant towards the state of mind of the man. some are so emotionless. they feel that if he decides to leave, there are a thousand and one men out there lusting after their bodies.
yes, sex is enjoyable.
sex is part of the deal, but it's for both parties.
there is more to a relationship than d!cks and puss!es
Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Rexymania(m): 9:18pm On Jan 02, 2023
You tried.... No seriously you tried. But I'm getting high just staring at your picture
Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Sixfeetbelle: 9:28pm On Jan 02, 2023
anthonyuncle:
nice one.
I love the way you talked about ladies bringing more to the table other than sex in the relationship.
I feel ashamed when a lady is approached and the first thing she says is " I want a relationship without sex" - in 2023?! this comment implies that she has rated sex as the most important/ highest thing she can offer or what you are after.
it's funny how lots of ladies feel that that's what every man is after. this results to most ladies not working on themselves to improve themselves in other areas of life. many are not even observant towards the state of mind of the man. some are so emotionless. they feel that if he decides to leave, there are a thousand and one men out there lusting after their bodies.
yes, sex is enjoyable.
sex is part of the deal, but it's for both parties.
there is more to a relationship than d!cks and puss!es

Because that's what every man is after.

Let's not lie to ourselves this new year, please

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Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by anthonyuncle(m): 10:34pm On Jan 02, 2023
Sixfeetbelle:


Because that's what every man is after.

Let's not lie to ourselves this new year, please

that's what you are after.
speak for yourself this new year, please.

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Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Eyinju112(f): 11:15pm On Jan 02, 2023
Hahaha, everyone with their new year resolution
anthonyuncle:


that's what you are after.
speak for yourself this new year, please.
Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by anthonyuncle(m): 11:23pm On Jan 02, 2023
Eyinju112:
Hahaha, everyone with their new year resolution

don't mind him
Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Kapeter(m): 5:28am On Jan 03, 2023
Wetin this OP dey talk self say if I buy you gift you self for buy me gift. Mtchew I say I need your gift ni. Only thing wey I need be s3x s3x s3x nothing again. Boys you fit cook for me sometimes sha or after cum you fit be my gist partner but before that s3x nothing else wey I need. grin Mind you because I know I'm mostly for s3x s3x s3x if we do not share that very same orientation in a relationship, we nor go last two days irrespective of any other thing you can do for me cuz I'm used to taking care of myself by myself I barely need anything from no one so you see.

And back to our mothers I think it was just the only way they could keep us safe from unwanted pregnancy (for both gender) which could eventually take run to ruin us forever and just like you tightly point out too, it mess with some people's mental health, some girls might end up killing a man they feel used them just cause they gave them their "precious body" and then life get ruined from their. So I think that's just their way to protect us.

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Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Fmghewzy2: 8:30am On Jan 03, 2023
Kapeter:
Wetin this OP dey talk self say if I buy you gift you self for buy me gift. Mtchew I say I need your gift ni. Only thing wey I need be s3x s3x s3x nothing again. s just their way to protect us.

What you wrote up there is enough to give anyone headaches.


And if you don't see sense in what op said , something is wrong with you.
And not all guys are after sex,sex......like you stated.

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Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Sixfeetbelle: 10:05am On Jan 03, 2023
anthonyuncle:


that's what you are after.
speak for yourself this new year, please.

Are you a monk that you're not after sex with a woman?
Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by Eyinju112(f): 12:09pm On Jan 03, 2023
Are you a sex addict? If yes you’ve got to stop. There are more to sex in a relationship.. how about you meet a woman that help you grow in every way of your life but refuse to offer sex, would you let her slip through your fingers and then run to sex maniac that have come to destroy you financially.
Kapeter:
Wetin this OP dey talk self say if I buy you gift you self for buy me gift. Mtchew I say I need your gift ni. Only thing wey I need be s3x s3x s3x nothing again. Boys you fit cook for me sometimes sha or after cum you fit be my gist partner but before that s3x nothing else wey I need. grin Mind you because I know I'm mostly for s3x s3x s3x if we do not share that very same orientation in a relationship, we nor go last two days irrespective of any other thing you can do for me cuz I'm used to taking care of myself by myself I barely need anything from no one so you see.

And back to our mothers I think it was just the only way they could keep us safe from unwanted pregnancy (for both gender) which could eventually take run to ruin us forever and just like you tightly point out too, it mess with some people's mental health, some girls might end up killing a man they feel used them just cause they gave them their "precious body" and then life get ruined from their. So I think that's just their way to protect us.

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Re: My Mother Lie And How It Helped my mental health by anthonyuncle(m): 12:44pm On Jan 03, 2023
Sixfeetbelle:


Are you a monk that you're not after sex with a woman?

are you a casanova that you are only after sex with a woman?

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