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Re: I Am Depressed by sparkleboy(m): 4:49am On Jan 14, 2023
Spoken like a wise human! God bless you
placeofallure:


But you are a bully. You are a terrorist! You harass her with hateful words all the time. Do you know what those words were doing to her? Imagine telling her she was your mistake, telling her she's a never-do-well, you made her entirely worthless. She felt less of who she is originally. You killed her with those words. Emotionally, you are an abuser. There's a limit to what we can take. Limits break, limits are exceeded. She has reached her breaking point. Can you undo what you have done?

Do NOT listen to the many people here who will say leave her and let her suffer. Suffer for what exactly? You wronged her. She has tolerated you enough. Marriage is not meant to be endured, it's meant to be enjoyed. What did Kobojunkie tell you, maybe you should borrow a leaf. You need therapy.

I understand probably she's not working and that's a strain on your finances but you have to sit and plan together. Don't take your frustrations out on her. Somebody like me, I'm better off if you take cane and beat me instead of raining abuses on me. I've been like this since I was a child. Words will keep reverberating in your head even when physical pain from cane has left you.

Go and make your marriage work bro, you are the head of the family. Get family members to sit together and principally, you and your wife have a lot to do. Let's rid our society of broken marriages. Good luck to you.
Re: I Am Depressed by Sosqui: 4:50am On Jan 14, 2023
breakthrough22:


So if there was power outage as u claimed, how come the phone rang?
She might have been charging the phone somewhere else due to epileptic power supply. You are a nagging insecure husband. Work on your anger.
Re: I Am Depressed by Fedrams: 5:10am On Jan 14, 2023
You should not have allowed her to travel to her parents house if you are not going together. She can visit ooo but to spend a night there is what I can't accept. Did you married her properly ?
Well, I can't allow my wife to sleep in her parents house while I will be the only one at home. Am sure ladies too will not be happy if there husband shld leave them at home and go to his parents house for a night


breakthrough22:
Good evenning ,

I came back home from work this night to find out my wife and my son have packed and abandoned me .

My son is 4 years old and I really don't mean to hurt my wife .

She travelled on the 26th of December to her dad house here in Lagos .I missed her so much and I sent her money to come back last Saturday though she said she will be coming on Sunday only for me to call her between 2pm and 8pm without her picking the call .

The phone rang times without number .I later gave the last try and the no was busy answering other call .She later picked and said there was no light .So,she couldn't charge. I was mad because the excuse was too flimsy .I challenged her to tell her but your phone rang .I was mad and I lost trust in her that moment and flashed back to the excuse that she will not come on Saturday.

Seriously ,I was angry and different thoughts came to my mind like May be she went to see another man .

That hour ,I told her I don't want to see her again .I was angry though .She didn't come on Sunday. She came back very early yesterday which was Monday.

I will not lie ,I have been so angry ,ranting and telling her to go back to her parent house that I don't trust her again.

To my surprise ,I came back tonight and she already packed all her loads ,packed my son things without leaving any thing .Her wardrobe and my son wardrobe have been empty as I am typing .She packed everything .

Seriously ,I am depressed cos I love her .I love my son .I can't even allow him to stay over there to start schooling. Me and my wife have been together since 2013 .We have gone through a lot of difficulties together and now ,things are beginning to look good for us .I am so down right now .I called he dad and her brother .It is like they took that decision together .

I have never beaten her before but I do nag especially when bills are weighing me down .His dad and his brother was just shouting at me .Fear of been a single dad or living alone at this stage of my life will make me a walking ghost and the fact that ,I really love my son too and also my wife too will one day kill me .

Imagine ,that Saturday she changed what she saved my no with and saved with my son name.I attached my call history .Check the image of the missed calls.

Please what do I do?I am devastated .


Some of her chats this night ..

[1/10, 9:35 PM] SWEETHEART: Hv always endure with u even though u did not hv money,but u always rain insult on me everyday .am not coming back I want to work and make my own money,u said u hv never achieved anything good bcoz of me!u said I am your biggest mistake in life and now hv made up my mind with you.you pushed me to the wall!u make me carry luggage in the hot sun and cry ,am tired,I cried and cried and endure all bcoz of love so nao am ready to work and earn good for myself and my son.
[1/10, 9:40 PM] SWEETHEART: U can change ur key am not coming again
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: Am not ,u know is too late for me to come back to .... and u urself know is my biggest fear bcoz I don't like coming here but u make me come back,is too late. Even wen u always tell me to go,I will still wait but u make me come back to my fear It is too late.
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: ...will start school on Monday here and just take responsibility of it, if u don't want to loose ur son too.
Re: I Am Depressed by olanrewaju99(m): 5:20am On Jan 14, 2023
breakthrough22:


If she stays too long in her father house,I will never accept her back .

Seriously, I have missed my family but I am not accepting her back if she spend the remaining days in January in his dad house and I will never send a dime to them


From all your said if she were to be your sister what would you advice her? To be honest with you, you sounded too controlling and full of yourself. Work on your anger issues and ego. That's my one cent.
Re: I Am Depressed by Tzar(m): 5:21am On Jan 14, 2023
You are a wicked and insecure megalomaniac!
So, you made her feel worthless by confining her to being a full house wife, yet you don’t want to pay ALL the bills?!
I honestly don’t know how else to say it, but you are an idi0t! Men like you make the male gender look bad!
The woman and her family did well for her. You are a wicked man. If you drop dead today, how will she fend for her son if you don’t allow her work?!
Abeg go and look for your type of lazy, talentless and insecure slave to remarry. Look for a woman willing to take your insults when you cannot foot all the bills. Werey!

breakthrough22:
Good evenning ,

I came back home from work this night to find out my wife and my son have packed and abandoned me .

My son is 4 years old and I really don't mean to hurt my wife .

She travelled on the 26th of December to her dad house here in Lagos .I missed her so much and I sent her money to come back last Saturday though she said she will be coming on Sunday only for me to call her between 2pm and 8pm without her picking the call .

The phone rang times without number .I later gave the last try and the no was busy answering other call .She later picked and said there was no light .So,she couldn't charge. I was mad because the excuse was too flimsy .I challenged her to tell her but your phone rang .I was mad and I lost trust in her that moment and flashed back to the excuse that she will not come on Saturday.

Seriously ,I was angry and different thoughts came to my mind like May be she went to see another man .

That hour ,I told her I don't want to see her again .I was angry though .She didn't come on Sunday. She came back very early yesterday which was Monday.

I will not lie ,I have been so angry ,ranting and telling her to go back to her parent house that I don't trust her again.

To my surprise ,I came back tonight and she already packed all her loads ,packed my son things without leaving any thing .Her wardrobe and my son wardrobe have been empty as I am typing .She packed everything .

Seriously ,I am depressed cos I love her .I love my son .I can't even allow him to stay over there to start schooling. Me and my wife have been together since 2013 .We have gone through a lot of difficulties together and now ,things are beginning to look good for us .I am so down right now .I called he dad and her brother .It is like they took that decision together .

I have never beaten her before but I do nag especially when bills are weighing me down .His dad and his brother was just shouting at me .Fear of been a single dad or living alone at this stage of my life will make me a walking ghost and the fact that ,I really love my son too and also my wife too will one day kill me .

Imagine ,that Saturday she changed what she saved my no with and saved with my son name.I attached my call history .Check the image of the missed calls.

Please what do I do?I am devastated .


Some of her chats this night ..

[1/10, 9:35 PM] SWEETHEART: Hv always endure with u even though u did not hv money,but u always rain insult on me everyday .am not coming back I want to work and make my own money,u said u hv never achieved anything good bcoz of me!u said I am your biggest mistake in life and now hv made up my mind with you.you pushed me to the wall!u make me carry luggage in the hot sun and cry ,am tired,I cried and cried and endure all bcoz of love so nao am ready to work and earn good for myself and my son.
[1/10, 9:40 PM] SWEETHEART: U can change ur key am not coming again
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: Am not ,u know is too late for me to come back to .... and u urself know is my biggest fear bcoz I don't like coming here but u make me come back,is too late. Even wen u always tell me to go,I will still wait but u make me come back to my fear It is too late.
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: ...will start school on Monday here and just take responsibility of it, if u don't want to loose ur son too.

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Re: I Am Depressed by GorillaApp(m): 5:27am On Jan 14, 2023
breakthrough22:


I didn't chase her away ,She did herself .If she doesn't come back,I will move on .I will always be there to help financially
Someone up there, kobojunkie said you should tackle your anger issue and trust issues. Beating a woman is a big no no for me. It brings you down to their level and even beneath. Follow what kobojunkie said in the first page and lastly, even if she comes back after January or even in march, accept her
You fvck up. Real men don't beat their women
Re: I Am Depressed by Kobojunkie: 5:29am On Jan 14, 2023
Tzar:
You are a wicked and insecure megalomaniac!
So, you made her feel worthless by confining her to being a full house wife, yet you don’t want to pay ALL the bills?!
Women need to stop dating or even marrying men who do such to them. They open themselves to all forms of ridicule by refusing to have themselves established before marriage. Look at the way this poor man took to insulting this woman simply because she, an adult, refused to make meaningful her life before marriage. undecided

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Re: I Am Depressed by Nobody: 5:33am On Jan 14, 2023
breakthrough22:
Good evenning ,

I came back home from work this night to find out my wife and my son have packed and abandoned me .

My son is 4 years old and I really don't mean to hurt my wife .

She travelled on the 26th of December to her dad house here in Lagos .I missed her so much and I sent her money to come back last Saturday though she said she will be coming on Sunday only for me to call her between 2pm and 8pm without her picking the call .

The phone rang times without number .I later gave the last try and the no was busy answering other call .She later picked and said there was no light .So,she couldn't charge. I was mad because the excuse was too flimsy .I challenged her to tell her but your phone rang .I was mad and I lost trust in her that moment and flashed back to the excuse that she will not come on Saturday.

Seriously ,I was angry and different thoughts came to my mind like May be she went to see another man .

That hour ,I told her I don't want to see her again .I was angry though .She didn't come on Sunday. She came back very early yesterday which was Monday.

I will not lie ,I have been so angry ,ranting and telling her to go back to her parent house that I don't trust her again.

To my surprise ,I came back tonight and she already packed all her loads ,packed my son things without leaving any thing .Her wardrobe and my son wardrobe have been empty as I am typing .She packed everything .

Seriously ,I am depressed cos I love her .I love my son .I can't even allow him to stay over there to start schooling. Me and my wife have been together since 2013 .We have gone through a lot of difficulties together and now ,things are beginning to look good for us .I am so down right now .I called he dad and her brother .It is like they took that decision together .

I have never beaten her before but I do nag especially when bills are weighing me down .His dad and his brother was just shouting at me .Fear of been a single dad or living alone at this stage of my life will make me a walking ghost and the fact that ,I really love my son too and also my wife too will one day kill me .

Imagine ,that Saturday she changed what she saved my no with and saved with my son name.I attached my call history .Check the image of the missed calls.

Please what do I do?I am devastated .


Some of her chats this night ..

[1/10, 9:35 PM] SWEETHEART: Hv always endure with u even though u did not hv money,but u always rain insult on me everyday .am not coming back I want to work and make my own money,u said u hv never achieved anything good bcoz of me!u said I am your biggest mistake in life and now hv made up my mind with you.you pushed me to the wall!u make me carry luggage in the hot sun and cry ,am tired,I cried and cried and endure all bcoz of love so nao am ready to work and earn good for myself and my son.
[1/10, 9:40 PM] SWEETHEART: U can change ur key am not coming again
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: Am not ,u know is too late for me to come back to .... and u urself know is my biggest fear bcoz I don't like coming here but u make me come back,is too late. Even wen u always tell me to go,I will still wait but u make me come back to my fear It is too late.
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: ...will start school on Monday here and just take responsibility of it, if u don't want to loose ur son too.
Naija network neva do you strong thing, you can be trying a number that's off and naija network will tell you the person is on another call.

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Re: I Am Depressed by NezzyMike: 5:38am On Jan 14, 2023
Jashub:
Op, forget her and move on . When hunger and shame torture her she'll come crawling back. Secondly , it won't be easy for her to find someone willing to marry her and bear the burden of carrying the financial responsibility of her son .

Lol...Infact , I pity this woman . She's deluded and doesn't know that being a single mother is the worst sentence a woman can give herself in this harsh economy.




Continue encouraging emotional abuse until e knock for your door. OP your mouth no good at all at all, leave her to be more responsible to herself by engaging in something.
Re: I Am Depressed by Unrated900(m): 5:43am On Jan 14, 2023
Houseofglam7:
Some people deserve to be single.
@Op, you are one of such.


Stop saying that

Women you be calm and tolerate

This woman already has someone servicing her

Hence she used that point to leave

She go suffer back

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Re: I Am Depressed by NezzyMike: 5:45am On Jan 14, 2023
abbey621:
Mr. man do you want to hear the truth or gibberish from people whose homes are not tidy itself? Concentrate on your son, hire a good lawyer, go to court and sue for custody. In Nigeria, the father gets to keep the child 90% of the time especially if the child is no longer a baby. Why did I say forget the woman? It is simple, she can be a nice lovely wife but her family's behavior is unacceptable. A good parent would call the husband over and find ways to resolve the issues not pour kerosene on it!

See, it is clear that they don't rate you and the best you can do is be a man and not show weakness in this situation. Yes you have anger issue, yes you said hurtful words but a wife that cannot discern the difference between anger and hate deserves to be single. Give her what she wants, time at her father's house but make sure you fight for your son, nothing more, nothing less.....RUBBISH!



How old are you?

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Re: I Am Depressed by Tzar(m): 5:48am On Jan 14, 2023
I totally agree. Just like we tell men to make something meaningful financially and career-wise before deciding to marry, women should start doing that too. No woman should allow her man tell her not to work. She may change careers to allow her play her wife & mother roles at home. However, not working at all is a NO, NO for me. What if something happens to the man? Such women suffer a great deal if the man becomes incapacitated or dies.

Kobojunkie:
Women need to stop dating or even marrying men who do such to them. They open themselves to all forms of ridicule by refusing to have themselves established before marriage. Look at the way this poor man took to insulting this woman simply because she, an adult, refused to make meaningful her life before marriage. undecided

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Re: I Am Depressed by Kobojunkie: 5:50am On Jan 14, 2023
Tzar:
I totally agree. Just like we tell men to make something meaningful financially and career-wise before deciding to marry, women should start doing that too. No woman should allow her man tell her not to work. She may change careers to allow her play her wife & mother roles at home. However, not working at all is a NO, NO for me. What if something happens to the man? Such women suffer a great deal if the man becomes incapacitated or dies.
Especially with divorce more accepted in society, no woman should enter into marriage without herself established, no matter how long it takes. undecided
Re: I Am Depressed by Unrated900(m): 5:51am On Jan 14, 2023
o my surprise ,I came back tonight and she already packed all her loads ,packed my son things without leaving any thing .Her wardrobe and my son wardrobe have been empty as I am typing .She packed everything .



Listen my brother no matter the amount of your annoyance,thank God you haven’t lay your hands on her,
A good woman should Be tolerant no matter what.

Our attitude are different to each other.
What she did is the worst any woman should do in Husband’s household

This your woman already has a man toasting and given her hope of life.

Listen don’t put this on your head too much.

She has used her own wayward life to affect the child.

Listen am
Talking from experience,leave that from your mind and face front work ahead in your life
Save some cash get a car
Let her be hearing your prosperity out there.
Don’t call her
I can never tolerate a shaky or unreal woman.
The day my wife mistakenly said she will park out.
I said you are free to go and I opened the gate for my self.
Fear wont let her go
Cos in life
We men needs to be happy so we won’t die prematurely.
Listen again brother,leave that woman
She will come back begging and crying after many men has sampled her.
See them out there single mothers
They are too much roaming the street
Your wife has betrayed you because of mere argument that doesn’t worth her leaving.

Any woman that tells me such is gonna see my red eyes

Cos I Dey work and making my money
And providing for them.

I wish u well

But if he no sure for you
Call my number on my profile

I will tell u more

I wish you well

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Re: I Am Depressed by juman(m): 5:56am On Jan 14, 2023
You are toxic person.
Your wife did well running away to save her life from toxic relationship.
Re: I Am Depressed by abbey621(m): 5:58am On Jan 14, 2023
NezzyMike:




How old are you?

Older than you for sure grin
Re: I Am Depressed by akpunda86: 6:02am On Jan 14, 2023
breakthrough22:



Tell me what you would have done if this happened to u .

I just want to learn from you .The fact that my wife is not someone who like saying sorry .

See ehn, ordinary SORRY would have saved all these dramas .She didn't accept she was wrong

Problem in all this sorry 2 ask are you doing well or just eating from hand ✋ to mouth,do you ,women � love comfort,are you giving her comfort,upon that raging fire and threatening her.

If a woman leaves u bro,leave her,never beg her thou not easy cos begging her she will leave you again.She will enter league of single mothers group that are many on Facebook looking 4 same dick.
Bro solution to all this is hussle ,pray make God butter your � hussle,your son will look for you.for money don't send her shishi,let the father foot it,she comes back send her back
Re: I Am Depressed by zedegit: 6:08am On Jan 14, 2023
Wahala. Op it seems you abused her too much. Emotional pain and psychological pain is deeper than physical pain.

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Re: I Am Depressed by OmegaAutos: 6:11am On Jan 14, 2023
breakthrough22:



So your wife is not supposed to say sorry if u called her for 6 hours without picking her calls?

And your wife changes your name from SWEETHEART to your son NAME on her contact that particular hours u are calling her ?

Do you mean I don't deserve explanation for all these ?

That guy is trying to lead you astray, don't mind him ooo
Re: I Am Depressed by rapwizzy(m): 6:24am On Jan 14, 2023
jibrilELsudan:



YOU ARE VERY STUPID
Your papa
Re: I Am Depressed by Paracetamol01: 6:25am On Jan 14, 2023
breakthrough22:


I didn't chase her away ,She did herself .If she doesn't come back,I will move on .I will always be there to help financially
no give shishi . allow her suffer with the kid alone. In no time her brain go reset
Re: I Am Depressed by Femabol01: 6:32am On Jan 14, 2023
breakthrough22:


If she stays too long in her father house,I will never accept her back .

Seriously, I have missed my family but I am not accepting her back if she spend the remaining days in January in his dad house and I will never send a dime to them
You have not learnt anything from your mistakes; you pushed her to the wall and still ranting. You guys are not divorced but only separated, and it's your responsibility to cater for you child. The law will force you to pay for the upkeep of your child. You need a change of attitude to convince your wife to come back as I presumed her to be suffering emotionally. Get a good marriage councilor as soon as possible before it will be too late. A word is enough for the wise.
Re: I Am Depressed by 2buffagain(m): 6:36am On Jan 14, 2023
OP This is the writing pattern of a person, male or female, who knows they did something wrong to warrant the other person leaving... but get on social media to start typing nonsense and incomplete statements to gather pity from ill-informed clueless strangers.

OP, what did you do to your wife? only you know. Tell the whole thing objectively. otherwise, I am not giving your manipulative thread any of my precious emotional energy.

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Re: I Am Depressed by starstaz(m): 6:47am On Jan 14, 2023
breakthrough22:


.I miss her already .

IMO, Baba don miss the bedmatics WWE Raw. I feel your pain bros, particularly in this cold weather.
Re: I Am Depressed by Risingblue008(m): 6:52am On Jan 14, 2023
breakthrough22:
Good evenning ,

I came back home from work this night to find out my wife and my son have packed and abandoned me .

My son is 4 years old and I really don't mean to hurt my wife .

She travelled on the 26th of December to her dad house here in Lagos .I missed her so much and I sent her money to come back last Saturday though she said she will be coming on Sunday only for me to call her between 2pm and 8pm without her picking the call .

The phone rang times without number .I later gave the last try and the no was busy answering other call .She later picked and said there was no light .So,she couldn't charge. I was mad because the excuse was too flimsy .I challenged her to tell her but your phone rang .I was mad and I lost trust in her that moment and flashed back to the excuse that she will not come on Saturday.

Seriously ,I was angry and different thoughts came to my mind like May be she went to see another man .

That hour ,I told her I don't want to see her again .I was angry though .She didn't come on Sunday. She came back very early yesterday which was Monday.

I will not lie ,I have been so angry ,ranting and telling her to go back to her parent house that I don't trust her again.

To my surprise ,I came back tonight and she already packed all her loads ,packed my son things without leaving any thing .Her wardrobe and my son wardrobe have been empty as I am typing .She packed everything .

Seriously ,I am depressed cos I love her .I love my son .I can't even allow him to stay over there to start schooling. Me and my wife have been together since 2013 .We have gone through a lot of difficulties together and now ,things are beginning to look good for us .I am so down right now .I called he dad and her brother .It is like they took that decision together .

I have never beaten her before but I do nag especially when bills are weighing me down .His dad and his brother was just shouting at me .Fear of been a single dad or living alone at this stage of my life will make me a walking ghost and the fact that ,I really love my son too and also my wife too will one day kill me .

Imagine ,that Saturday she changed what she saved my no with and saved with my son name.I attached my call history .Check the image of the missed calls.

Please what do I do?I am devastated .


Some of her chats this night ..

[1/10, 9:35 PM] SWEETHEART: Hv always endure with u even though u did not hv money,but u always rain insult on me everyday .am not coming back I want to work and make my own money,u said u hv never achieved anything good bcoz of me!u said I am your biggest mistake in life and now hv made up my mind with you.you pushed me to the wall!u make me carry luggage in the hot sun and cry ,am tired,I cried and cried and endure all bcoz of love so nao am ready to work and earn good for myself and my son.
[1/10, 9:40 PM] SWEETHEART: U can change ur key am not coming again
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: Am not ,u know is too late for me to come back to .... and u urself know is my biggest fear bcoz I don't like coming here but u make me come back,is too late. Even wen u always tell me to go,I will still wait but u make me come back to my fear It is too late.
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: ...will start school on Monday here and just take responsibility of it, if u don't want to loose ur son too.

If she's legally married to u,
Then she made a mistake by going to her father's house,
She ought to be with one of ur brother or sister,
As for me,na there our marriage end ooo
Re: I Am Depressed by lawalmovichhhh: 7:01am On Jan 14, 2023
you deserve to be shot and single.

if this is all you could think of bla bla bla. your life will end badly.

you want to keep hurting her with word emotionally,and she should accept that all the time, can u see ur foolishness no get season 2.

my guy.....there is limit to everytin someone can take .


she reach hers.

let her be in peace and have rest of mind to look after her child .


you have done more damage enough.


find another lady that can take ur nagging and brake bottle on ur head. then you will finally die in peace.

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Re: I Am Depressed by zedegit: 7:02am On Jan 14, 2023
Kobojunkie:
Start by going for professional anger management counseling to at least deal with your anger and trust issues. You don't sound at all like a man in love but a man who has anger issues and trying to keep up an image at the same time but that hasn't been working well for you has it? undecided

Give your wife and her family time to marinade in what has taken place and maybe decide on what could come next. You will only be a liar showing up to beg for her back at this point this since there is no way these problems only started back with the December 26th story you fed you here. Start asap by getting yourself help for your anger problems, and then when you go see her at her folk's place — when you receive permission to— you can at least show her you have made progress and will likely not panel beat her again. lipsrsealed

Nice contribution. Before a real woman would take that decision, a lot must have happened which op wouldn't mention otherwise he would be shooting himself on the foot.

Why will you tell her to leave angrily and still come crying that she left. Who does that?

So she should stay and be reported on Nairaland?

Husband kills wife. Go for deliverance. It's beyond counseling.

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Re: I Am Depressed by Starz825(m): 7:03am On Jan 14, 2023
Divaan:
This is one reason the bible says not to make friends with an angry man.You spoke all those insults and damaging words to your wife, just because she used one day extra from the day she told you she'd be coming back and was not available as at the time you phoned her. Yet, you're still telling us you don't beat her, meanwhile you're killing your wife with your words. I put it to you that you're a verbally abusive person and quite toxic. That is why she wants to stay away from you. You said you love your wife, but you don't insult people you love.

I will advice you work on yourself and grow up spiritually, emotionally and mentally. Study and meditate on the book of proverbs with passages that talks about 'anger' and 'words'. Change should begin with you because your wife returning to your home right now is the least of your problems.

Love is patient and kind
Love is not jealous
It does not brag
And it is not proud
Love is not rude
Is not selfish and does not become angry easily
Love does not remember wrongs done against it
Love takes no pleasure in evil
But rejoices over the truth
Love patiently accepts all things
It always trust
And always continues strong
Love never ends
(I corinthians 13:4-8 International Children's Bible)



many of you dont know that GOD IS LOVE ....and you can never get that same love from human beings...

For all the things you mentioned up there about LOVE ... you have just described GOD....

we all are just trying to be like him.................sadly, we cant be like him
Re: I Am Depressed by zedegit: 7:07am On Jan 14, 2023
breakthrough22:


If she stays too long in her father house,I will never accept her back .

Seriously, I have missed my family but I am not accepting her back if she spend the remaining days in January in his dad house and I will never send a dime to them

This quote already tells us you are a wicked man who has no business starting a family.

You will punish your son because you have issues with your wife?

You don't even need advice.

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Re: I Am Depressed by DonBenny77(m): 7:07am On Jan 14, 2023
breakthrough22:
Good evenning ,

I came back home from work this night to find out my wife and my son have packed and abandoned me .

My son is 4 years old and I really don't mean to hurt my wife .

She travelled on the 26th of December to her dad house here in Lagos .I missed her so much and I sent her money to come back last Saturday though she said she will be coming on Sunday only for me to call her between 2pm and 8pm without her picking the call .

The phone rang times without number .I later gave the last try and the no was busy answering other call .She later picked and said there was no light .So,she couldn't charge. I was mad because the excuse was too flimsy .I challenged her to tell her but your phone rang .I was mad and I lost trust in her that moment and flashed back to the excuse that she will not come on Saturday.

Seriously ,I was angry and different thoughts came to my mind like May be she went to see another man .

That hour ,I told her I don't want to see her again .I was angry though .She didn't come on Sunday. She came back very early yesterday which was Monday.

I will not lie ,I have been so angry ,ranting and telling her to go back to her parent house that I don't trust her again.

To my surprise ,I came back tonight and she already packed all her loads ,packed my son things without leaving any thing .Her wardrobe and my son wardrobe have been empty as I am typing .She packed everything .

Seriously ,I am depressed cos I love her .I love my son .I can't even allow him to stay over there to start schooling. Me and my wife have been together since 2013 .We have gone through a lot of difficulties together and now ,things are beginning to look good for us .I am so down right now .I called he dad and her brother .It is like they took that decision together .

I have never beaten her before but I do nag especially when bills are weighing me down .His dad and his brother was just shouting at me .Fear of been a single dad or living alone at this stage of my life will make me a walking ghost and the fact that ,I really love my son too and also my wife too will one day kill me .

Imagine ,that Saturday she changed what she saved my no with and saved with my son name.I attached my call history .Check the image of the missed calls.

Please what do I do?I am devastated .


Some of her chats this night ..

[1/10, 9:35 PM] SWEETHEART: Hv always endure with u even though u did not hv money,but u always rain insult on me everyday .am not coming back I want to work and make my own money,u said u hv never achieved anything good bcoz of me!u said I am your biggest mistake in life and now hv made up my mind with you.you pushed me to the wall!u make me carry luggage in the hot sun and cry ,am tired,I cried and cried and endure all bcoz of love so nao am ready to work and earn good for myself and my son.
[1/10, 9:40 PM] SWEETHEART: U can change ur key am not coming again
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: Am not ,u know is too late for me to come back to .... and u urself know is my biggest fear bcoz I don't like coming here but u make me come back,is too late. Even wen u always tell me to go,I will still wait but u make me come back to my fear It is too late.
[1/10, 9:46 PM] SWEETHEART: ...will start school on Monday here and just take responsibility of it, if u don't want to loose ur son too.
OP get a live-in girlfriend ASAP.
Such news can spread fast it will reset her brain sharply.
You have very right to be angry about her not taking calls and giving flimsy excuses.
She's obviously cheating.
Not picking your call without a straight forward excuse alone is cheating.
People think cheating is only when your partner spreads it for another man. You wife is a cheat like most married women.
Marriage ain't no longer sacred these days.
At least you don get male child.
Forget her and enjoy your life, if your boy isn't under your roof don't send her a dime for his schooling or upkeep.
You can't lose your son, he would return to you sooner or later
Re: I Am Depressed by Fash20: 7:11am On Jan 14, 2023
breakthrough22:



Tell me what you would have done if this happened to u .

I just want to learn from you .The fact that my wife is not someone who like saying sorry .

See ehn, ordinary SORRY would have saved all these dramas .She didn't accept she was wrong


Bro, just admit that you over reacted. Nagging is for women. Your son is your responsibility go and get him
Re: I Am Depressed by zedegit: 7:12am On Jan 14, 2023
breakthrough22:


I didn't chase her away ,She did herself .If she doesn't come back,I will move on .I will always be there to help financially

You sound like a child. You told her to leave angrily and you are also saying you didn't Chase her?

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