Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child?

This was written in Dec 29, 2020 at 2:50am. I believe it relevant to Nigeria society of today, hence the repost
I have been involved in quite a number of discussions and debates of this nature where some believe that the only way to bring up children is by beating them. Others believe the opposite is true. I was brought up by parents who considered heavy handedness as a parental virtue and they never spared the rod in dealing with us... I have noticed the same pattern in our educational setting where teachers prefer to communicate their emotion via the cane.

I personally think most of such beating comes from parents' and teachers' inability to rein in their temper, rather than the genuine interest in the child's well being.

I have my little children, and it is not difficult to talk things over with them, and even set up disciplinary measures that don't involve beating.

Looking back over your shoulders, would you say the kind of beating-filled/beating-devoid upbringing you received has affected your relationship with your parents? And would you accept teachers to beat your children anyhow?

I believe I am posting this in the right section.

wunmi590:
😀

When my daughter was 1year plus anytime she wants to urinate, she will just do it on her body, with small small spank on her body, she correct herself...

She's now 2years, anytime she wants to do her thing, she quickly run to her potty and finish the job there, inact she won't allow you to he her pull and wear her pant back, she will wear it properly herself....

Lamanii22:
oh my daughter did this too, I gave her abara on her bum bum, she’s been going to the potty by herself now…. So a lil spank once in a while is not bad…

wunmi590:


That's the way to go my sister, if not, these little kid might become difficult to train when they attain a particular stage.....

Watcharena:
it's more dangerous for them to be unable to open up to you than for them to be difficult to train , eventually be at certain age you can't beat or they get used to beating

yemmit90:
What i've learnt so far as father is that, little kids rarely listen or yield to simple instructions. Sometimes, you need to warn them with cane, you may not actually beat them but seeing cane in your hands make them behaves well.

Kids are very stubborn, parents need to curb this silly attitude in them before their 7th birthday.

wunmi590:
😀

When my daughter was 1year plus anytime she wants to urinate, she will just do it on her body, with small small spank on her body, she correct herself...

She's now 2years, anytime she wants to do her thing, she quickly run to her potty and finish the job there, inact she won't allow you to he her pull and wear her pant back, she will wear it properly herself....

Lamanii22:
oh my daughter did this too, I gave her abara on her bum bum, she’s been going to the potty by herself now…. So a lil spank once in a while is not bad…

TheboyGhost:
Once they are above 8 years omoh na problem you dey create for yourself ooh.....

SMJay:
Really

kazyhm:
People with no experience whatsoever are telling people what works and not...........


It is actually wrong to define things the wrong way just justify it is wrong........

How you mean by teachers communicate their emotion via cane? ....that is nonsense and blackmail.....
Same way one of our family friend said... beating a child is bullying them to do your bidding......she understands better now with her four years old son.......

Corporal punishment have worked in a lot of ways.......many of us are very grateful that our parents stood their ground and direct us to the right path....... through all possible means.


This your recommendation hasn't worked anywhere..........anyway, you can only condemn what has worked.....and be assuming that the contrary would be better....

Justiceleague1:
Be careful how you do that to children....
Watchword is, don't abuse it.

I can break your head if I see you abusing your child..