Hi sisters (and brothers of course) I'm not really experienced in life but I think there are some things we have all noticed once in our lives: some women (not talking about Nairaland specifically) do not have confidence or are shy especially when they're in love, so here are some advises my short life has allowed me to get

- First, always feeling good, I'm not saying arrogant but good means in your head , dynamic and natural
- If you have already been dated, it means you're charming and you can be dated again
- Never feel inferior or uglier than an another person because any guy prefer your GF than you (GOD knows what he's doing)
- Inner values are much better and more appreciated in long term ( I know some people we'll say outer beauty is better first) and to consolidate a love

Finally, try to live first for yourself and not for the others ( try to evolve on your own working hard, don't be too dependant to be respected)


If some sisters have any advise please let us know it could be interesting
Peace

Nice.

Women also need to know that there are women that will tell you what you need to hear because it could save your life or give you ammunition to make a decision in your life. I have noticed that some women get defensive when you tell them the truth.

Ignorance isn't always a bliss.

Mrs Chima in fact I think this is not about gender, truth hurts for everyone

Nayah:

Mrs Chima in fact I think this is not about gender, truth hurts for everyone

I am talking specifically of women since this thread for women.

yes in this case you're right but I think it's about society pressure, many threds here are about beauty and so one

I agree. Men are visual so their perceptions are optical.

Women need to be self confidence in themselves before venturing out in relationships. I have seen women jump in a relationship foot first and often stay in the relationship because they do not want to be coined "single" which is sad.

An elderly man said "Just because a couple isn't outside fighting doesn't mean they aren't inside fighting".

In other words, love yourself enough to know whats you want and demand the love of your partner or go somewhere else.

^^ exactly, I know some friends who have low self esteem and it's quite sad and they are not ugly at all

Insecure boys will call a woman who is self confidence, "arrogance" simply because he lacks the trait.

One woman had the nerve to say that she will play "dumb" and dress "bummish" to make her man feel better. WTF. She stated she didn't want to lose him so she would rather be unhappy than to be single without a man.

I am not saying marriage isn't a good thing because it is a wonderful thing when you are with the right person however there are women in marriages wishing their husbands would die.

Real talk.

Mrs Chima don't worry I'm not going to judge you about marriage and so on I know your position on that thing, and I think I can understand even though somtimes I think you're to harsh

As for men it's all about balance, I know a lot of men who will kill to have a tough tempered woman, because he knows he can count on her in cas of problem, now yes some guys don't really like "exposed" women because they're not get used sister, and don't forget that some girls sound really arrogant sometimes

Nayah:

Mrs Chima don't worry I'm not going to judge you about marriage and so on I know your position on that thing, and I think I can understand even though somtimes I think you're to harsh

As for men it's all about balance, I know a lot of men who will kill to have a tough tempered woman, because he knows he can count on her in cas of problem, now yes some guys don't really like "exposed" women because they're not get used sister, and don't forget that some girls sound really arrogant sometimes

Arrogance isn't a bad thing depending on the degree of it. If you are self centered then that is a problem but arrogance is more so in self confidence excess. We often confused arrogance with self centered.

Exposed woman is usually a woman who is cultured meaning she stepped outside her comfort zone and learned more than what is in her community. You are referring to women that is loose in term of character which most men wouldn't dare bring home to mother.

Unexposed women are more likely to just go along with the flow because they are unsure of themselves and doesn't have the acumen to counteract with the partner that is exposed.

There is a saying, "Opened mouth remove all doubt".

*Yawns*

yep Mrs Chima

^^
jambo rafiki.hawayu?
havent read the thread though 
my greetings first. now i read

Habari my sister miss you

Me too ope ur good.
Topic

Thank God I never compare me with anybody, so I never allow pendo to feel inferior or superior to anybody.
I walk the earth knowing am God's original masterpiece created in His own image. Am unique not a copy.
I walk knowing am created for a purpose and have lots of potential.
I walk knowing am God's opinion not man, so people's comments don't matter to me.
What could be better than that. If I meet somebody better than me I want to learn what makes them better.
And if I meet somebody who thinks am better I try to make them feel worthy.

Life is too short to waste on vain things that don't add value to you at all.

Always rem; You were created original so don't die a copy.

Enjoy life

Mynd_44:

*Yawns*

Drama free conversations isn't your cup of tea huh? How pathetic.

Pendo lol
Mrs CHIMA ignore please don't want any insult on here my dear

Oh don't worry I don't have any intention on ruining your lovely thread.

Ugendo,

I like the last sentence you wrote. You was created as an original don't die a copy.

I know Mrs Chima you're a nice person

Mrs.Chima:

Oh don't worry I don't have any intention on ruining your lovely thread.

Ugendo,

I like the last sentence you wrote. You was created as an original don't die a copy.

Ugendo

Its pendo.
Ugendo means somethin else in my language lol

Nayah:

I know Mrs Chima you're a nice person

I could be. Thanks suga.

pendo89:

Ugendo

Its pendo.
Ugendo means somethin else in my language lol

Don't be offended. It is my signature to mess up people's names. Don't be surprise if I called you another person name. My husband used to get mad when I messed up his name. I would simply give him an ENTIRELY new name. He now actually like the new name I gave him years ago.

lol ok cool

The best thread ever! Even though we tend to sound childish at times, but this is just serious and matured. . . Loving it!

^^Many thanks brother

I tried to talk about women confidence on here
hello girls Mrs Chima and Pendo I'm waiting for you to debate

hello ugosly

Nayah.

Life is about purpose.Once you understand who you are,why you are here,what your here to do and understand where you are going then you will not worry about anything anybody thinks about you.
It also depends on where you derive your self worth from.Some draw their worth from people.(bf) Some live on compliments.(friends)
If nobody compliments their looks, style or talk then their day is ruined. They become depressed when the bf dumps them or when friends desert them because that was the vein that pumped their self esteem.
With a purpose filled life everything else pales in comparison.

Exactly my dear it's all about who you are, but some have to learn to appreciate themselves before watching what people think about them

Nayah:

Exactly my dear it's all about who you are, but some have to learn to appreciate themselves before watching what people think about them

Self appreciation starts the moment you realise you are a very unique person.You are not a duplicate copy so use your strengths to the best of your advantage.
Some brainless beauties have made it in the modelling career cz they realised that they can never achieve using their brains.
Their bodies propelled them forward. That is a strength. if they hd allowed people to keep reminding them of how dumb they are they would never have made it.
Some millionares knew that looks are better of in the museum,so they put their brains to use.
Humans have this trait of focusing and talking about your achievements when you excel in a particular field.  Physical appearances don't matter anymore.
eg.mother Theresa,Oprah,Trump,Gates,Branson (ok this one has a hot look ),Naomi and many more.

Nobody can claim they are lacking. You only need to identify your strengths and use them to bring change not only into your life but others as well.
We fail when we waste 3/4 of our lives trying to ape other people.
Focus inward first then everything will manifest outwards later.

lol are you an Oprah sister?

POP >pendo oprah phil is my name.