Imagine just going to ask for a girl hand in marriage, and you are given a huge pile of list

In a situation whereby the father, the mother, all other family members who see it as a way to lick from the portion in front of them

Even when i got married, i made it clear to my inlaws that i wasn't planning a huge marriage, just medium marriage, they wrote a long list, i did not argue, i went to the market and got a little i could afford.

Why is it really compulsory having a huge list like this, are they selling there daughter

When suitors come to marry from kindred, do your people give long list?

Bride price on a non virgin? That's fraud! Any family that collects bride price on a daughter that is not a virgin has attracted curses on themselves.

princeemmma:
Imagine just going to ask for a girl hand in marriage, and you are given a huge pile of list

In a situation whereby the father, the mother, all other family members who see it as a way to lick from the portion in front of them

Even when i got married, i made it clear to my inlaws that i wasn't planning a huge marriage, just medium marriage, they wrote a long list, i did not argue, i went to the market and got a little i could afford.

Why is it really compulsory having a huge list like this, are they selling there daughter

In a certain state in the East I don't want to mention the name so that I don't add to their problems

If you are given a list and you don't complete, you must complete it before burial because you will start afresh by that time before they can allow you to go ahead with the burial

I wish people will be allowed to come with what they have and what they can afford to bring when marriage ceremony is done, instead of this lengthy list

frozen70:


In a certain state in the East I don't want to mention the name so that I don't add to their problems

If you are given a list and you don't complete, you must complete it before burial because you will start afresh by that time before they can allow you to go ahead with the burial

I wish people will be allowed to come with what they have and what they can afford to bring when marriage ceremony is done, instead of this lengthy list

Meaning they have good record keeping system I won't be surprised if there daughter's are still in their father's home and single.

Bride price Is very important under native law and custom but customs and laws change with time as they are made for man and not man for custom. Outrageous Bride price cost should be reduced but payment of Bride price should not be eradicated

brightest5050:


Meaning they have good record keeping system I won't be surprised if there daughter's are still in their father's home and single.

Bride price Is very important under native law and custom but customs and laws change with time as they are made for man and not man for custom. Outrageous Bride price cost should be reduced but payment of Bride price should not be eradicated

The main issue here is the crazy marriage list not the bride price

To me, bride prize is the main commitment and can't be ruled out

But that long crazy list is what is scaring men

frozen70:


The main issue here is the crazy marriage list not the bride price

To me, bride prize is the main commitment and can't be ruled out

But that long crazy list is what is scaring men

We saying the same thing, the bride price cost Is the list that will have to fulfilled before payment of bride price.

The lady in question also have a role to play by telling her father or mother (for the mother to tell the father) that the man is a young man and much demand should not be asked of him but the issue is each family that their daughter have marry feel the need to do to other suitor what the extended family as a unit have done to theirs. For those in the East I think this is really the issue.

Secondly the endless bride price list could just be a means for the elders to promote intra ethnic marriage because attimes special consideration of the list is done when the suitor is of same village