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My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Offpointng: 8:03pm On Mar 13, 2023
I don't know how to put it in the right words tho. but my Mum kinda have a past History with Igbo people that's making accepting my Girlfriend a problem. One of it was, when she had my Pregnancy, she had to work under this Igbo woman that maltreated her and did the unthinkable to a pregnant woman. The painful thing was, the woman's friends also used that leverage to insult, maltreat and do all manner of unthinkable things to her despite seeing how heavily pregnant she was. Before then, the nature of my Dad's job is a type that he only comes home twice monthly and my mum being a woman that wasn't trained to be idle took it on herself to keep herself busy atleast and decide to work at a Restaurant close to where she lived and that was the inhumane treatment she got. When we moved to the SW, we had to stay in this flat that had two Igbo neighbors. My mom actually made friends with them outta a pure heart but they just kept taking advantage of the fact that she a free giver. they back bite and do say bad things about her alot. The Yoruba neighbors on the other hand were more friendly to her and so overtime, she do have this distant relationship with any Igbo person she meet and that history is bout affecting my relationship with this girl. I would have said I'll go ahead with the relationship regardless but my mom don't want to tell you something and you disobey. it always come with regrets. esp me, anytime I do something she doesn't want me to do I always do regret it.

This have got me worried tbh. what can I do fam?

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Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Nobody: 8:10pm On Mar 13, 2023
Your girlfriend is the person you should study and if you are satisfied with her character and everything then you shouldn’t listen to your mother. I dislike tribalism and and making a general conclusion on any tribe just because of some experience you had with some people, not a good thing. I believe in personal character, we all have our unique characters irrespective of our tribes and religion.

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Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by God1000(m): 8:13pm On Mar 13, 2023
Too bad, this is one big problem we have in Nigeria today, inter-ethnic marriage isn't widely accepted by our parents.

Though having money can still change the minds of some parents.

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Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Pussyassasin(m): 8:15pm On Mar 13, 2023
Let's say "Hypothetically" igbos are bad and should be avoided. You can't judge an entire tribe of people with different personalities and beliefs, just based on a few nasty encounters.

Do your best to convince your mum otherwise.

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Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by ProudEdoBoy: 8:18pm On Mar 13, 2023
Better igbo than a skull miner o

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Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Shokoloko(f): 8:22pm On Mar 13, 2023
Offpointng:
but my Mum kinda have a past History with Igbo people that's making accepting my Girlfriend a problem. she do have this distant relationship with any Igbo person she meet and that history is bout affecting my relationship with this girl. I would have said I'll go ahead with the relationship regardless but my mom don't want to tell you something and you disobey. it always come with regrets. esp me, anytime I do something she doesn't want me to do I always do regret it.

This have got me worried tbh. what can I do fam?
I have made some of your words bold so you may read what your hand wrote.
My mother used to tell me "If the father of the house does not like you, change him. But if the mother of the house does not like you, Run."
If you marry your girlfriend what is the guarantee that you mother will not see your kids as "Igbo"?
I have a friend whose father is from Oyo and mother from Abia. Till today, her cousins from Oyo call her "omo igbo".

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Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Shokoloko(f): 8:23pm On Mar 13, 2023
Offpointng:
but my Mum kinda have a past History with Igbo people that's making accepting my Girlfriend a problem. she do have this distant relationship with any Igbo person she meet and that history is bout affecting my relationship with this girl. I would have said I'll go ahead with the relationship regardless but my mom don't want to tell you something and you disobey. it always come with regrets. esp me, anytime I do something she doesn't want me to do I always do regret it.

This have got me worried tbh. what can I do fam?
I have made some of your words bold so you may read what your hand wrote.
My mother used to tell me "If the father of the house does not like you, change him. But if the mother of the house does not like you, Run."
If you marry your girlfriend what is the guarantee that you mother will not see your kids as Igbo?
I had a colleague whose father is from Oyo and mother from Abia. Till today, her cousins from Oyo call her "omo igbo".
Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Offpointng: 8:27pm On Mar 13, 2023
Shokoloko:

I have made some of your words bold so you may read what your hand wrote.
My mother used to tell me "If the father of the house does not like you, change him. But if the mother of the house does not like you, Run."
If you marry your girlfriend what is the guarantee that you mother will not see your kids as Igbo?
I had a colleague whose father is from Oyo and mother from Abia. Till today, her cousins from Oyo call her "omo igbo".

I love my mom so much but my fears now is her avoiding my house or my marriage completely cuz when I look at my mum it's something she can do. if she doesn't like you she'll so avoid you. imagine getting married and my mum can't visit my house cuz she don't like my woman. it can be sickening really
Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by advanceDNA: 8:36pm On Mar 13, 2023
Offpointng:
I don't know how to put it in the right words tho. but my Mum kinda have a past History with Igbo people that's making accepting my Girlfriend a problem. One of it was, when she had my Pregnancy, she had to work under this Igbo woman that maltreated her and did the unthinkable to a pregnant woman. The painful thing was, the woman's friends also used that leverage to insult, maltreat and do all manner of unthinkable things to her despite seeing how heavily pregnant she was. Before then, the nature of my Dad's job is a type that he only comes home twice monthly and my mum being a woman that wasn't trained to be idle took it on herself to keep herself busy atleast and decide to work at a Restaurant close to where she lived and that was the inhumane treatment she got. When we moved to the SW, we had to stay in this flat that had two Igbo neighbors. My mom actually made friends with them outta a pure heart but they just kept taking advantage of the fact that she a free giver. they back bite and do say bad things about her alot. The Yoruba neighbors on the other hand were more friendly to her and so overtime, she do have this distant relationship with any Igbo person she meet and that history is bout affecting my relationship with this girl. I would have said I'll go ahead with the relationship regardless but my mom don't want to tell you something and you disobey. it always come with regrets. esp me, anytime I do something she doesn't want me to do I always do regret it.

This have got me worried tbh. what can I do fam?

We are not ur fam.....ur mother is ur fam... go and make ur mum see how great ur babe is ...

if u cant then mayb u should re-audit ur relationship.....

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Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by anthonyuncle(m): 8:43pm On Mar 13, 2023
you are sounding like you generally don't like igbos (except for your girl).

don't use your mum as cover, if you are not comfy with having igbos around you, it is better you quit the relationship now.

tribalism is a lifetime war that you might not be ready for

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Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Aklee4994(m): 8:46pm On Mar 13, 2023
Offpointng:


I love my mom so much but my fears now is her avoiding my house or my marriage completely cuz when I look at my mum it's something she can do. if she doesn't like you she'll so avoid you. imagine getting married and my mum can't visit my house cuz she don't like my woman. it can be sickening really
your mom has always identify herself to a gender,tribe or religion with this you can’t escape her hatred with Igbo because of her experience but unfortunately never you think she won’t come to visit you...just a matter of time she will have a pleasant time with the mother of your children because it’s seem you love ❤️ your woman 👩 and your mom loves you so why thinking of something you need not to care about.

Note:you know she is not in good term with Igbo people yet you went there to wife a girl..your drama is a suspense thriller movie just enjoy every scene of it...who knows it’s might turn to a twisted plot in a short period of time.
Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by dawnomike(m): 8:58pm On Mar 13, 2023
Offpointng:
I don't know how to put it in the right words tho. but my Mum kinda have a past History with Igbo people that's making accepting my Girlfriend a problem. One of it was, when she had my Pregnancy, she had to work under this Igbo woman that maltreated her and did the unthinkable to a pregnant woman. The painful thing was, the woman's friends also used that leverage to insult, maltreat and do all manner of unthinkable things to her despite seeing how heavily pregnant she was. Before then, the nature of my Dad's job is a type that he only comes home twice monthly and my mum being a woman that wasn't trained to be idle took it on herself to keep herself busy atleast and decide to work at a Restaurant close to where she lived and that was the inhumane treatment she got. When we moved to the SW, we had to stay in this flat that had two Igbo neighbors. My mom actually made friends with them outta a pure heart but they just kept taking advantage of the fact that she a free giver. they back bite and do say bad things about her alot. The Yoruba neighbors on the other hand were more friendly to her and so overtime, she do have this distant relationship with any Igbo person she meet and that history is bout affecting my relationship with this girl. I would have said I'll go ahead with the relationship regardless but my mom don't want to tell you something and you disobey. it always come with regrets. esp me, anytime I do something she doesn't want me to do I always do regret it.

This have got me worried tbh. what can I do fam?
Appeal to her and have your dad intervene if possible... If she still does not agree, you maybhave to end the relationship.
But, if you're stubborn like me, then fight for your love... just know that it might/ might not end well.

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Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by tommy589(m): 9:05pm On Mar 13, 2023
If your girlfriend has the qualities you want in a woman, marry her. Is your girl aware yôur mum don't want her?
Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Robertgreene1(m): 9:11pm On Mar 13, 2023
Here we go again......

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Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Lifestone(m): 9:19pm On Mar 13, 2023
Offpointng:


I love my mom so much but my fears now is her avoiding my house or my marriage completely cuz when I look at my mum it's something she can do. if she doesn't like you she'll so avoid you. imagine getting married and my mum can't visit my house cuz she don't like my woman. it can be sickening really
Then ask yourself if it's worth it.
Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Dyfynezz12(m): 9:31pm On Mar 13, 2023
Baba end dat relationship Cox already u want to end it
Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Yomit71(m): 9:49pm On Mar 13, 2023
Offpointng:
I don't know how to put it in the right words tho. but my Mum kinda have a past History with Igbo people that's making accepting my Girlfriend a problem. One of it was, when she had my Pregnancy, she had to work under this Igbo woman that maltreated her and did the unthinkable to a pregnant woman. The painful thing was, the woman's friends also used that leverage to insult, maltreat and do all manner of unthinkable things to her despite seeing how heavily pregnant she was. Before then, the nature of my Dad's job is a type that he only comes home twice monthly and my mum being a woman that wasn't trained to be idle took it on herself to keep herself busy atleast and decide to work at a Restaurant close to where she lived and that was the inhumane treatment she got. When we moved to the SW, we had to stay in this flat that had two Igbo neighbors. My mom actually made friends with them outta a pure heart but they just kept taking advantage of the fact that she a free giver. they back bite and do say bad things about her alot. The Yoruba neighbors on the other hand were more friendly to her and so overtime, she do have this distant relationship with any Igbo person she meet and that history is bout affecting my relationship with this girl. I would have said I'll go ahead with the relationship regardless but my mom don't want to tell you something and you disobey. it always come with regrets. esp me, anytime I do something she doesn't want me to do I always do regret it.

This have got me worried tbh. what can I do fam?
Just get rid of the Igbo idiot, all what your mom experience are just the way they are. Igbo are bittered people, imagine you marry her sef, the stupid girl will plant hatred towards you in her children and even make them hate Yoruba that you are. It's not worth it, other tribes dey wey no get wahala.

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Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Yomit71(m): 9:53pm On Mar 13, 2023
dawnomike:
Appeal to her and have your dad intervene if possible... If she still does not agree, you maybhave to end the relationship.
But, if you're stubborn like me, then fight for your love... just know that it might/ might not end well.
which stupid love is he fighting for, go love another girl jor. I discharge those people at will, who cares.
Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Yomit71(m): 10:04pm On Mar 13, 2023
Discharge that monster now, or you will regret it later.
Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by securitywatch50: 10:56pm On Mar 13, 2023
Painment
Yomit71:

which stupid love is he fighting for, go love another girl jor. I discharge those people at will, who cares.
Yomit Cry me river over another man's problem
Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by securitywatch50: 10:57pm On Mar 13, 2023
Please the opposite of monster is .....?
Yomit71:
Discharge that monster now, or you will regret it later.
You
Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Starz825(m): 11:01pm On Mar 13, 2023
kobojunkie is typing grin
Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Bluezy13(m): 11:10pm On Mar 13, 2023
No matter what is said here, the fact is that the relationship is dead on arrival.
Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Greatness09: 11:17pm On Mar 13, 2023
Yomit71:

Just get rid of the Igbo idiot, all what your mom experience are just the way they are. Igbo are bittered people, imagine you marry her sef, the stupid girl will plant hatred towards you in her children and even make them hate Yoruba that you are. It's not worth it, other tribes dey wey no get wahala.

Bitter soul 🥲 be like your own story go full 120 leaves note book 😂😂😂. Cry on
Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Baronthecelebri: 11:52pm On Mar 13, 2023
Offpointng:


I love my mom so much but my fears now is her avoiding my house or my marriage completely cuz when I look at my mum it's something she can do. if she doesn't like you she'll so avoid you. imagine getting married and my mum can't visit my house cuz she don't like my woman. it can be sickening really
you're still a boy
Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Nobody: 11:54pm On Mar 13, 2023
One can be a mistake, but twice or more is a habit. You are in a very dicey situation.

In as much as we try to sound politically correct and non tribalistic on a forum, we shouldn't neglect the fact that certain attributes and deeds are peculiar to people of different tribes. Maltreating/ picking on the weak (women perceived to be of less social status and children) is a common attribute associated with most (not all) Igbo women. I'm yet to understand the cause of this. Your mother was a victim cultural difference nothing personal if I may add. Just as most Yoruba women struggle with trust issues and keeping female friendships, these ones can stab themselves in the back without blinking an eye. grin Again nothing personal just the dynamics of the society they live in. This is not to say people of other tribes aren't guilty of these acts but they are more common to a set of people than the other.

Your mum has the right to be weary but she shouldn't allow that disrupt your happiness. My advice is check your woman thoroughly, does she really tick all the important boxes, if you are certain she does then have a heart to heart conversation with your mum. Help her understand cultural differences, help her to see that no tribe has it all and your lady is different (if she really is). I hope she see things from your perspective too.

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Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Jimbadly: 12:42am On Mar 14, 2023
What a silly woman your mother is. She hates your girlfriend cos she perceives Igbos as mean, based on just two experiences she had with Igbos in the past? She lacks maturity and sense, that's all. Illiterates have a weird sense of reasoning. I'm sure your mum has never seen the 4 walls of a higher institution where you interact with people from diverse ethnic background without prejudice.

If we start judging ethnic groups based on few undesirable isolated experiences we had with them, then no one will associate with anyone from a different tribe as theirs.

This issue is a no-brainer. Simply go and get a girlfriend from your tribe so that your petty mother will rest. Stop disturbing us with inconsequential topics here. After all, she's just a common girlfriend and not a fiancee yet. Just find a girl from your tribe and let us rest abeg. 😐 Ndi ara!

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Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by ifihearam: 1:21am On Mar 14, 2023
Jimbadly:
What a silly woman your mother is. She hates your girlfriend cos she perceives Igbos as mean, based on just two experiences she had with Igbos in the past? She lacks maturity and sense, that's all. Illiterates have a weird sense of reasoning. I'm sure your mum has never seen the 4 walls of a higher institution where you interact with people from diverse ethnic background without prejudice.

If we start judging ethnic groups based on few undesirable isolated experiences we had with them, then no one will associate with anyone from a different tribe as theirs.

This issue is a no-brainer. Simply go and get a girlfriend from your tribe so that your petty mother will rest. Stop disturbing us with inconsequential topics here. After all, she's just a common girlfriend and not a fiancee yet. Just find a girl from your tribe and let us rest abeg. 😐 Ndi ara!


You definitely lack good up bringing and you are a reflection of your parents.
Foolishness and stupidity in genetically embedded in your DNA.

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Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by Jimbadly: 1:33am On Mar 14, 2023
ifihearam:



You definitely lack good up bringing and you are a reflection of your parents.
Foolishness and stupidity in genetically embedded in your DNA.

Go fvck yourself bastard! Stay off my mentions.
Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by faceLAGOS: 2:32am On Mar 14, 2023
Personally, I’ll never be serious with or even date an igbo girl.

Your mom’s right.

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Re: My Mum Have An Issue With My Girlfriend Cuz She's Igbo by frozen70(f): 4:02am On Mar 14, 2023
Offpointng:
I don't know how to put it in the right words tho. but my Mum kinda have a past History with Igbo people that's making accepting my Girlfriend a problem. One of it was, when she had my Pregnancy, she had to work under this Igbo woman that maltreated her and did the unthinkable to a pregnant woman. The painful thing was, the woman's friends also used that leverage to insult, maltreat and do all manner of unthinkable things to her despite seeing how heavily pregnant she was. Before then, the nature of my Dad's job is a type that he only comes home twice monthly and my mum being a woman that wasn't trained to be idle took it on herself to keep herself busy atleast and decide to work at a Restaurant close to where she lived and that was the inhumane treatment she got. When we moved to the SW, we had to stay in this flat that had two Igbo neighbors. My mom actually made friends with them outta a pure heart but they just kept taking advantage of the fact that she a free giver. they back bite and do say bad things about her alot. The Yoruba neighbors on the other hand were more friendly to her and so overtime, she do have this distant relationship with any Igbo person she meet and that history is bout affecting my relationship with this girl. I would have said I'll go ahead with the relationship regardless but my mom don't want to tell you something and you disobey. it always come with regrets. esp me, anytime I do something she doesn't want me to do I always do regret it.

This have got me worried tbh. what can I do fam?

Make that sacrifice for her let peace reign in your life

Especially as you said you regret it anytime you disobey her

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