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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 7:42pm On Mar 21, 2023
Dis na the kain questions to take burst their brains SEVEN DAYS A WEEK!

500 QUESTIONS EVERY GADDDDEM DAY!
If you miss it you carry it to the next day.
It keeps piling up.

If they don’t finish, I wake them up at 3AM to start!✅

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 7:47pm On Mar 21, 2023
MrBrownJay1:



i am safe to say that, on LG smart TVs, you cant as i didnt put accounts on any of the TVs at home (but will have to look into it, if THEY create a secret account on the TV).




See HOT SWEAT!!!! grin


bro you are extra tough on these kids, but i guess each and everyone knows the type of children they have, thus best suited to know what works for them.

I say I have APC-INEC C-R-I-M-I-N-A-L-S!!!!!
Real YAHOO-YAHOO GANG O!
I am so thankful I am an older parent.
I have PLENTY OF TIME TO PLAY POLICE..✅

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by MrBrownJay1(m): 7:59pm On Mar 21, 2023
KanwuliaExtra:
I say I have APC-INEC C-R-I-M-I-N-A-L-S!!!!!
Real YAHOO-YAHOO GANG O!
I am so thankful I am an older parent.
I have PLENTY OF TIME TO PLAY POLICE..✅[color=#006600][/color]

bro, you have to be James Bond with them kids today, because even if they are friends with a close neighbors children (and/or are nice to neighbors to get their passwords), then they can get access there. a friend put a keylogging tracker on his kids phone and knows exactly who hey are with, where they are and what they do on their hone ....at all times (which i believe is a bit too much)!

but then again, we did worse craziness when we were kids, just not on such a technological level.

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by sisisioge: 8:41pm On Mar 21, 2023
Wahala be like bicycle. This whole lot sounds so crazy that one would wish they remain babies forever. Hian!

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by NoToPile: 9:07pm On Mar 21, 2023
Loool, madam kanwulia and her threads

Pad bucket count?? grin grin

This woman no go kill persin with laff, parenting is really hard work sha.

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 9:30pm On Mar 21, 2023
Intruder spotted! cheesy

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by descarado: 12:26pm On Mar 22, 2023
KanwuliaExtra:


Corrrrrect!

I will NEVER send dem to boarding school lai lai!

I go raid dem room carry dem phone for night.
OMO! Westin my eyes see dia ehn? shocked
Even me for dis age konnot compete!

I just confiscated ALL PHONES JEJE and removed them from my family plan.

Then they graduated to stealing discarded phones or borrowed discarded phones from their classmates to tap into my Wi-Fi shocked

APC - INEC C-R-I-M-I-N-A-L-S!!!! grin

Thank my Gad I am techno savvy!
I activated my parental control feature on my home network and disconnected ALL DEVICES I DID NOT RECOGNIZE.✅ Dem weak!
I agree with you here Kanwulia.
Some people convinced me to send my kids to boarding school. Started the process with the first and changed my mind.
I will train you myself. Before I will start questioning if na me born you.
We go dey alright last last.

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 12:29pm On Mar 22, 2023
descarado:

I agree with you here Kanwulia.
Some people convinced me to send my kids to boarding school. Started the process with the first and changed my mind.
I will train you myself. Before I will start questioning if na me born you.
We go dey alright last last.


Yes o.
I refused. We will dig it out ourselves.
At least I will know it was my fault and won't blame anyone else.
Hard work o.
But like you noted. . . las las we go dey alright.

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by ceeceeuwa: 2:49pm On Mar 23, 2023
KanwuliaExtra:
Intruder spotted! cheesy
🤣🤣🤣🤣.That intruder enter 'one chance '.
Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by GloriousGbola: 10:37am On Mar 25, 2023
Within the Nigerian space, withdrawal of privileges may work. It may not work in obodo oyibo.

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 3:00am On Mar 29, 2023
GloriousGbola:
Within the Nigerian space, withdrawal of privileges may work. It may not work in obodo oyibo.

Oh yes it works in Obodo Oyinbo.
You have to be ready to go to jail!❤️
I am ready at any time.🙌🏿

If I hear PIM? You sleep outside for 2 hours.

No TV.
No phones.
No tablets.
No snacks.
No weekly allowances
No outing.
No friends visiting.
TOTAL GROUNDING 7 DAYS A WEEK.😎

You MUST DO HOMEWORK FROM 6PM TO 10PM EVERY DAY!!!✅ Children can’t try SHYTE when at least ONE parent is ALWAYS present.

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 3:16am On Mar 29, 2023
NoToPile:
Loool, madam kanwulia and her threads

Pad bucket count?? grin grin

This woman no go kill persin with laff, I parenting is really hard work sha.

Yes o!
So we can know where to start before I am taken unawares.
I can’t wait for these last 2 to getat of my house. grin

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 3:20am On Mar 29, 2023
NoToPile:
Loool, madam kanwulia and her threads

Pad bucket count?? grin grin

This woman no go kill persin with laff, I parenting is really hard work sha.

Yes o!
So we can know where to start before I am taken unawares. Every menstruating female in this house has a “color-coded” pad-bucket o. Random pregnancy tests and drug tests A MUST! I dey do strip search too.✅
I can’t wait for these last 2 to getat of my house. grin


OMO! You have to be ready for there mofos!
One parent has to be present at ALL TIMES!✅

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 3:32am On Mar 29, 2023
ahnie:
I tell you,it ain't easy.i have stopped spanking my kids,except in rare cases where my palm go just mistakenly moves.

What I do is talk,and talk,most times I would just ignore them completely and whistle.


Blackmailing them emotionally and citing references works on them better.

Please, what is emotional blackmail?
Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 3:37am On Mar 29, 2023
Nazgul:
For children below 10...they're mostly influenced by their peers, so you have to mind the kind of school you enrol them into, study their behavior after few weeks in the school, always check their pockets and bags whenever they come back from school and question then thoroughly whenever you find any odd item you know you didn't buy for them.

Teach them sex education as well, especially your daughters. Make sure they're able to identify their public and private parts and know that no one should touch their private parts. If they fall into the hands of perverts, it certainly would affect their attitude.

For teenagers...12 and above. At this stage, most especially when they start getting to 15, 16, 17 and 18...your ability to control them effectively would depend on how well you live by the rules you set for them. You can't tell them one thing and do another, this is why relationships experts are always of the opinion that children from broken homes tend to become bad spouses that children from good homes.

Relationship experts like Dr. Phil that have failed in their own relationships.
There are no different rules in my home.
What I do is what I preach. I graduated university TWICE. . . that is the ONLY BUSINESS WE HAVE TO DISCUSS IN THIS HOUSE.
When you leave my house, you can do as you damn well please. Till then, just do as I say. There is very little room for negotiation.
Shikena.

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 3:47am On Mar 29, 2023
When I was in Nigeria, I developed a love for libraries. When I came to the “abroad”, I started sleeping in them. I just loved to study and read. I loved to see books neatly arranged in shelves. If there were any books out of place, I would go from aisle to aisle arranging and putting them in place. I LOOOOOOOVED the smell of books.😍

That is exactly what children of these age call PRISONS! grin

There is a very lovely library near my home.
I have made it a lively prison for us all. I just drop them off after breakfast, with their lunch, snacks and water . . . . That one likes to wear so-so short-“NIKA”. . . .🙄🙄🙄 Not my consine any more. . . . . And I go my way, to return in 6 hours so me and my “honey” can do some reaaaal “stuff’ without interruptions. 💒💒💒🍷🍷🍷

They don’t have phones right? There is a spare phone I give them, so I can call and face time them to make sure THEY ARE STILL THERE O. If I call and you don’t pick up AT FIRST RING, you will WALK HOME, while I DRIVE BEHIND YOU!😘

As soon as we get home, I collect my phone jele and review the contents. Yep! You cannot erase it. Only my number is programmed to be called or to receive calls from that phone. All apps are monitored. ✅

Sorry, living or dying in Nigeria is not an option.❤️

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 4:44am On Mar 29, 2023
Gooooooood!
Nitey-Nitey!🌹

Somebarry collect 100 strokes today for keeping food in the room.✅

The one sleeping on the floor ke!
The one that hides food under the bed,🙄
The only items in the room are BEDS. Easy to do quick search.✅

The only place with privacy in this house is the bathrooms where they shower.✅

Till 7AM! 9 hours sleep is A MUST.✅

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 4:50am On Mar 29, 2023
Children can be FILTHY!😡😡😡
Not in this house o. I will NEVER tolerate that-
I do not wanno smell any armpits or butts in this house. Must shower 2 times DAILY.✅

Things I have found while doing a random bust.

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by 1Sharon(f): 5:01am On Mar 29, 2023
KanwuliaExtra:
Children can be FILTHY!😡😡😡
Not in this house o. I will NEVER tolerate that-
I do not wanno smell any armpits or butts in this house. Must shower 2 times DAILY.✅

Things I have found while doing a random bust.

Random bust? 🤣 you don turn correctional officer 😂

But what's that?

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 5:22am On Mar 29, 2023
1Sharon:


Random bust? 🤣 you don turn correctional officer 😂

But what's that?

Real prison warden.😀
Trash INSIDE WHERE THEY PUT THEIR UNDERWEAR?🤷🏽‍♀️

You will just sit down jeje and the whole house will be smelling!☺️


Na wetin we dey call am?

English-Tamarind
Igbo-Ichekwu
Yoruba-Awin
Hausa-Tsamiyar kurm

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 5:26am On Mar 29, 2023
I made the mistake of attending a “school dance” with one of them. That is the last time I will do that.😀

See DEM? ? ? 😱

If you see THE FIIIIIINE BABES AND DUDES? shocked

We are TRULY BACKWARD in Nigeria sha.

Seeeeee FREEEEDOM. cry

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by GloriousGbola: 9:56am On Mar 29, 2023
KanwuliaExtra:


Oh yes it works in Obodo Oyinbo.
You have to be ready to go to jail!❤️
I am ready at any time.🙌🏿

If I hear PIM? You sleep outside for 2 hours.

No TV.
No phones.
No tablets.
No snacks.
No weekly allowances
No outing.
No friends visiting.
TOTAL GROUNDING 7 DAYS A WEEK.😎

You MUST DO HOMEWORK FROM 6PM TO 10PM EVERY DAY!!!✅ Children can’t try SHYTE when at least ONE parent is ALWAYS present.

big mother is watching you angry angry

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by descarado: 1:11pm On Mar 29, 2023
KanwuliaExtra:
Gooooooood!
Nitey-Nitey!🌹

Somebarry collect 100 strokes today for keeping food in the room.✅

The one sleeping on the floor ke!
The one that hides food under the bed,🙄
The only items in the room are BEDS. Easy to do quick search.✅

The only place with privacy in this house is the bathrooms where they shower.✅

Till 7AM! 9 hours sleep is A MUST.✅
Kanwulia! shocked
Tamper justice with merci na kiss
Haba!

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by descarado: 1:35pm On Mar 29, 2023
KanwuliaExtra:
I made the mistake of attending a “school dance” with one of them. That is the last time I will do that.😀

See DEM? ? ? 😱

If you see THE FIIIIIINE BABES AND DUDES? shocked

We are TRULY BACKWARD in Nigeria sha.

Seeeeee FREEEEDOM. cry

Hahahahahaa cheesy cheesy
Shocking, isn't it?
I can imagine what's in your mind.

Nigeria problem is low self esteem and religious zealously. We pretend so much.

It was shocking to me when I read Nigerians ranked among the first five or so who visits pornhub here.

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by Sanguine(f): 6:45pm On Mar 29, 2023
Wow! KanwuliaExtra! 👏👏
You are indeed extra, I must commend!
All these measures are even more effective than spanking or flogging. I think children tend to develop a tough skin sort of, and get used to flogging so it doesn't have any effect anymore after sometime.

I remember growing up, my dad would always flog my elder brother because he was one recalcitrant child, but my brother after all the serious beating o, he will still go right back to doing that very thing he was floggged for.😂

But this your way is really tough and strict Sha o 😁. And I'm learning much though. I think I'd like to adopt some of these measures in due time. I'm very sure your kids will appreciate all that you do now much later when they're older and more mature.

Somebody said, you are a parent to your kids, not "a friend". So you as a parent should do all that you need do for their own good, whether they like it or not. In fact sef, the more they don't like it the better. Las Las it is for their own good ultimately and everybody go dey aweright.

God forbid that I raise a useless child.
Well done ma. 🙂

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 2:58pm On Apr 04, 2023
Time for WAR!!!!!!

More THRASSSSSH found in the bedroom.🙄🙄🙄

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 6:35pm On May 26, 2023
Keeping them busy! kiss
School is over. . . Time for SUMMER CAMP!

Week 1. . . . Movies and Andretti Kart Racing camp!

Money go burn die!!!!

Choose exclusive XTREME theaters please! Not jam-packed theaters with lots of crowds!❤️

See the yeye oyinbo pipo dey squeeze face and eyes like Lamidi ApapaRABAMBI dem!😆

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by cococandy(f): 6:45pm On May 26, 2023
This is only week 1? Sounds like a fun summer ahead

smiley
KanwuliaExtra:
Keeping them busy! kiss
School is over. . . Time for SUMMER CAMP!

Week 1. . . . Movies and Andretti Kart Racing camp!

Money go burn die!!!!

Choose exclusive XTREME theaters please! Not jam-packed theaters with lots of crowds!❤️

See the yeye oyinbo pipo det squeeze face and eyes like Lamidi ApapaRABAMBI dem!😆
Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 8:11pm On May 26, 2023
cococandy:
This is only week 1? Sounds like a fun summer ahead

smiley

Yes o my sister! It is gonna be one expensive summer.

Week 2 : The Walker School of Economic Planning.✅

Week 3: YMCA leadership camp.✅
Week 4 & 5: Residential boarding camp! 2 GOOD WEEKS OUT OF MY HOUSE! Yaaaaaaay. Dem nor go see me, I nor go see dem SAM-SAM!👍
Week 6: Fitness BOOT CAMP!
Week 7 & 8. . . UK/Nigeria here we come!🎉

Price TAG? Not for the faint-hearted like mine!😞

Thank God for TAX-RETURN CHECK!🙏🏽

Week 9: BACK TO SCHOOL!❤️
COVID is over, everywhere is super open.✅
Longest time.
Good to see ya!❤️

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by cococandy(f): 10:12pm On May 26, 2023
Oh Exciting!

Good to see you too.🫶🏽

But I say memories over money. These things they’ll never forget. Better than leaving the money in the bank.

One thing these kids will do is cost you some serious money. Hehehe
KanwuliaExtra:


Yes o my sister! It is gonna be one expensive summer.

Week 2 : The Walker School of Economic Planning.✅

Week 3: YMCA leadership camp.✅
Week 4 & 5: Residential boarding camp! 2 GOOD WEEKS OUT OF MY HOUSE! Yaaaaaaay. Dem nor go see me, I nor go see dem SAM-SAM!👍
Week 6: Fitness BOOT CAMP!
Week 7 & 8. . . UK/Nigeria here we come!🎉

Price TAG? Not for the faint-hearted like mine!😞

Thank God for TAX-RETURN CHECK!🙏🏽

Week 9: BACK TO SCHOOL!❤️
COVID is over, everywhere is super open.✅
Longest time.
Good to see ya!❤️
Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by KanwuliaExtra: 10:22pm On May 27, 2023
cococandy:
Oh Exciting!

Good to see you too.🫶🏽

But I say memories over money. These things they’ll never forget. Better than leaving the money in the bank.

One thing these kids will do is cost you some serious money. Hehehe

Yes ooooo celebrating anoda doctor in the making . . . . Congrats to the newest EMORY MEDICAL DOCTOR WITH FULL SCHOLARSHIP!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉


This is how we do it!

Memories are for ever!!!!
Take your children to SEE, HEAR, TOUCH AND SMELL SUCCESS ALWAYS. . . . In the family!!!!💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼

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Re: Alternatives To Spanking Children And Dealing With Rebellious Tweens And Teens, by cococandy(f): 1:43am On May 28, 2023
cheesy Congratulations
KanwuliaExtra:


Yes ooooo celebrating anoda doctor in the making . . . . Congrats to the newest EMORY MEDICAL DOCTOR WITH FULL SCHOLARSHIP!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉


This is how we do it!

Memories are for ever!!!!
Take your children to SEE, HEAR, TOUCH AND SMELL SUCCESS ALWAYS. . . . In the family!!!!💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼

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