So when should i put a stop to this self-torture? Checking her email accounts and seeing her chat conversations with guys she'd always denied having/encouraging closer friendship with. Now she even wanna go spend a week in one's house (her idea), in the name of just needing a quiet time to study for GRE, cos they are supposed to be just friends and not already dating!!! Apparently i asked her about these guys few days ago and she denied there have been developments. Right now, the rate she chats with these guys just brings her more and more closer to them. Probably its cos its been a while she had sex, and wants room to entice somebody (lol). Same with me though, no sex since we broke up and am just chilling until i can get the right woman 4 me. Now should i just tell her to change her password? Incidentally she also knows all my passwords, and i haven't decided to change it yet. Don't have any skeletons in my closet though, but she rarely checks my inbox anways.

Your advice is welcome!

I've let her go apparently, seriously. But i can't help checking her accounts knowing fully well i know her passwords and might just nail her in on something. bad i guess, so should i tell her?

of course i understand ur one-liner yea i don't have a right into her life anymore even after 5yrs of courtship and being the only man in her life. i want to move on dats y am considering telling her to change her password, cos i just might be tempted to check it occasionally.

Not like i already have one action planned. If i told her she would be cross that i still checked her email (she told me to stop when we were having signs that breakup was likely). she even faked changing it at some point, even though i often helped her with some online stuff. but what i dont like is when i ask her things and she starts to lie (she did that often when we were still together). now i would just love to go on and 4get about whatever she does (though a part of me still cares 4 her, but i feel even if we settle, i don't think it will be a happy marriage; we disagree very often).

so i just thot mayb i could help me and help her by telling her to change her passwords so as to keep me focused on better things worthy of spending one's time on. still an advice is being sought here.

Besides this is a lady that likes to justify herself, she likes playing the innocent card. she tries to explain to me there's no strings attached anywhere, cos she isn't after that. even when u catch her red-handed she tries to wriggle herself out of it. some of her inbox chats are false or pretences. just wish i could put it to her in her face, but she'll definitely bring up self-defensive mechanisms again and claim innocent. its sometimes not worth it, but i feel i should just do it and let it go.

You are obviously still in love with her. Better stop torturing yourself. You don't have to tell her to change her password, she would have done that long ago, if she don't want you reading her message. Don't ask me why!

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@Poster, your just another victim of fbook n yahoo. I guess your breakup was quickened by both. Dude, "trust" my friend, which you didn't have n you still don't have, you've 2 let her go. so y u still monitoring, u might just never move on. Learn from the mistakes with ur ex, especially wen u get another chic, free her wif her fbook n yahoo. Learn to TRUST.

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you dont even have to tell her to change it just stop spying on her. in some countries reading someones mail is a federal crime

do yourself a favor and forget her passwords and move on with your life you broke up already now move on

bamosagie:

You are obviously still in love with her. Better stop torturing yourself. You don't have to tell her to change her password, she would have done that long ago, if she don't want you reading her message. Don't ask me why!

Probably i am, and she's still probably in love too, except that when some waters have passed under the bridge it's best to move on. Of course, i've decided to let her go and move on, love beckons yet again though am taking my time. It's good to know how our hearts can love whenever we decide to let it to. I've decided to let it go, but that doesn't mean i won't keep checking her box once in a while, until i finally have no urge to do so.lol

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