None of the above

There are only 3 factors.
1 Physical
2 Personality
3 Philosophy of life

You MUST be attracted to the person in all those 3 factors or else the relationship will be short lived or full of bumps.

^^ Bro and u're sure u not missin out on Lotz?!

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^^^^^Thank you jare

Trust

Compatibility

^^ Those are features that get enacted in the line of the relationship, not really preferances

- >>> Nice Opinion Chaircover

- >>> R231 whatz 'thank you' - Thought u ran outta Opinions?

Mateability

for marriage, here is what i've written before about the person i will need to find before saying "I DO":
[b]- someone honest
- someone trustworty
- someone respectful (of us but also others)
- someone compatible (physically, mentally and sexually)
- someone intelligent
- someone emotionally ready
- someone fun
- someone driven, with goals
- someone who can communicate with you and understands you
- someone who doesnt nag all day
- someone not afraid to be herself
- someone who knows how to step away from an argument with a smile
- someone strong minded
- someone beautiful and sexy
- someone that can ride and die with you
- someone not afraid to show affection in public
- someone who wont give up trying to seduce me the day that ring is on her finger
- someone who is ready to go on dates for the rest of our lives(even after 15yrs)
- someone who can say whats on their mind (them daily "i love you" are perfect)
- someone who can listen when its needed without making it a confrontation
- someone who understands that being sexy is part of life and that if your man aint sexually attracted to you then the marriage will suffer
- someone who keep fit and who will work hard to loose the extra baby fat
[/b]
and when all these points are met, she has to be a freak in the sheets whenever required.

you see, to me, its not easy finding the right mate to marry unless a person is willing to settle for less.

El Guapo:

^^ Bro and u're sure u not missin out on Lotz?!

Not at all bro. I have used it and I am happily married.

1 Physical - you are sexually attracted to each other
2 Personality - you are friends
3 Philosophy of life - you have the same expectations from life.


You can have a very long list of what you expect the person to be but it can always be summarized into those 3 factors.

@ValiDatoR, Ok I now get it!

@MrBrowNjaY, Bro wiv that list all i gotta tell u is 'Goodluck'

MBJ, in all your write-up, i did not see 'the spiritual make-up of the person', abi that one too no matter ni?

El Guapo:

@MrBrowNjaY, Bro wiv that list all i gotta tell u is 'Goodluck'[/color]

the first thing about marriage is that you have to be TRUE and HONEST to yourself and your future spouse. . . . . . that list is me being HONEST!!!

i am a perfectionist so if i aint got it all, i rather stay true to myself (and accept faith) while dating forever rather than settle with someone that aint got all i would need to say I DO and satisfy my needs and desires (and knowing before marriage that i will be lacking in some department).

my stand on the issue is very simple, in order for me to even remotely think that we can live happily ever after, then she MUST have all the attributes i mentioned TO THINK OF SATISFYING ME FOREVER.

ronkebp:

MBJ, in all your write-up, i did not see 'the spiritual make-up of the person', abi that one too no matter ni?

El Guapo:

^^ Maybe he's of the group that doesn't take Religion factors into consideration! 

so long as she passes the test (aka the list) then i dont care ONE BIT about religion. if you actually look hard enough, you will realize that some of the stuff on the list is what the bible would tell you is needed in order to have a great marriage.
RESPECT/UNDERSTANDING/CARE/HONESTY/COMPANIONSHIP

so she could be an Atheist, Muslim, Christian or even Hindu for all i care, so long as she got it all!

1. His being spiritual comes in 1st for me not religious o but someone that can think independently and extremely positive with a great imagination, that knows what it is to attract a positive lifestyle and loves himself  while treating others with the respect they deserve, someone who is credible and has integrity and loves the Almighty cos i will hate to close my eyes to meditate / pray and he will be laughing happened to me before needless to say i stopped meditating picked my things and walked ( I was not angry but deal was broken).

2. Intelligence : Nothing like a man who can mentally process info well and communicate sensibly while guiding me. He will have me asking for advise all the time.He does not have to get it right all the time but at least he is not ignorant.

3. Physical attraction and for me physical attraction  is not the face o i am not into handsome men thats like drinking tomato soup sweet but  I love ruggedness, muscles, strong, big, ability to wear a suit and look like a gentleman yet have a hustler mentality Jay Z not Will Smith.

4. Can spell and starts his sentences with capital letter.

5. The koko ! I cannot shout.

Genuine love

Integrity