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Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by diogo23: 5:12pm On May 23, 2023 |
IkeIgboNiile:If you see what adopted children is doing in some family you just shut up |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by Nobody: 5:13pm On May 23, 2023 |
Edoziesmart: Okay. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by Nobody: 5:17pm On May 23, 2023 |
advanceDNA: Eyah....everyone cannot be a dreg like you, I for one, will always put idi..ots like you in their place who hop on my comment to provoke me for no reason, so that the next time they see my moniker, they will think a billion times before quoting me to type trash Once again, get the fvck off my mention. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by advanceDNA: 5:23pm On May 23, 2023 |
Jovialjune1: Madam ....in case u dont know...the dirty way u talk only does one thing to you.... it only shows the kinda person u are: gutter babes |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by seniorgozman(m): 5:28pm On May 23, 2023 |
Let me come in to this topic. Africans adopt but not like the whites, my family friend has 1 boy and 3 girls. He met a little boy who was around 5 years in the village that just lost his parents and siblings to a fata moto accident, he took the boy and trained him up to university level. I don't know another adoption |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by Nobody: 5:51pm On May 23, 2023 |
advanceDNA: Okay....you can now fvck off forever. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by advanceDNA: 5:52pm On May 23, 2023 |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by Nobody: 5:55pm On May 23, 2023 |
diogo23: Anini was not adopted and lots of agberos were not adopted as well. I can go on and give millions of examples of kids who ended badly despite being raised by biological parents. Nurture plays a crucial factor in a child's upbringing! |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by Nobody: 6:03pm On May 23, 2023 |
For our society to thrive and succeed, we need to have a mentality change and a complete paradigm shift in our thought process . Culture should evolve to meet the needs of our society. The people I pity the most are individuals who help adopt children of relatives and help train kids for lazy relatives. In short we desperately need a positive cultural evolution for our society to thrive. The biggest mistake you will ever make is to adopt children of relatives, it backfires 100% of the time. You can help relatives from afar off but never adopt their kids. |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by Hathor5(f): 6:39pm On May 23, 2023 |
PrimadonnaO: Some people can adopt, some others can`t, even if it means not having children at all. Different types of people. Having your own kids and adopting one might lead to a lot of problems. Might. |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by iamL(f): 7:01pm On May 23, 2023 |
Victoria938: I have a friend who is looking for a child for the past 8ys, she is almost developing mental issues because of it. What stops them from adopting and regaining their sanity? I have stopped listening to her lamentations, Na Dem sabi. My happiness is those around me don't have that backwards african slavery mentality. The world has moved on without African wrapped sense of view. |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by IkeIgboNiile(m): 7:03pm On May 23, 2023 |
diogo23 If you see what adopted children is doing in some family you just shut up Some biological kids do worst in their own families. A lot of adopted kids have also brought joy and happiness to their adopted families too. |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by iamL(f): 7:08pm On May 23, 2023 |
Skyview01: My eldest sister was the first person to mention this to me. It's mostly backfires. The children often times turn out to be ungrateful, any misunderstanding with them they will threaten to return to their parents, same with their parents they will demand for their children especially if its a case where the adopted parents are barren. I will love to adopt from another country self. 1 Like |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by Kobojunkie: 7:13pm On May 23, 2023 |
DrDunamis:What society is engineered in that way then? |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by Kobojunkie: 7:15pm On May 23, 2023 |
iamL:Many of the children are broken souls who need someone who will love them along with their faults. They are children that need help. Not grown-ups that are to do as you ask. |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by iamL(f): 7:15pm On May 23, 2023 |
Aonkuuse: Which order from God? The same Abraham that adopted Lot is own cousins? |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by Kobojunkie: 7:16pm On May 23, 2023 |
Jesslove:But these fears are not unique to the Nigerian situation. So why do Nigerians overwhelmingly allow such things to stop them from extending love to these children in need? |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by iamL(f): 7:17pm On May 23, 2023 |
Sharonstone7719: That CS own go shock you if you witness am. |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by Kobojunkie: 7:18pm On May 23, 2023 |
4ward4:Yet millions of children roam Nigeria homeless every day? |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by IkeIgboNiile(m): 7:19pm On May 23, 2023 |
Edoziesmart I agree with you. Because there are one particular family in my knidred in the village that bear different surname from ours. When I made enquiry about the difference in surname, I got to know that their ancestor is from far away community miles away from my LGA let alone community. My ancestor adopted the man and woman they settle in our land and bore children. Now their offspring are part of us. Note: Our surname is the name of my ancestor 5 generation ago. So every member of my kindred are mandatory to bear the surname excluding ladies that are married out. But in this case, that particular family in my kindred is the one with different surname due to the fact they are not related to us biologically from origin. Same happened in my family. During the slave trade era, my ancestor decided to leave his father's house because he felt he could protect his young family from the slave traders so he left with a couple of his friends and relatives to the part of the town where our ancestral land is currently located. Currently those families make up our umunna though we still have umunna from our original ancestral side but no longer close to them. |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by Kobojunkie: 7:19pm On May 23, 2023 |
poshestmina:Those fears are not unique to the Nigerian situation. So, why do Nigerians generally allow such fears keep them from extending a helping hand to children in need? |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by Kobojunkie: 7:22pm On May 23, 2023 |
Hathor5:So, must the woman experience this 8 times when she can maybe do it 4 times and then adopt the remaining 4 out of 8 kids she yearns to have? |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by Kobojunkie: 7:24pm On May 23, 2023 |
Jovialjune1:Millions of kids roam the streets of Nigeria every day without a home to call their own yet your Nigerian churches remain filled to the brim even with people who fast and pray for children. Do the math, how come? |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by OBTOREPA(m): 8:11pm On May 23, 2023 |
Victoria938:Pray you never experience this |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by Kobojunkie: 8:17pm On May 23, 2023 |
OBTOREPA:Have you? |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by OBTOREPA(m): 8:26pm On May 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Not my portion Many of them goes through a lot of mockery and accusations, shame and lot more. So will like to prove there enemies wrong that they're not eating there babies or into cultist. Another is involved. |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by Kobojunkie: 8:28pm On May 23, 2023 |
OBTOREPA:1. You have never personally experienced it but somehow you are absolutely sure it will never turn out good if you step outside of your fears and anxieties to do the right thing in this case. So you go as far as to even promote this fear against what should be commonsense really. 2. So, because they are stigmatized by society, that means society is right in what it does and those innocent children should be avoided at all costs? |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by 4ward4: 8:46pm On May 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Were you patient enough to read all through. Your answer lies there. |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by Kobojunkie: 8:50pm On May 23, 2023 |
4ward4:There is no answer just suppositions drawn from unfounded fears. |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by PrimadonnaO(f): 10:10pm On May 23, 2023 |
Hathor5: What sort of problems? |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by Hathor5(f): 5:35am On May 24, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Personal choice. Very personal. |
Re: Is This Selfishness Or Not by DrDunamis(m): 7:38am On May 24, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Looking at the western societies you'd see it a common trend for them to readily want to adopt in such situations cos not only are there benefits in doing that but because the society is enlightened in this noble way of life. You're having challenges of having your own kid, adopt. But over here the story is different |
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