MrPaul2:
I once had a girlfriend like this, heaven knows that I love her so dearly but exactly what you complain about happened. I cheated on her boom I couldn't penetrate well again, but with the other girls sex was wonderful, I had to confess to her at a point but I already had STD. I treated the infection and that was all.

I wish OP would see this so he could maybe realize how powerful the human mind can be..

Suspect33:
No matter how you trash talk it or try to run it down, marriage is a good thing, because no man wants to marry you, you've now made it a personal assignment to trash talk marriage any chance you get.

It's a defense mechanism to convince yourself that you don't want what you can't have , or that having that thing is morally evil.

You're always here trying to run down marriage and to propagate divorces. lol

I have never said anywhere here or anywhere else that marriage is not a good thing. It is great when the two in the marriage are in agreement and equally respect each other and place each other as priorities. However, it is trash when partners attempt each others intelligence and emotions for their selfish sakes and egos.

If you could just once be a logical rational being that you pretend yourself to be, you would figure this stance of mine a long time ago.

Mokole2023:
Dear Nlders,

I cant say if this problem is peculiar and I would sincerely appreciate mature comments and suggestions.

My marriage is just about a year old though I had an on/off online friendship with my now-wifey since 2017 before we decided to get serious late 2021. Our physical courtship was kinda brief - about 6 months - while we both resided in the same state but different Cities (about 3hrs apart).

I used to be very sexually active in my previous relationships - trust me when i say I'm quite good in bed - but with my now-wifey, I decided to limit the sex part cos i felt at a man's age (tho my sisters also advised same) that there r other things to look out for in a woman. So basically, we did not get too intimate during courtship. Worryingly, even the few times we did it, I rarely got to orgasm cos she couldn't match my stamina.

Fast forwards to 1 month into the marriage, I was diagnosed with High blood pressure which the doctors advised BP drugs might affect my libido but it will later regulate/normalize. Then the problems started! First, I get aroused normally with good turgidity enough to penetrate my Wifey's tight "body" but I tend to loose erection after some mins of thrusting and that's the end. Never comes back on again. Few times I was able to finish but that's not without alot of mental imagination to make me finish ontime.

Very worryingly for me, I decided to check myself with other women and dear readers, I achieved stronger turgidity and no fail moment. That was my first shock.

Summarily, my wife and I still dont live together but this situation has gone worse now. I got no sexual feelings towards her and na by force we dey manage run 1 round in weeks. Meanwhile, I get sex requests from other girls on a daily. I'm very sad about this situation especially when i look at my wife because she ought to be enjoying this thicke alone forever.

As a man, you can imagine how you'd feel when your woman feels ur impotent while other women are bugging you for your time.

Various extreme thoughts have crossed my mind and I'm seriously bothered which isn't even good for my health. Should i confess to my wife?

I await your responses, suggestions and advice.

Many thanks,

You had sex with other women.
That was a wrong thing to to.
How would you feel if the tables were turned?
You would definitely call for a divorce. That am Sure.
You could have opened up to her,
Seen a sex therapist together, or try watching porn.

Mokole2023:


Hmmmm thats worrisome! My wife's pretty, fair n endowed. Why is there no signal from my brain for arousal?

I for like make we talk. I have something similar to this but not as worse.

player007:
■ You had sex with other women. That was a wrong thing to to. How would you feel if the tables were turned? You would definitely call for a divorce. That am Sure. You could have opened up to her, Seen a sex therapist together, or try watching porn.

I wish OP would at least understand this.

Wa....Ogbeni OP, go and take Gbogbonise herbal mixture...you go fire down I swear down...lol. On a lighter note there my good friend. The truth is that like others have been advising, seek for sexual therapist. And to think further on your behalf, I would have suggested some good herbal remedies but since you are on a BP medication..hmmmmm. Anyway I wish you the best...

Your body system will regulate itself soon towards your wife...

Kobojunkie:
I have never said anywhere here or anywhere else that marriage is not a good thing . It is great when the two in the marriage are in agreement and equally respect each other and place each other as priorities. However, it is trash when partners attempt each others intelligence and emotions for their selfish sakes and egos.

If you could just once be a logical rational being that you pretend yourself to be, you would figure this stance of mine a long time ago.

You don't have to say it. It can be deduced from your write-ups how bitter you are

Relax bro, it do happens a times, but you will still come back with your wife.

Suspect33:
■ You don't have to say it. It can be deduced from your write-ups how bitter you are

Injecting your delusions in between the lines of my own statements does not mean you deduced anything of my own. Rather it reveals your own delusions, I am afraid. So, learn to separate your delusions from my write-ups next time so you can clearly understand my real intentions.

Mokole2023:


Hmmmm thats worrisome! My wife's pretty, fair n endowed. Why is there no signal from my brain for arousal?

there is this unknown X factor that keeps two different people together for years and they will still find each other sexually attractive,that is why it is highly and seriously adviced to have a minimum of 1-2 years testing period before thinking about marriage,6 months is far too small to see issues in a woman,despite the fact that she maybe beautiful with full options but without that X factor it is useless

Sixfeetbelle:


Reduce libido when he's with his wife, but does absolutely nothing to his libido when he's cheating? Please

what's your sex drive like?

You and Your wife need serious deliverance from a strong and good man of God from spiritual wife and husband. SIMPLE, BUT I KNOW YOU WILL NOT TAKE THIS ADVICE SERIOUS.

Mokole2023:
Dear Nlders,

I cant say if this problem is peculiar and I would sincerely appreciate mature comments and suggestions.

My marriage is just about a year old though I had an on/off online friendship with my now-wifey since 2017 before we decided to get serious late 2021. Our physical courtship was kinda brief - about 6 months - while we both resided in the same state but different Cities (about 3hrs apart).

I used to be very sexually active in my previous relationships - trust me when i say I'm quite good in bed - but with my now-wifey, I decided to limit the sex part cos i felt at a man's age (tho my sisters also advised same) that there r other things to look out for in a woman. So basically, we did not get too intimate during courtship. Worryingly, even the few times we did it, I rarely got to orgasm cos she couldn't match my stamina.

Fast forwards to 1 month into the marriage, I was diagnosed with High blood pressure which the doctors advised BP drugs might affect my libido but it will later regulate/normalize. Then the problems started! First, I get aroused normally with good turgidity enough to penetrate my Wifey's tight "body" but I tend to loose erection after some mins of thrusting and that's the end. Never comes back on again. Few times I was able to finish but that's not without alot of mental imagination to make me finish ontime.

Very worryingly for me, I decided to check myself with other women and dear readers, I achieved stronger turgidity and no fail moment. That was my first shock.

Summarily, my wife and I still dont live together but this situation has gone worse now. I got no sexual feelings towards her and na by force we dey manage run 1 round in weeks. Meanwhile, I get sex requests from other girls on a daily. I'm very sad about this situation especially when i look at my wife because she ought to be enjoying this thicke alone forever.

As a man, you can imagine how you'd feel when your woman feels ur impotent while other women are bugging you for your time.

Various extreme thoughts have crossed my mind and I'm seriously bothered which isn't even good for my health. Should i confess to my wife?

I await your responses, suggestions and advice.

Many thanks,

Una dey always make me laugh. Lmao. You go marry who no dey turn you on...it’s your fault for trying to control yourself in courtship. See your life.

pretydiva:
The truth is you no longer find your wife sexually attractive.

Yeah, it's a psychological matter.

initially i wanted to blame the BP drugs as the cause but the fact that u perform well with other women overruled it

Yes. You built the foundation of a non-sexual relationship with her, but you want to roof a fully sexual one?
That's not how it works.

Mokole2023:
Dear Nlders,

I cant say if this problem is peculiar and I would sincerely appreciate mature comments and suggestions.

My marriage is just about a year old though I had an on/off online friendship with my now-wifey since 2017 before we decided to get serious late 2021. Our physical courtship was kinda brief - about 6 months - while we both resided in the same state but different Cities (about 3hrs apart).

I used to be very sexually active in my previous relationships - trust me when i say I'm quite good in bed - but with my now-wifey, I decided to limit the sex part cos i felt at a man's age (tho my sisters also advised same) that there r other things to look out for in a woman. So basically, we did not get too intimate during courtship. Worryingly, even the few times we did it, I rarely got to orgasm cos she couldn't match my stamina.

Fast forwards to 1 month into the marriage, I was diagnosed with High blood pressure which the doctors advised BP drugs might affect my libido but it will later regulate/normalize. Then the problems started! First, I get aroused normally with good turgidity enough to penetrate my Wifey's tight "body" but I tend to loose erection after some mins of thrusting and that's the end. Never comes back on again. Few times I was able to finish but that's not without alot of mental imagination to make me finish ontime.

Very worryingly for me, I decided to check myself with other women and dear readers, I achieved stronger turgidity and no fail moment. That was my first shock.

Summarily, my wife and I still dont live together but this situation has gone worse now. I got no sexual feelings towards her and na by force we dey manage run 1 round in weeks. Meanwhile, I get sex requests from other girls on a daily. I'm very sad about this situation especially when i look at my wife because she ought to be enjoying this thicke alone forever.

As a man, you can imagine how you'd feel when your woman feels ur impotent while other women are bugging you for your time.

Various extreme thoughts have crossed my mind and I'm seriously bothered which isn't even good for my health. Should i confess to my wife?

I await your responses, suggestions and advice.

Many thanks,

folake4u:


The story get k-leg abeg.

helo can I told u a question & do u want moiney? Am ready to pay u 10k cash. U Want?

Klass99:


I am seriously wondering the same thing on your behalf considering all you've said so far. This sounds rough.....sorry.

I hope you strap up when indulging the other women bugging you? No go carry STD for yourself and wife o, abeg. You should search for a sex therapist, I don't know if we have authentic ones in Naija but please ask.

If you wan see Werey go find sex therapist for naija

Mokole2023:


Your quote is a big ? for me. I did consult with some "elders" and they say in such situations, traditionally its an issue with the woman (something like a spiritual attack). During a recent public holiday, i got myself viagra, I couldn't sleep cos my head was banging all thru d night. I have taken herbs, exercises, weight loss, dates fruit etc but e be like na other people dey enjoy am!

Don't listen to the Spiritual Nonsense which is African Means of Escaping from Realities Once They Don't Understand It !

Your wife simply Lacks Sparks, Spices & Some Wildness which is Killing Your Morale while You are Getting What she Lacks from Other Women which is a Morale Boaster ... Simple !

Most Women from Strong Religion Background have been Sexually Disoriented due to Strong Adherence to Religion Principles that Forbids Sexual Thought-Processes, Educations, Practices & Romanticism Except within the Confines of Holy Matrimony ....

Any Woman/Man that Adheres Strictly to Such Religion Principles Would have a Counter-Consequences of Disorientations from Sexual Realities, Maturities, Spices, Sparks, Plugs, Practical Experiences is the Best Teacher !

Thus, You might have a Prayer Warrior as a Wife with Hardworking & Goal Getter But Zero Sexual Plugs ....

You are the Problem Because You know Your Wife But You Don't know how to Solve Her which is why You are Here ...

Simple, All The Fantasy in Your Heads Should be Marketed to Her in such ways that She wouldn't Raise Objections thus You have to Lure Her into Your Sexual Worlds without Her Knowing You are Luring Her .....

It's like taking someone to the middle of Atlantic blindfolded..... They Only Know when they get to the middle of Waters Alas, Its too late to Go Back ....

It's called Reverse Psychology or Mental Blindedness to Soften The Mental Blocks caused by Religion Doctrines she has been adapted to all these Years ...

Any Man that shall Manned a Woman Must Possesses Reverse Psychology Skills to Achieve his Ways If Not She will Antagonise You & Relationships shall Fail!

No be Her Fault, That's How Human Brain are Wired Once Adapted to Courses of Actions to Reverse such Course & Install Other Courses no be Play ... You must Be a Psychologist & Therapeutic to Easily Get Your Ways !

Samantha124:
The only way to show her how serious you are is by moving out of the house and filing for a divorce despite her objections.

But if you want to stay in a loveless marriage just because she has objected for a separation, then feel free to stay, but you gonna have to honour your vows by staying faithful to her and not sleeping outside.

Remember you might be stuck forever once a child comes to the picture.

See, Don't always take the easier way out of Life ... People That Does that Do Not Achieve Anything in Life ... Have you Measured the Implications of Divorce in the Couples Life

Other than Sexual Spices, did You see Other Aspects of their Marriage that isn't lovely abi na only sex

Becareful with disability of Homes because What You Advice People is surely what You will do & Trust Me Divorce is not Mentally easier on the Divorced ....

You should have suggested modalities to make their Home Works rather than jumping to the end of the Game thats if all Plausibility Fails, Nigga ain't even trying 50% Because He's getting Alternative Coochie Outside .....

He Could have used the Balances He Gained from Alternative Pvssies to Resuscitate His Wife But No, His Mental Thresholds is sexually saturated & The Proximity to the Women Oustide has made him Abhors His Own Wife a such He is Lazy to Raise His Wife to Par ..

Like, Why the stress when I can easily get it Out there without much stress ....

If a Man do Not Love his Home Front Clearly & Matured Enough for Fvck-Aside Once You Go Out There, You are Gone Cuz Coming Back In becomes Mentally Difficult due to Saturations & Satisfaction beyond what the Primary Housewife Might Offer ... She has other Stresses from Homefronts too & Possibly Responsibilities to the extended Families & Work Stresses which we Men don't usually factor in measuring her psychological responses to Our Sexual Exploits ..... !

E far Jhare ... Marriage no be Play ... Na Immature People dey Divorce & it also Comes with Her Baggages !

I didn't tell him to leave his marriage, but I only advised him and told him that the choice is his to make about his marriage.

He has the choice, not me.

But it wouldn't be fair for their future children to be born and raised in a loveless home because it will affect them.

DonroxyII:
See, Don't always take the easier way out of Life ... People That Does that Do Not Achieve Anything in Life ... Have you Measured the Implications of Divorce in the Couples Life

Other than Sexual Spices, did You see Other Aspects of their Marriage that isn't lovely abi na only sex

Becareful with disability of Homes because What You Advice People is surely what You will do & Trust Me Divorce is not Mentally easier on the Divorced ....

You should have suggested modalities to make their Home Works rather than jumping to the end of the Game thats if all Plausibility Fails, Nigga ain't even trying 50% Because He's getting Alternative Coochie Outside .....

He Could have used the Balances He Gained from Alternative Pvssies to Resuscitate His Wife But No, His Mental Thresholds is sexually saturated & The Proximity to the Women Oustide has made him Abhors His Own Wife a such He is Lazy to Raise His Wife to Par ..

Like, Why the stress when I can easily get it Out there without much stress ....

If a Man do Not Love his Home Front Clearly & Matured Enough for Fvck-Aside Once You Go Out There, You are Gone Cuz Coming Back In becomes Mentally Difficult due to Saturations & Satisfaction beyond what the Primary Housewife Might Offer ... She has other Stresses from Homefronts too & Possibly Responsibilities to the extended Families & Work Stresses which we Men don't usually factor in measuring her psychological responses to Our Sexual Exploits ..... !

E far Jhare ... Marriage no be Play ... Na Immature People dey Divorce & it also Comes with Her Baggages !

Samantha124:
Tell her the truth and if possible, get a divorce and move on with those other ladies that you're already cheating on her with.

Set her free while she's still young and you guys don't have a child... The sooner you do it, the easier it's gonna be for her to move on.

*Ghen ghen ghen*🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😔😔😔

folake4u:


Why is no one talking about the fact that Op cheated on his wife during marriage?

And then the Viagra and taking of High Bp drugs?

This story nor gel at all.

The Earlier You Realise & Accept the Fact that Cheating is Part of Marriage or Any Relationship Since Year "0" the Better For You in this Contemporary Dispensation ... Cheating Knows No Gender Men/Women !

You can Speak English & Argue Based On Ideologies, Spiritualism Even Quote the Universal Laws Not Mere English or Customary Laws But Fact is Still Fact....

Cheating Exist Within Families, Conventional or Unconventional Relationship!

It's like Some People Denying LGBTQ, They Might Not Come Out in Most African Countries due to Legislation & Custom But They are Existing !

Only Moralists, Conventionalist & Perfectionist Etc are Speaking English While Others are Speaking Realities !

Welcome to Earth !

TheBTCinvestor:


Bro I'm facing same problem bro and we just 1year together but luckily we have a kid. Outside eh my dick go stand kakaraka but with my wife my dick will be falling that I have to struggle to finish one round in weeks of no sex. Its crazy bro! We were having sex well b4 marriage b4 I got her pregnant. I think it's spiritual o or psychological cos I'm confused my self

Na Stress & Spice Her Up !
Dull Man is a Dull Wife ... She Picks After Your Energies !

sisisioge:


You dont know anything yet. Sebi you guys are still managing to do once in several weeks right? In another 5 years you would have settled into once in a year! As a legend, you of all people should have known the importance of sexual compatibility before settling down. Your cross o....all of una go dey alright laslas.

And that is how another couple took the wahala route....