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I'm Wasting My Life And I Need Help by Mymumhope: 1:30pm On Jun 02, 2023
This morning my mum called .. she spoke to me with pain in her voice, telling me Time ain't there " .asking me what I planned doing with my life. Reality checked on me . I realise I was wasting my life and thinking there was time. I've always known this but I kept brushing off the feeling, by saying I'll make up for it.
Life has not been easy, but I've always got the right motivation, the right family and the right reason to keep pushing.
I grew up in a Christian educated home. Mum and dad are graduates and still alive. I'm the first child, only son with 3 lovely sisters. I and the girl after me are graduates, while the rest girls are in school already.
I don't know how I got into all this but it has been a long journey.
I'm living a double life, opposite of everything I'm portraying myself to be. People see me as a responsible guy, as a guy that knows what he wants due to the way I speak and do my things. But deep down inside of me ..I know I'm empty.
I know what's right , I know where I want to be in life, I know what it takes to get there ... I see myself in a working environment as an important figure in the society. But many things are hindering me and distracting me from getting to me goals. And it's really painful because I need to get there not just for myself but also for my parents and those people looking up to me.
I finished my Nysc March 2020 and since then I've been really stagnant, With no progress at all in all aspects . I decided to reside at the same state where I was posted to and presently still there. I live in a room and palour self contain and I have an online business which has been sustaining me since 2017(when I started having money) . It's a legit online business, where you offer your services online and I've got few top clients I'm working with till this day. I'm not counting it as a lucrative business but it's enough to meet my basic needs quite well without venturing into fraud.
I started smoking weed at a very young age due to the environment I grew up in. My parents knew but they felt I stopped a long time . But till this moment I still do . My childhood friends weren't of help either because I was more like the most responsible among them, due to I was the only one that went to the university. We did lot of bad things together I can't speak out till this day. Now everything from my childhood is affecting me badly without repair and I don't know what to do anymore.
Like I said earlier on , I know what to do , I know what I want and where I want to be ..but I'm finding it hard achieving this goals and I feel like I need help.
Ive got no zeal, I procrastinate badly ... I lose focus fastly . I feel there is still time when deep down I know time is fast going .
I'm feeling like a failure already , even though I've got 100 reasons to start pushing and I've got the few right backups .. but it's as if I don't know what to do and I don't know where to start from . I feel so comfortable in my comfort zone and it's making my life messed up. I already identified my problems ,but I don't know how to drop them because of the environment I am . I'm already into the 3 things that destroys a man.. but I don't know how to quit. I pay sportbetting , I smoke weed and I most times womanise ( because I have a high libido whereby I want sex most times ). My parents have been there for me as they want me to pursue my masters degree , I have an uncle that is also ready to sponsor me outside. I'm not a lazy person as I do love outdoor activities alot (working in a working environment). But this life I'm living is really affecting me and I'm too too comfortable with the way I am.
I've been looking for a school outside that I can proceed to have my masters in criminology for the past 2 years,. But like I said , I loose focus fastly .. and I'm easily distracted. I tend to dedicate few hours to it and the next minute I'm doing something else on my phone ... I know I'm gradually wasting. Deep down in me, I know time ain't there .. my mum calls and ask me of my progress and I make up stories . Telling her I'm on it while I'm doing something else ....
The call this morning from my mum really touched me ....and I need help ...I really want to change my life and I don't know where I'm going to start from . I want to stop procrastinating, I want to be able to focus on things ... I want to achieve my goals in life ........ I want to achieve my destiny. And I want my parents to be proud of me ...😭😭 I'm 27 years already(last month)
Re: I'm Wasting My Life And I Need Help by Wodu89: 1:32pm On Jun 02, 2023
Life begins at the point of realization..You'd be surprised the number of people that come to your current state at realization in theirs 60s.

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Re: I'm Wasting My Life And I Need Help by taylor88(m): 1:32pm On Jun 02, 2023
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Re: I'm Wasting My Life And I Need Help by Mozino007(m): 1:48pm On Jun 02, 2023
Change your environment and draw closer to your maker…..sky is your limit.
Re: I'm Wasting My Life And I Need Help by Nobody: 2:18pm On Jun 02, 2023
Loll, you have no problem.
just find a way to motivate yourself to do more. seems you lack that.
Re: I'm Wasting My Life And I Need Help by yrhuhfy113: 2:46pm On Jun 02, 2023
Mymumhope:
This morning my mum called .. she spoke to me with pain in her voice, telling me Time ain't there " .asking me what I planned doing with my life. Reality checked on me . I realise I was wasting my life and thinking there was time. I've always known this but I kept brushing off the feeling, by saying I'll make up for it.
Life has not been easy, but I've always got the right motivation, the right family and the right reason to keep pushing.
I grew up in a Christian educated home. Mum and dad are graduates and still alive. I'm the first child, only son with 3 lovely sisters. I and the girl after me are graduates, while the rest girls are in school already.
I don't know how I got into all this but it has been a long journey.
I'm living a double life, opposite of everything I'm portraying myself to be. People see me as a responsible guy, as a guy that knows what he wants due to the way I speak and do my things. But deep down inside of me ..I know I'm empty.
I know what's right , I know where I want to be in life, I know what it takes to get there ... I see myself in a working environment as an important figure in the society. But many things are hindering me and distracting me from getting to me goals. And it's really painful because I need to get there not just for myself but also for my parents and those people looking up to me.
I finished my Nysc March 2020 and since then I've been really stagnant, With no progress at all in all aspects . I decided to reside at the same state where I was posted to and presently still there. I live in a room and palour self contain and I have an online business which has been sustaining me since 2017(when I started having money) . It's a legit online business, where you offer your services online and I've got few top clients I'm working with till this day. I'm not counting it as a lucrative business but it's enough to meet my basic needs quite well without venturing into fraud.
I started smoking weed at a very young age due to the environment I grew up in. My parents knew but they felt I stopped a long time . But till this moment I still do . My childhood friends weren't of help either because I was more like the most responsible among them, due to I was the only one that went to the university. We did lot of bad things together I can't speak out till this day. Now everything from my childhood is affecting me badly without repair and I don't know what to do anymore.
Like I said earlier on , I know what to do , I know what I want and where I want to be ..but I'm finding it hard achieving this goals and I feel like I need help.
Ive got no zeal, I procrastinate badly ... I lose focus fastly . I feel there is still time when deep down I know time is fast going .
I'm feeling like a failure already , even though I've got 100 reasons to start pushing and I've got the few right backups .. but it's as if I don't know what to do and I don't know where to start from . I feel so comfortable in my comfort zone and it's making my life messed up. I already identified my problems ,but I don't know how to drop them because of the environment I am . I'm already into the 3 things that destroys a man.. but I don't know how to quit. I pay sportbetting , I smoke weed and I most times womanise ( because I have a high libido whereby I want sex most times ). My parents have been there for me as they want me to pursue my masters degree , I have an uncle that is also ready to sponsor me outside. I'm not a lazy person as I do love outdoor activities alot (working in a working environment). But this life I'm living is really affecting me and I'm too too comfortable with the way I am.
I've been looking for a school outside that I can proceed to have my masters in criminology for the past 2 years,. But like I said , I loose focus fastly .. and I'm easily distracted. I tend to dedicate few hours to it and the next minute I'm doing something else on my phone ... I know I'm gradually wasting. Deep down in me, I know time ain't there .. my mum calls and ask me of my progress and I make up stories . Telling her I'm on it while I'm doing something else ....
The call this morning from my mum really touched me ....and I need help ...I really want to change my life and I don't know where I'm going to start from . I want to stop procrastinating, I want to be able to focus on things ... I want to achieve my goals in life ........ I want to achieve my destiny. And I want my parents to be proud of me ...😭😭 I'm 27 years already(last month)

At 27, you have a paying legit online business.... you are not feeding off your parents, you are a graduate...
Let me just correct you and tell you, in case no one has told you.
YOU ARE DOING WELL ........



Yes you have a very HUGE blindspot... but you are on track to a manageable life.

the real issue is.... YOU DON'T KNOW YOU ARE DIGGING YOUR GRAVE.... EARLY GRAVE.

See, children do what we do not what we say, if you continue this way, your kids will find out the real you and take after you.... if you continue this way, MANY OPPORTUNITIES WILL LEAVE YOU AND YOU WILL NEVER BE MOTIVATED TO DO ANYTHING TILL IT'S TOO LATE

Change environment.... You may need to relocate back to somewhere close to where your parents are, so you can be accountable and responsible.

Change your social media and friends......... THIS IS ESSENTIAL. No friendship is worth risking a great future as you have.

Change your mindset......... You need a mentor, a coach, someone you can be reporting to and that uphold discipline with you. You need to attend CONFERENCES AND SEMINARS that will shift your mindset.

IF ALL THESE DO NOT WORK.... you need to start listening to joshua selman, and plan to go for deliverance... to get rid of whatever is dragging your mind with you and making you do things you don't really want to do but you badly FEEL LIKE DOING.

Lastly, have you considered telling all these to your parents and genuinely asking for help?

Have you considered going back to stay with them, till you travel out?


YOUR FUTURE IS BRIGHT, YOUR STRUGGLES ARE NOT STRANGE, EVERY HERO HAS THEIR STORY AND WEAKNESSES.....

It is wisdom for superman to know his kryptonite.


See you at the top bro.

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Re: I'm Wasting My Life And I Need Help by Zardex(m): 2:58pm On Jun 02, 2023
You are doing quite well, but you may need a trusted friend to guide you on how to achieve things.
Mymumhope:
This morning my mum called .. she spoke to me with pain in her voice, telling me Time ain't there " .asking me what I planned doing with my life. Reality checked on me . I realise I was wasting my life and thinking there was time. I've always known this but I kept brushing off the feeling, by saying I'll make up for it.
Life has not been easy, but I've always got the right motivation, the right family and the right reason to keep pushing.
I grew up in a Christian educated home. Mum and dad are graduates and still alive. I'm the first child, only son with 3 lovely sisters. I and the girl after me are graduates, while the rest girls are in school already.
I don't know how I got into all this but it has been a long journey.
I'm living a double life, opposite of everything I'm portraying myself to be. People see me as a responsible guy, as a guy that knows what he wants due to the way I speak and do my things. But deep down inside of me ..I know I'm empty.
I know what's right , I know where I want to be in life, I know what it takes to get there ... I see myself in a working environment as an important figure in the society. But many things are hindering me and distracting me from getting to me goals. And it's really painful because I need to get there not just for myself but also for my parents and those people looking up to me.
I finished my Nysc March 2020 and since then I've been really stagnant, With no progress at all in all aspects . I decided to reside at the same state where I was posted to and presently still there. I live in a room and palour self contain and I have an online business which has been sustaining me since 2017(when I started having money) . It's a legit online business, where you offer your services online and I've got few top clients I'm working with till this day. I'm not counting it as a lucrative business but it's enough to meet my basic needs quite well without venturing into fraud.
I started smoking weed at a very young age due to the environment I grew up in. My parents knew but they felt I stopped a long time . But till this moment I still do . My childhood friends weren't of help either because I was more like the most responsible among them, due to I was the only one that went to the university. We did lot of bad things together I can't speak out till this day. Now everything from my childhood is affecting me badly without repair and I don't know what to do anymore.
Like I said earlier on , I know what to do , I know what I want and where I want to be ..but I'm finding it hard achieving this goals and I feel like I need help.
Ive got no zeal, I procrastinate badly ... I lose focus fastly . I feel there is still time when deep down I know time is fast going .
I'm feeling like a failure already , even though I've got 100 reasons to start pushing and I've got the few right backups .. but it's as if I don't know what to do and I don't know where to start from . I feel so comfortable in my comfort zone and it's making my life messed up. I already identified my problems ,but I don't know how to drop them because of the environment I am . I'm already into the 3 things that destroys a man.. but I don't know how to quit. I pay sportbetting , I smoke weed and I most times womanise ( because I have a high libido whereby I want sex most times ). My parents have been there for me as they want me to pursue my masters degree , I have an uncle that is also ready to sponsor me outside. I'm not a lazy person as I do love outdoor activities alot (working in a working environment). But this life I'm living is really affecting me and I'm too too comfortable with the way I am.
I've been looking for a school outside that I can proceed to have my masters in criminology for the past 2 years,. But like I said , I loose focus fastly .. and I'm easily distracted. I tend to dedicate few hours to it and the next minute I'm doing something else on my phone ... I know I'm gradually wasting. Deep down in me, I know time ain't there .. my mum calls and ask me of my progress and I make up stories . Telling her I'm on it while I'm doing something else ....
The call this morning from my mum really touched me ....and I need help ...I really want to change my life and I don't know where I'm going to start from . I want to stop procrastinating, I want to be able to focus on things ... I want to achieve my goals in life ........ I want to achieve my destiny. And I want my parents to be proud of me ...😭😭 I'm 27 years already(last month)
Re: I'm Wasting My Life And I Need Help by Mymumhope: 3:01pm On Jun 02, 2023
Thank you so much for your words , I will try to do the possible things you listed here.... But I may not be able to tell my parents now ..they will really be disappointed in me
yrhuhfy113:


At 27, you have a paying legit online business.... you are not feeding off your parents, you are a graduate...
Let me just correct you and tell you, in case no one has told you.
YOU ARE DOING WELL ........



Yes you have a very HUGE blindspot... but you are on track to a manageable life.

the real issue is.... YOU DON'T KNOW YOU ARE DIGGING YOUR GRAVE.... EARLY GRAVE.

See, children do what we do not what we say, if you continue this way, your kids will find out the real you and take after you.... if you continue this way, MANY OPPORTUNITIES WILL LEAVE YOU AND YOU WILL NEVER BE MOTIVATED TO DO ANYTHING TILL IT'S TOO LATE

Change environment.... You may need to relocate back to somewhere close to where your parents are, so you can be accountable and responsible.

Change your social media and friends......... THIS IS ESSENTIAL. No friendship is worth risking a great future as you have.

Change your mindset......... You need a mentor, a coach, someone you can be reporting to and that uphold discipline with you. You need to attend CONFERENCES AND SEMINARS that will shift your mindset.

IF ALL THESE DO NOT WORK.... you need to start listening to joshua selman, and plan to go for deliverance... to get rid of whatever is dragging your mind with you and making you do things you don't really want to do but you badly FEEL LIKE DOING.

Lastly, have you considered telling all these to your parents and genuinely asking for help?

Have you considered going back to stay with them, till you travel out?


YOUR FUTURE IS BRIGHT, YOUR STRUGGLES ARE NOT STRANGE, EVERY HERO HAS THEIR STORY AND WEAKNESSES.....

It is wisdom for superman to know his kryptonite.


See you at the top bro.

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