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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by seunthomas: 4:25pm On Jul 13, 2023
You get a matured female family member to talk to her. Porn is mostly a male problem. So if a girl is heavily invested it, it may just be that she is too curious about s*x. Get a female member of the family to talk to her or if you can afford a female counsellor (this would be better). She is your family and right now she needs your help.

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by ITbomb(m): 4:25pm On Jul 13, 2023
At that age dem no dey hear word. Immediately after defending her in front of the family, you should have called her aside I tell her that you know what is happening.
Be empathetic and tell her you passed through that phase but it was affecting your self esteem and stuff like that, but you overcame it and become better.
If you are a good role model, she might listen, if not set firewall in the router and blacklist those sites.
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by saysoo: 4:26pm On Jul 13, 2023
Oga report her to her Father before your head will start twisting for your niece. If it catches you, ur own don pafuka.
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by 080bjaked(m): 4:28pm On Jul 13, 2023
questioner:
My mum has people staying with her - my niece, an extended family member and a close family friend and her daughter.
We are okay with it cos it ensures she always has company and reduces the need to always travel to check on her.


Recently the monthly subscription I do on the router at home, which usually has carry over data by the time it expires, now lasts about a week before they start calling me to renew
Everybody in the house denied being the cause of the data drain.


Last week, I came to spend some days at my mum's and first thing I did was to install a network tracker to monitor.
Long story short, I discovered the excessive consumption was from my niece but that's not the major issue.
She was visiting porn sites which was draining data but that's still not the major prob.
My problem was the frequency and how long she spent on porn daily.


The day I came, after she retreated to her room, the porn streaming started and didn't stop until the family member sharing a room with her came back at night.
The next morning once the other lady left for work, she continued with the porn until it was time to leve for her lessons.
Once she came back in the afternoon, she did some chores, ate, sat around the sitting room for a while and went inside
and boom the porn resumed until the other girl came around hours later. This was practically the routine for the 4 days I stayed there.


The day I was to leave I told my mum that I observed the drain came from my niece and blocked her from the router.
She called my niece and questioned her but she denied knowing anything about it, I spared her blushes by saying sometimes apps have background processes that consume data without the owner knowing.


Ever since, I have been wondering if I handled the situation properly.
I didn't confront her about it cos I was concerned about the embarrassment she will feel for a male family to find out about her secret.
She might even assume I have told my mum or my elder bro (her dad), which might weigh her down emotionally.


Also, I am concerned if this is a sign of promiscuity, she will be 17 next month And aside the fact that she's quite tall, she might as well pass for a 14 year old. She's barely endowed for her age- bottomline, not the kind of girl, you will associate with waywardness.

My question is
1. Would it have been better if I had confronted her
2. Is this a possible sign of promiscuity ? - if so, I will suggest mum sends her back to her Dad cos I am not sure at her advanced age
she should be dealing with issues like this, to avoid stories that touch later on

You can block X rated sited on the router and worse case scenario, block her Mac address.
As for the lady, you have to handle it with maturity or in prayers. It's difficult to handle such without embarrassing such people. As Ravi said, only God can correct you without humilating you.
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Henix(m): 4:28pm On Jul 13, 2023
Report the issue to your brother, for him to handle as her father. Porn addiction at such age is not something to be overlooked

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by 1Sharon(f): 4:28pm On Jul 13, 2023
BadMaster:

See your teeth like invasion of privacy.

Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Nobody: 4:30pm On Jul 13, 2023
1Sharon:


Why does it matter if she watches lesbian porn?


It actually doesn't, but curiosity can make her want to try sèx with a female.

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Blitzking: 4:30pm On Jul 13, 2023
questioner:
My mum has people staying with her - my niece, an extended family member and a close family friend and her daughter.
We are okay with it cos it ensures she always has company and reduces the need to always travel to check on her.


Recently the monthly subscription I do on the router at home, which usually has carry over data by the time it expires, now lasts about a week before they start calling me to renew
Everybody in the house denied being the cause of the data drain.


Last week, I came to spend some days at my mum's and first thing I did was to install a network tracker to monitor.
Long story short, I discovered the excessive consumption was from my niece but that's not the major issue.
She was visiting porn sites which was draining data but that's still not the major prob.
My problem was the frequency and how long she spent on porn daily.


The day I came, after she retreated to her room, the porn streaming started and didn't stop until the family member sharing a room with her came back at night.
The next morning once the other lady left for work, she continued with the porn until it was time to leve for her lessons.
Once she came back in the afternoon, she did some chores, ate, sat around the sitting room for a while and went inside
and boom the porn resumed until the other girl came around hours later. This was practically the routine for the 4 days I stayed there.


The day I was to leave I told my mum that I observed the drain came from my niece and blocked her from the router.
She called my niece and questioned her but she denied knowing anything about it, I spared her blushes by saying sometimes apps have background processes that consume data without the owner knowing.


Ever since, I have been wondering if I handled the situation properly.
I didn't confront her about it cos I was concerned about the embarrassment she will feel for a male family to find out about her secret.
She might even assume I have told my mum or my elder bro (her dad), which might weigh her down emotionally.


Also, I am concerned if this is a sign of promiscuity, she will be 17 next month And aside the fact that she's quite tall, she might as well pass for a 14 year old. She's barely endowed for her age- bottomline, not the kind of girl, you will associate with waywardness.

My question is
1. Would it have been better if I had confronted her
2. Is this a possible sign of promiscuity ? - if so, I will suggest mum sends her back to her Dad cos I am not sure at her advanced age
she should be dealing with issues like this, to avoid stories that touch later on
She is just curious...hopefully it stops there warning her or revealing her little secret can't stop her that shittt is addictive. Was addicted to porn as a teenager.
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by judedwriter(m): 4:31pm On Jul 13, 2023
Warn her about all the dangers of porn but really life is the best teacher.
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Adgraced: 4:31pm On Jul 13, 2023
17 is too young to be addicted to porn. Infact any age at that matter. Porn addiction like every other form of addiction causes more havoc than good. The family need to save her from it before it becomes too late and difficult. Get a matured and sensible female family member to counsel her and make her see reasons why she needs to stop. It has to be on her own terms though not forcefully, if not she will find another way to access porn.
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by jubrilELsudan: 4:31pm On Jul 13, 2023
YOU ARE JUST MAKING A BIG DEAL OUT OF NOTHING

WHEN YOU WERE HER AGE...DID YOU AND YOUR FEMALE FRIENDS NOT DO WORSE THINGS?

I KNOW THE AMOUNT OF BLUE FILMS WE ALL WATCHED AS KIDS GROWING UP IN THE 80'S.......FROM SWEDISH EROTICA TO TANGERINE TO LOVE BOAT TO ANIMAL FARM ETC

I REMEMBER HOW WE USED TO DESTROY OUR VCR'S DUE TO OVER PLAYING OF BLUE FILMS

I REMEMBER HOW WE USED TO PLAY MUMMY AND DADDY WITH OUR FEMALE FRIENDS

YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY THAT ITS PORN SHE IS WATCHING AND NOT DISTRIBUTING HER KUKUNASE UP AND DOWN

YOU SHOULD HAVE CALLED HER AND TALKED TO HER IN A POLITE AND DIGNIFIED WAY AND MAKE HER UNDERSTAND THAT IT'S JUST A PHASE SHE PASSING THRU AND LET HER KNOW YOU HAVE BEEN THERE AND DONE THAT WHEN YOU WERE HER AGE AND MAKE HER SEE THE DANGERS OF EXCESSIVE PORN AND W@NKING

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by shantti(m): 4:31pm On Jul 13, 2023
1Sharon:
I think it was an invasion of privacy to view people's browsing history.



She should pay with her money then she can have all the privacy she want

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Juanmike(m): 4:37pm On Jul 13, 2023
Wawelexy:
Allow your poor niece breef.... If you stop her from watching it, then she will get in the real act... Nothing can make her stop it now, if you block her from the router, she would purchase data with her money, if you expose her and start monitoring her, she will wait till midnight when everyone is asleep, or better still go into the bathroom to do her thing...

Since you have blocked her from the router, don't kill her self esteem by letting her know you are aware of her secret, allow her use her data, Xvideo and XNXX will reset her brain when she keeps using her food/transport money for subscription every two days.. when the time comes, she will forget about it...

One thing I discovered about porn addiction is joblessness, boredom and being alone, once you get yourself busy, it stops or drastically reduces.

90% of people viewing this thread have once been addicted, or still addicted to porn. Infact this thread will trigger some people to watch it tonight cheesy.. like the false prophet use to say; This I have seen grin
Lol
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by ncoolsome(m): 4:37pm On Jul 13, 2023
And the number of people that has viewed this topic tells a lot...
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by brainhgeek(m): 4:38pm On Jul 13, 2023
Save that girl! She must not turn 18 without being fixed.
Confront her. Correct her but with compassion. Help her fill the void by getting her busy. She should be occupied with constructive activities. Like you said, anytime she withdraws into her shell and indulges in such act, she is either alone or not busy. That is the trigger. Fix it sir and she will thank you forever

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Otmol005(m): 4:38pm On Jul 13, 2023
My advice was that, you need to confront her, but in a polite way and be very close to her to engage her with some other things nice, she might not stop it once, but as time goes on, she will definitely stop it.
questioner:
My mum has people staying with her - my niece, an extended family member and a close family friend and her daughter.
We are okay with it cos it ensures she always has company and reduces the need to always travel to check on her.


Recently the monthly subscription I do on the router at home, which usually has carry over data by the time it expires, now lasts about a week before they start calling me to renew
Everybody in the house denied being the cause of the data drain.


Last week, I came to spend some days at my mum's and first thing I did was to install a network tracker to monitor.
Long story short, I discovered the excessive consumption was from my niece but that's not the major issue.
She was visiting porn sites which was draining data but that's still not the major prob.
My problem was the frequency and how long she spent on porn daily.


The day I came, after she retreated to her room, the porn streaming started and didn't stop until the family member sharing a room with her came back at night.
The next morning once the other lady left for work, she continued with the porn until it was time to leve for her lessons.
Once she came back in the afternoon, she did some chores, ate, sat around the sitting room for a while and went inside
and boom the porn resumed until the other girl came around hours later. This was practically the routine for the 4 days I stayed there.


The day I was to leave I told my mum that I observed the drain came from my niece and blocked her from the router.
She called my niece and questioned her but she denied knowing anything about it, I spared her blushes by saying sometimes apps have background processes that consume data without the owner knowing.


Ever since, I have been wondering if I handled the situation properly.
I didn't confront her about it cos I was concerned about the embarrassment she will feel for a male family to find out about her secret.
She might even assume I have told my mum or my elder bro (her dad), which might weigh her down emotionally.


Also, I am concerned if this is a sign of promiscuity, she will be 17 next month And aside the fact that she's quite tall, she might as well pass for a 14 year old. She's barely endowed for her age- bottomline, not the kind of girl, you will associate with waywardness.

My question is
1. Would it have been better if I had confronted her
2. Is this a possible sign of promiscuity ? - if so, I will suggest mum sends her back to her Dad cos I am not sure at her advanced age
she should be dealing with issues like this, to avoid stories that touch later on
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Nobody: 4:39pm On Jul 13, 2023
Fortunately, I'm not a cat.. cheesy cheesy cheesy
Dshocker:


grin Dancing Atilogun....

Curiosity kills the cat.
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by izubext007: 4:39pm On Jul 13, 2023
please how can i get the network tracker, and how can i know the site some one is visiting
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Moniya4Real(m): 4:41pm On Jul 13, 2023
Anyone who is addicted to porn has a very high tendency to masturbate often.
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Nobody: 4:42pm On Jul 13, 2023
And who are you to label people demons?
Thecorporatesho:
the Bible said.. let your words be seasoned with grace and your corrections be done in love"... don't listen to those demons in page 1 telling you to leave her alone... correct her in love

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Kingson28: 4:43pm On Jul 13, 2023
Please, confront her, but lovingly. Don't condemn her.
Tell her about your own struggle with porn.
And advise her to quit it.
Threaten to put a secret hidden tracker on her phone without her knowledge that will let you see whatever she views on her phone.
She will NOT view porn on that phone anymore.
But she may borrow or buy another phone to feed and fuel her addiction.
The best solution is for her to give her life to Jesus Christ and to seek deliverance.
Peace.

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Wawelexy(m): 4:44pm On Jul 13, 2023
thinkmoney:

People sabi give rubbish advice here.
Majority of Nigerians brains are suspect.
My friend she is a kid and in a loving way approach her. Assure her you won’t discuss the issue with anybody and tell her the huge disadvantage of pornography.
One disadvantage is that it gives an unrealistic picture of sex, then the young person that have built an idea on pornography wouldn’t know how really to handle relationship. Another thing is that she may compare her body with that of the pornstars and feel she is inadequate. She may also want to try out many outrageous sexual fallacy and end up injuring herself or feeling inadequate if she can’t perform them.
Pornography too is addictive like drugs. The fact you got away from it doesn’t mean others too will. For example, I did drugs while growing and it wasn’t hard for me to stop the vice. But then you know it’s not that way for many others.
Since she is close to you and she is a minor, do something to help her


Oga you are speaking grammar, I repeat, no amount of advice will make are stop watching porn for now, the only thing your advice will do to her to is shatter her self esteem.... The only help the OP can do for her is to give her sex education and this should be done without refering to what the OP saw... People with better understanding knows what I'm talking about
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Sermwell(m): 4:47pm On Jul 13, 2023
mariahAngel:


You are so foolish for typing this foolish comment.
If there's anything less than a fish brain, it's what you have.
Foolish boy!

What stops you from giving your own opinion, however foolish it may be?
Must you quote someone with your nonsense?

If she ends up getting pregnant, fools like you will shame her for sure.

What a nonentity!
I was actually rating you high but your opinion on this topic exposed you for a child! That guy you quoted was actually right about you! Fish brain grin grin

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Jeezuzpick(m): 4:48pm On Jul 13, 2023
mariahAngel:
Are you waiting till she gets pregnant?
That "embarrassment" might be what would save her from ruining her future.

You found out for a reason, so do something about it.
If not, you might regret not doing so on time.

Pregnancy is even better.

If she no go carry disease that can render her barren for life or even kill her.
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by SeriouslySense(m): 4:50pm On Jul 13, 2023
Probably because you are are adult already, so you have already developed the brain or its consolidated already, young children do not overcome the effects of porn easily, it influences them for a very long time.

Groomers use porn or unsolicited nudity to entice their victims.


Samantha124:
No, I was never addicted... With me it was more of a curiosity rather than an addiction.

I only visited those sites for about two or three months and it wasn't an everyday thing, but there were some days whereby I'd binge watch them... Once I was satisfied with what I saw, I stopped and I haven't been to any of those sites till today.

I too was around 17 years old when the whole thing happened.
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Nobody: 4:53pm On Jul 13, 2023
But I was also a teenager when the whole thing happened... undecided undecided undecided
SeriouslySense:
Probably because you are are adult already, so you have already developed the brain or its consolidated already, young children do not overcome the effects of porn easily, it influences them for a very long time.

Groomers use porn or unsolicited nudity to entice their victims.


Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by SeriouslySense(m): 4:56pm On Jul 13, 2023
Maybe men are more vulnerable to porn at that Age than women because of their makeup.

Also the cultural expectations could be helpful or may not be helpful.

Also the easy access to porn on the internet makes it easier to become addicted and the business model creates competition among the porn actors and actresses, which also put them at risk of dying earlier.

And addicted individual are at risk of treating others as sex objects.

Children are at risk of being exposed to predators also.

The summary, its not a healthy addiction.

That Child needs some therapy. At least to understand herself.



Samantha124:
But I was also a teenager when the whole thing happened... undecided undecided undecided
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Morbeta11(m): 4:56pm On Jul 13, 2023
Wawelexy:
Allow your poor niece breef.... If you stop her from watching it, then she will get in the real act... Nothing can make her stop it now, if you block her from the router, she would purchase data with her money, if you expose her and start monitoring her, she will wait till midnight when everyone is asleep, or better still go into the bathroom to do her thing...

Since you have blocked her from the router, don't kill her self esteem by letting her know you are aware of her secret, allow her use her data, Xvideo and XNXX will reset her brain when she keeps using her food/transport money for subscription every two days.. when the time comes, she will forget about it...

One thing I discovered about porn addiction is joblessness, boredom and being alone, once you get yourself busy, it stops or drastically reduces.

90% of people viewing this thread have once been addicted, or still addicted to porn. Infact this thread will trigger some people to watch it tonight cheesy.. like the false prophet use to say; This I have seen grin

Yes...we were where we where and we were involved..Yes we were....let's say the truth and shame the devil grin

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by bluefilm: 4:58pm On Jul 13, 2023
questioner:
My mum has people staying with her - my niece, an extended family member and a close family friend and her daughter.

We are okay with it cos it ensures she always has company and reduces the need to always travel to check on her.

Recently the monthly subscription I do on the router at home, which usually has carry over data by the time it expires, now lasts about a week before they start calling me to renew
Everybody in the house denied being the cause of the data drain.

Last week, I came to spend some days at my mum's and first thing I did was to install a network tracker to monitor.
Long story short, I discovered the excessive consumption was from my niece but that's not the major issue.
She was visiting porn sites which was draining data but that's still not the major prob.
My problem was the frequency and how long she spent on porn daily.

The day I came, after she retreated to her room, the porn streaming started and didn't stop until the family member sharing a room with her came back at night.
The next morning once the other lady left for work, she continued with the porn until it was time to leve for her lessons.
Once she came back in the afternoon, she did some chores, ate, sat around the sitting room for a while and went inside
and boom the porn resumed until the other girl came around hours later. This was practically the routine for the 4 days I stayed there.

The day I was to leave I told my mum that I observed the drain came from my niece and blocked her from the router.
She called my niece and questioned her but she denied knowing anything about it, I spared her blushes by saying sometimes apps have background processes that consume data without the owner knowing.

Ever since, I have been wondering if I handled the situation properly.
I didn't confront her about it cos I was concerned about the embarrassment she will feel for a male family to find out about her secret.
She might even assume I have told my mum or my elder bro (her dad), which might weigh her down emotionally.

Also, I am concerned if this is a sign of promiscuity, she will be 17 next month And aside the fact that she's quite tall, she might as well pass for a 14 year old. She's barely endowed for her age- bottomline, not the kind of girl, you will associate with waywardness.

My question is
1. Would it have been better if I had confronted her
2. Is this a possible sign of promiscuity ? - if so, I will suggest mum sends her back to her Dad cos I am not sure at her advanced age
she should be dealing with issues like this, to avoid stories that touch later on

Wow!

I wouldn't mind taking your niece under my tutelage and be subscribing the data for her so that she can continue with her pleasurable selflove habits

But, please o, do you happen to know the type of pørn she watches?
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by anyination: 4:59pm On Jul 13, 2023
Wawelexy:
Allow your poor niece breef.... If you stop her from watching it, then she will get in the real act... Nothing can make her stop it now, if you block her from the router, she would purchase data with her money, if you expose her and start monitoring her, she will wait till midnight when everyone is asleep, or better still go into the bathroom to do her thing...

Since you have blocked her from the router, don't kill her self esteem by letting her know you are aware of her secret, allow her use her data, Xvideo and XNXX will reset her brain when she keeps using her food/transport money for subscription every two days.. when the time comes, she will forget about it...

One thing I discovered about porn addiction is joblessness, boredom and being alone, once you get yourself busy, it stops or drastically reduces.

90% of people viewing this thread have once been addicted, or still addicted to porn. Infact this thread will trigger some people to watch it tonight cheesy.. like the false prophet use to say; This I have seen grin
Chairman of porn

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Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by AmbassadoR100(m): 4:59pm On Jul 13, 2023
You handled the matter well bro.

But you should have talked to her about it. Advise her to stop before the habit ruins her and her future.

She's already getting addicted at a very young age. And you know what it means...

Pornography is a tool the devil uses to cage great people. Before you know it, masturbation comes along, fornication, lesbianism and all vices!

I can tell you for sure that she needs help and sincere advice. Confront her politely and tell her the truth behind this negative habits. It will destroy her life if she does not stop.

Please, make out time, go and talk to her physically. It will do slot of good. Call her occasionally to check on her to make sure she has stopped.

The habit is demonic and it ruins a lot of people.
questioner:
My mum has people staying with her - my niece, an extended family member and a close family friend and her daughter.
We are okay with it cos it ensures she always has company and reduces the need to always travel to check on her.


Recently the monthly subscription I do on the router at home, which usually has carry over data by the time it expires, now lasts about a week before they start calling me to renew
Everybody in the house denied being the cause of the data drain.


Last week, I came to spend some days at my mum's and first thing I did was to install a network tracker to monitor.
Long story short, I discovered the excessive consumption was from my niece but that's not the major issue.
She was visiting porn sites which was draining data but that's still not the major prob.
My problem was the frequency and how long she spent on porn daily.


The day I came, after she retreated to her room, the porn streaming started and didn't stop until the family member sharing a room with her came back at night.
The next morning once the other lady left for work, she continued with the porn until it was time to leve for her lessons.
Once she came back in the afternoon, she did some chores, ate, sat around the sitting room for a while and went inside
and boom the porn resumed until the other girl came around hours later. This was practically the routine for the 4 days I stayed there.


The day I was to leave I told my mum that I observed the drain came from my niece and blocked her from the router.
She called my niece and questioned her but she denied knowing anything about it, I spared her blushes by saying sometimes apps have background processes that consume data without the owner knowing.


Ever since, I have been wondering if I handled the situation properly.
I didn't confront her about it cos I was concerned about the embarrassment she will feel for a male family to find out about her secret.
She might even assume I have told my mum or my elder bro (her dad), which might weigh her down emotionally.


Also, I am concerned if this is a sign of promiscuity, she will be 17 next month And aside the fact that she's quite tall, she might as well pass for a 14 year old. She's barely endowed for her age- bottomline, not the kind of girl, you will associate with waywardness.

My question is
1. Would it have been better if I had confronted her
2. Is this a possible sign of promiscuity ? - if so, I will suggest mum sends her back to her Dad cos I am not sure at her advanced age
she should be dealing with issues like this, to avoid stories that touch later on
Re: My 17 Year Old Niece Is Addicted To Porn - Should I Intervene by Xkale1996(m): 5:00pm On Jul 13, 2023
questioner:
My mum has people staying with her - my niece, an extended family member and a close family friend and her daughter.
We are okay with it cos it ensures she always has company and reduces the need to always travel to check on her.


Recently the monthly subscription I do on the router at home, which usually has carry over data by the time it expires, now lasts about a week before they start calling me to renew
Everybody in the house denied being the cause of the data drain.


Last week, I came to spend some days at my mum's and first thing I did was to install a network tracker to monitor.
Long story short, I discovered the excessive consumption was from my niece but that's not the major issue.
She was visiting porn sites which was draining data but that's still not the major prob.
My problem was the frequency and how long she spent on porn daily.


The day I came, after she retreated to her room, the porn streaming started and didn't stop until the family member sharing a room with her came back at night.
The next morning once the other lady left for work, she continued with the porn until it was time to leve for her lessons.
Once she came back in the afternoon, she did some chores, ate, sat around the sitting room for a while and went inside
and boom the porn resumed until the other girl came around hours later. This was practically the routine for the 4 days I stayed there.


The day I was to leave I told my mum that I observed the drain came from my niece and blocked her from the router.
She called my niece and questioned her but she denied knowing anything about it, I spared her blushes by saying sometimes apps have background processes that consume data without the owner knowing.


Ever since, I have been wondering if I handled the situation properly.
I didn't confront her about it cos I was concerned about the embarrassment she will feel for a male family to find out about her secret.
She might even assume I have told my mum or my elder bro (her dad), which might weigh her down emotionally.


Also, I am concerned if this is a sign of promiscuity, she will be 17 next month And aside the fact that she's quite tall, she might as well pass for a 14 year old. She's barely endowed for her age- bottomline, not the kind of girl, you will associate with waywardness.

My question is
1. Would it have been better if I had confronted her
2. Is this a possible sign of promiscuity ? - if so, I will suggest mum sends her back to her Dad cos I am not sure at her advanced age
she should be dealing with issues like this, to avoid stories that touch later on
warn her
Don't leave her
If not she will continue

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