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Did You Finally Date That Girl That Was Forming Too Hard To Get? Did It Go Well? / All The Girls I Wooed Turned Me Down Despite My Good Looks, Stature & Voice / "I Have Slept With 88.8% Of The Girls I Met Online. Girls Are Just Useless”- Guy (2) (3) (4)
|Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Johnnoah1st: 8:33pm On Jul 23|
av done everything av read on internet to attract a girl and av done everything i hit the gym, i work on my body posture, i work on my looks and dressing yet i find it so difficult to attract a girl, i have the cute face, lips , height and athletic stature but for a girl to even look at my face is a problem, they mostly look down and feel nervous around me and even the one that look at face do outrightly reject me. what can i do I'm feeling lonely and I'm in my late twenties
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by HacheNoire: 8:35pm On Jul 23|
Which state are you from?
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Lucasinho(m): 8:37pm On Jul 23|
Picture of u sir.... let's be the judge 😄
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by MrBrownJay1(m): 8:54pm On Jul 23|
women are like gambling, sometimes you win and sometimes you lose....so simply approach as many women as you find attractive, and within a short period of time you will A) get experience with dealing with women and B) a woman will accept your advances.
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|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Lessonteacher(f): 9:58pm On Jul 23|
you aint supposed to waste time on girls, use that time for something more beneficial
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by GodWrites: 10:46pm On Jul 23|
Ladies want someone that they can easily control or manipulate. For someone like you who seems to have his shits together, you become intimidating that they will turn you down irrespective of how handsome you are. It's not a YOU problem, it is THEIR problem. Keep developing yourself, and look for only high valued ladies. Although they are rare. Obviously you have no business with local champions.
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by stacyadams: 11:12pm On Jul 23|
Na money language them dey understand
Sha know that
Nigerian girls vare useless, all of them......a great quote from a living legend(mosdii)
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by SenecaTheYonger: 11:12pm On Jul 23|
Sucking his dick without even seeing his picture is crazy
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Bennysam: 11:16pm On Jul 23|
Make money bro
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by GodWrites: 7:30am On Jul 24|
His picture is irrelevant.. If he feels handsome, then he is handsome.
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Johnnoah1st: 11:17am On Jul 24|
Bennysam:im actually comfortable
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Anny69(f): 1:35pm On Jul 24|
Johnnoah1st:Try your gender.
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by IbrahimSkiba(f): 1:53pm On Jul 24|
Your headline is confusing
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by IbrahimSkiba(f): 1:54pm On Jul 24|
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Hed0nist: 2:29pm On Jul 24|
Hope say you no de stand for one place make dem come to you? You have to approach. It’s a numbers game.
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Purvan(m): 2:50pm On Jul 24|
Gain confidence and charisma
Have a good sense of humor
Dress well ( wear more hensley, jersey tops , long sleeved thick shirts )
Take good care of yourself
Go out and interact with girls of all kind , it doesn't matter if you find her attractive
Try bumble app or Grindr otherwise
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|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Jakumo(m): 3:48pm On Jul 24|
Bro your mindset is EXACTLY how mine used to be, and yes, loneliness drove me insane as a result, for frigging YEARS. Learn from my mistakes so that you can get laid TODAY, without any special preparation.
Do yourself a favor and look at videos posted on Youtube by DAN BACON, an Australian man who by his own calculations had sexual relationships with 2,500 women before settling down into married life. There is too much wisdom for me to convey in a short post, so PLEASE do yourself a favor and look up Dan Bacon's videos which changed my life completely. I testify this before man and God.
The advice of Dan Bacon can be summarized as follows.
1. Your CONFIDENCE when approaching a woman is far more important than your gym body, your bank account, your social status, and your handsome face COMBINED.
2. You can spark a woman's attraction within just 2 MINUTES of when you first walk up to her.
3. You must ASSUME that the woman is attracted to you when you walk up and speak with her. If you doubt yourself, you disqualify yourself.
4. You must NEVER get serious and tell any woman you want her to be your girlfriend. That attitude is too heavy and will scare women off.
5. You must learn to joke with her, and even make fun of her. Joke while SMILING that you are not easy to seduce and that you won't allow the woman to take advantage of your innocence.
6. Do not AGREE with every opinion she expresses because women HATE nice guys who grovel and beg and agree with all they say. You must seek out ways to playfully DISAGREE with her opinions. Tell her the musician she likes sucks and that your taste in music is better, as an example. Tell her that your mom warned you about women from her home town and that you will need to be careful around her.
7. Women will NEVER approach a man no matter how handsome and muscular he is. They will only wait for the man to show his confidence by walking up to them before they decide that he is a REAL man worthy of tasting the poon. Confidence is KING, brother
8. As mentioned by an earlier poster in this thread, do NOT be discouraged if a woman turns you down at first. You can still win her over LATER, so do NOT delete her number if she initially refuses to meet you for a date. Keep contact and make her laugh with jokes by text or phone calls. If she still rejects you, forget her and go for the numbers by FORCING yourself to approach MULTIPLE women every frigging DAY until you hit the jackpot. The more beautiful a woman is the more she will pretend she has no interest in you, to gauge your determination. If you give up easily you will have proven to her that you are NOT worthy of mounting that poon. Polite, patient persistence PAYS big time.
There is so much more of Dan Bacon's advice that I simply cannot list here. If you are serious about learning the secrets of getting laid with multiple women REGARDLESS of your income level, go ahead and buy the eBook this guy is selling. This book was the best $100 I ever spent in my entire life, bar none.
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|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by LikeAking: 6:11pm On Jul 24|
May be your calling na your fellow man.
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Proserpina: 7:27pm On Jul 24|
Maybe you have mouth odour
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Jeferious: 9:45pm On Jul 24|
Jakumo:Your no. 7 is wrong. Women approach men on a steady.
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Jakumo(m): 10:51pm On Jul 24|
You are right. One should never say never. If you are driving around in a Ferrari you will attract hookers and gold-diggers like flies. If you are a rock star like Davido, you will attract groupies by the swarm. BUT, if you are an average Joe who is NOT stinking rich, 99.9% of the women you encounter will NOT approach you, NO MATTER HOW GOOD LOOKING YOU ARE, even if they are hot for you, BECAUSE society paints such women who approach men as sluts, which is a powerful deterrent to any woman making the first move UNLESS she really is a hooker or a groupie targeting a celebrity male.
Of all the women that I ever had affairs with over the course of my entire life, not ONE of them initiated contact with me directly in the way that a man would approach a woman. They might have moved into my field of view to see if I was man enough to approach them, and Lord knows I have missed MANY such opportunities out of being too timid and fearful of rejection in that moment, but for those who I did get the balls up to approach, the resulting relationship would never have occurred if I just sat back and waited for any of them to approach me.
Ogawa Jeferius when you have a spare couple of hours, I hope you will watch a few more videos posted by Aussie dating coach Dan Bacon on Youtube, then if you are single, go out and TRY some of the man's techniques, and let me just say, prepare to be amazed at the results you get and the women you will bed. By posing like a male model and waiting for women to swoon over you, my brother, you will miss befriending and having hot sex with some of the most beautiful women that walk by within your easy reach every single day, for years and years.
Speaking personally, if my only means of starting relationships with women were dependent on them coming up to my ugly asz to pick me up, I'd still be a phucking virgin to this day. Man pikin was not gifted with a lower auxiliary brain for nothing. When you see a sexy woman that you would like to meet, follow the dictates of your lower auxiliary brain and go speak to her, lest she walk away never to be seen again.
This is a subject about which I speak with great passion because I KNOW how crushing loneliness can feel when beautiful women are all around, and thus I feel an almost RELIGIOUS zeal to share the insights that I learned primarily from this one dating coach Dan Bacon, that helped me break the shackles of loneliness and live this life to the fullest in the company of alluring women of the caliber I only ever dreamed about in my living past.
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Jeferious: 11:12pm On Jul 24|
Jakumo:Oga, women approach men. It depends on the level of appeal, looks and charisma. If you're "worth it"...and not the lousy type that would make a fuss about it, women make the first moves on you. Then you can take it up from there if you like her
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Jakumo(m): 11:27pm On Jul 24|
You are an extraordinarily lucky man in that case. Or perhaps you are DAVIDO or some super-rich guy that has to fight off hordes of gorgeous sexy women everywhere you go. I declare with all honesty that I have never witnessed any such luck in my entire life, and have not personally witnessed women approaching any other regular non-celebrity guy in the street or in a bar. For 99% of the time It is consistently the other way around, with the man making his move on the woman.
Note that the OP complained about being ignored by women DESPITE his being a handsome muscular fella who puts in his time in the weight room to cut that male model figure. That was ME for years, checking myself in the mirror as I beefed up in the gym, and yet wondering why the women I expected to attract simply ignored me. That complaint voiced by the OP resonated deep in my soul and that is why I wrote so much about this subject, in the hopes that others who hold back when they see a woman they want, just as I did out of fear of rejection for way too long, could read my words and be inspired to go meet women with the confidence that women expect of any prospective lover.
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Johnnoah1st: 7:29pm On Jul 25|
Jeferious:bros i have the look and i have look and the Chrisma and av developed myself upto the level of a model and Hollywood actors , not bragging, but they always feel intimidated by me, dey cant even mentain eye contact they mostly look down, but i Sense they always feel that i have alot of options and I'm not the regular guy they normally see, they have very low self esteems.
and think i need to change my environment
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by skj1377(m): 7:54pm On Jul 25|
Go for prayers
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by extol1(m): 7:56pm On Jul 25|
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Jakumo(m): 9:40pm On Jul 25|
When a woman breaks eye contact and looks down, she is most likely attracted to the man whose gaze she is avoiding. This is one of the PRIMARY body language cues that a woman MIGHT have the hots for a man from who she's averting her gaze.
Her looking down when your eyes meet is your cue to act, brother man, and walk right up to her within the first THREE SECONDS of your seeing her, to confidently deploy any of the following non-pickup-line conversation starters.
This is known as the THREE SECOND RULE, which states that man pikin must approach a woman he likes IMMEDIATELY because women are made uncomfortable by men who linger close by admiring them while obviously too scared of rejection to approach the women. Walk up in three seconds, introduce yourself, compliment her clothing or hairdo but not her body, and finally suggest you exchange phone numbers as a statement and not a question.
a. Hello. I noticed you and HAD to come up and introduce myself. My name is"....., reach out for a handshake...and request her name but not yet her phone number. Chat for a while then suggest exchanging phone numbers.
b. "Excuse me saying this but you are one of the most beautiful women I've seen in a long time and I just had to come up and say hello. My name is".....lingering handshake
c. "Hey, I've met you before. You look so familiar. Don't tell me your name. I'm going to guess." Make your wrong guess and have her correct you. Then ask whether she has a twin sister. She won't but you then tell her you'd like to chat with her on Whatsapp. Exchange numbers.
d. I just had to come up and compliment your dress style. You look like a fashion model today. Hello, my name is ....., lingering handshake while asking for her name, but not yet her number.
Finally, print some business cards with your name and contact details and have them ready in your shirt pocket to give to women at the same moment you are asking for their numbers. Some may decline to give you their numbers, yet MIGHT phone you later if you can quickly establish a good rapport before going separate ways.
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by DkJay: 7:22pm On Jul 26|
Damn, man. You're good.
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by DonroxyII: 3:06am On Jul 27|
Approach them & collect Digit ...
Work on Your Confidence, Boldness & Chivalry ....
She is a woman & She wants Your Gallantry not Your Weaknesses!
The Kinda Man You Think You are is The Kinda Man You Will Project Unto Your Woman & That's the Kinda Man She will Defined You to Be ...
Everything is You, You the Man is the Problem!
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|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Jakumo(m): 6:16am On Jul 27|
Truer words were never spoken on this subject. The OP needs to stop wasting mental energy trying to psychoanalyze women from a distance, and should simply take the bull by the horns and SPEAK TO THEM IMMEDIATELY. This man is working so hard to improve his physical appearance, just as I did for years, due to his MISCONCEPTION that I held for years, in believing that women are attracted to men by physical looks alone, when in fact it is a man's confidence, humor, and character as displayed by those first few seconds of opening conversation that attract women.
If it were possible for me to magically travel back in time, in order to offer wisdom and advice to my younger self way back when I was a lonely young man baffled about how to meet women, that advice I would share with my younger self is all right here in this discussion thread.
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by koladata(m): 6:20am On Jul 27|
Have you tried being rich?
|Re: Can I Be Too Intimidating For Girls I Find It Too Hard To Attract by Jakumo(m): 6:57am On Jul 27|
While this paradox may not hold true in Nigeria due to the depressed economy in Nigeria that relegates many single women into an opportunistic survival mode, The United States, EU, and other industrialized nations are home to LEGIONS of wealthy yet lonely men whose love life is on hold purely due to their inability to form relationships with women. Such men do NOT want to patronize gold diggers, call girls, or street walkers that they could easily afford, yet those rich men silently yearn for the affection and physical caress of a beautiful woman who would be drawn to their character as opposed to their bank balance.
Yes sir, wealth is great to have for all the known reasons, but wealth ALONE will only attract gold-diggers and professional escorts. Koladata, your hasty presumption that the OP is not a "rich man" wrongly presupposes that wealth equates with romantic contentment. In actual fact, the OP may well be even more baffled at his failure thus far to connect with women because he IS well off, having strived towards that lifestyle with the expectation that great material accomplishment would attract quality women as a right commensurate with social status, which is not necessarily the case in the Western World at least.
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