Jakumo:


Truer words were never spoken on this subject. The OP needs to stop wasting mental energy trying to psychoanalyze women from a distance, and should simply take the bull by the horns and SPEAK TO THEM IMMEDIATELY. This man is working so hard to improve his physical appearance, just as I did for years, due to his MISCONCEPTION that I held for years, in believing that women are attracted to men by physical looks alone, when in fact it is a man's confidence, humor, and character as displayed by those first few seconds of opening conversation that attract women.

If it were possible for me to magically travel back in time, in order to offer wisdom and advice to my younger self way back when I was a lonely young man baffled about how to meet women, that advice I would share with my younger self is all right here in this discussion thread.

Thanks !
Most Fathers are Weak & Most Fathers ain't Available in the life of their Kids ...

The Transition from Boyhood to Manhood is Always Difficult for Most Because Even in 40s Most Men still have Boyish Bloods running in them Meanwhile ...

A girl is already a woman since she started Menstruating at Average of 16years ... With Most Mothers Present in their Daughters Life(Unlike Men) A Woman at Teenager already has Ideas of What Nature Requires from Her & As BigBoys Keep Wooing Her Left Right & Centre .. She Knows She is a Jewel to be Treasured(That's if dem no spoil her ooo) ....

Most Men are Boys in this Present World na ihm make everything Lopsided!

DonroxyII:
Thanks !
Most Fathers are Weak & Most Fathers ain't Available in the life of their Kids ...

The Transition from Boyhood to Manhood is Always Difficult for Most Because Even in 40s Most Men still have Boyish Bloods running in them Meanwhile ...

A girl is already a woman since she started Menstruating at Average of 16years ... With Most Mothers Present in their Daughters Life(Unlike Men) A Woman at Teenager already has Ideas of What Nature Requires from Her & As BigBoys Keep Wooing Her Left Right & Centre .. She Knows She is a Jewel to be Treasured(That's if dem no spoil her ooo) ....

Most Men are Boys in this Present World na ihm make everything Lopsided!

The first line I bolded in your comment quoted above hit home with me. While my father did his best to provide for the family and was never physically absent during my upbringing, the man was emotionally absent, in that he NEVER had any advice on that most fundamental and crucial of all life skills, namely that of forming romantic relationships with women. On the subject of dating, my father's advice, expressed more by what he did NOT say, was essentially "Focus your studies and don't date until you are ready for marriage." WTF?

For any young man growing up who has NO older brothers to explain the philosophy and strategies of courtship, and whose father has NOTHING to say on the subject, the result for many like me could be arrested social development, and in extreme cases, a LIFETIME of missed opportunities to attract women. Fatherhood entails far more than simply providing for the kids because when a father fails to sit his sons down and tutor them on the ethics and procedures of interacting with women, the likelihood is that such a socially deprived upbringing can be debilitating for years down the road, and even for a lifetime in extreme cases.

In my case, most of my aptitude for interaction with women was acquired from books with titles like "How to Meet and Seduce Women", along with youtube videos posted by online dating coaches like Australian Dan Bacon. Oh, how I wish my father had taught me even one-tenth of the knowledge I was later forced to research on my own due to prolonged loneliness as a young adult. Fathers take note. Teach your sons those life skills so they can lead happier lives and meet the partners of their dreams without having to endure years of futile trial and error in the love game.

leave story, even my decent elder sisters chose their husband based on the size of their pockets

Jakumo:


While this paradox may not hold true in Nigeria due to the depressed economy in Nigeria that relegates many single women into an opportunistic survival mode, The United States, EU, and other industrialized nations are home to LEGIONS of wealthy yet lonely men whose love life is on hold purely due to their inability to form relationships with women. Such men do NOT want to patronize gold diggers, call girls, or street walkers that they could easily afford, yet those rich men silently yearn for the affection and physical caress of a beautiful woman who would be drawn to their character as opposed to their bank balance.

Yes sir, wealth is great to have for all the known reasons, but wealth ALONE will only attract gold-diggers and professional escorts. Koladata, your hasty presumption that the OP is not a "rich man" wrongly presupposes that wealth equates with romantic contentment. In actual fact, the OP may well be even more baffled at his failure thus far to connect with women because he IS well off, having strived towards that lifestyle with the expectation that great material accomplishment would attract quality women as a right commensurate with social status, which is not necessarily the case in the Western World at least.

koladata:
leave story, even my decent elder sisters chose their husband based on the size of their pockets

I have noted in an earlier post that Nigeria's tattered economy has produced a generation of women for whom only money matters. This forum sees respondents from the world over, where such a focus on money to the exclusion of all else is not necessarily the norm.

As an example, Jeff Beezos, one of our planet's richest men, recently married an ugly middle-aged woman with plastic tits and plastic lips, who Jeff picked out of his workforce most likely because he lacks the social skills needed to meet truly beautiful women aged 20 to 25 who have no need for surgical enhancement. Soon we will hear about that elderly bride divorcing Jeff Beezos in order to claim half of his wealth unless he was wise enough to have that old bat sign a prenuptial agreement that would protect his estate in the event of a divorce.

sorry its not only Nigeria, its the way women are created, they date higher. I know you will ague it.

Jakumo:


I have noted in an earlier post that Nigeria's tattered economy has produced a generation of women for whom only money matters. This forum sees respondents from the world over, where such a focus on money to the exclusion of all else is not necessarily the norm.

As an example, Jeff Beezos, one of our planet's richest men, recently married an ugly middle-aged woman with plastic tits and plastic lips, who Jeff picked out of his workforce most likely because he lacks the social skills needed to meet truly beautiful women aged 20 to 25 who have no need for surgical enhancement. Soon we will hear about that elderly bride divorcing Jeff Beezos in order to claim half of his wealth unless he was wise enough to have that old bat sign a prenuptial agreement that would protect his estate in the event of a divorce.

koladata:
sorry its not only Nigeria, its the way women are created, they date higher. I know you will ague it.

Sure wealth is a great attractant and all women aspire to marry a good provider. That said, if wealth was the ONLY determinant of eligibility to attract women, one would NEVER see Average Joe working-class men with beautiful women, because simply by being less than wealthy, those men would only qualify to date and marry old and ugly women.

Obviously, men of ALL income levels enjoy the company of beautiful women, which proves that while wealth is indeed a great bonus for any man's eligibility, being rich is fortunately NOT the ONLY criterion that women find attractive in a man.

Jakumo:


The first line I bolded in your comment quoted above hit home with me. While my father did his best to provide for the family and was never physically absent during my upbringing, the man was emotionally absent, in that he NEVER had any advice on that most fundamental and crucial of all life skills, namely that of forming romantic relationships with women. On the subject of dating, my father's advice, expressed more by what he did NOT say, was essentially "Focus your studies and don't date until you are ready for marriage." WTF?

For any young man growing up who has NO older brothers to explain the philosophy and strategies of courtship, and whose father has NOTHING to say on the subject, the result for many like me could be arrested social development, and in extreme cases, a LIFETIME of missed opportunities to attract women. Fatherhood entails far more than simply providing for the kids because when a father fails to sit his sons down and tutor them on the ethics and procedures of interacting with women, the likelihood is that such a socially deprived upbringing can be debilitating for years down the road, and even for a lifetime in extreme cases.

In my case, most of my aptitude for interaction with women was acquired from books with titles like "How to Meet and Seduce Women", along with youtube videos posted by online dating coaches like Australian Dan Bacon. Oh, how I wish my father had taught me even one-tenth of the knowledge I was later forced to research on my own due to prolonged loneliness as a young adult. Fathers take note. Teach your sons those life skills so they can lead happier lives and meet the partners of their dreams without having to endure years of futile trial and error in the love game.

... You Can't Blame Our Dads Because Most of them were Inhibited By Misinterpretations & MalApplications of Religion Doctrines as well as Difficulty Requires in Upgrading their Old Odd Civilisations into New World Orders ... Abhorrence of Vogue & Woke Worlds ...

Most of them all see Life from One Dimension(1D) Leaving Children to be bemused with Billions of unanswered Questions & Mystery of Life Which Most Parents Do not even have answers to:

I don't Believe My Ideas Makes Any Sense Until It Gives me My Desired Result in Practice(The Field) thus The Field Justifies My Means(Idea) if not Then I need to Improve till You Become Master In the Game ...

We simply need to upgrade ourselves to the Contemporary Times ... Our Old Parents Can't give Us All ... They Don't Know Many Things Themselves Leading to their Incarcerations Also They Have Brainwashed Loopsided Ideas of the world of Humanities making them to Pass Same unto their Offspring leading to Generations of Weak Men ...

It's Quite Obvious an Electronic Gadgets Running on Os Developed 10years Ago Can't be able to Address Contemporary Issues nor Compete with Present OS ...

Same as Human, Don't Fight "Times" Because of the Difficulty Required in Upgrading Yourself .. Just Evolve or Perish to the Old world

The Best Teacher of Any Man is Out There is Time ......

The Problem is Many are too Comfortable in their Comfort Zones, They Need to Train their Brain On how to Be Ready & Able to Upgrade in a Jivvy With Least Hazards to Her Neurons ...

It's not Easy Anyway Due to Adaptations But With Consistent Efforts, Any Person Can become the better version of themselves!

DonroxyII:
... You Can't Blame Our Dads Because Most of them were Inhibited By Misinterpretations & MalApplications of Religion Doctrines as well as Difficulty Requires in Upgrading their Old Odd Civilisations into New World Orders ... Abhorrence of Vogue & Woke Worlds ...

Most of them all see Life from One Dimension(1D) Leaving Children to be bemused with Billions of unanswered Questions & Mystery of Life Which Most Parents Do not even have answers to:

I don't Believe My Ideas Makes Any Sense Until It Gives me My Desired Result in Practice(The Field) thus The Field Justifies My Means(Idea) if not Then I need to Improve till You Become Master In the Game ...

We simply need to upgrade ourselves to the Contemporary Times ... Our Old Parents Can't give Us All ... They Don't Know Many Things Themselves Leading to their Incarcerations Also They Have Brainwashed Loopsided Ideas of the world of Humanities making them to Pass Same unto their Offspring leading to Generations of Weak Men ...

It's Quite Obvious an Electronic Gadgets Running on Os Developed 10years Ago Can't be able to Address Contemporary Issues nor Compete with Present OS ...

Same as Human, Don't Fight "Times" Because of the Difficulty Required in Upgrading Yourself .. Just Evolve or Perish to the Old world

The Best Teacher of Any Man is Out There ....

The Problem is Many are too Comfortable in their Comfort Zones, They Need to Train their Brain On how to Be Ready & Able to Upgrade in a Jivvy With Least Hazards to Her Neurons ...

It's not Easy Anyway Due to Adaptations But With Consistent Efforts, Any Person Can become the better version of themselves!

Lots of wisdom in these words brother. You write with the cadence of a poet, yet the message is there for all who can read between the lines.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ybSmXyhLQBs&t=834s

well said, but if i may ask, how old are you sir?

Jakumo:


Sure wealth is a great attractant and all women aspire to marry a good provider. That said, if wealth was the ONLY determinant of eligibility to attract women, one would NEVER see Average Joe working-class men with beautiful women, because simply by being less than wealthy, those men would only qualify to date and marry old and ugly women.

Obviously, men of ALL income levels enjoy the company of beautiful women, which proves that while wealth is indeed a great bonus for any man's eligibility, being rich is fortunately NOT the ONLY criterion that women find attractive in a man.

koladata:
well said, but if i may ask, how old are you sir?

I will only disclose that I am over 20 years old. I joined Nairaland the year Oga Seun created the website in 2005, and that readily available fact will confirm that I was a prolific writer at age 2 years old in 2005. The fewer personal details that man pikin divulges online, the better.

Jakumo:


Lots of wisdom in these words brother. You write with the cadence of a poet, yet the message is there for all who can read between the lines.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ybSmXyhLQBs&t=834s

Thank You !

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Johnnoah1st:
av done everything av read on internet to attract a girl and av done everything i hit the gym, i work on my body posture, i work on my looks and dressing yet i find it so difficult to attract a girl, i have the cute face, lips , height and athletic stature but for a girl to even look at my face is a problem, they mostly look down and feel nervous around me and even the one that look at face do outrightly reject me. what can i do I'm feeling lonely and I'm in my late twenties

Johnnoah1st:
av done everything av read on internet to attract a girl and av done everything i hit the gym, i work on my body posture, i work on my looks and dressing yet i find it so difficult to attract a girl, i have the cute face, lips , height and athletic stature but for a girl to even look at my face is a problem, they mostly look down and feel nervous around me and even the one that look at face do outrightly reject me. what can i do I'm feeling lonely and I'm in my late twenties

If you can’t attract women then work on attracting men my bro as long as you chuck preeq anywhere all good abeg.