Originally: Is love enough for a girl to choose a guy for marriage?

I heard enough back here today on the radio about that stuff. In fact, I don't know what to think anymore.

If I say the guy must be a "made guy" then what happens to those who are not? If I say he needs not be,
then what happens to the needs of the woman? Because for sure , one thing I know is that "women like to be women"

You know what I mean. What do you think?

I'm not married yet so these are ideas and beliefs that I have so far about my future.

According to the topic.

For me marriage is more than love this is a life long contract and partnership. We must be able to work within union together, We have to be compatible in some ways and we have got to strive for a balance in our relationship. We must be friends and able to communicate openly with one another.

He must have his life, I must have mine and we must have one together so that we don't loose our selves and our individual lives must not conflict too much with our life together. There are goals to meet together and personal achievements that we both want and need.

Example he may love technology and I may love community development these are very different but we must find a common ground to support each other and meet the bigger goal.

I'm not saying that love isn't important because you have got to have love for a person that you're going to be with. I'm just saying that it's not the most important factor. Love is an emotion and emotions are not stable because they change all of the time. One minute you think you are in love and the next you don't. So for me it's not stable enough for me to make it the bases of my choice for marriage. Besides, now a days we have to really define love too, so is it really love and if it is then what is love?

This doesn't mean marriage would be perfect it just means that you have an idea of what you are looking at and have a base to help put things back into perspective when the hard times come. Most of my friends and family are married so I get to listen and see many things. I try to learn from them and I know I will have to experience it for myself to have greater understanding of how it really works.

It's better if you know what you want but it can be complex if you are not sure and that's with any relationship.

I shall start by saying that the answer to this que. is a big NO. This is simply bcoz there are so many other things to consider in marriage. I'ld llike to say here that this is also applicable to the guys as well.

Love is an essential ingredient in marriage without which it would be tasteless. Nevertheless, one shouldn't allow this to becloud his/her sense of reasoning.

For instance, if you love someone so much and later discover that, he/she has a major problem with anger and say it's part of his nature and you decide to settle down with him. Know that he have also signed in with chaos.

Also, if you discover that his blood genotype and yours are not compatible and the doctor advises that you shouldn't get married so as not to produce sicklers would you go ahead with it? Of course not. If you do, you are only inviting liability into your life when you have such children.

Finally, I submit by saying that if you are in love with someone, try to sit down and find out some things which would help your future family so that everyone in the family would be happy. 

These days the fact that you love somebody isn't reason enough to just jump into marriage. You have to take other things into consideration. Marriage entails much more than people think.

Marriage isn't all about Love. Any girl that says "I am marrying this man only because i Love him", is a liar. There are so many things you put in consideration before marriage.

ooohhh, thats a bitter truth, i guesse we the guys have to work harder,and stop relying on those words from her mouth like "i love u so so so so so so very much"

Yeah you need to watch the way you rely on those words. I used to tell my ex bfs... "Olive Juice"..in place of "I love you", when I know they can't hear me but read my lips. Say it and you see it working.. "Olive juice" has the same mouth shape as "I love you".

Olive juice?!

On the topic now:

Certainly not!

wait oh.... i am beginning to think... from this "olive juice thing....."
its like most women dont really love ... they just sit and wait for u guys to love them
cuz they generally think guys are not to be trusted........
and not worthy of their love......i hope i am wrong.

ha. Most girls love for love. But most girls don't. I don't judge all girls -- but if all girls were like me, Men need to start running.. Although everyone has a different personality.

hmnn.. comment.
i hope u love someday,and u know it makes the world go round

please learn it, the feeling is soo....................cant really say.
u just need to be prayerful to meet the right guy.

MY prayer is for my husband to be up and doing and definittly i will marry some one i love .cos is better to choose for love than for money.

o god..! arriage is always based on depth of de love and not for money..a person dat is not in his/her right mind will want to marry for money..its not right

well,70 percent of todays women dont think so, maybe u are talking like dis cuz u are just a
teenager, i will hear what u'll say when u hit 21.hehe

wel i cant marry a guy cos of his money

makgodddddddddddddddd,who tell you say i be teenager. well sorry to dissappoint you am not a teenager. don,t think everybody is a teenager like you cos i know you be smalll boy.

@ De-king suspect me for wetin nah
well this is for u plus

You suppose know nah

se me see trouble ,pls people help me to beg De- king oh
i kno no anything oh, God is my witness



Before i forget how old are u and which town u be their king

I said it!!! I dey suspect you

But seriously why you ask? Besides, if you need to ask me this kind of question, don't use this forum.

sorryyyyyyyyyy oh , but i want to know

sorryyyyyyyyyy but I won't tell you

is it just me or does. Gina and De-king like each other. Flirting from thread to thread. Ehhh...nairalanders..we have a wedding to hol doooo

hot-angelllllllll what? which gina are you talking about? Kai!!!

The same one u know.

The only gina I know is a headache. So you see, I can't even imagine that. hot-angel plsssssssssssss drop it.

Seee..when u like someone that's when u call them head-ache. Awwww. Love is in the air. Wedding bells are ringing. awwwwwwww...i like the smell of love.

sorry hot-angel, I can't hear any. I can even feel a thing.

Dude..be real...you know u feel it. Smell it.. feel it, live it. Just do it (nike[the company..not nigerian name oo] slogan)

sorry to dissapoint you but I don't?

U know u do...u just don't wanna admit it. Gina where are you?>??