"Love is not sighted; it's built.

The most underrated love, if you ask me, is the love of God for mankind. That type of love, eh? ☺️

But when it comes to normal love, I think the love people consider as neutral and strong is motherly love. But we forget that even this love was not manufactured; it was built. Imagine living with someone for a good nine months. If anything happens to that person, you will be affected, and if anything goes wrong with you, it will affect the person. Such love, based on survival, is built, which makes it one of the most powerful forms of love 🫂. Yet, it was built, not just sighted. We still hear of cases where this strong love became useless and weakened 😭🥲.

Now, my concern is the love Emeka told Mercy about after just one week, or the one Femi told Seyi so she would fall for him immediately while he was pursuing her. What's even worse is the one Kolade told Favour either before or after sex 😭😭. They just play around.

Love is built and not merely sighted. Butterflies are not love; they are just a reflection of someone you like or are nervous around 🥲. So, dear fine girl, I know that hearing those words makes you happy and glad, or you might think if the boy didn't say it quickly, he's just joking about the relationship. Sorry, it's not like that.

Love can simply mean, "I've seen your flaws and am ready to stay with you as you are. I'm ready to keep building this affection. I'm ready to stay, even if what we're building seems like it might break. And even if it breaks, I'm ready to continue or start again with you."

"I love you" 😍... Aww 😂

I know you might ask, "Oga advisor, when should it be said?" According to me, and not everyone, after 4-6 months of staying in constant communication and getting to know each other. Not just seeing each other twice a week, but constantly and sincerely. I believe that within the span of 4-6 months, if you're sincere with each other, you should be able to know each other well enough ☺️.

Now, if you don't want to continue, you can say, "I have enjoyed your presence during this time, but for the betterment of ourselves, let's call this off 🥺. I'm sorry." Sister Debby might cry or feel hurt, no problem. It might be Brother John who receives the news from Sister Loveth. No problem, love goes on.

But Uncle Judas, if it turns out that you slept with Omolomo, may God judge your nose 😂, and Sister Cecilia, why did you open your legs? 🙄😪

And if you want to continue, you can say,

"I LOVE YOU" 😍🥰😍😘."